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Premarital sex is term which refers to any sexual activity between consenting
each other. The whole are of sex and how to handle it can be a great struggle for todays
singles. Premarital sex is a huge problem in society today, there are many people who
have been married have lost their virginity before their honeymoon. Premarital sex is
mostly happened in teenagers. Teens everywhere are not waiting until they are married to
have sex. Teenagers are saying, sex is fun and everybody is doing it. Teens are less
developed, emotionally and physically before having sex, and they are not prepared for
the serious problems that come along with their decision to have sex. Teenagers view
that premarital sex is acceptable as long as two people love each other. If at age
sixteen a teenager tells a parent or someone older that they are in love, the parent will
laugh and say that no teenager at sixteen has experienced true love. Love is something
one experiences when one is mature and ready for a life-long commitment, not when one
is involved in a two-year high school crush. Premarital sex is based on selfishness, not
on love. If one has passionate feelings for someone, one may feel the need to have
intercourse with that person. Teens need to open their eyes and see the harmful effects of
premarital sex. Premarital sex hurts you, running the risk of getting diseases and it profoundly scars you emotionally
saying, Oh Ill be fine, I am on birth control and we used a condom; there are no
Nowadays, we can see there are a lot of moral issues among teenagers. As we
know, moral issues always been relate to negative behavior of someone that can
gives bad effects to themselves and also people around them. There have been
many cases involving them all over the world. They will cause many problems
to themselves, community and country. They will cause self destruction to
themselves because of their habit. Community in this country will be its
disintegration, divided and not united. As a result, bad feelings and prejudices
will exist in society. Mutual mistrust is reigning in the community. As for
country, we all know that teenagers are the leader of future. This will make
vigorous development becomes stagnated and socio-economic condition
become weakened because of the existence of social and moral decay amongst
community.
There are several factors that caused the moral issues among teenagers
nowadays. One of them is because of the influenced from their friends. This is
because teenagers now are more comfortable with their friends compared to
their parents and siblings. There are some teenagers spend most of their time
with their friends outside. This can lead them to do things that their friends are
doing such as smoking and other unhealthy activity. Other than that, other factor
is the influenced of mass media and internet. With today technologies, teenagers
can find everything they want in the mass media such as television and also the
internet.
Though a human being gains the physical maturity of procreation at the beginning of
puberty, he/she is considered eligible for mating and reproduction much later may be
after 18 years of age or 20. And also the society insists that a sexual practice outside a
marriage is improper and illegal at times.
Premarital sexuality is any sexual activity with an opposite sex partner or with a same
sex partner before he/she has started a married life. The term is usually used to refer
the intercourse before the legal age of a marriage. Adults who presumably marry
eventually also fall under this definition.
Sexuality is not an instrument of enjoying lustful pleasure for human beings, at least. In
premarital sex, many a times, immature human beings explore the sexuality, jut out of
curiosity, and might be are unaware of the consequences. Society has forbid premarital
sex from the very outlook that adolescence is the time to form oneself as mature and
responsible human being and not at all a time to procreate.
Law can only threaten people, can never make them to not do something. The most effective
way of defending premarital lovemaking is spreading awareness of healthy sexuality among
children. Awareness of healthy sexuality is not at all the knowledge of safe sexuality. Train
them to mingle with opposite sex in a mature way. Inspire them with mutual respect between
man and woman. From the very childhood itself a baby should learn to accept people as men
and women, the equal partners of life on earth; not as objects to fulfill lusty wishes and
ambitions.
Premarital sex is a huge problem in society today. People everywhere are not waiting
until they get married to have sex. People having sex today are not aware of the
consequences that come with having sex. They just think it is fun and there are nothing
other than fun comes with having sex.
Some people tend to have a lot of sex. They say they do it for the satisfaction. They
believe sex is fun. It is perceived to be a great thing from the time one is young. Going
to elementary school kids always talked about the day they were going to have sex.
They looked forward to it. Where they got the idea that sex was such a great thing is a
question that one must ask? The movies, maybe. The magazines that one sees when
digging through the drawers of an older brother, uncle or ones father. Sex is all over
society. You can not watch cable television without seeing people kissing intimately, or
even having sex. Just because cable does not show full nudity does not make it any
better to let an eight year old child watch a television show full of sex.
In todays society women are not held to that same standard as men are when it comes
to having sex.
Now that the reasons people are having sex has been somewhat discussed and is out
of the way, let us discuss the consequences that come with having sex, such as
A.I.D.S. This is a deadly virus that kills ones immune system. A person never dies from
the actual virus. They die from the diseases that they would not have otherwise
contracted if they still had a strong immune system. The immune system doesnt die
slowly either it take at least five years for the immune system to eventually give out. A
person can die from a simple cold if they have contracted the A.I.D.S virus. They cold
starts of as a normal one does but it just keeps getting worse and worse. People suffer
before they die from this disease. This disease has been responsible for killing millions
of people. The way this virus is contracted is through exchange of bodily fluids. Sex is
the number one way this virus is spread. What people are not realizing is this disease is
deadly and by having premarital sex and not being monogamous they too can contract
this disease. People are very aware that this disease is out there but they do not
understand that it can affect them.
There are lots of other diseases out there other than A.I.D.S that are caused by having
sex. Most other sexually transmitted diseases are deadly but they are curable if found
before they cause your body damage. Lets not forget how painful these diseases are.
All I can say when I think of contracting something as painful as a disease as painful as
these have been described is ouch! Why would someone even want to take the chance
of contracting one of these horrible diseases? There is a very simple solution if one
would want to avoid contracting one of these horrible diseases. Its just as easy as not
having sex.
Lets not forget how bad a reputation could be damaged if people found out that a
person had a sexually transmitted disease. They would be laughed at and ridiculed.
People would think that a person was dirty if they knew they had diseases. What kind of
feeling would a person have knowing that they have a disease that they have
contracted through sexual intercourse.
Maybe a better question is, what kind of feeling could a person walk into a church with
knowing that people know they have a disease that they have contracted while having
The major religious belief in the United States is Christianity. Christianity teaches that
having sex before getting married is wrong. Having sex is a sin and when people sin
they go to hell. Lots of people have sex with other people just to do it. They dont think
of that others feelings. Christianity teaches people to treat others as they would like to
be treated. Im sure no person likes getting his or her feelings hurt. People should think
about others before they do such things such as use others for sex.
Christianity also teaches that lust is a sin. It is one of the seven deadly sins and it
should not be taken lightly according to religious teachings. Lust leads to sex, and if sex
is taken lightly people more and more people will begin to have children out of wedlock.
Pregnancy is also a result of sex. Those who are not married and have children dont
only make their own lives harder by burdening themselves financially but they also
make it harder for their children to live without both of their parents there for them at all
times. In some cases children are left with just one parent and have to grow up the rest
of their lives feeling unwanted because their biological father did not stick around. A
child cannot comprehend the fact that his or her father just had was with his or her
mother to have sex. How could you explain this to a child? You couldnt and if you did
there would definitely be something wrong with you. An even worse case is a child who
is put up for adoption. He or she knows nothing about his or her real parents and is
never given the oppurtunity to be given the love that every child deserves from his or
her parents. I believe it would be hard not to know who your parents were. It would kill
me to think that I could have had a mother and father like most normal people but
parents didnt want me.
Sex is not entirely bad. In my opinion sex should be treated like everything else and be
done in moderation. People should learn to understand one another and understand
that sex is a big step in relationships. If it were not a big step there would be no point to
get married. Why would a person want to buy a used car when they could buy a new
car? Sorry that it has to be put that way but that is the harsh reality of it. People who
have slept around are not going to have an easy time finding a life mate. Nobody wants
somebody who had slept with all of their friends. Why would you? How could you? It
would be really awkward having all of my friends standing in my wedding knowing that
had all had sex with a person that was going to be my wife in a couple of hours.
Hopefully people will begin to look at everything they can lose from having sex before
marriage. The same goes for those who can not be monogamous. People should hold
themselves to a higher standard. If people had more confidence I believe that they
would feel they needed to have sex to impress people or to make people happy. Sex
should be a result of love and should have more meaning than it does to some people.
The entire point is sex has before marriage has consequences. There are many and
Ive only touched based on a few. If I were to go over every reason that sex was wrong
the list would never end.
Historical Background
She was devastated when her doctor told her she had herpes. By passingthis infection
on, Brian has made it possible for Jennifer to join the ranks of twenty million other
Americans who have herpes, a sexually transmitteddisease. This is not the only disease
that Jennifer lives with though. Sheexperiences great emotional pain, especially guilt for
the last three years".The world is plagued with over thirty-nine sexually transmitted
diseases."Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) infect three million young
adultsannually, out of Americas total of twelve million sexually active youths".These
dangers should be painfully obvious to many of todays youth. "Amongfourteen to
twenty -year -olds Chlamydia is the most common STD."Chlamydia has no obvious
symptoms and can even cause infertility if leftuntreated. "Up to twenty -nine percent
of sexually active adolescent girlshave been found to be infected with
Chlamydia."Premarital sex is riddled with many emotional problems and
mentalconsequences. After premarital sex, there is a feeling of disappointment
andregret over lost of virginity. So many people say,
I wish I had waited.
Confusion is another emotional effect of premarital sex. This often comesfrom being
ignorant of the differences between lust and true love. The bestmodels who can teach
teenagers are the parents. This type of educationshould start at home. When parents
fail to do so, the risk is their child wouldask for and receive answers from people- people
whose view of sex andsexuality may not be accurate or morally compatible with their
values. Nextis at school, high school students should get adequate knowledge from
their
Hence, it is ironic that, "Catholics are engaging in premarital sex more thanany other
group of single Americans". The Church teaches us that when onehas sex with
another, they become one with them in spirit. People who havemany sexual partners
before marriage still have "soul ties" to other peoplebesides their spouse. Soul ties
meaning, encountering true love and the feelto never let one be alone. In Genesis 2:24,
it says that
A man shall leave hisfather and his mother and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall
becomeone flesh.
Despite these teachings, "only seventeen percent of all Catholicsthink that premarital
sex is wrong," This indicates that personal beliefs arestronger than religious beliefs
expression of love that gives birth to new love and to new human life. Inshort, the young
person can come to approach the problem of sexualmorality with the beginnings of
a mature Christian conscience.AARPs 2004 Sexuality Study revealed that the vast
majority of respondents deeply value their relationships. Sex, the interviewees felt,
maynot be wasted on the young but its hardly their exclusive playground; sexremain
enjoyable well into the later years and the majority of surveyrespondents would be
unhappy if they could never have it again an outlookcomedically captured by author
Patsy Stagner in the subtitle of her book,
Baby Boomer Bachelorette: How to Have Sex at Least Once More Before YouDie.
According to the Population Commission (PopCom), 23 percent or twoof 10
Filipino youths aged 15 to 24 were into premarital sex and four out
fivef e m a l e r e s p o n d e n t s i n t h e s t u d y h a d t h e i r f i r s t e x p e r i e n c e
w i t h t h e i r boyf riend while two out of five males had
t h e i r s w i t h a c o m m e r c i a l s e x worker, a friend or with a plain acquaintance. Last
years study also says thatclose to 4 million youngsters are engaging in premarital sex
with 30% of ther e s p o n d e n t s d o i n g i t i n t h e i r o w n h o m e s w h i l e 1 8 % w e r e
d o i n g i t i n s i d e motels and hotels.
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