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tantly, they also understand what you are if you have not met before. A good hand other side. Use the mediator like you
saying in between the lines. Any media shake and three or four minutes of good would a colleague you might enlist to
tor who has been mediating for 10 to 15 conversation start the day off on the help you evaluate a case.
years has read thousands of briefs and right foot. Then, bring the mediator over
can read very clearly what you are saying to meet your clients. Introduce them and 6. Make the mediator respond to
(and not saying) about your client, your facilitate a short, light conversation your offers first
adversary, opposing counsel, your case, between the two of them. This can range Use your mediator as a sounding
and your settlement posture without you from, “Marge, tell the mediator how your board. You deserve to know what the
actually having to say it directly. This is back is feeling today” to “Turns out you mediator thinks of each offer before he
the best reason not to let your first-year and Jim both went to UCLA!” This gives leaves the room to present it (don’t
associate write your mediation brief. you two brief moments to take the medi accept politically correct neutral speak
Mediators really do form opinions ator’s temperature (and pulse, if neces here), and how he thinks the other side
about attorneys, especially ones who are sary) and let him or her take yours and will respond to it. If you really want to
new to the mediator, by their writing your clients. Doing this allows everyone put him on the spot, make him tell you
prowess. If you had your associate draft to become humanized, look into each what kind of reciprocal concession he
your brief and you signed it, you have other’s eyes, make a little small talk and thinks you should be able to expect from
communicated to the mediator that shed the armor of playing the roles of the other side before he leaves the room
either you do not write very well or that “attorney,” “client” and “mediator” when to deliver the offer. That will put him
this case is not important to you. You you sit together. When the attorney and under the gun to try to achieve the con
undermined your credibility before the client are on a more human level with cession he told you to expect when he is
mediation has begun. A well-crafted the mediator, it makes the mediator work in the other room. Consider his feedback
brief, threaded throughout with covert harder because they cannot simply con and be flexible to it. Remember, your
information, is more important than your vey numbers to you. And human nature third, fourth and fifth offers don’t mat
reputation because it is real to the media dictates that it is harder to break bad ter! They could be anything, as long as
tor. It is what is in the mediator’s hands news to people we like, so in some cases, you’re getting the movement you want
before the mediation. And, if you tell the this can be a negotiating advantage. from the other side.
mediator your confidential thoughts So, if the mediator feels better about
regarding settlement in a private brief, 5. Enlist them as a strategic partner one number over another, it is best to let
you can shave hours off your mediation Bring your mediator around to your him go with the number he feels good
time. side of the table – literally. When you about and sell it sincerely, than to send
The same advice applies for telling have them alone in your first private ses him with one that he doesn’t like and has
the mediator about recent settlement dis sion, enlist their help and draw them to try to hide his raised eyebrow when he
cussions. Nothing is a bigger waste of away from neutrality and into partiality presents it.
time than getting almost to lunch time by asking them how they would play your One strategy I’ve seen that really
only to hear for the first time that the hand, if it was theirs. Acknowledge your works well is to give the mediator two
number just put on the table was offered case’s weaknesses, then ask them, “What numbers, either of which would be
last week in direct settlement, and that am I missing? What do you see that I am acceptable to you, and ask the mediator
the last couple of hours have been a not seeing? How would you oppose me if which number he likes better. If he picks
waste of time. Write well and put your you were on the other side? What would the lower of the two every time, then call
mediator to work long before the media your opening argument be?” Make the him on it. An honest mediator will tell
tion begins. Work harder to pass along mediator work harder by working up the you when your contemplated move is too
subtle information, prepare your media case with you, and then see if you can large. If you haven’t ever heard that from
tor privately, and give them what you lure them into working with you to craft a mediator, then you are not working
need them to know to help you out. But a settlement strategy for the day. Be care him hard enough. Think about it – how
expect them to learn everything you spell ful not to answer your own questions. If much do you really learn from a media
out, and if they miss it, make a note of you ask the mediator a pointed question tor if you argue with him and win in each
that. about case flaws, value or strategy, make round? By giving them two numbers, you
sure you get their answer. In these key get to learn about them, how much you
4. Arrive early and meet with the moments, whoever speaks first, gives in. can trust them, and whether they are
mediator alone If your mediator is on the fence about really paying attention, rather than sim
Get to the mediator’s office early offering opinions, wait them out, press ply shuttling numbers. As a master strate
and ask if you can talk with the mediator them, and if they won’t give you their gist, these are the things you really need
alone before the “formal mediation” thoughts about what you should do, then to know for later, when the negotiation is
begins. Ask questions, clue him or her in ask them to play the other side and tell getting down to real money. You have to
on client or adjuster issues, and connect you what they would do if they were the See Berman, Next Page
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October 2009 Issue
know that when they walk into your room afternoon when the negotiation needs a a professional, expect that they have stud
and say, “That’s really all there is.” that change in focus. ied negotiation theory, game theory, dis
you can trust them, and if you haven’t tributive bargaining and integrative bar
learned about them during the media 8. Have them be your eyes and ears gaining, and should be expert in architect
tion, then you don’t really know how While there is some disagreement ing a negotiation that will result in a set
much you can trust them. about the ethics of sharing the “tempera tlement. Put that expertise to work for
ture” in the other room, I have had two you. It is a well-known fact that most
7. Make them explain your offer com very telling instances of sitting in on a untrained people negotiate in a way that
pletely mediation as a consultant to a party: one is consistent with their personality. Nice
Naked offers may sound sexy, but when my brother sued his general con people negotiate more collaboratively, and
they’re really just bare. A fully dressed tractor, and the other when my other competitive people like to play hardball.
offer explains the reasoning behind it, brother went through divorce mediation. But your mediator should be skilled in
the thinking that went into it, the analy When the family mediator in the latter both styles and more. So, make them work
sis and the message that is conveyed case came back into our room and said, for you and offer you options before you
along with it. You can write this down: “She has melted down. She is a puddle narrow to one choice for your next move.
The intent of any offer is more important on the floor in the other room.” There
than the content of that offer. It is always was no question about where things were, 10. Have them tell you when enough
more important, with every offer, that the and that it was time for a new approach is enough
other side knows your intent. Your offer to bring her back into reality. In the con By late in the day, your mediator
is a message to them, but if you send struction case, when the mediator came has spent many hours watching and
over a naked number (or have a media back and said, “She’s so nervous, she gauging the patterns and ability of the
tor) that only says, “They’re at can’t sit down, she’s pacing around the other parties and their lawyer(s), feeling
$850,000,” then you leave the other side room. If I didn’t know better, I’d swear the ebb and flow, watching control shift
to make up their own story about you, she was on coke!” Knowing this allowed from attorney to client and back again.
your offer, your strategy and your intent. my brother to make more informed Your mediator is best equipped to know
Take control of the other side’s strategic decisions about the size and when the other side is at the end of
impressions by filling in the gaps for timing of his next offer. their rope in the negotiation, and when
them and insisting that your mediator If you are in one room for the major “no” really means “no.” Make them
convey the entirety of your meaning, ity of the day, you do not get to see first opine, and give that considerable
complete with the nuance you intend. hand whether the other side is frustrated, weight. Ask the mediator what he is
This is why your mediator needs to be bored, wearing down, boiling over or at relying upon in concluding what he con
highly articulate, expertly nuanced and the tipping point. In some cases, this cludes, and make him show you his logic
deeply attentive to you and your client. If information can be more important than and reasoning.
they’re not getting your message or seem the amount of their last offer. The non
only interested in your naked offer, then verbal cues such as the attitude behind an 11. Make them work until the end
ask to speak to opposing counsel and offer and the flexibility surrounding it will There are some mediators who are
convey it yourself. determine how you respond to it as much quitters. When 5:00 p.m. comes, they
You should never feel handicapped as the offer itself. You need to know who will leave, right in the middle of a medi
by a mediator who can’t convey your is driving the bus in the other room, ation, no matter how close a settlement
message the way you want it conveyed. including how that may change as the day may be. Do not accept this from your
Additionally, make sure that your media progresses. Expect your mediator to paint mediator. No matter how big a “name”
tor raises all of the issues relating to set a picture for you so that you can use all of a mediator has, do not ever hire him
tlement long before you start to reach the the context to your advantage. Ask your again, and make sure that every other
numbers. Mediators who take their eye mediator each round or two how their advocate you know hears about it if a
off the ball can leave you arguing with temperature is in the other room. You will mediator quits on you. Some mediators
opposing counsel about settlement terms make more informed decisions, and the will also quit when a deal is reached – lit
like confidentiality, release language, tax mediator will be of more value to you. erally sitting down in the far corner of
ation and other deal terms at the end of the room and letting counsel, who have
a mediation when you thought you had 9. Have them give you your choices opposed each other all day, try to iron
agreement because you agreed on a num While you may see two or three out a difficult or complex settlement
ber. Make sure they are on top of these options for responding in a certain cir agreement, or worse, leaving and telling
issues early on and doing their job to cumstance, your mediator may see anoth the parties that it is not their job to facil
flesh out all of the relevant issues. In fact, er option or two that you do not. Ask itate the writing of the settlement agree
doing so can sometimes take the focus off them to review the available choices as ment.
of the numbers at a strategic time in the they see them. Remember, if you’re hiring See Berman, Next Page
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October 2009 Issue
While it is never the mediator’s job process, rather than a day. If the initial based on its price, without ever asking
to write the settlement agreement, mediation session ends, make sure that how big the engine is or what options it
given that one would have a hard time your mediator continues to work for you. has. If you are making your mediator
suing a mediator for drafting language With mediators who are either so busy work hard in all of these ways, you will
that disadvantages their client or failed that they don’t have the time to ade get your clients value for every dollar.
to foresee a problem down the road, it quately follow-up or with those who are Now that you have these 12 ways to make
is the mediator’s job to facilitate the dis not as aggressive as you would like, you them work harder for you, you should
cussion until the signatures are all on may have to prompt them to call the have much better results in your media
the page. After all, the settlement other side. There is no shame in calling tions.
agreement is just an extension of the the mediator if you haven’t heard from
Lee Jay Berman began as a full-time
negotiation between the parties. Many him or her for a few days after an unsuc
mediator in 1994, successfully mediating over
attorneys say that the most important cessful mediation and prompting them to
1,300 cases in his 15 years. He mediates
quality in a mediator is an iron rear end call the other side with a “routine follow-
privately as well as through the American
– one who can sit there as long as it up call” (rather than indicating that you
Arbitration Association. He is a Fellow with
takes to get the job done. Your media called them first). If your mediator
the International Academy of Mediators, a
tor should be the last one out of the required a jump-start, you can certainly
Diplomat with the California Academy of
room, when a settlement has been provide the motive power, as a last resort.
Distinguished Neutrals, was Mediator of the
reached, and especially if one has not Ideally, you want your mediator to
Year for the U.S. Bankruptcy Court in 2006,
(yet). Your job may need to be keeping remain tenacious after a mediation ses
and was named to the Daily Journal’s Top
the mediator working until the ink is on sion that didn’t end with a signed settle
Neutrals in 2008. Also a prominent trainer in
the paper. Do not accept less from your ment agreement, and in some cases, you
the field, he founded the American Institute of
mediator. may have to initiate that conversation.
Mediation and was Director of Pepperdine’s
12. Expect them to work after it’s Conclusion “Mediating the Litigated Case” program from
over 2002-2009.
In these economic times, attorneys
Any mediator worth his salt will be are paying more attention to mediators’
committed to you until the case is settled. fees. Consider that focusing just on fees
Seasoned mediators see mediation as a is a lot like buying a car based solely �