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Have you ever dated with someone? There might be someone who says
yes and someone who says no. Whether you said yes or no, have you ever
imagined that you live together before your marriage? Actually there are over 5.1
million couples cohabiting in the United States (U.S. Census Bureau, 2006), which is
a significant increase from 1970 when only 500,000 couples were cohabiting (Oslon,
1). For men and women, it is quite considerable to think of it because of the changed
era. What it means is the past society was closed, while the current society is open.
In fact, today cohabitation starts as an alternative way of living, develops into a
temporary phase before marriage, and finally becomes a strategy for moving into a
union (Manting, 1996). At least once, people in this era could deal with this
argument. Couples should figure out the respective advantages and disadvantages
by cohabiting with their girlfriends or boyfriends. Before getting married, it would be
important to know one's partners merits and demerits. Under the premise to get
married, this essay aims to argue that couples could live together before their
marriage.
To begin with, cohabiting before marriage could help couples to know each
other in short period. Lets refer A to a couple who lives in together and B to a
couple who lives in separate. In general, couple A would spend more time together
than couple B. Since A is under the same roof, man and woman unavoidably
remove their veil to live with the convenience. In this situation, they could get the
information easily about partners habits. In addition, couple A takes more time to
have a dialogue than couple B. The more people have a conversation, the less
argument occurs. Whenever couples fight one another, one of the ways to solve the

problem is trying to make an effort by having a conversation. Sparing time to talk

with partners could help to catch one's characteristic or personality.
Secondly, if unmarried couples live together, they can save their money. The
move to cohabitation is accompanied by greater joint in the management of money
(Singh and Jo, 1996). Many couples meet at cafes, restaurants, movie theaters or
other places where people have to pay for enjoying or spending time. Suppose that a
couple meet twice per week. Most of their routine is going to a restaurant and cafe.
They have to spend 20dollars for lunch or dinner and 10dollars at cafes. The total
cost they spend is 240dollars for a month. As you could see, it is not small amount
money for beginners of the society. Still couples who are living together have their
own shelters therefore they don't need to go outside and don't need to waste any
money for dating. Therefore they could save and accumulate money.
Lastly, cohabitation makes couples feel much closer to each other and
couples' love could grow. The more people see each other or the shorter distance,
the easier people fall in love. Couples who are in the long distance have much
trouble between males and females because they have less time to chat
affectionately. From the situation, their relationship cannot help being distant and
eventually they would break up. Cohabitation gives couples not only growing love but
also intimacy. They've known partner's personality and habits a lot. Based on those,
they feel the sense of closeness more than any other.
There are some people that do not agree on living together before marriage.
It could be considered as far more dangerous because couples are not defined
legally as a husband and wife. Especially they are located on more vulnerable
environment to have a baby because they meet every day and they sleep on the

same bed. Regardless of cohabitation, the proportion of premarital pregnancies rose

from 10% to 14% (Zelnik, John F, 1980). For this information, these days there are
many private places, though. Having a baby before the marriage is not the matter of
places. It depends on their carefulness, the mature awareness, and caring for
themselves.
Cohabitation is a form of trial marriage where unstable unions are weeded
out before marriage (Bennett, Ann and David E, 127). In unions lead to marriage,
couples have adjusted to expected martial roles and can avoid pitfalls associated
with marriage to people with whose living habits one is unfamiliar (Bennett, Ann and
David E, 127). It could decrease divorce rates to our society. In addition, living
together before marriage has many favorable aspects to couples. They could have
knowledge of each other as soon as possible, stand around their partners every day,
and get to increase their love easily. Living together before marriage would be
encouraged throughout the perspectives so far.

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