HOW TO INCALCULATE MANNERS

The children now love luxury and care free life; forgetting human values in life, they have bad
manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of
exercise. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter
before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.
What is happening to our young people? They disrespect their elders, they disobey their parents.
They ignore the law. They riot in the streets inflamed with wild notions. Their morals are
decaying. What is to become of them? They are becoming more materialistic, less good manners.

Good manners are required to create an effective interaction with friends and family. It keeps us
to close to community and as well as helps us to remain positive throughout the day. We must
use the magic words like sorry, please, thank you, excuse me, etc whenever required
without getting late in order to maintain a happy relationship. Parents must help their kids to
essentially practice such words to behave well in everyday life. These words show the feeling of
sorry, happy, appreciation and respect to the people.

Good manner open the door to new conversation with people and opportunities in life. If
someone talks to you with rudeness, dont talk him in his way, just talk him in your way of
behaving well as rudeness creates rudeness.

Thank you: we must say thank you whenever we receive anything from someone.
Please: we must say please while requesting for something to others.
We should always support people who are in pain.
We should always accept the mistakes and say sorry without hesitation.
We should be disciplined and punctual in daily life.
We should always compliment others for their good behaviour and qualities.
We must listen to people very attentively who are talking to us.
We should take permission before touching or using the things of someone else.
We should always respond with a smile to others questions.
We should never interrupt between the meetings of elders and must wait for our turn.
We must be respectful to the elders (whether in family, relationship or neighbors),
parents and teachers.
Excuse me: we must say excuse me while getting attention for something.
We must knock the door before entering to others home or bedroom.

Teachers teach the lesson of good manners to their students in the classroom and instruct
them to follow all that at all places forever. Parents also should help their kids at home to
learn good manners properly as what kids learn in their childhood carry all through the life.
Parents too must practice good manners as they are their childrens role model.

We must first behave to others like what we wish in return from others. According to the
Golden Rule We should treat people the way we would like other people to treat us. If we
treat people with respect, we too will be treated in the same way by them.

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We must learn the habit of sharing (but not grabbing) things to others.
We should be helpful, polite and humble to others at all places.
We must respect the property of others and always take permission before using.
We must help our family members in completing their chores.
We must be responsible and self dependent for everything whether at home or outside the
home.
We must behave well with humble respect to our teachers, parents, other elders and
senior citizens.
We should not interfere between elders talk and must wait for our turn.
We should hold the door open when someone is coming in and must hold his/her load if
he/she is carrying something.
We should maintain cleanliness at home, school, and all other public places.
We should not use offensive language to others at home or public place.
We must leave the seat for senior citizens while using public transport.
We should never make fun of anyone as everyone has feelings and respect.
We should not use mobile phone unnecessarily while being in group or public place.
We should chew food properly and dont talk to anyone while eating.
Be respectful towards your elders, and teachers,
Be compassionate towards someone who is in pain,
Listen attentively when someone is talking to you,
Always be ready to help others around you,
Clean your shoes regularly.
If someone asks a question, try to respond with a smile.
Do not interrupt in between the sentences when someone is speaking. Instead, wait for
your turn.

Advantages:-

Respect Translates into Success

While different situations and places can have different rules of etiquette, the common
foundation is still respect. For example, the rules of etiquette in the stands of a professional
baseball game vary from the rules of etiquette when walking in a shopping mall. However, a
teens understanding that basic etiquette involves the principle of treating others respectfully
should enable her to proceed successfully in either venue. At the baseball game, she would
realize that it's rude to stand up in her seat because the people behind her might not be able to see
the game. At the shopping mall, she would know that it's rude to run, yell and swing her purse
wildly because she might disturb other shoppers. The etiquette for both venues stems from
treating others how she wants them to treat her.

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Strength and Confidence

With a solid foundation in etiquette and manners, a teen should feel strong and confident, even
in new or unfamiliar situations. This can be particularly important for adolescents who often feel
self-conscious and anxious, having trouble acclimating to new situations to which they are
unaccustomed. When a teen has strong social skills and understands how to treat others
respectfully and politely, he can navigate virtually anything from a college or job interview to a
conversation with a teacher to meeting a new girlfriends father.

Social Greeting Etiquette

Sometimes teenagers can be shy and awkward, so teach them the importance of a proper

greeting. For example, good manners call for looking someone in the eye and saying hello when

being introduced. Sometimes, a handshake is in order. Teach your teenager to have a firm yet

warm handshake and to answer questions politely of the person he is meeting.

Telephone and Cell Phone Etiquette

These days, it seems that most teenagers constantly have a cell phone plastered to their ear.

Teenagers should learn basic phone etiquette, which includes interacting with people around

them as well as with the person on the other end of the line.

Your teenager should know that it is not okay to ignore someone who is trying to get their

attention while on the phone. The world will not end if they pause their conversation and politely

say, "I'm on the phone, would you mind discussing this a little later?"

Teenagers should also know that answering the phone and interacting with people on the other

end of the line should be done politely and respectfully.

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Showing Kindness Etiquette

Being kind is often one of the most forgotten forms of etiquette. Teenagers are still learning how

to focus on themselves and others at the same time. No matter what the situation, kindness is

always appropriate. Teenagers should remember to take other people's feelings into consideration

with the things they do and say.

Good Manners in Sharing Opinions

Teenagers can be opinionated. They are learning about the world and forming independent

thoughts and ideas. But sometimes, sharing these thoughts and opinions can come across in a

rude way. Teach your teenager to share their opinions in a respectful manner, so as to not come

across as overbearing, pushy or just rude in general. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but that

does not mean a teen should be rude.

Bad effects:-

1) Attempts to 'empower' children and a lack of discipline in the classroom have also
fostered rising levels of violence, at home, at school and in the street.
Dr Sigman, a fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine, said nursery-age children are
becoming increasingly violent and disrespectful towards their teachers, 'parent battering'
is on the rise and the number of policemen attacked by children is soaring.
Children of the spoilt generation are used to having their demands met by their parents
and others in authority, and that in turn makes them unprepared for the realities of adult
life. Bad manners are established and constructed upon four pillars: ignorance, injustice,
desires and anger.Ignorance makes a person see beauty in an ugly image and ugliness in a
beautiful image, and the perfect thing as deficient and the deficient as perfect.Injustice
motivates one to put things in an inappropriate place, and, therefore, he gets angry when
he should be pleased and satisfied when he should be angry. He also becomes rash when
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he should be deliberate, stingy when he should be charitable, and generous when he

should be miserly. He retreats when he should be courageous, and advances when he
should retreat.He becomes lenient when he should be tough and severe when he should
be lenient, humble when he should be proud and arrogant when he should be humble.

2) Schools are awash in bad behavior. In a Washington suburb elementary school, an 8-

year-old threatened to burn down the building, a fifth-grader told his teacher to shut
up, and a first-grader exposed himself. Worst of all, arrests later in life can be predicted
by a childs elementary school infractions.
Four girls aged 11 to 13 allegedly tried to kill their teacher by pouring drain cleaner into
her water bottle -- because as one girl put it, the teacher was picking on her. Where are
the parents of these teenage would-be killers? Experts probe for answers here.
Is there such a thing as childhood innocence? The Parents Television Council sees a lot
more foul language and violence aimed at kids during the so-called family hour than most
parents realize. Coarse language is up 78% since 1999

Other teachers lay the blame at the parents doorstep.

Parents don't teach manners anymore.

They are less inclined to punish children for fear of stifling their growth.

They feel too overwhelmed to deal with discipline.

They want to be their childrens friends and not their parents.

And, of course, media and technology come in for their fair share of blame.

Everyone is moving faster now.

The increased use of online conversations desensitizes kids into thinking that there really
isnt a person on the other end, thereby conditioning them to act inappropriately when a
person is truly present.
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Less face-to-face interaction.

Too much time on hand-held devices. People need to look up and make REAL
connections.

I blame reality TV shows.

Poor role models on television and in music.

Children see more vulgarity, violence, and rude behavior in the media.

Influences of technologypeople being glued to games, smart phones, digital

conversations, etc., and not knowing/caring how to interact with real people.

A child's mind is pure and innocent. He believes that his parents do everything for his own
good. In order to inculcate good habits in them, their parents should show them the right
way to behave at the right time, in a fun manner. This can be done by performing activities
along with them, showing them both the good and the bad sides of acting in a certain
manner, towards a particular situation.
In this manner, learning becomes fun.

Some teenagers often tend to become rebellious, owing to the hormonal changes in their
body. Therefore, it is important to develop good habits in them before they reach their
teens. In fact, the earlier they are taught good habits, the better it is for them.

Remember, it can take a lifetime to develop good habits, but it takes just a second to fall
prey to bad habits. Hence, children should be taught to discriminate between what's right
and what's wrong.