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SALSA:
The dance of a dialogue
• A dialogue is like a dance, you need to understand the steps but you
also need to learn to move to the music
• Helping our inquirers understand the steps can give them the tools
to be empowered to solve their concern themselves
Agenda for next 90 minutes
Content
Session objective
Content
▪ The notion of mindset shift is a crucial element for creating deeper dialogues
▪ It flows throughout the entire SALSA framework
▪ Find a partner and for 2 minutes Story teller explain your last vacation
▪ Partner (listener)r,- on a scale of 1 to 10 be over here
▪ Then stop – How did you feel, then partner be on a scale of 10 – over there
▪ First person should continue the vacation story
▪ Switch roles – story teller becomes listener and listener becomes story teller
▪ Story teller explains what they did last weekend
▪ Partner ( listener) is a 1 on the scale of over here
▪ Then stop – How did you feel, then partner be on a scale of 10 – over there
▪ Story teller should continue the what I did last weekend story
▪ Debrief in Plenary
The new element is the mindset shift from ‘Over here’ (with yourself) to
‘Over there’ (with the other person)
▪ The notion of mindset shift is a crucial element for creating deeper dialogues
▪ It flows throughout the entire SALSA framework
Content
Ask
questions
Listen
Assert
Summarize
Ask behaviors
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Few questions asked
Leading questions –assertions
disguised as questions
▪
▪
Many questions asked
Neutral questions—don’t
presuppose an answer
A ▪
▪
Narrow range of question types
Questions that aren’t motivated
by genuine curiosity (e.g.: trying
▪
▪
Broad range of question types
Questions motivated by genuine
curiosity and an authentic desire
L
to find holes in people’s to know what the other person
arguments, to fill space, to look thinks/feels
interested, etc.)
S
A
Listen behaviors
S ▪
▪
Missed or ignored cues
Listener does not adjust own
language, body, or emotional to
▪
▪
Noticed and acknowledged cues
Listener does adjust own
language, body, or emotional to
A
cues cues
▪ No adaptation to what is heard, ▪ Flexibility and release of own
sticks to own agenda agenda based on what is heard
L
▪ Reloading for next question ▪ Giving other person full attention
▪ Distracted ▪ Present
▪ Interrupts ▪ Letting the other person finish
A
Summarize behaviors
A
▪ Does not seem to follow what ▪ Pauses discussion if does not
other person is saying but keeps understand, has patience with
moving the dialogue conversation and person
▪ Complicated summary. may ▪ Summary is simple and helps
L ▪
confuse rather than clarify
Does not use other person’s
words or ideas, may seem to be
▪
both parties improve clarity
Summary acts as a mirror, using
other person’s words and ideas,
S
asserting disguised as neutral statements used
summary/synthesis
A
Assert behaviors
S ▪ Assertions are . . .
– primary tool, taking up most of
the airtime
– made as statements of truth,
▪ Assertions are . . .
– used selectively, person talks
less than dilaogue partner
– made as offers, or
L hear
– don’t reflect dialogue to that
point, seem to ignore what has
been said
the person is receptive
– acknowledges what has been
said, even when it is an
opposing point
A
Agenda
Content
S To master questioning you can work on both how you ask questions
and what specific questions you ask
L Fact-based
questions
Emotion-based
questions
GROW*
S ▪
Problem-oriented
questions
Solution-oriented
questions
Fact-based Emotion-based
questions questions
Problem-oriented Solution-oriented
questions questions
Set up Paired share – total time 15 mins
▪ Think about a situation in which you want to deal with it but it is difficult
▪ Story teller – share your situation with the listener (7 mins total)
▪ Listener/asker – you can only ask questions that are solution oriented, open or
emotion-based
▪ Switch roles
Asking effective questions (1/3)
Descrip- ▪ Questions that start with to be, to have, or to ▪ Questions beginning with what, where,
tion do verbs (are, were, would, will, have, do, how, and when are often short and
did) often generate yes or no answers; they simple; typically a more neutral question
are typically more leading questions
▪ Have you spoken to the your colleague yet? ▪ What are the implications of that choice?
Examples
▪ Did you replace the manager after that ▪ How do you see this going forward?
incident? ▪ Where do you think you will be in 5
▪ Are you going to pursue Option A or years?
Option B? ▪ How are you thinking about this?
▪ Would you put $1,000 of your own money in ▪ How do you feel about this?
this?
Asking effective questions (2/3)
Descrip- ▪ Questions that focus on factual, analytical ▪ Questions that inquire about emotional
tion information; questions that get at what topics or considerations, questions that
people think or do get at how
people feel
▪ Central to discussing and collaborating on ▪ Can help build intimacy and connection;
Impact business-related issues (i.e., problem- lowers the waterline in the dialogue
solving) ▪ Brings clarity to what is going on under
▪ Useful when engaged in a topic without the surface of an interaction
significant emotional charge ▪ Can draw attention to important areas of
▪ Often appropriate when you do not know the a topic that might have been overlooked
other person well and/or the other person ▪ Are "over there" with the person
has established clear boundaries
Descrip- ▪ Questions that focus on what has ▪ Questions that inquire about what could
tion happened; often focused on undesired, be possible in the future or what has
negative or challenging outcomes; typically worked in the past or present; focused on
past-oriented desired, positive outcomes
▪ Why did this happen? ▪ What would you like to see happen?
Examples ▪ Who caused the problem? ▪ Who can help you?
▪ What if you cannot arrange a meeting? ▪ What do you believe would improve
▪ What are you concerned about? this situation?
▪ What is the root cause of this? ▪ If you knew the answer, what would it be?
▪ What was your part in this? ▪ What do you really like/appreciate?
▪ What if you had no constraints?