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a
Department of Nursing, School of Health Sciences, Jnkping University, PO Box 1026,
SE-551 11 Jnkping, Sweden
b
Institute of Health and Caring Sciences, Sahlgrenska Academy, University of Gothenburg, Box 457,
SE-405 30 Gteborg, Sweden
KEYWORDS Summary
Objectives: To describe and understand childrens thoughts and feelings related to visiting
Children;
critically ill relatives or family members in an adult intensive care unit.
Critically ill;
Design: A qualitative descriptive study.
Family;
Method: Twenty-eight children (14 girls; 14 boys) that had visited a critically ill relative or
Feelings;
family member in an adult intensive care unit were invited to participate in an interview.
Hermeneutics;
The material was analysed inspired by Gadamers hermeneutic philosophy and Doverborg and
Intensive care unit;
Pramling Samuelssons method about interviews and dialogues with children.
Qualitative study;
Results: Children with a seriously ill/injured relative suffer. However, visiting seems to alleviate
Relatives
suffering. Visiting and being present as a part of the situation brought positive feelings of
involvement and made it possible to show that they wanted to care for the relative. The sick
relative was always on the childs mind and seeing and being with them in the intensive care
unit resulted in relief and calmness, even if the relatives situation sometimes evoked feelings
of despair and fear.
Conclusion: Knowledge and awareness of the fact that children are affected by the relatives
condition and for their wellbeing needs to visit, caring actions must focus on helping the child
become involved in the relatives situation in order to alleviate suffering.
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Restriction on visiting policies for children needs to be removed and changed towards a more open policy and family
centred care in order to meet their needs. Being aware of the fact that the child is affected should lead to actions
that involve children in the situation as well as encouraging custodians to share their childrens experiences. Children
should not feel pressured into visiting and constructive ways need to be found whereby children who are not visiting
or are not allowed to visit, can maintain links by sending in a drawing or obtaining information about the relatives
situation.
Nurses can prepare visiting children by, with different tools such as photos and dolls, describing what they might
see before entering the critically ill relatives room and asking about childrens previous experiences with similar
situations. During the visit, nurses could explain and instruct the child on what the equipment is used for, assist them
in forming contact with the relative and encourage them to ask questions.
Nurses need to be sensitive to childrens different expressions of suffering and the underlying feelings. Caring actions
must focus on what gives the child meaning, happiness, satisfaction and relief. It is of importance to tell the truth
and give information on what has happened, letting children know they are needed, alleviating their guilt, helping
the child to reach reconciliation and to nd rest (achieve a state of calm) and helping the child as far as possible to
remain in a meaningful context.
and that they wished and hoped that the relative should The threatening seriousness
survive. The text also revealed thoughts about what would happen;
how the relative and family would manage the illness/injury
and what life would be like for them all; how long the rel-
Feeling compassion ative would actually need to remain in the hospital and
The children felt compassion for their relative meaning that how the recovery would be. The children also thought
they felt with the person. They did not want their relative about whether the relative would not survive and what this
to be so sick; to be helpless and exposed: . . .he looked a lit- would mean. . . . it was good to see grandfather because
tle pathetic (25). They thought about whether there were he had something that can cause death. . . (7). In such
something they could do or whether they could do some- a situation they could feel frightened at the thought of
thing more for the sick person than just being close and losing their relative. It was also stated that they thought
helpful. They also tried to empathise with the sick person about the consequences for their other relatives, i.e. for
I thought. . .ugh, he has a hole there (in the throat). How those who would be left if the relative died and how they
terrible it must feel to have such a thing there. . . (19). would manage how will Granddad manage if Grandma
disappears. . . these thoughts arose often. . . what would it be
like. . . (8).
Feeling loss, sadness and sorrow In some cases the children did not know what had hap-
During the interview a number of children cried when they pened to the relative but they understood that the relative
spoke about their relative dying. They felt sad and missed was in a serious condition and could die.
their relative. If the relative survived the critical period By meeting the relative they understood the seriousness,
the child felt sad because the relative was in the wrong place how critically ill the relative actually was and their depend-
I didnt want her to be there. . . she should be at home ence on technology: I didnt know it was so bad. . .(6),
with me (cries). . .. (3). One boy seven years and a girl four it was when I entered the room. . . it was then that it
years said that their dads looked injured and expressed it struck me. . . oh my God whats happening (8) . . .Oh. . .
as: I missed him. . . (22), . . .. I want my father at home she cant breathe by herself. . . if you take it away then
(23). This created feelings of sorrow and disruption of the shell die. (11), . . .I thought about if it began to rain
normal every-day life. After the visit and back in their and we had thunder and lightning. . .then there could be a
daily routine these feelings returned from time to time. The power cut. . . (12). One child told that her grandmother
children were also sad about the fact that their relative had was not herself as she was so confused and not as she once
actual sores and that they had changed so much in appear- was. Then the child felt fear and panic that grandmother
ance, for example, had become swollen or thin. Sorrow and might die. I did not know that it was that bad as it looked
sadness were also experienced when the child had to leave and then. . . I was afraid that the operation may fail and it
as they did not feel right to go and leave the relative in the was something really serious (11). Not knowing the out-
hospital. Some of the children wanted to be close to the come led to thoughts of uncertainty, which in turn led to
relative all the time. In some cases, they felt that the staff some kind of loneliness and thoughts of not managing ones
did not leave them alone with their loved one, which hin- own survival and a feeling of not being able to inuence or
dered them from being with them and having their relative change.
for themselves.
Not having the opportunity to be with the relative in pri-
vacy and in peace and quiet led to a feeling of loss and
sadness about being separated from the relative. Life was Feeding hope and despair
not as it used to be any longer. This brought forth feelings The children hoped that their relative would be well but
of longing for the ordinary life that existed before the event this hope was sometimes transformed into despair when
and unfairness. there was deterioration of the relatives condition. When
they understood how sick the relative was, that the rel-
ative could die, was dying or dead, hope disappeared
Feeling fear and that something is wrong . . . there was a little hope. . . but then a new came
The fear could express itself as pain or tingling in the (stroke). . . (2). One child was afraid that a the straight
body when the children realised that the condition for the line on the monitor suddenly would appear, symbolising
relative was serious. This was also true when they were going death.
to the hospital as they could not imagine what they would In some cases the childrens imagination of what they
see: . . .so it tingled in my stomach and. . . I thought. . . might see when they entered the patient room was not in
there is my grandmother lying in the bed. . . and that is not accordance with what they then really saw. Sometimes it
right. . . (3). was not so bad that they had imagined I thought that
One boy of 12 years did not want to visit because he it would look worse. . . I see TV. . . (18). The meaning of
could not stand hospitals and because he was afraid to visit feeling hope comprised a positive expectation that the
when the relatives condition was bad. Afterwards, when his relative would make it, become well again and return
relative died, he wished he had visited more. home. Hoping for this was a consolation and it alleviated
They expressed feelings of being afraid of reality, afraid and suppressed the feelings of despair. The children stated
of the not right every-day life and that something was that feelings and thoughts could jump between hope and
wrong, how this could happen and a tingling sense of despair and that in their despair they waited for hope to
unreality. return.
38 S. Knutsson, I. Bergbom
To witness and see for oneself feelings competed in the childs mind and brought feelings
of unrest.
By seeing the relative in the ICU environment, the children
felt some kind of relief as they could see that the relative
was still alive. By seeing and meeting the sick relative in the Discussion
patient room and being close together, feelings of loss were
contradicted and the children felt calm. Being close, seeing The children expressed compassion for their sick relative.
and meeting the person created feelings of relief, satisfac- According to Eriksson (1993), feeling compassion could be
tion and happiness. However, to see also meant to witness interpreted as sensitivity to the pain and suffering of oth-
events and things which were experienced as dreadful. ers. By suffering with the other, the child seemed to feel
involved, sharing the relatives suffering and thus alleviat-
ing the suffering of the relative. Being able to do this and
Seeing something dreadful
receiving conrmation that it is important for the relative,
Children told that they saw things that were experienced
could create a sense of meaning (Eriksson, 1993) for the
as dreadful. One child found it awful to see his father with
child and lessen the burden of sorrow and ones own suffer-
tubes and lines in his mouth and arms and all the scars on
ing. Compassion could also relate to feelings of belonging
his body after a trafc accident. Another boy said that he
and mutuality and contribute to reconciliation (Eriksson,
only thought of the wound on his grandfathers head dur-
1994) that can be seen important in a health process. Rec-
ing the visit and that it looked awful. One boys grandfather
onciliation is, according to Gustafsson (2012), a process and
died following an operation. It was experienced as awful to
implies an offering, a giving up on what previously was held
witness that all lines, the tube and machines were taken
as true and enabling a person to reach wholeness, meaning
away and to see his grandfather dead. He felt powerless
and understanding by seeing the world with new eyes and
and expressed I could do nothing, not even cry (1). It was
daring to live in truth and reality a path to health.
felt as creepy to see how sad the other family members
The children also realised that the relative was depend-
were and to see how critically ill the relative was. One child
ent on machines and the care they received. Therefore,
who visited her mother found it troublesome before vis-
information/explanations about the technical equipment
iting but those feelings disappeared when seeing her mom
and what is done for the relative is important as it can
. . .it was my mom (4) in the bed even if it was experi-
make the child feel condent and secure. Also, Dyregrov
enced as awful and creepy to see her swollen face and
(1990) and Doverborg and Pramling Samuelsson (2000) have
coated tongue. Other children experienced that it was awful
the opinion that children can understand what they see and
to see the relative with yellowish complexion and unable to
hear if it is explained properly.
contact, but that it anyhow was good to see and meet the
The children stated that to see the relative led to feelings
relative.
of relief and involvement as it could contradict their imag-
To see something awful and creepy led to feelings
ination about the situation, as fantasies can be worse than
of powerlessness and hesitancy. It also brought feelings of
reality (Dyregrov, 1990). To see something means that you
inability, which created a total paralysis and absence of tears
share something with someone else, that you are involved.
and it had a tendency to stay in their minds.
This may alleviate suffering (Knutsson et al., 2008). Dyregrov
(1990) argues the importance of childrens physical presence
Seeing and feeling relief and involvement, as it concretises what has happened and
The children felt a sense of gladness after having seen the makes the situation real. This concretisation is important
relative in reality. They experienced that the heavy lump for the childs further understanding of what has happened.
in their stomach disappeared and was replaced by a feeling This is also conrmed by Hanley and Piazza (2012) and Blot
of peace. They were glad and overwhelmed that the relative et al. (2007).
was alive and still with them: . . .when I saw grandma I To realise that the relatives condition was serious and
was happy. (17). Seeing the relative and being convinced that they might die evoked feelings of despair, fear, worry
about that they were alive brought joy and calm into their and sorrow and these contributed to the relative always
heart: . . .I was glad that I had the strength to enter the being in their mind. According to (Monroe and Kraus, 1996),
room. . . (9). To see and be with the relative eased the pain. bereavement begins before death and involves a feeling of
It meant a lot to the children to just be with the relative, to grief and lack, which can be related to the absence or loss
see, to be involved and having the opportunity to show that of someone and may, according to Eriksson (1993), lead to
they cared about the relative that they felt needed. suffering. Children expressed that they did not want the
The children were also proud over themselves that they relative to be left alone at the hospital. This separation
dared to visit and show that they cared for the relative. By showed that normal, day-to-day life was cut off from the
doing this they got a feeling of that they had done some- childs world and way of understanding life and such expe-
thing good. The child was happy if the relative realised and riences are understood as suffering (Rehnsfeldt and Arman,
became aware of the childs presence: I hold her hand and 2005). It is obvious that alleviation of childrens suffering is
then I felt that she squeezed my hand a little so I think that of vital interest, but their expression of suffering may be dif-
she felt that I was there with her (17). cult to discover and meet, as children cannot or dare not
The feelings of realising that a loved one is still alive always talk about their feelings and experiences (Nicastro
also led to feelings of happiness. At the same time the seri- and Whetsell, 1999) or use other words. For example, fear
ousness became more obvious. These diverse feelings led and tension was expressed as a tingling in their body
to confusion and to feelings about not being sure. These when imagining, realising the seriousness of the relatives
Childrens thoughts related to visiting ill relatives 39
condition or thinking of something scary. Similar expressions interviewers limited skills, the complexity of the subject
of fear have been described by Nicastro and Whetsell (1999). and that younger children do not remember in the same
Additionally, being frozen like a stone (4) was expressed way as older children, are all aspects that must be taken
as a response to seeing something awful or creepy, a feel- into account when judging the quality of the interview text.
ing of emptiness and not being able to cry or show emotions. Childrens relationships with the relative varied as has been
Therefore, sensitivity and respect for different expres- described in Table 1. It can be discussed if the relation-
sions is necessary, including an ethos of respect and dignity ship inuences the childs experiences of the ICU visit, for
(Ekebergh, 2009; Eriksson, 2010). Taking time for explaining example, if the patient is a parent, sibling or grandpar-
and showing interest in the childs thoughts, questions and ent. Our ambition was not to compare such experiences
experiences and supporting the custodian will contribute as the quality of a relationship is usually not related to
to alleviation. The childs visiting and witnessing could also type of kinship or age. However, we wanted to obtain a
alleviate their suffering as it was found that feelings of doing great variety of experiences and relationships and there-
something good for the relative and showing concern and fore we did not ask about the quality of the relationships
care led to relief and that the burden of sorrow and sadness with the patients as it is difcult to assess such quality dur-
was easier to bare. Even satisfaction and happiness were ing an interview with a child. However, further research
expressed in relation to visiting as doing good made the chil- involving both parent and child concerning this topic may be
dren feel proud and being of importance. Lindstrm et al. valuable.
(2006) expresses that a person will experience absolute dig- The conversations with the children were conducted
nity if she is able to full her function and responsibility in on average three months after the visit and not directly
being there for another person. This will conrm ones dignity after the rst visit. It was considered inappropriate and
and may improve this persons health and wellbeing. ethically unsuitable to ask the custodians, whose family
The children in the interviews also felt fear and that were in a difcult situation, about participation and inter-
something was wrong, a feeling which may be understood view. There is, however, a risk that the children did not
as a mix of the illness being seen as a threat of life and that remember all the details. However, it was felt that chil-
it was unfair and that the relative should not be at the dren remembered what they had experienced and thought
hospital but at home. Gullone (2000) states that fear is felt in conjunction with the visits, as the relatives serious illness
when there is a threat or risk of something and when it is could be seen as a life-changing event. This study focused
inescapable, anger will arise. Helping the child to control on childrens experiences of visiting a critcally ill/injured
fear and to develop an understanding of whats happening family member/relative where all children claimed that
(Brodin and Hylander, 2002) by telling and involving may they wanted to visit. However, childrens experiences of not
instill hope, trust and security (Linnarsson et al., 2010). wanting or not being allowed to visit are also of interest,
The children stated that they felt both hope and despair but the Research Ethics Committee did not approve par-
and a continuous movement between these two feelings. ticipation of children who were not allowed or wanted to
Eriksson (1989) states that in every situation of hopelessness visit.
there is hope and switching between hope and hopeless-
ness and despair could be a struggle, which in itself can be
regarded as suffering. Not being able to rest and take repose Conclusions
in thoughts may lead to unbalance (Asp, 2012). To be able to
hope offers a person consolation (Eriksson, 1989) and seems Children who are stricken by a relatives critical ill-
to alleviate worry, uncertainty, fears and thoughts of death. ness/injury suffer. Visiting seemed to alleviate suffering as
The hermeneutic approach and the method developed children felt that they were doing something good, showing
for conducting and interpreting interviews with children concern and at the same time being involved and needed.
(Doverborg and Pramling Samuelsson, 2000) was found help- However, visiting also evoked feelings of fear and a tension
ful when trying to describe and understand the childrens about what they were going to face. By seeing the rela-
thoughts and feelings. To seek the views of children has tive with their own eyes, it was possible to feel relief and
become essential in professional contexts (Sommer et al., calmness.
2012) and has been given added weight by the United Nations Research about childrens experiences before, during and
Convention on the Rights of the Child (1990). The inter- after a visit is needed, especially from a long-term perspec-
viewer did not have previous experience of interviewing tive. Research is also needed about children who are not
children, which can be seen as a limitation as Doverborg allowed to visit and about the effects of facilitated visits
and Pramling Samuelsson (2000) recommend that the inter- comprising a caring conversation.
viewer carry out several interviews in advance. The youngest
children (45 years) were somewhat difcult to interview
and they did not tell very much. Instead they answered ques-
tions but often with very few words or sentences, maybe
Funding
due to limited vocabulary and lack of experience of this
kind of situations. A particular age group was not chosen The authors have no sources of funding to declare.
since we did not want to compare experiences or relate
answers to age, as childrenss development and learning is
related to previous experiences (Doverborg and Pramling Conict of interest statement
Samuelsson, 2000; Sommer, 1997). The childrens limited
capacity to describe different feelings (Dyregrov, 1990), the The authors have no conict of interest to declare.
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