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Description of problemeveryon ehas a different one
Beautiful Mind
Goalsreach agreement, spell out and agree on difference, have as
interesting a time as possible
How to agree
Genuinely seek to find point of agreement
No contribution if you just agree with everything
Do not agree or disagree with everything
Do not always need to be right
Look at other persons point of view
When you disagree look for special circumstance to agree upon
If I had those values,I would agree
Special experience
Generalizationsnone-a few-some-many-most-the majority-by
and large-all
Genuine Delight in agreement
How to disagree
People sometimes disagee in rdue and aggressive way, in order
to do battle and win, to vaunt egos, bullying, demonstrate superiority,
believe that is what conversation is about, do not know any other way
Politeness
I am not sure I follow your reasoning
there might be another way of looking at it
that is only one point of view
how about thisother possibility?
I think I have some doubts about your conclusion
maybe that is so, and maybe it is not so
I can think of an alternative explanation
Errors of Logic
Suggest alternatives
Interpretationmay be many
Selective perceptionsupports pre-formed idea
Emotionsneed to label them
Different experience
Sweeping generalizations
Extrapolationsbe careful
Possible and certainjust possible-possible-likely-very likelyprobably-most probable-certain
Implying these: that is simply wrong, that is possible but not
certain, that is only one of many alternatives, that fits your experience,
that fits your values, that is right for you but not for me, that is based
on emotions and prejudice, that is basaed on selective perception, the
conclusion does not follow, that is one possible view of the future
Distinguish between different opinion and disagreeing
How to differ
Need clear definitionsuch as defining best
Point of view
Must spell out difference and the reason for the difference
I believe that you are looking at if rom that point of view and I am
looking at if from this point of view. We are looking at it in two
different ways, This is my perception and I believe your perception to
be The difference may just arise from personal preference We
are using a different set of valyes. May values are as followsYour
values seem to be. My experience has beenyour experience may
have been difference We seem to have differnet veiews about what
may happen/ My view is based onyour view seems to be different
Accept the difference
How to be Interesting
Information
What if?
Possibilites and laternatives
Speculation
Connections
Creativity and new ideas
Now that is interesting
How to Respond
Clarifications
Is this what you said I understood you to say this..is that
correct I am not sure I understood what you said. Could you repeat
it?
Support
I agree with you. My experience has been exactly the same