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Explore
Your Potential:
Start The Journey To Your Dream Life
Written By
Shaz Khan
and
Shawn Katz
Managing Editors
Salim Sader
and
Cyrus Gorjipour
A Publication of
Contents
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F
or much of Jim Carrey’s life, success seemed a distant
dream. The Canadian-born actor and comedian grew
up in a family so poor that they lived for a time out of
a camper van on a relative’s lawn. Distant or not, however,
Carrey’s dreams of grandeur never paled in his eyes, no mat-
ter how desperate things seemed in the present. His vision
stayed forever riveted just over the horizon, his legs march-
ing inexorably, indefatigably, towards the future he painted
so clearly in his mind’s eye.
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Poverty struck the Carrey family when Jim was a teenager,
after they were forced to relocate from their small town of
Newmarket, Ontario to a suburb of Toronto. The whole family
took security and janitorial jobs at a factory, and Jim worked
8-hour shifts every day after school let out. After leaving the
factory and living out of a Volkswagen van for a period, the
family eventually returned to Toronto, where Carrey began
gradually working his way into the comedy world.
And all of it was because of a vision, and the hard work and
perseverance to never let hardships or hesitation get in the
way of pursuing your potential.
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Chapter 1:
Define Your Vision
– Anatole France
I
t was Ralph Waldo Emerson that once said, “Unless you try
to do something beyond what you have already mastered,
you will never grow.” It is this statement that gives rise to
the nature of human experience; through the course of our
lives, we embark on all sorts of journeys—some longer than
others—and we measure our endeavors through our trophies,
résumés, bank accounts, relationships, fitness, or personal
happiness, to name a few. But most of all, what really makes us
feel like we’re on our authentic path is an overwhelming sense
of progress. We may be moved in the moment by such mile-
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stones or measurements, but we are pushed to growth only
through progress. A new relationship or new car may seem ex-
citing at first, but if we don’t keep growing individually, these
relationships and possessions will not stay exciting. So, how do
we live life in such a way that we are equipped with the tools
needed to not only reach for our dreams and achieve our mile-
stones, but also experience astonishing growth along the way?
This is the entire foundation of Explore Your Potential. Per the
title, this book seeks to explore what is already inside each of
us, to bring this inner world to the surface of our reality using
specific techniques, to project this reality into our future, and
to discover what has been holding us back all along.
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it is convenient, when the conditions are right—and if they
don’t act, or if they don’t achieve their desired result, they
express no more than disappointment. A committed person,
on the other hand, will accept no excuses, only results. And if
they experience a roadblock, disappointment, or even failure
along the way, they will find a way to achieve the result. Be
that person. Interest is not enough to get you to act, so cross
off everything on your list to which you are not committed.
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down where you’re at in your life with respect to your vision.
Where are you today, at this very moment? Challenge
yourself to be completely honest here. The answers, no mat-
ter how near or far from your vision, will provide clarity in
the next step. And when this is complete, what you’ll have
in front of you is a list of things to which you are committed,
a list of undeniable reasons you’re committed, and a truth-
ful statement of where you’re at today. This sets the stage
for the next question: what actions and thoughts have you
been taking and having that brought about your current
results? Take time to make note of every single one you
can think of, because you will use this comprehensive list to
determine the kind of progress you’re going to make. This
exercise assists our mind in breaking down an “impossible
dream” into a purpose that we know to be true, and a series
of thoughts and actions that will lead us there.
Once this pattern develops, our mind has the incredible abil-
ity to take over for us; what used to require a lot of willpow-
er becomes automatic, because our mind is an energy con-
servation and pattern recognition genius. Once your mind
recognizes that you are doing something repeatedly over an
extended period of time, it will form a habit of it, and it will
feel as though you’re acting on autopilot, conserving energy
and conscious thought. Your consciousness can be trained to
make specific progress in any category you desire in your life.
Even more incredible is that once this habitual, action-ori-
ented, thought-driven automation takes over, as a bonus,
your mind will start to identify all the resources, people, op-
portunities, ideas, and environments that align with your
vision in the real world. You will begin to see patterns and
alignments that you didn’t see before, because once a pat-
tern exists in your mind, that same mind will seek out more
patterns that match in your life. This is the beautiful gift we
receive for acquiring discipline for the sake of progress. Jim
Rohn famously said that there are two types of pain: the pain
of discipline, and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounc-
es, but regret weighs tons. It’s time engage your discipline.
It’s time to explore your potential.
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DEFINE YOUR VISION EXERCISE:
STEP 1: Explore Your Values
B
efore painting the bigger picture of where you are
heading in life, you must first explore who you are. As
you discover yourself, you will unveil what truly mat-
ters to you, and it will help you have a clear view of what you
stand for. This is essential to defining your vision.
First, write down the 10 things that you enjoy doing the most.
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Then, write 3 things you need to do to feel fulfilled at work.
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STEP 2: Find Out Your Strengths
Now that you know a little more about yourself, let’s discover
what your strengths are. It is not always easy to think about
your own strengths, so a good way to start is to write down
the strengths that other people usually see in you.
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STEP 3: Define Your Vision
You are now ready to define your vision. Write a statement in
the first person. Define your vision, and explain why you do
what you do. Describe actions that will allow you to pursue
your vision. Try to be unconventional about your vision. Ex-
plore new things, keep it simple, but make it big. Don’t down-
grade your ambitions.
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5.
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Every now and then, everybody can feel a lack of motiva-
tion or inspiration. Let’s prepare for that before it happens.
Write down 5 sources that will inspire action when you need
a boost. It could be a website, a venue, a video, a book etc.
1.
2.
3.
Now you’re all set. You know your values and your strengths.
You’ve defined your vision, and you have thought of resourc-
es to help you along the way. So, what is preventing you from
taking action? Most of the time, fear is the main obstacle.
Jump to the next chapter to get insights on how to overcome
your fears.
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“Befriend Your Fears”
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t a restaurant in London In 1889, a young law student
from India stood up to deliver an address to a small
gathering of the London Vegetarian Society. The
young man was a member of the organization’s executive
committee, and he had prepared his remarks specially for
the occasion. Yet when he rose to his feet, paralysis overtook
him, and the words refused to come out. “My vision became
blurred and I trembled,” he later wrote, “though the speech
hardly covered a sheet of foolscap.”
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globe. Yet for much of his life, what Gandhi called the “awful
strain of public speaking” prevented him from speaking up
even at friendly dinner parties. And it nearly stopped him
from becoming the international icon he is today.
And most of all, it reminds that no two paths are ever the
same, and that it’s only by embracing and nurturing that
which makes us different that we can begin to explore our
full potential, and at long last, to chart our own.
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Chapter 2:
Overcome Your Fears
– Eleanor Roosevelt
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s is the case with any problem-solving technique,
before we can develop a solution, we must first get
to the core of the problem. To know exactly what is
holding us back, we must be cognizant of what our fears are,
where they come from, where they reside, and why they ex-
ist. But even before this, we have to commit to who we are. So
if you’re taking the time to read this book, congratulations,
you’ve already committed to overcoming the fears that are
holding you back.
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Why are you on this journey? Because you have a vision for
your life, and you have an insatiable desire to make it come
true. You want to cast your goals into your future and see
your greatest moments come to fruition. You are a goalcaster,
and your fears are goal-hunters. They prey on your dreams.
Identify Fear
When you think of your dreams, what is the first thing that
you think of? Do you think of all the ways in which you could
fail? Do you think of all the things that could go wrong? Or
do you think of the one thing that could go right? Most of us
rarely do the latter. It’s because we are not wired to follow
our dreams or overcome our fears; we’re wired to listen to
those fears so that we feel safe and comfortable. We’re wired
not only to escape danger, but also to anticipate it, to sur-
vive… because we have a brain that has evolved to accomplish
these tasks. However, this evolution carries implications for
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the modern human being. You see, unlike our ancient an-
cestors, we no longer live under daily threat of predators or
imminent demise, and yet those fundamental “fight or flight”
tendencies still arise in our lives. From a survival perspective,
our wondrous self-preservative tendencies are an incredible
gift, but in the context of the present day, our brain does a
very bad job of anticipating danger, because the brain’s re-
ward is simply that you are still alive. The brain does not care
if the danger doesn’t actually exist; it only cares that you
didn’t die. And so every time your survival instincts kick in
and you “escape death,” your brain quite literally develops
a reinforcement. This reward system is at the core of your
fears. Why?
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are incorrectly interpreted as danger. The mind, however,
is your conscious cognition, your “reasoning” friend, your
ability to think critically. And it is your mind, not your brain,
that must identify the difference between danger and fear,
reinforcing that discomfort is not death, and forcing you to
take action in spite of the discomfort. You must choose (using
your mind) to make this assessment after your brain tries to
do it for you, because if you don’t, you’ll retreat.
Note that just as danger and fear are two discrete concepts,
the mind and the brain are distinct as well. Understanding this
nuance is critical to overcoming fears, because without it, we
will always fall victim to our survival mechanism. Needless to
say, then, overcoming your fears is no simple task; you will be
going against your brain to do it, but by taking control of your
mind, it can be done. There are plenty of resources out there
that offer a series of steps to help you accomplish this task. But
more important than steps is the reinforcement of a mindset.
If you never start, you will always remain exactly where you
are (comfort). If you start, though, and even though you may
not know how to get to your destination yet, you will at least
know where you are going, and will have already taken your
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first step. The sense of uncertainty will again trigger your
brain’s danger aversion instinct. How do we circumvent this?
By using your conscious mind to remove the destination from
your focus, thereby removing the unknown factor, and instead
focusing on what you can control: your next step. That sounds
easier said than done, right? Well, think of it this way: if you
wanted to hike up a mountain, would you get there by staring
at the summit? Of course not! And what if you stared at the
summit while you climbed? You would trip while climbing.
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will develop an intuition about the conditions and the envi-
ronment, and that intuition will allow you to continue flying.
A bird sitting on a tree doesn’t put its trust in the branch it’s
perched on; it puts its trust in its own wings. Only by believing
in ourselves can we ever soar, but we can’t soar without first
attempting flight. And we can’t take flight if we don’t start.
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If yes is your answer, and you’re willing to try again and
weather the storms—because there will be many—then you
are giving yourself an opportunity to learn, and to grow. So
don’t run from rejection; invite it in, and allow it to offer you
a clear picture of where your values lie, and what you are
willing to pursue. The process itself of finding relief within
rejection will increase your confidence tremendously, and
soon you’ll be comfortable with something most people fear:
uncertainty. Your brain wants to convince you that history is
destiny, but your mind knows better.
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OVERCOME YOUR FEARS EXERCISE:
STEP 1: Find Out What You Want
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n order to overcome your fears, you need to first know
what you really want in life. Fear is often a psychological
obstacle between you and your goal, so to clearly over-
come what’s preventing you from taking action, you need to
figure out what your goal really is.
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Now what you really need to know is what thoughts are pre-
venting you from taking action.
List the main reasons you aren’t doing what you want.
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Fear of process: Which parts of the process are you afraid of?
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Confidence in the gains: Describe the positive gains you will
acquire during your journey.
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Confidence in the outcome: Describe the positive outcome
you will get when you’ll succeed.
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“Believe in the
Magic of Madness”
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F
rom a humble upbringing as one of five children in ru-
ral Missouri, Walter Elias Disney always had the widest
of eyes. Yet Walt’s power of dreaming was only half
the story of his success. His courage to challenge the odds
and defy common wisdom, or learn from failing, propelled
him forward throughout his life, as he refused to let even
the most daunting obstacles undercut his ambitions. He was
the sort of man for whom the word “pioneer” seemed tai-
lor-made, and for whom the words “It can’t be done” spurred
only incitement to prove everyone wrong.
This first major failure could well have sabotaged the young
Disney’s belief in himself. Instead, it emboldened him. Walt
Disney and his brother Roy gathered up their suitcases,
pooled what little money they had, and headed west to Hol-
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lywood to start anew. It might have seemed like a crazy idea.
It would be far from his last.
From then on, Walt Disney’s career was built on a steady suc-
cession of firsts. In 1932, Mickey and his friends starred in
the first ever color cartoon, entitled Flowers and Trees, which
netted their studio the first of its 22 Academy Awards, and
the first ever Oscar won by an animated short. He then re-
leased The Old Mill in 1937, which was the first ever short sub-
ject to utilize the multi-plane camera technique.
Yet of all his famous firsts, it was the next that would electrify
the motion picture industry, and permanently alter the des-
tiny of one of the cinema world’s leading trailblazers. Snow
White and the Seven Dwarves was premiered in December 1937
and released to the public early the following year, spark-
ing an instant sensation among critics and fans alike. The
first full-length animated musical feature would ultimately
be recognized as a monument of cinematic genius, becoming
the first in a beloved tradition that lives on to this day. The
next five years alone saw no fewer than four full-length ani-
mated films follow, with Pinocchio, Fantasia, Dumbo and Bambi
all emerging as classics that helped raise successive genera-
tions of children across the globe.
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Yet Snow White, we so often forget, was a success that wasn’t
supposed to be. It was a phenomenon that defied all odds,
and disproved the many naysayers who had the weight of
“popular wisdom”—and economics—on their side. It was the
height of the Great Depression, and Walt Disney had risked it
all, borrowing almost the entirety of Snow White’s unheard-of
budget of nearly $1.5 million to see his project through to
fruition. Even his wife had questioned the folly of it, warning
that adults would never sit through a feature-length cartoon
about princesses and dwarves.
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Chapter 3:
Readjust Your Beliefs
– Anaïs Nin
T
he first obstacle that stands between our desires and
results rarely comes from the outside. Our mind, as
discussed in Chapter 2, can be our greatest ally or our
biggest roadblock. The actual challenges we face are in fact
rarely the source of our problems; no, it is how we view our
situation, and how easily we fold to the idea of having prob-
lems, that defines the journey. When the mind is on our side,
we can use our critical thinking skills to identify our desired
outcomes, translate them into the actions we must take, use
those actions to reverse engineer our thinking, and put our-
selves in a state of absolute truth regarding our eventual suc-
cess. So, let us begin this chapter with that very truth.
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The truth is that there is a change we seek. We have felt the
need for this change for a long time, but we have also felt stuck,
and immobilized, and tired. Tired of being mocked. Tired of not
achieving our goals. Tired of being tired. You see, some people
settle; they accept the world that has been handed to them
and call it final. They catch up on their shows and play a pas-
sive role in their own lives. But you are not one of those people.
You believe that impossible is nothing; that there are bound-
aries to be pushed; that freedom is a gift given by the choices
you make. You believe that the conventions standing between
you and your dreams are simply rules meant to be broken. You
are no longer afraid of the unchartered path—most may never
understand, but you know a life lived on autopilot isn’t for you.
You are the architect of the future that you imagine. The au-
thor of the story you want to live. You know you only get one
chance to leave a dent in this world. So when you tell yourself
you’re tired, that’s nothing more than a reminder that you’re
still awake; restless, but you haven’t given up. Remember that
next time you look in the mirror—and the mirror is indeed
the only place we should ever seek validation, because to think
otherwise is the greatest limiting belief there is.
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ing what we believe, no matter how firm that belief may be,
no matter how strong our convictions—we will experience
incredible growth when we question our positions on any-
thing in life. One of two outcomes will result: we will develop
a more clear understanding of what motivates us, or we will
discover layers of beliefs that we have borrowed from others
and wrongfully appropriated as our own. In either case, with
the clarity to make this distinction, we can readjust our be-
liefs to those conducive to our goals. When you truly know
your “why”, you know what to do.
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READJUST YOUR BELIEFS EXERCISE:
STEP 1: Explore Your Beliefs
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t is important to dedicate at least an hour to this exercise.
Get comfortable. Then consider the statement: “Some-
thing I believe about myself is…” and write down the first
thing that comes to mind. Let your thoughts flow and just
allow whatever comes up to be written down. Don’t judge
your beliefs, and don’t analyze or resist them. Even if what
you’re writing sounds strange or is something that you don’t
believe anymore, keep writing.
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Things I believe about my body:
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Things I believe about my circumstances:
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STEP 2: Understand Your Beliefs
After each belief that you wrote down, note whether it is
helpful (H) or detrimental (D) to your goals. If you believe
that a belief is both helpful and detrimental, write (D).
Looking at the items with a (D) in the list above, pick the top
5 beliefs that you feel the most negative about and that you
would like to get rid of:
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4. What would I rather believe? What belief would
be more positive, beneficial, and empowering in
my life?
Look at each of the 5 beliefs that you have listed above. For
each one, choose one sentence that represents something
you want more of – a quality of character, for instance, or a
positive condition in your life. Start with the words “I am…”,
“I have…”, or “I enjoy…” and write these sentences below.
My New Beliefs:
1.
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5.
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“Make Time for
Your Dreams”
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I
n the annals of American history, few figures are as syn-
onymous with industry and accomplishment as Benjamin
Franklin. The Founding Father, who helped negotiate the
treaty that ended the Revolutionary War and draft both the
Declaration of Independence and Constitution of the Unit-
ed States, was undoubtedly a man of great virtue and wis-
dom. But beyond his life in public service, Franklin’s eclectic
pursuits left a legacy of innovations and advancements that
must make most modern-day politicians blush with embar-
rassment. It is not for nothing that Franklin is often called
“The First American.”
Yet of all the lessons we can take from Franklin’s daily habits,
the most essential is likely his manner of recording and ac-
counting for his daily activities. He would begin every morning
with a daily resolution and a question: “What good shall I do
today?”. Every night, he would reflect on the day’s events and
come full circle, answering, “What good have I done today?”
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Chapter 4:
Change Your Habits
—Aristotle
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ur beliefs, as discussed in Chapter 3, become our
thoughts, and those thoughts become the platform
upon which we take action. The repetitive nature of
our actions, per the Zen adage, then become our habits. Your
entire life today is a sum of all your habits. The quality of
your happiness, your relationships, contentment with your
fitness, whether you feel successful, are all a result of your
habits. If we take a closer look at the areas in our lives where
we desire change, we see can see that our outcomes can be
impacted by the actions we take. However, those actions can
very often go unnoticed, leaving us with the impression that
things are happening to us, instead of the understanding that
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we can influence the things that happen. As Carl Jung once
said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will di-
rect your life and you will call it fate.” In this chapter, we will
break down some common unconscious habits, demonstrate
how to recognize the ones we don’t want, and learn how to
strengthen our resolve to maintain the ones we need.
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mance. This is what actions we take, and how well we per-
form our tasks. The third and deepest layer is our mirror.
This is who we see ourselves as, and the type of person we
are; this is our mindset.
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CHANGE YOUR HABITS EXERCISE:
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n order to change our habits, we first need to understand
how they work. Change is not always fast and it isn’t easy,
but with time and effort any habit can be changed.
1. Location
2. Time
3. Emotional state
4. Other people
5. Immediately preceding action
Day 2:
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3.
4.
5.
Now that you know your trigger and you’ve figured out your
reward, you can now redesign your habit with something
more beneficial.
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you can shift the routine and change the habit. Almost any
behavior can be transformed if the cue and reward stay the
same.
Now that you have identified the trigger and the reward,
choose an activity that is triggered by the old trigger and
still delivers the old reward.
When ,
I will
because it provides me with .
Post this plan somewhere so that you will see it every day.
Try it for 2 months. It takes about 60 days to implement a
new habit and if you do it long enough the new behavior will
become automatic.
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“Pour Your
Heart Into It”
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I
n 1981, a young man from New York walked into a lo-
cal coffee and tea shop in Seattle. A one-time appliance
salesman with a Bachelor of Science in communication,
the man had quickly risen through the ranks of his company
to become director of sales, and was now on a mission to in-
vestigate the tiny West Coast purveyor that was buying more
of his company’s European coffee makers than Macy’s.
Yet what inspires about Starbucks’ story is not just the speed
and scale of the company’s meteoric rise. It is the undercur-
rent to its success—or as Schultz calls, it, the “love story” that
gave birth to the dream. Schultz built his company just as he
led it, with love and passion propelling him at every turn. In a
world where we are encouraged to view business successes as
built on heartless rationales and hard-nosed “facts,” Schultz
proved that our emotions can in fact be our greatest guides.
And in a culture where so many of us are either detached from
our emotions or outright hostile to them, he demonstrated the
incredible force that comes from nurturing one’s deepest in-
tuitions, and channelling one’s emotional intelligence to build
an empire on the foundation of human connection. The “key”
to Starbucks’ success, says Schultz, “is heart.”
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Schultz was always deeply in touch with his emotions. From
his life, he gained an instinctive distaste of profit that was
pursued for its own sake, and of business decisions decou-
pled from the emotional needs and sensibilities that define
our humanity. Schultz’s father struggled with meaningless
blue-collar jobs his whole life, unable to find fulfillment in
his work. Then one day, his father was injured on the job,
without any access to health insurance or worker’s compen-
sation. Like too many of us, Schultz’s father had lived for a
security that was always illusory, and when it suddenly evap-
orated, he was left with nothing. The event marked Howard
Schultz for life.
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Chapter 5:
Master Your Emotions
—Deepak Chopra
D
o you know the difference between living and be-
ing alive? That seems like a ridiculous distinction to
make, but consider it an important one. Everybody
who wakes up from physical sleep is alive, but only those
who awaken from their emotional slumber are truly living.
We all know we have feelings; a robot can be programmed
to say it has feelings, but to be aware of those feelings, to un-
derstand when and under what conditions they arise—while
they arise—that is conscious awareness. That’s how you know
you’re alive; that is emotional mastery, and it is the most im-
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portant skill in the game of life. In fact, the most success-
ful people on the planet have learned to navigate this maze
in their minds. This chapter will walk you through what it
means, why it’s so critical, and how you can use emotional
mastery to enhance the quality of your life. This chapter will
release you from your sentient snooze, opening your eyes to
a skill that few possess, and allowing you to join the ranks of
the elites on the road to their dreams.
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empty cups became filled with the learned behaviors and
language patterns of whatever we were exposed to. As we
age, the cup of the mind continues to fill up. At this stage,
we know when we’re supposed to get angry, and what we do
when we become sad, and how to express joy—but do we re-
ally know why? Do we truly understand how to interrupt our
robotic behaviors if they are not productive? For most of us,
the answer is no. We were never taught the reason for our
feelings, nor were we taught to address their existence or ac-
knowledge our control over them. We just accepted them as
part of life, or as tools of communication. Yet as with any
tools, if we do not understand how to use them, we cannot
optimize their use, or learn to wield them more effectively. If
we treated technological tools like we treat our emotions, we
would still have cars with stone wheels.
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to our environment. When we take time to pause and think
about our reasons, not only are we less likely to react dis-
proportionately, but we avoid blaming our feelings on oth-
er people, and avoid manifesting those feelings in unrelated
situations. When you have what feels like a bad day at work,
understanding why you feel that way, and responding to the
exact cause of such a feeling makes you less likely to bring
any anger or disappointment with you into your home life.
By making this method our emotional homework in every
scenario, we can form new habits. Be mindful that this does
not mean you are ignoring your feelings, only that you are
using your mind to find the root cause of them, and utilizing
the gratification that comes from problem-solving to propel
you towards finding new meaning in your feelings.
We can see now that even our “negative” feelings can teach
us about ourselves. When we are in this state of learning, we
are no longer limited by the victim mentality, but propelled
by the reality that there is an important reason for our feel-
ings. The final stage of mastering our emotions is to find the
meaning. Think of a moment in which you felt a lot of anx-
iety or stress leading up to an event. How did you feel com-
ing out of that situation? Relieved? Confident? Think about
those positive feelings. The mere fact that you were able to
pass through that moment of stress is evidence of the power
your mind has to accomplish this again and again in life. The
meaning of your stress may be for you to remember that con-
fident and relieved state of mind you experienced. Chang-
ing this state during your next moment of stress can and will
change your emotions, which will ultimately take you from
a place of uncertain stress to certain calm, knowing that you
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have what it takes because you’ve done it before… You just
didn’t know how you did it.
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MASTER YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE EXERCISE
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t often happens that emotions get the best of us, and it’s
mainly because we don’t realize what is happening until
it’s too late. Far too regularly, people only try to master
their emotional state after they’ve already lost control of it.
So, here is the trick: You have to handle an emotion when
you first begin to feel and experience it fully. Here are a few
steps to help you take control of your emotions.
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Then, instead of rejecting that emotion, try to appreciate it.
Write down why what you are feeling at the moment is right.
Now, get curious about your emotion. Describe why you are
feeling the way you feel.
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STEP 2: Get Confident
It’s probably not the first time you are feeling what you are
feeling. Identify a prior time when you felt the same emotion.
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STEP 3: Get Excited and Take Action
Get excited about the fact that you can easily handle an emo-
tion. Write down how you will handle the same emotion
when it shows up again.
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“Focus on the Light”
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I
n the summer of 1990, Joanne Rowlings was sitting on a
delayed train from Manchester to London, when sudden-
ly a vision of a story abruptly invited itself into her mind.
Reaching around for something to write with, she jotted
down her ideas on a napkin, tracing the outlines of the story
about an orphan boy and a wizard boarding school where he
would discover his true nature.
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Chapter 6:
Keep Your Focus
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t is a common peculiarity for even the most motivated
and mentally prepared individuals to sometimes lose
their focus. Considering all the intrinsic factors dis-
cussed in previous chapters, we know our minds must also
work within dynamic environments to give rise to the best
possible experience. Sometimes those environments can be
distracting, or induce fatigue, producing a lack of focus that
leads us to skip our rituals, disrupt our habits, and spiral us
into a self-perpetuating stagnant state—we lose motivation
and take no action. As pioneers on our personal journey to
success, it is incumbent upon us to not only be prepared for
such distraction and fatigue, but to also develop the tools to
understand when it’s happening to us, and what to do about
it. Keeping our focus is a critical task that is less about en-
thused strategies, and more about intentional maintenance
of our environment. This chapter will demonstrate what
ecosystems (referred to, henceforth, as factors of focus) are
conducive to our executive capabilities, and what initia-
tives we should embark upon to give ourselves the greatest
chance of achievement. No matter how skilled, self-aware,
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and fearless we train ourselves to be, if we are living in the
midst of chaos, eventually that external chaos may find its
way in. To ensure the integrity of our dreams, we must first
protect ourselves.
The second factor of focus in your life is your rest and sleep
cycle. For those who are extremely motivated and pulled
by their vision, sleep may sometimes feel like a burden that
keeps them from squeezing out another thirty minutes or
few hours out of the day, but being human means resting
properly to recharge your biological battery. Extended peri-
ods of work or any non-physical activity can result in leth-
argy, and more importantly, poor concentration for days to
come. Imagine your energy as an hourglass, where each in-
dividual grain of sand is a unit of energy. When we wake up
each morning, every grain in our hourglass is at the top, and
we are full of energy. From that moment forward, the grains
start to fall… and with each grain that drops, our impair-
ment increases and our ability to function in a peak state
is diminished, until of course, all the sand is at the bottom.
Sleep is the equivalent of flipping this hourglass over.
This is a simple, but powerful metaphor. If we don’t flip the
hourglass, we don’t have the energy. If we don’t have the
energy, we don’t have the focus. It is tempting to want to
remain busy in the pursuit of a goal, but being busy doesn’t
always equate to being productive. If you need an example
of this, look no further than those moments of clarity felt
after a full night’s rest, despite ruminating over a solution
for hours the night before. It is truly amazing how proper
sleep can clear a mental fog. We can’t always force ourselves
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to sleep, but we can choose to put down our devices, and
disconnect from our emails, social media, and apps, in order
to catch a little more sand in our hourglass.
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KEEP YOUR FOCUS EXERCISE:
STEP 1: Write Down Your Goal
In order to keep your focus, you have to know exactly where
you are going. Write down your goal, and flesh it out with
details inspired by the vision you defined in the first chapter.
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