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Introvert Narcissist
7 signs youre in a relationship with an INTROVERT narcissist
Posted Jan 10, 2016
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However, not all narcissists are openly grandiose and outwardly intrusive.
Various researchers and authors have written about the introverted narcissist,
variously identified as the covert narcissist, the hypersensitive narcissist, the
closet narcissist, and the vulnerable narcissist (1)(2)(3)(4). This subtype of
narcissism is more hidden, and yet can carry the same self-conceit and negative
contagion as their extroverted counterpart.
Its important to point out that many introverts are not narcissistic. The ones who
are, however, may have a way of influencing others around them to feel off-
balance and/or insecure.
Below are seven signs of an introvert narcissist, with references to my book (click
on title) How to Successfully Handle Narcissists(link is external). While some
people may exhibit a few of the following traits at one time or another, a
pathologically introverted narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the
following personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with)
how these behaviors affect others.
1. Quiet Smugness/Superiority
Many extrovert narcissists are fairly easy to spot, with their grandiose
mannerisms and attention-seeking machinations. Introvert narcissists, on the
other hand, can be more difficult to pinpoint, at least at the outset. They tend to
observe (judgmentally) rather than act, and listen (half-heartedly) rather than
speak. Yet, their quieter brand of superiority complex betrays itself through aloof
detachment and disconcerting nonverbal cues. They may not express their
negativity outright, but you get the distinct sense that they are barely tolerant with
their lack of eye contact, condescending glare, eye-rolling, dismissive gestures,
groans and sighs, high distractibility, quick boredom, impolite yawns, and overall
inattentiveness. When they do speak, their comments tend to be critical and
judgmental, focusing on their own conceited views.
This seemingly impenetrable smugness is, of course, a front, covering a sense of
vulnerability within. Part of the insecurity may be the inability to relate to people
meaningfully as human beings.
One cries because one is sadI cry because others are stupid, and that makes
me sad.
2. Self-Absorption
3. Lack of Empathy
Anonymous
Both extrovert and introvert narcissists share this trait. Narcissists are often
oblivious to, or dismissive of others thoughts and feelings. Even when you tell
them how their attitudes and actions are generating adverse consequences, their
response will be more about themselves. Such is the self-absorption.
4. Passive-Aggressiveness
Some introverted narcissists deal with disagreeable people or circumstances
in passive-aggressive ways. Upon receiving a reasonable request from you, they
might say okay, yes, of course, or as you wish, then either do nothing, or
behave however they please. When you inquire why they didnt follow-through on
an arrangement, they may shrug it off with an excuse, or say nonchalantly that
their way is better.
5. Highly Sensitive
For tips on how to deal with Narcissists, see my book (click on title): How to
Successfully Handle Narcissists(link is external).
For tips on how Introvert Narcissists can attain greater emotional and
social intelligence, see my book (click on titles): A Practical Guide for Narcissists
to Change Towards the Higher Self(link is external), and Confident
Communication for Introverts(link is external).