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In this chapter, we explain our S‐TLC system for dealing with conflicts, assertiveness, I‐statements,
and the six‐step approach to confronting others in conflict situations. (p. 78)
‐TLC system is an acronym for Stop, Think, Listen, and Communicate. (p. 78)
Stopping is like taking a time out. When you realize that a conflict exists, begin by saying: “Stop!” For
many people this is not too difficult. For others acquiring skills for slowing down the conflict is
imperative. Some suggestions are as follows:
1. Exit temporarily to calm yourself. It is helpful to let the other person know that you are not
abandoning the situation and will return.
2. Get a glass of water or some other beverage and take sips of the beverage before you respond to
the other person.
3. Count backward from 100.
4. Change the problematic topic for a while to allow time for the air to clear.
– (p. 79)