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Jennifer Watkins
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April 27, 2015
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Given the delicate nature of this topic and the wide range of emotional
responses, the pastors and elders of the church should have a training
workshop prior to performing this service. This would prepare them to
respond to the needs of the congregation.
This workshop would have several goals. The first goal would be to
explore different views of divorce. It would be helpful for the church
leadership to learn a brief history of the churchs teachings on divorce so
they can better understand the preconceived notions, both helpful and
unhelpful, that the congregants may be carrying with them. For example,
some churches have taught that divorce, particularly when infidelity is not
involved, is a grave sin. This has led to deep feeling of shame, and has
frequently served as a stumbling block for those who felt called to the
ministry or desired remarriage. The church leadership must be familiar with
the churchs response to divorce in order to best serve congregants who may
be carrying a great deal of shame.
The second goal of this workshop would be to clearly state the goal of
this service. The goal is not to shame or to embarrass congregants, nor is it
to pray for unreasonable reconciliation in marriages that are long dead.
Further, the goal is not necessarily to encourage repentance for the sin of
divorce. The purpose of this service would be to move wounded hearts
towards healing and to remind congregants their identity in Christ,
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Leader: that my glory may sing your praise and not be silent.
Hymn #1: God, When Human Bonds Are Broken (See Appendix )
alternative for contemporary service: Praise You in This Storm (See Appendix)
taken matters into our own hands when we should have sought you for help
and guidance. Cleanse us from all bitterness, unforgiveness, and anger. Heal
the brokenness we carry, and lead us through the storm into a resurrected
life and fellowship with you in the name of Jesus, Amen.
Know that you are forgiven of any and all transgressions, and be at
peace.
Pass the Peace
Having received peace from our Lord Jesus Christ, let us turn to one
another with words of peace and reconciliation.
God of everlasting love, fill our hearts and our minds with your life, and
fill the cracks in our hearts that we may become vessels of your truth. Speak
to us a word today, that we might taste and see that the Lord is good.
During this time, several people will come up and share a segment of
their stories. These segments will relate to the five stages of grief; denial,
anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. While this is a very simplistic
model of grief, the hope is that everyone in attendance will identify with at
least one of these themes. Each testimony will begin with a scripture for
reflection.
Testimony 1: Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding. An individual will now
share about their experience of denial in a divorce situation, whether as the
child or as the spouse. The scripture was chosen with the intention of
reminding the wounded that they can rely on God, even if their world seems
to make little sense as they journey through divorce.
Testimony 2: Exodus 14:14:The LORD will fight for you, and you have
only to be silent. An individual will now share their experience of anger in a
divorce situation, whether as the child or as the spouse. The scripture was
chosen with the intention of reminding the congregants that ultimate
judgement belongs to the Lord and that this is not their battle to fight.
this congregation. The Apostles Creed and the Nicene Creed are possible
examples.
Prayers of the People
Creator God, we thank you for the world you have created. Though
many of us come from families that have fallen apart, we thank you for the
fruits of those broken relationships, we thank you for the children we once
were and for the children we now have. We thank you for your image which
we bear, and which our former loved ones also bear.
Protect and heal our children, and the children we once were, from the
trials of divorce. Be with them and remind them that they are loved, valued,
and cherished, that they are innocent of any wrongdoing in the demise of
their homes, and that they are not assets to be divided but precious children
of God.
Lord we pray for those that still cling to the hope of resurrection. We
pray that you might breathe life into the dry bones of their relationships and
restore if it is possible. If that is not to be their story, Holy God, please grant
them peace and a hope for the future.
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We pray for all the other struggles that our beloved brothers and
sisters now face as a result of this tragedy, for dwindling finances and the
stresses of single parenthood. We pray wisdom and discernment for both
attorneys and judges who are settling these disputes. We pray that you
would meet every need and be ever present with our brothers and sisters.
We pray that we would not fail our brothers and sisters in their time of
need, and that through us they will know the love and grace of Jesus Christ,
through whom we now pray, amen.
Communion
The Invitation:
Leader: Jesus said:
Come to me,
all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you
rest.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me;
for I am gentle and humble in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls.
I am the bread of life.
Whoever comes to me will never be hungry, and whoever believes in me will
never be thirsty.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will
be filled.
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So come, friends, and lay your burdens down. Come, and partake of
spiritual food for the journey. Come, and receive the grace and new life that
flows for you.
Rationale:
This variation of the more standard invitation found in the PCUSA is
designed to emphasis healing and continue to focus the minds of the
congregation on the future, on new beginnings, and the Resurrection Sunday
that is waiting for them at the end of their divorce journey.
Great Thanksgiving:
Leader: The Lord be with you.
All: And also with you.
Leader: Lift up your hearts.
All: We lift them to the Lord.
Leader: Let us give thanks to the Lord our God.
All: It is right to give our thanks and praise.
Words of Institution. The Lord Jesus, on the night of his arrest, took
bread,
and after giving thanks to God,
he broke it, and gave it to his disciples, saying:
Take, eat.
This is my body, given for you.
Do this in remembrance of me.
The minister or elder lifts the cup, saying:
In the same way he took the cup, saying:
This cup is the new covenant sealed in my blood,
shed for you for the forgiveness of sins.
Whenever you drink it,
do this in remembrance of me.
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Every time you eat this bread and drink this cup,
you proclaim the saving death of the risen Lord,
until he comes.
Friends, these for the gifts of God for the people of God, Thanks be to
God.
Holy God, we thank you for your love which will never end, for your
unfailing faithfulness to us. We thank you for being parent to the parentless,
spouse to the spouseless, healer to the wounded and redeemer to the lost.
Bless all of us this day, and guide us on our journey to the land of new things
which you have in store for us. All this we ask in the name of our precious
Lord Jesus Christ.
Benediction
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May God lead you to new things so wonderful, that the old things will
not be thought of again, may the sky after the storm be so beautiful the
thunder will not be remembered, and may your destination be close and you
journey in the peace and love of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
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