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A Lesson in Leadership: Control Your


Emotions & Be Positive
Publicado el 18 de mayo de 2017 | Destacado en: Leadership & Management, What Inspires Me

Yoshito Hori Seguir


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Founder and President of GLOBIS, No.1 MBA Program

Ihavefivesonsranginginagefrom11to19.Afewweeksago,oneoftheolderboys
wasangryatdinnerbecauseateacherhadscoldedhimwhenhisyoungerbrother
arrivedlateforschool.Howunfair!

Inthefamily,wehaveawellestablishedtraditionofdiscussingserioustopicsatdinner,
somysonsangergavemeagoodreasontotelltheboysabouttheimportanceof
learningtocontroltheiremotionsausefulskillwhateveryourage.

Ibeganbyexplainingthatonesimplewaytothinkofintelligenceisbydividingitinto
twobroadcategories:IQ(intellectualability)andEQ(emotionalintelligence),as
popularizedbyDanielGolemansbookEmotionalIntelligence(1995).

Butoveradecadeearlier,in1983,HowardGardner,aprofessorofdevelopmental
psychologyatHarvard,proposedatheoryofmultipleintelligencesinhisbookFrames
ofMind.

Gardnersuggestedthatwehavesevendifferentkindsofintelligence.

1.Linguisticgoodwithwords

2.Mathematicalgoodatnumbers

3.Musicalgoodwithrhythmandsound

4.VisualSpatialgoodatthinkinginthreedimensions

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6.Intrapersonalgoodatunderstandingoneself

7.Interpersonalgoodatinteractingwithotherpeople

Theproblemwithconventionaleducationisthatmostschoolsonlyteachthefirst
FIVEkinds(Linguistic,Mathematical,Musical,VisualSpatialandBodily
Kinesthetic),whilestandardpaperexaminationsonlytestthefirstTWO(Linguistic
andMathematical).

Whatstheresult?Thatschoolstendtounderteachintrapersonalandinterpersonal
intelligence(Nos.6and7)eventhoughtheyaresoimportantinadultlife.Asisso
oftenthecase,theskillswelearnatschoolandtheskillsweneedinlifedontquite
match.

Mysoncertainlyneededgreaterintraandinterpersonalintelligenceifhewantedto
successfullyjettisonhisangerandcontrolhisemotionstobecomemorepositive.

Isuggestedasimple,twostepmethod.

STEPONE:Jettisoninganger

AnalyzeWHYyouareangry.

Thinkingrationallyautomaticallyswitchesyourbrainfunctionfromthe
emotionaltotheintellectual.

ExecuteanEMOTIONALREFRESH.

Dosomethingtotakeyourmindoffyouranger.Playbasketball,goforaswim,
findsomefriendstochatto.

Thatstheangeroutoftheway.Butwhataboutthebusinessofcontrollingmy
emotions?mysonasked.

Thatbroughtusto

STEPTWO:Controllingtheemotions

Tocontrolyouremotions,Irecommendthefollowing.

Trytorecognizetheemotionyourefeeling.

Judgeifthatemotionisapositiveoranegativeone.

Ifitspositive,amplifyit.Ifitsnegative,reduceit.

Asageneralrule,youwanttoreduceyournegativeemotions(anger,frustration,fear,
desperationetc.)toaminimum,whileamplifyingyourpositiveemotions(joy,hope,
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gratitude,excitementetc.)tothemaximum. Back to LinkedIn.com

Ifyoucangetyourselfintoapositiveframeofmindandprojectthatpositivity,thenyou
caneasilyattractandinspireotherpeopleanessentialqualityforabusinessleader.

CarlosGhosn,thecharismaticFrenchLebaneseheadofNissan,isrespectedinJapan
andworldwideforhisrescueofthestrugglingnationalcarmakerinthelate1990s.

Ghosnbaseshisapproachtopublicspeakingaroundasimplecastironrule:Your
audiencewillforget90%ofwhatyousaywithin24hours.Whatstayswiththemis
yourattitude,youremotion,thefeelingsyouconvey.

Soifyouwanttomakesomethingofyourselfinlife,Itoldmyson,youvegottobe
abletokeepyournegativeemotionsundercontrolandprojectpositiveemotions.

Bythisstage,mysonwasgettingsointerestedintheideaofemotionalcontroland
projectionthatallhisangertowardhisyoungerbrotherhadevaporated.Thechangein
hismoodprovedmypointforme.

Whataboutyou?Doyouhaveanyfavoritetechniquesforreducingyournegative
emotionsandprojectingpositivevibestoinspirethepeopleyouworkwith?Whynot
sharethemwithusinthecommentsbelow?

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