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and have him beg
for
more!
by NAURA HAYDEN
When Naura
did a survey in 1997, she interviewed

510 married men from all over the United States.
The survey was totally anonymous, making easy
be totally honest.
it
She gave them 57 questions about
to
the most intimate
details of their love lives: faithfulness, unfaithfulness,
pornography, prostitutes, impotence, sexual stimulants,

emotional intimacy,
etc.
Have you ever thought about being
#6.
unfaithful?
Has sex
#15.
to
#1
What
7.
with your wife ever gotten boring
you?
is
your favorite
way
of love-
making?
Do you
#44.
think
man can be
happily
married without having sex often?

#45.
How
#52.
Would you
often would you like sex?

like
control of your
Naura was amazed
Women
wanted
at the
to
will
be, too.
now finally find out what they've always

know about the most carefully guarded
lives.
is the first and only book that tells you exactly how
keep the sex so exciting that your marriage will last
This
answers, and you
will
secrets of men's sex
to
your wife to take sexual
body?
lifetime.
Dear Reader,
In 1982,
HOW
my book
EVERY TIME
TO SATISFY A WOMAN
and have her beg for more! came out
hardcover and swept the country.
in
during 1982 and 1993 doing

the
travelled all over
TV and radio interviews,
book sold 204,000 copies hardcover and was
New York Times bestseller list.

When I stopped promoting it, an amazing
ten
and
weeks
on the
pened.
thing hap-
continued selling by word of mouth, around
It
10,000 copies a year.
Cut
selling
to
to 1990.
HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN was
by word of mouth without promotion and
myself "It's doing nicely without
can bring
it
me
still
thought
it
so that more
out again and re-promote
wonder
if I
married couples can find sexual happiness and save their
marriages?"
So
1992
I
it
was on
did in late 1991, and

hit the
it
New
it
really took off.
York Times bestseller
weeks
for sixty-two
list
Times that the same identical hardcover book

paperback
and
came back years
to date has sold
copies and hit the bestseller
two countries
in
which
Lots of people insisted
MAN EVERY TIME
again and
New
later
on
its
York
not ever
bestseller
list),
over 2,000,000 copies in the U.S. In
nineteen countries worldwide,
the
early
the second time around 1992
to 1993, (the only time in the history of the
in
By
lists in
I
has sold over 600,000
it
Australia and
promoted
write
Germany,
it.
HOW
TO SATISFY A
and have him beg for more! but
thought
say,
was
that
would be
so easy
was a
it
Satisfying a man,
silly.
joke. "All a
stand nude on his back porch and a
little
man
used
to
has to do
is
breeze could waft
by and give him an orgasm."

But
was kidding on the square.
men needed no help.

to have
why
It
truly believed that
was almost impossible
for a
woman
an orgasm through intercourse alone, and that's
HOW
WOMAN
TO SATISFY A
successful, but
men were
was so
incredibly
blessed with a sex organ that
aroused easily and climaxed easily.

Finally in 1996, the light bulb
sex is so great for
ing forth.
in
my
head. "If
men, why are so many men cheating
on their mates? If sex
many men
went on
is
so exciting for men,
getting divorces?"
Then
why
are so
the ideas started pour-
The psychology of sex dominated me
for
weeks
as the ideas started formulating.
And I have come up
with
many
technique, and a 'master plan'

'
to
guarantee that the
man
'
for
original ideas, a sexual
any
woman who wants
she loves will stay faithful to
her because he will never be bored with her sexually.

It really
works!
April 1999
HOW TO SATISFY
A MAN
EVERY TIME
and have him beg for more!
NAURA HAYDEN
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To Love, which
is
which
Good
is
which
Love
is
which
Good
is
which
Love
is
which
Good
is
which
Love
is
Good
Author's Note
You cannot have the quadruple whammy of physical,

mental, emotional, and spiritual ecstasy unless sex
between two people who love each

I
is
other.
believe that sex and love belong together in a loving,
faithful,
This
committed, married relationship.

is
a marriage manual.
Foreword
Women
do not understand why men
enormous ignorance about men and
cheat.
There
is
sex.
Men don't cheat because someone else is better-looking. Men don't cheat because someone else is younger.
A man
cheats because sex
becomes
dull with his wife
when she stops paying attention to his penis. She focuses

on her
kids, her house, her job, her friends, herself, but
not on his penis.
We've all heard often enough that men don't understand women, but I think it's much more universal that
women
don't have a clue about the enormous impor-
tance of sexual excitement to men.
and
didn't say sex.
It's difficult
It is
is to
didn't say love
said sexual excitement.
for us to
sexual excitement
of his ego.
comprehend how important
a male. His penis
is
an extension
the center of his universe, and his mental,
Foreword
emotional, spiritual, and physical selves revolve around
appendage.
this
Not
to say he's totally
sex organ
is
aware of how important
to him. I said totally aware, but
he
his
is
definitely
aware that his penis is king and reigns supreme
over his
life.
Penis power to a
important to him than
And
we have
man
is
much more
ever been led to believe.
undoubtedly more important than he has ever
thought, because he's probably never analyzed
Of
course your
man knows you
love
it
before.
him because
you married him, and even though you may not often
tell
him
or
show
that
to his sexual needs,
And when he
you love him,
if
you pay
attention
he will feel loved.
feels loved
and sexually
satisfied, the
reason for his fooling around outside his marriage has

evaporated.
Would you need
when your body

Would you need
is
to take
an amphetamine
bursting with health and energy?
to take a sleeping pill at the
end of a
day in which you ran a 26 mile marathon?
Wives of men who have been caught cheating have

always been considered the victims of their husbands'
infidelity.
stein,
Mrs. Nelson Rockefeller, Mrs. Albert Ein-
Mrs. Frank Gifford, Mrs.
Norman
Mailer, Mrs.
David 0. Selznick, Mrs. Artie Shaw, Mrs. John
F.
Ken-
nedy, Mrs. Jim Bakker, Mrs. Robin Williams, Mrs. Bill

Clinton, Mrs. Frank Sinatra, Mrs. William Paley, Mrs.
Franklin D. Roosevelt, Mrs. Desi Arnaz, Mrs.
nedy, Mrs. Henry Ford
II,
Ted Ken-
Mrs. Charlie Chaplin, Mrs.
Foreword
Mick
Jagger, and about 200 trillion
throughout history have
we
also felt sorry for
all felt
them
(if
not more) wives
sorry for themselves as
for having such unfaithful
husbands.
An
it
affair is
were, a one-night stand would be
once
and
in a while.
that's
which
new body.
nothing as simple as just a
Every
why men
man wants
all
If
he'd need every
to "fall in love",
risk everything to
have an
affair
not a one-shot deal, but a sometimes long-term
is
sexual relationship outside marriage that keeps the
man
excited.
It
has to do with the depression of boring sex.
It
may
appear shallow that the lack of exciting sex can cause
overwhelming depression
in a
for sexual excitement is so

his mental, emotional,
without
it,
life
man's
but his need
life,
deep and so important
and physical well-being,
to
that
doesn't seem worth living.
What we women don't comprehend is how deeply

depressed a man gets if his sex life has gotten boring.
We hear about some man cheating and we think "Oh
sure, he found some young thing and just because she's
(younger, prettier, bustier, slimmer, etc.) than his wife,
he had to bed her."
But
that's not the answer.
become
his wife
so boring that he thought he'd go
do away with himself)

excitement.
So he
Sex with
did.
if
mad
had
(or
he didn't find some sexual
Foreword
am now convinced that it is the wife who is responsi-
ble for the husband's cheating. If she hadn't
become
complacent and allowed the sex to become boring
home, he wouldn't have been forced
at
to look for exciting
sex outside his home.
The lack of sexual excitement
many
there are so
this
book
in a marriage is
divorces, and this
is
why
why
I've written
Introduction
I've been a big fan of
Anthony Quinn's
He's always been a great film
actor, but
man who knew how
he was a
more than
to have,
appeared to be having, a great time.
for years.
that,
and always
He was
married in
his twenties to Catherine DeMille, the daughter of the
great film pioneer, Cecil B. DeMille, and
Then he met Italian-born Iolanda on the movie
children.
set
had several
of Barabbas in 1961 where she was working as a
wardrobe
assistant,
and they had two sons out of wed-
lock. Five years later

third son, they
to Iolanda,
And
when she was pregnant with
their
were married. Meanwhile, while married
he had a few other children out of wedlock.
of course several years ago, he had yet another
child (he has thirteen kids to date!), this one with his
former secretary, Kathy Benvin, and when the child was

born and his wife found out about
it,
she went crazy,
and demanded Tony leave her (he since had a second
Introduction
child with Kathy).
was a
He came up
with what he thought
Iolanda
one part of
great solution
live in
huge apartment on the Upper West Side of
New
their
York,
and Kathy in the other part. Iolanda was understandably

outraged, said no, and eventually filed for a divorce.
She was heartbroken her marriage was over.

What's so obvious
had the
affair
someone
else
to
most of us is
that if Tony hadn't
with Kathy, he would have had one with
and could just as possibly had a child (he
obviously loves kids).
It's
not the girl's
mistakenly thought he loved her so
be together forever.
He
fault.
much
Iolanda
that they'd
undoubtedly does love her a
new wife must be making

sex exciting for him, and that's why they're together.
And the same thing with Pavarotti. His wife Adua
great deal, but
is
believe his
very upset because Luciano's been travelling
all
over
the world with his assistant, Nicoletta Mantovani, a
young woman
in her twenties. I believe it's not just
because she's young,
it's
because she's making sex
exciting for him.
Adua knows he loves her, the mother of his children,

and he knows she's his best friend. But what she doesn't
realize is how boring sex can often become to husbands
after many years. Numbingly boring.
Most women believe that love conquers all. This is
what most churches and philosophies
the most important emotion of all.
and philosophies leave out
teach,
and love
is
But what most churches
is that
romantic marital love
Introduction
is
an active
through
It's
not a passive one, and must be expressed
state,
deepest expression, sexual love.
its
same
the
its
best advantage.
You
don't passively listen
on your decrepit tape player or dinky car
it
you
music and you
player with super speakers so the music will be
heard to
to
really love
CDs and play them on a wonderful
actively pursue great
CD
you
as if
you
actively pursue great restau-
fresh, ripe fruits
and veggies. You don't pas-
really love food,
rants
and
sively wait
cafe or a
radio. If
someone maybe
till
new
recipe.
if
you about a
you love
terrific
to read,
you
books and a very good reading
actively pursue great

light next to
And
tells
your bed.
You
don't only read books that
happen upon you passively as you browse through a

library or a bookstore.
So many of us love our husbands

of spouse
is
passively, but love
an active experience, and to be a great
experience it needs the same dedication as love of music,

love of food, love of reading, and any of the other loves.
Now
can
love has
kiss,
many
You can
is
sex.
Sex
is
a driving force, a
force screaming to be expressed
understood
moment
hug, you
you can hold hands, but again, the deepest
expression of love
life
expressions.
this
women
we would have fewer
trated, angry,
and tense wives.
many
mothers
a hell on earth.
if
sex drive in themselves (forget for the
their husbands),
terrible
and
My
We
frus-
wouldn't have so
who make their children's lives

own mother was almost always
Introduction
angry and took
it
out on me. Almost always, because
the rest of the time she
was
of her terrible temper that
way
for
much
of
my
life.
loving, but
was so
afraid
tensed up and stayed that
She
told
me
once before she
died that she had never had any pleasure in sex. She
said she
No
had never had an orgasm.
who
matter
woman
really loves, she will
do
make that person happy and keep that person
anything to
well.
We
all
she'll get
know
up early
woman's
to
make
their lunches, she'll drive
sacrifices for her children:

their breakfast, she'll
them
them to the doctor and dentist,
pack
to school, she'll take
she'll
go without to make
sure her children are well-dressed, healthy, and happy.
Now we
know not every woman is like that, but

most are. Some people are not really capable of deep
love. Maybe they were mistreated when very young and
this
all
pain built up a wall to keep out any more pain, but
sadly the wall can't distinguish between
so
it
keeps out
all feeling.
good and bad,
That's what fear brings with
it.
Certainly
women, but
there
are
neurotic,
sick
and disturbed
the majority of us are ready, willing and
able to give and receive love.
We don'
usually take our kids for granted
they need us at
on a constant
all
we know
times, they need our help and love
basis.
But oftentimes we do take our
husbands for granted. Sex becomes functional
we do
Introduction
it
we know we have to in our marriage. But

us, if we really had a choice, would give up
because
many
of
sex altogether. This
always,
Many
if ever,
of us
make
make it
to
have the great pleasure of an orgasm.
make
love),
because we, the wives, do not
is
love (actually
exciting.
We
there and let
all
we need
is
to
do
don't
him "do
his
keep him
to
soon super-bored sexu-
with his unimaginative, bored wife (anything would
get boring if one of the partners
obvious wifey, who's doing
bored
have
my
we
passivity,
lie
sexually satisfied. But alas, he
allow our husbands
and because of our
thing," thinking that's
ally
we
is
it
bored), and
by
rote, is
it's
pretty
more than
she honestly would do almost anything not
to
make
love with him.
'Not tonight honey,
I'm
period,
to
have a headache, stomachache,
tired, etc., etc., etc."
Obviously,
if
she
knew the top of her head would come off in an incredible

orgasm of intense pleasure
in less than ten
minutes
without any struggle, frustration, great effort and enor-
mous expenditure of energy on her

stomachaches, period, tiredness,
in a flash. In fact, they
the
first
part,
etc.,
her headaches,
would disappear
would never have been
there in
place 'cause she would have been thinking
about her exciting body-pleasure-to-come during the
day and she would be

initiate sex.
Ah, but
We
And
that's
were
all
if
thrilled to
have her husband
he didn't, she would.
my
other marriage manual.
meant
to
have sexual pleasure with our
10
Introduction
why a woman's sex organ (clit) is there

A man must orgasm to procreate, but a
bodies. That's
for pleasure.
woman
can have twenty children
have an orgasm. The

is
literally
and never
a part of her body that
clitoris is
there only to give her pleasure, only to deepen the love
she already feels for her husband, because hopefully he'

the one giving her the orgasm.
woman loves her husband for many other reasons
If a
(he's smart, he's funny, he's loving, he's affectionate,
he's thoughtful), she will forget herself for the
moment
and concentrate on keeping his sex life exciting. Because
when
she's got
him panting
twenty, forty and
more
for her (even after five, ten,
years), she will
be in a position
of great strength, and he will do almost anything she
wants (learn to make incredible love to

the beginning of a truly great marriage
who
really like, love,
sex every time they
woman
If a
really
her).
And
that's
when two people
and respect each other have great
make
love.
really cares about her
wants their marriage to
last,
husband and/or
she'd be wise to
revise her thinking and try to understand that, if the
love
is
still
there, sex is the
cement
that
keeps that
marriage glued together. Not just sex, but exciting physia
woman
gives that to her husband on a daily basis, no
amount
cal,
of
mental, and emotional sex, and
when
TNT
or no
And
a wife's age has nothing to do with
H-bomb
could blow that marriage apart.

it.
Most
11
Introduction
people tend to think that all a woman has to be is younger

to wrest a
man away from
may
day many more young women
seem so because every

enter the
work
his wife.
Not
true. It
force out of high school and college, so
youth abounds, and
many men wind up
with younger
women.
Look
Prince Charles
at
who
left his thirtyish wife,
Princess Diana, for his fiftyish paramour, Camilla Par-
And
Duke of Windsor, 42,

who became King Edward, forsook a gorgeous, much
ker-Bowles.
younger
woman
bilt's aunt,
son,
his uncle, the
Vander-
in her early twenties, Gloria
Lady Thelma Furness, to marry Wallis Simp-
who was
forty,
and for anyone who's ever seen
her photo, not a beauty. In fact, she was rather homely,
but with
mucho money and good
exceedingly well and became
taste;
she dressed
at least stylishly attractive.
But she obviously had strong sexual power over King
Edward
for
him
have given up his throne for her
to
when they married in 1936 (and he and she then became

the Duke and Duchess of Windsor), and their marriage
lasted their lifetime.
What
attracts a
sensational,
and
man
if his
granted and a younger
is
woman who
thinks he's
wife has started taking him for
woman
at
work
treats
him
like
a king, anything could happen and often does.

All a
man
really needs to
know and
feel is that his
wife truly loves him above all and will do anything and
12
Introduction
everything to
and
make him happy.
A wife
can be any age
she cares enough and has learned how, she can
if
sexually captivate her man.

I
don't care
or forty years,
if
two people are married
it is
absolutely possible for a
enchant her husband so

feel the
to
much
two years
woman
to
sexually that he'll never
need for another woman. Obviously, a wife has
to really love her
do
for
guy and be willing
to learn
keep him enchanted, but unequivocally
can be done. Read on
what
to
I state it
Why Men
Easily
So
and So
Often Get Bored

Sexually
Every
man desires and needs sexual excitement every
day of his
life.
doesn't have to be actual physical sex every day
It
(although that
is
the ultimate
"high"
be just the thought of someone
who
for a male),
turns
it
him on
can
that
brings the excitement.
Some men
sublimate their
sexual
energies
into
socially constructive or creative channels. Others deflect

their biological urges into business transactions.
But the
basic sexual needs and desires are there.
What seems
like just a small part of his
his life actually controls his mental
anatomy and
and emotional well-
being.
I
am
ment
going to liken a man's need for sexual excite-
to a diabetic's
need for
insulin. If
you give a
HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME
14
diabetic a daily dose of insulin, the diabetes
and he
healthy. If
is
and the marriage

If you
coma.
don
And
if
is
for a healthy
like
it
you don't pay
will die of marital
to
it's
orgasm, so
as often as he can get
don't
coma.
the greatest physical pleasure
is
bar none. And

man
and focus on the
attention
very simple and easy
mean boredom with
no wonder he'd
it's
But
it.
his wife has lost interest in sex,

I
controlled
give the insulin, the man will die of diabetic
Having an orgasm
this planet
is
healthy.
man's penis, the marriage
on
controlled
you give a man a daily dose of
need for sexual excitement
oral sex, his
is
he's married and
if
boredom
sex,
will set in.
mean boredom
with the person he's sexing with.
When
a man's mate
is
too sure of
him and
fails to
keep sex exciting, he will look around for excitement.

It's
as simple as that.
Many wives know their husbands love them and

know they're their husbands' best friends. After living
many
together for
years, having kids, sharing the joys
and the pains, the love
is
women
is
males
if
don't realize
you
just expect
very strong. But what so
how
him
many
boring sex becomes to

to put
it
in,
pump away,
and quickly orgasm. That would be infinitely worse than

eating only dry toast at every meal in a very small
with no windows.
would be a
treat,
In a recent
Now when
room
you're starving, the toast
but otherwise
BOR-RING!
Women's Health Conference in Washing-
Why Men
ton, D.C., research
Get Bored Sexually
showed
75
men have sex to feel

and most women have sex
that
physical pleasure (surprise!),
to strengthen the relationship through sexual intimacy.
men want
All
because
it is
comes so
If
Most want
easily to them.
"UP"
And
also
it
And
that's
makes them
feel
afterwards (lots of endorphins
men do
as easy a time orgasming as
(feeling the incredible pleasure),

relentlessly as they do.
for a
often.
in!).
women had
difficult
it
such incredible pleasure and the pleasure
so good and so
kicking
sex.
we would
seek sex as
But we don't because
it's
very
almost impossible without my technique
woman to orgasm during straight man-on-top inter-
course, and the other
ways
(oral sex, hands) are not
nearly as exciting and fulfilling as the "missionary."
The
difference
or hands
is
is that
a female orgasm with oral sex
only around the genital area, the sex organs,
whereas a female orgasm with intercourse makes every

nerve ending in your body explode
your
knees, your
elbows, your legs, your arms, your neck, your shoulders,
your stomach
every nerve ending!
So because sex doesn't come as easy

times relegate
it
way down on our
for us,
priority
we many
list.
Almost
everything becomes more important than sex: kids,

furniture, clothes, hair style,
cure,
new
having a good
car, terrific diet, great
fabulous apartment, and the

the bottom.
list
figure,
new
mani-
movie, exciting job,
goes on with sex near
16
Now men
women
be
all
want more or
less the
same things
do, but their priorities are different.
of the
at the top
list,
as
Sex would
not the bottom.
And when women really realize this, we will actively

become
great lovers. I'm talking both technically
and
psychologically great lovers.
To
that
man
drive a
wild, insane, crazy in
you love each other in the
that relationship will last.
exciting,
first
When
bed (assuming
place) will guarantee

the sex
is
constantly
he will think about you when you're not there
and want a replay as quickly as possible.
Many
feminists will scream that no
ever have sex with a
demeaning
to
man just
woman
should
to please him, that that's
womanhood. They say
it
has to be always
mutual pleasure. But when a wife really loves her husband, look at the great pleasure she would feel giving
her beloved
much needed
love (an oral sex orgasm)
every day or as often as possible. Goodness
is its
own
reward!
And
If
look
at other aspects
you can't wait
at 4:59:59, or if
you take
lots
of
life,
to leave the office
your focus
is
particularly work.
and are out the door
not on your work and
of personal calls on
company
time,
do you
think your boss will treasure you as a valued employee?
working
woman
office to finish a
with a boss might stay
late in
her
job because she knows that will make
points with her boss and help get her promoted.
And
if
Why Men
a
woman
running her
is
17
Get Bored Sexually
own
business she might take
a client out to dinner, even though she really doesn't
want
her
to,
way
be loyal
How
but she
that
when
she does go out of
for the client, the client will be
more
likely to
to her business.
is this
your husband?
him,
knows
is it
different
If
from pleasing or not pleasing
you know promptness
is
him
loving for you to meet
important to
thirty
minutes
And if you know he desires and needs a lot of

sex, why not cater to his pleasure? If you do it in your
job and you do it for your kids, why not do it for the
man you love and married?
late?
Feminists tend to have a problem whenever sex
When my book, HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY TIME ...and have her beg
comes
into the picture.
for more! came out, feminists picketed a bookstore in
my title (which
San Francisco. They were outraged with

I
loved because the "begging"
is
most feminists are not known for
amusing
to
me, but
their great senses of
humor!)
The
really
amusing part is
that the
Los Angeles Times
printed a question from a reader asking if any lesbians
were buying the book.

yes,
some bookstores had reported
booksellers
that
And when
if that
was
saw
the reply, that
that, I started
their experience.
Many
asking
said yes,
even though the huge preponderance of buyers were
heteros, there
were some lez couples asking for it, which
18
only goes to prove that no matter what your sexual

proclivity,
to learn
I
everyone
how
who
is
looking
to satisfy that sexual partner.
definitely consider
supported myself,
bought
someone
cares for
myself a feminist
I've always
believe in equality in every area,
my own house, etc. I've never believed that men
women or that women are better than

men. Some women are smarter and some men are
smarter it's an individual thing. But most men are
sexually needier than most women, and women must
are better than
understand
world.
this to coexist
also believe in the
happily in a male/female
power of sex
Everybody knows the power of love

not everyone understands
expression of love)
in a marriage, but
how powerful sex (the deepest
is.
I've read of two situations with

that I
in marriage.
two
found very enlightening. The
Vanity Fair (a great magazine)
first
'The
Your Average Joe" about one of
different couples
was a
story in
Screenwriter:
the
Not
most successful
screenwriters in Hollywood, Joe Eszterhas,
who was
married to Geri and had a teenage son and daughter

with her.
Basic
He has
Instinct,
written
starring
many
big screen hits including
Michael Douglas and Sharon
Stone. In the spring of 1993, he and his wife had a
houseguest for several weeks,
whose husband had
left
Naomi Baka Macdonald,
her for Sharon Stone, and she
was recuperating emotionally at their house. Naomi says

that Geri
had gotten "lost
in her children ... she didn't
Why Men
Get Bored Sexually
see a lot of things that she should have seen and could
When
have seen."
Naomi
place in a car,
her to
sit
them would go some-
the three of
says that Geri would encourage
in the front seat of the car with Joe.
talking to you,"
Naomi
Is
it
buy a
would love
short black silk
on you."
it
possible anyone could be or
and so blind
'He likes
says his wife would say. Geri,
the wife, even encouraged her to

robe, saying, "Joseph
'
would be so naive
to reality? In a short period of time in the
midst of Naomi's stay, Joe
left Geri,
moved
in with
Naomi, divorced Geri, married Naomi, and then had
two children with

that
Naomi
is
her.
Joe says, "that his ex-wife feels
demon." As
see
it,
she's not a
demon,
and Joe would not have fallen in love with Naomi

their marriage
The second
had been
if
satisfying.
situation I read about in a wonderful
book, Haywire, by Brooke
Hay ward, daughter of a very
famous show-biz couple of the 1940s and 1950s. Her

father,
Leland Hay ward, was one of the biggest actor's
agents of his era (he discovered Henry Fonda and Jimmy

Stewart, and represented
stars like
of the top Hollywood
Greta Garbo, Judy Garland, Gregory Peck,
Fred Astaire,
some of
many
etc.)
and then
the greatest
etc.),
wife, Margaret Sullavan,
Hollywood
became a producer of
Broadway shows (Mr.
Gypsy, Sound of Music,
Door, Voice of the
later
and her mother, Leland'
was a star on Broadway (Stage
Turtle,
star (Little
Roberts,
Sabrina Fair,
Shop around
the
etc.),
and a
Corner with

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Jimmy
Stewart,
They had
Back
Street with Charles Boyer, etc.).
three children and
were very happy together.
His work was mainly on the West Coast in the film

biz,
and she hated Hollywood, so she took her own
money and bought

there
a house in Connecticut and lived
most of the time with the
kids, her
husband flying
back whenever he could.
She was so upset when she found out
that
he was
fooling around in her absence (what did she think he
would do when she

on end?),
play in
deliberately left
him alone for weeks
that she decided to test their marriage
and do a
London for six months, even though her husband
begged her not
to go,
and told her how vulnerable and
lonely he was at that time. Quoting Leland from the
book,
'
'Basically,
I'm absolutely monogamous. Basi-
cally romantic. Faithful.
As
long, that
is,
as
know I'm
cared about."
While
his wife
went
to England,
he took another
woman, Slim Hawks, ex-wife of director Howard

Hawks, to Hawaii (which news devastated his wife
again,
what did she think he would do for
alone?),
and when
they got a divorce.
time
all
six
months
came back from England,

Everyone who knew them at that
his wife
agreed that Maggie had an arrogance of wanting
things the
way she wanted them without
thinking of or
caring about what her husband needed or wanted.
eventually married Slim
Hawks, who
later also left
He
him
alone for long stretches of time, and they eventually
Why Men
He
divorced.
knew how
If
to love
how
Get Bored Sexually
then met Pamela Churchill,
both his wives
imagine
27
who
really
and keep a man (see next paragraph).

left
Leland alone so much, you can
important they must have thought sexual
pleasure for their husband was. This kind of arrogance
and complacency
couples
the bottom line to
is
why
so
many
split.
Any and all women really successful in love relationships know and practice giving their lovers great and
loving
sex.
Churchill
The
recently
deceased Pamela Digby
Hay ward Harriman, one of the
tury's great
paramours
(if
not the greatest),
three extraordinarily successful
intense relationships with
men
in the world:
whom
twentieth cen-
who married
men, had long-term and
some of
the
most powerful
Randolph Churchill (Winston's son)
she married, William Paley, Jock Whitney,
Edward R. Murrow, John F. Kennedy, Aly Khan, Gianni

Agnelli, Elie Rothschild, Leland
married, and Averill Harriman,
Obviously, she
knew
the
Hayward,
whom
she
whom she also married.
overwhelming power of
sex.
She also was very caring and nurturing of whatever
man
she was with, so with great love and even greater
some of
sex she conquered
the
most powerful men of
this century.
Whenever
ing.
there's
fun,
Think of any movie
what was going

to
no
to
walk out of the
no
that
surprise, things get bor-
bored you
you knew
happen next and you couldn't wait
theater,
and you probably did before
22
it
was
over.
Think of people you know who bore you.
They repeat and repeat

you never hear an
the
same
things over and over,
original thought
from them, and when
you spot any of these dullards walking toward you, you
know
they're going to corner
and have
you and you'll be trapped
to listen to tedious, uninteresting, obtuse, tire-
some conversation. So you
either pretend
you see some-
one you know across the room, wave and walk away.
Or you
minutes and then say you're
talk for several
going to get another drink, hors d'oeuvres, coffee, or

anything you can think of to get away.
Well, that same boredom
man
is
what happens when a
realizes that sex with his spouse has gotten to the
point of putting
into a wife
it
in,
pumping a few
times, and
who's even more bored than he
coming
is,
but at
least she just has to lie there.
He, as a male, has to

excited,
first
and then 'do it."
he could do
'
it
desire his wife's body, get
Now sometimes he's so horny

I'm not talking
to a knothole, but
I'm talking about
his normal,
everyday
needs mental stimulation to "get
it
life
up."
that.
when he
And
if that
stimulation ain't there, he's going to go looking for
because sex
is
it,
very important to him.
And he might not even have to go looking. There

are lots of women out there who can sense when a man
is
looking, and you really can't blame her for being there
when he needs her.

unconsciously) the
It is
he
who gives out (consciously or
initial signal,
and she responds.
Why Men
Believe me,
and
when
truly satisfied
by
Get Bored Sexually
man
his
is
happy sexually
one and only (and not
23
home
at home
at
alone or on the road alone travelling for weeks at a

time),
no woman can seduce him.
You're going to find out what you can do to absolutely

guarantee to keep him un-bored and sexually stimulated, satisfied,
and
faithful to
you
2
What Every Man
Looking For
You
can't seduce a sexually satisfied married
Is
man
you can't break up a sexually exciting marriage.
Everybody
is
looking for the same thing
love and to stay in love. Not to say that
of
this.
Men
attractions,
men
to fall in
are
aware
are usually only aware of sex, sexual
and sexual feelings; most just don't know
that falling in love
always
starts as
a sexual attraction,
and the sexual pull must be there or he can't and won't

fall in love.
is
And
exciting for
only
him
if
will
the sex (or the promise of
it)
he keep the relationship going
which thereby gives love a chance
to happen.
Now when a man falls in love, that guarantees sexual

excitement for him.
As long
as he's in love, he'll stay
sexually excited and as long as he's sexually excited,

he'll stay in love.
If a
woman (from a
co-worker) who cares for
wife would realize that any
mistress to an affair-ee to a
What Every Man
Is
Looking For
25^
man and who's sexy and pleases that man, works at

it. Any woman who seduces a wife's husband (who
a
what
signalled that he could be had), focuses on
make him
Why
the
is
really
will
happy sexually and then she does
woman who
doesn't a
same focusing?
"My
it.
loves her husband do
me"
wife doesn't understand
not a cliche or a joke. She really doesn't understand
her husband's sexual needs.

so foolish to just assume (because you feel his
It's
love) that your husband loves
know
he'll
you so much
you
that
What complacency! What
never leave you.
arrogance!
Of
yourself to
become so complacent
course he loves you, but

that
you allow
if
you get too sure
of him, you might be surprised (shocked?) to find he's

secretly
been looking for some excitement.
The one
absolutely, positively infallible
his life with
you exciting
sex so exciting to
"do" him
to
him
to
sexually. If you've
is
that
way
he can't wait
to
keep
made
have you
again, he's not going to be giving off signals
any hot tamales in his workplace that he's not sexually
tied to
someone
at
home.
Women always blame the
'
you can't seduce a sexually
'other woman,' but again,

'
satisfied
married man.
you are a great cook and make a good breakfast
him every morning, whip up

every night,
make
If
for
great delicious dinners
sure his clothes are always washed,
cleaned, and pressed, keep the house looking neat and

clean,
keep yourself spiffy-looking
at all times, take
26
really
good care of the
kids,
and
him always know
let
you love him with hugs and kisses, but
him get bored
let
with you sexually, you're in for some trouble.
Of course he
be vulnerable
may
or
may
loves you, he loves you a
any and
to
make
not
the
lot,
hot-looking babes
all
first
move.
If he's
excitement, he probably will give off the
and you can't blame her for responding

If
but he'll
open for
first
signals
to his cues.
he does fool around and you find out about
will probably
who
be a shock to you and you'll
it,
it
feel sick
You may even be so upset you'll ask for a

divorce. Unfaithfulness is many times the end of the trust
about
it.
in a relationship
And
woman
and leads
of course the sex
end of the marriage.
to the
may be
so great with the
he's cheating with that he's willing to give up
everything he loves to keep the sexual excitement she

brings to
I
knew
him going on every day of

a
man many
years ago
his life.
who
travelled a lot to
Chicago on business, and one night he brought a
woman
he'd just met back to his hotel room. In the middle of

the night the
phone rang and the woman,
haze, answered
New
up.
it.
It
was
the
in her sleepy
man's wife
calling
from
York, and the wife was so shocked that she hung
He
got the hotel operator
asking for him, so he
and he knew for sure
knew he was
knew
who
said
for sure
it
it
was a woman
was
his wife,
that his wife, a very smart cookie,
cheating.
What Every Man
He
called her
back and
wrong room, but she

and not
come
to
told
Is
Looking For
27
tried to tell her she got the
him
their
marriage was over
back. She said she would pack
all his
belongings and ship them wherever he wanted, but she
He was
never wanted to see him again.
asked the
out the
woman
first
he called the
to leave,
so upset he
airline to find
plane the next morning back to
New
York,
he packed, checked out and went directly to the Chicago

airport.
From
the airport at dawn, he called several
business associates and
emergency and had

and would
When
call
He
to cancel that day's
them from
New York
told
me
let
him
in.
later that day.
He begged
to himself.
all
her, but
the
no
he got semi-hysterical and was physi-
cally sick with remorse for having
and
appointments
he got home, she had the chains on
doors and wouldn't

soap.
messages saying he had an
left
She
told
done
this to his
wife
him she wanted a divorce and
never wanted to see him again.
He
finally
moved
into a hotel later that
barded her with phone
calls (this
day and bom-
was before everybody
had answering machines). He said he was so distraught

he couldn't eat or do business.
After several weeks (and he lost twenty-three pounds)
she agreed to have dinner out with him to discuss the

divorce. Because he felt he couldn't live without her,
he convinced her of his great love and asked her to

forgive him.
He swore
it
would never happen again
28
because he would never go anywhere without her.

said that he looked so haggard
pity
and sick
on him and said she wanted
Finally she took
many
years,
Angeles
him back and he kept
and then one night
rather unattractive
lot to
at
woman
his
it.
word and
didn't see
him
to his wife, a
(looks don't have an awful
do with a strong sexual hold), and they looked
very happy together. The next day he called and
me in on what had happened
since
decided to change their lives
Los Angeles
and
his
attention to
him
He
filled
saw him. They
so they
moved
to
went back together and
said she started to
pay a
lot
sexually than she ever did before,
that their marriage got
one
I last
totally,
right after they
then sold their house.
more
for
a restaurant in Los
saw him. He introduced me
that she took
to think about
never travelled again without her.
He
much
stronger because of
fling.
A woman
friend of mine, married for over thirty
years (and happily she thought),
husband
at
was looking
for her
a party. Told he stepped outside for some
him and found him in a parked

car necking with a girlfriend of hers. She was shattered,
but because they were both Catholics, she forgave him
air,
she went looking for
and
tried to forget
it.
She
tearfully
asked
me why would
he do that when they love each other so much and for

so long?
some
considered not telling her the truth, but after
thought,
decided
had
to.
What Every Man
Is
Looking For
29
"Because sex with you had become so boring,"
When
told her.
was exciting
told
me
asked her when was the
for her, she couldn't
last
time sex
even remember. She
she never had an orgasm with what she called
"regular sex," but she proudly said she never faked

I
it.
asked her what she did and she said she just laid there.
"Boy,
that
must be exciting
for
him,"
I said.
She'd
never thought about her boredom boring the bejeesus

out of her husband. She thought that just "putting
it
in" was exciting enough for him.

I told
her there's gotta btfun in sex, the same kind
of fun you have
when you
game like
bored when
play an exciting
You never get

when you make sex
charades or tennis or poker.

you're having fun, so
fun, your
partner will never be bored, and neither will you, and
when he's really turned on by you, after you've given

him the greatest orgasm he's ever had, you'd be amazed
what he'll do to make sex incredible for you!
Why are games fun? Because everything is a surprise.

With charades, you have no idea what
the person
is
going to act out; with tennis, you don't have a clue
where your opponent
is
going to
poker (or any card game including
know what
card
is
coming up
and with
hit the ball;

solitaire),
you don't
next. Surprises are not
only fun, they're exciting.
So
to
make
surprise her
sex exciting,
told her she'd
husband and take charge of
his
have
body
to
30
really take charge of
it
and
think of things that would
him wild and crazy and insane

coming up!).
drive
She
me
told
later
let
that
had always been
mar-
in charge of everything in their
seemed
to love
it,
but
went crazy! In
fact,
often, that's
how much he
liked
She said he began
to relax
when she took over
he wanted her to do
it
it.
more with not having
to
And sex was definitely

anymore. She had so much fun with his
be The Big Boss

not boring
the time.
all
passivity and her taking charge of his

to the point of climax
really is a sign of
Again, a
man
him
than his wife.
It just
fall in
woman
prettier than his wife. It's
until
she decided
it
was
his orgasm.
does not
his wife for another
body and exciting
and then stopping (which
POWER!)
the right time to give
tier
he became totally
the years of their marriage he
all
sexually, he
him
she
her do whatever she wanted. The part that
shocked her was that in
riage and
bed (Chapter 9
shocked when
he was
announced she was taking charge,

passive and
in
love with and leave
because she
because she
is
is
younger or
more
exciting
happens that she's sometimes
pret-
and sometimes younger, because usually younger
people are more receptive to

to try
new
things,
Married
women
security.
"I
and
that
new
ideas,
more
makes them more
willing
exciting.
often are lulled into a false sense of
know he
loves
me
and the kids and
he'll
What Every Man
Is
Looking For
never leave us." But the truth
is
on her husband. All she
about
talks
3/
she's stopped focusing

is
the kids or local
gossip or things only interesting to her, and he's bored
be bored too
to him.
if
And
it,
she would
hubby talked about things only
interesting
out of his skull.
The reason
if
wifey thought about
she's not bored with
him (and
hey,
may be bored) is that he's living an exciting life,

thinking new and exciting thoughts, and meeting lots of
new and exciting people. And one of those exciting people
is HER. Her age is irrelevant to him. She could be older
she
than he, she could be his age, or she could be younger.
But she
is
always exciting to him. Their conversation
exciting, she's
on the same
sometimes thinks and
level as he,
is
whereas wifey
acts (and feels!) like he's the star
of the family and she's just a supporting player.
When I was down in Australia in 1992 with HOW

TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY TIME ...and have
her beg for more!,
a
read an excerpt in a magazine of
book by Noelene Hogan who was married
Hogan and was now his ex-wife.

Crocodile Dundee you know how
and he had fallen
ski,
to
in love with
you saw the film
charismatic Paul
is,
an actress, Linda Kozlow-
divorced Noelene and married Linda,
who happened
be younger and more beautiful than his wife. But
after reading part of

I
If
to Paul
can understand
Noelene' s book in the magazine,
why he
left.
Noelene
is
very sweet,
unassuming, pretty, but with zero self-esteem.
32
Paul had a habit of not introducing

I
would stand
there like a lily
feel totally insignificant. I

I
met
Stuart Wagstoff.
me
on a
remember
He and
to people.
dirt
the
bin and
time
first
Paul were chatting
away and yours truly was standing there not having

been introduced.
uncomfortable but
so
I just
to all this
show
stood quietly by. Finally Stuart said:
bled I was.
looked
at the floor
and
'
biz,
'Are
mum-
When I looked up again Paul and Stuart
had moved
it
was new
you Mrs. Hogan?"
Now
could see Stuart was slightly
off.
might appear
you must remember
that Paul
was mean
that people accept
you at your own
evaluation. If a wife sees herself as a timid
who has no value but the love she feels
to her, but
little
nothing
for her husband,
her husband isn't going to value her either. Throughout

their marriage,
he was the king and she was the serf
100 percent of the time. That cannot ever work! The

excerpt
was
full
cally telling her
of put-downs like her husband sarcasti-
how
pretty she looked as she scrubbed
the floors in old clothes and her hair in curlers.
"Gone
certain point she says
wife," but alas,
it's
too
Several years ago
is
the timid
little
At a
house-
late.
went looking for a houseboat.
Ever since I was a kid and was crazy about Huey, Dewey
and Louie, Donald Duck's three nephews,
dreamed
of living on a houseboat. They were on a houseboat and
What Every Man

the fun never stopped, so
some day I'll have
up,
I
looked and
one
in Australia
was looking
Then
even went
York
grown
get
Over the years

I
went
to
sailboats, but not
one of what
for.
found out why. After finding a boat dealer
Long
to
Island in
in
New
to see a houseboat, the dealer said that the reason
anyplace on
box
sitting
forty-foot
there
33
and there wasn't even one houseboat.
no one wants a houseboat anymore
shows.
to boat
Yellow Pages and going out
the
"when
thought
a houseboat too!"
Hundreds of yachts and

I
Looking For
Is
it.
There's no motor on
on
it
which you
motor yacht
that
and you could travel on
it
it,
live in.
was
were different levels
is
(a
like a
that
you can't go
it's
a barge with
He showed me
houseboat except
houseboat cabin
on water
to
is flat)
almost anywhere
you wanted.
I
then changed
would be
lot
terrific,
my mind
and decided a motor yacht
but I'd have to wait 'cause they're a
more expensive. The dealer
see just one

look.
Wow!
more moored
It
told
at the
was fabulous.
me
he'd like
marina, so
me
to
took a
Fifty feet with everything
a person could ever want on a boat. Unfortunately

didn't have
enough money, but
it's
definitely in the
future.
The fellow who owned the fifty-footer was very warm

and personable and through our several-hours
told
me
about himself.
two grown
sons.
When
He
visit,
he
used to be married and has
he and his wife divorced a few
34
years ago, he'd bought this boat (he'd loved boats since
he was a kid) and lived on
it
ever since.
a girlfriend and he said she was in her
He
said he
had
thirties (he
was
and he said
in his fifties). I asked about his ex-wife,
he's crazy about her and goes
down
to
Key West on
his boat to see her several times a year. I said

like
you
still
it
love her and he said yes, he loves her as
much
a friend, and they have so
in
common
too, but
he doesn't want to be married to her because the

he
now
I
dates
looks
is
asked him
woman
very sexy.
if
he had a
lot in
common
with her too,
and he said no, hardly anything, but the sex was great. He
said she didn't like boats or water (which he obviously
adored) and even more importantly, she didn't like animals.
He had
a Persian
cat,
only adorable but brilliant
Michelangelo,
who was
he taught himself
not
to turn
a door knob with his two paws and get into any of the
cabins.
The owner showed me by closing
the stateroom
door and in about twenty seconds Mikey opened
walked
in.
like cats,
Mikey knew
that this
and one night he peed
expensive shoes. Very smart
Now
who
man's
asked him
how
and
it
girlfriend didn't
right in
one of her
cat!
could he be with a
woman
hates cats, boats, and water, the three things he
loves the most, and he said,
everything."
And it does,
"Her
lovin'
makes up
for
unfortunately (or fortunately,
depending on your viewpoint). Millions of people get

married because of sexual attraction, and
when
that
What Every Man

wears
let it
off, as
wear
it
off,
Is
Looking For
almost always does because most people

they find they have nothing in
and go looking for another sexual
You wouldn't
take a lifetime job you're not suited
very similar to marrying someone
on but with
whom
and
dislikes,
both of you learn
marry
how
till
office, but
who
turns
you
common.
you find someone
you have nothing
What you should do is wait

who has the same values, same
likes
common,
attraction.
you love the looks of the
for just because

it's
35
else in
sense of humor, same
that person
to satisfy a
and make sure
man/woman
that
every
time and have him/her beg for more!
Those are the marriages that will last a happy lifetime
To make
get up early, rush to
make
stay late to finish a job, put
their tails off.
They
sure they're not late, spend
on
eight hours a day focusing
ies,
work
a living, people
their duties,
sometimes
up with job-related jealous-
back-biting, catering to the boss
all to
make
buck.
Now
you have your marriage, which
But few of us ever
treat
treat a job. In marriage,
the other person to

just see
how
silly
compare marriage
the
it
we
is
with the same respect
and foolish
same energies on our
we
usually expect (and want)
do most of the work.
to work),
a love-job.
that is (and
we might be
relationships as
If
we
we
could
can
if
we
able to focus
we do on
our
jobs.
At
the office
do we not expect each person
to clean
36
up the kitchen/dining area
after he/she uses it? I've seen
enough signs around demanding

don't
up or
that slobs clean
come back! But how many of us leave the kitchen/
bathroom/bedroom
mess and expect spouse-o
in a
we make an effort
even when we don't feel
be
to
the servant? Don't
at the office to
be pleasant
terrific?
But
at
home we feel free to snarl, be rude, be selfish

we wouldn't and couldn't get away with at the
office.
Probably the third time you snarled
you'd
be
fired,
and you know
believe the reason so
value each other more

great after a
is
make an effort to
long way at home.
so you
that,
be nice. That same effort will go a

I
at the boss,
things
many married people
don't
because sex becomes less than
few months and years of marriage.
When
the sexual excitement goes, so does the need for sex
with that person go. The respect comes back
need
and
returns,
asserts his/her
the
happens when your beloved
power over you with sex so
you again can't
A woman
that
when
live without
exciting that
it.
absolutely can keep her husband faithful,
keep him from
cattin'
around, and keep
sex with her and only her throughout his
him wanting
life.
Would you ever think of cheating on your guy, the

man you love and are married to, if he knew exactly
which buttons
were
'
to
in charge of
'a little to
push
to turn
you on sexually?
If
he
your body and you never had to say
the right, honey,"
'
'not so hard, sweetheart,"
What Every Man

and he was able
he wanted
to,
would you ever think of another man?
my
way
nique, a
to
'
'faithfulness
will begin to understand
credo"
is
& physical tech-
work your husband's body and pleasure
it
so intensely that he'll want
it
to him.
it
as often as you'll give
Another part of my 'faithfulness credo'

'
logical technique, a
he will
of
is
a psycho-
literally captivating (captur-
that for
you
capture
him you
will let
to continue being his captor,
to capture
Nothing
be your captive.
literally
And once you

how
way
'
him so intensely in the mental and emotional realm
ing?)
that
37
make you have an orgasm whenever
to
As you read my book you

that part of
Looking For
Is
you
(that's
my
in life or marriage
him know
he has to learn
other marriage manual!).
can be one-sided.
If things
aren't fair, they don't work.
Now
the
you probably noticed
in the
above
that
word "work," but even though some work
cult,
other kinds of
much
work
used
is diffi-
are not only easy, they're so
fun that you wouldn't even think of them as
"work."
When you
back
is
give great pleasure to someone, the feed-
so immediate and intense that you will receive
mental and emotional pleasure.
When
you're in charge
of a project (decorating your home, planning a party,

capturing your husband sexually), the feeling of power
that you're not only
doing the job, you're succeeding
38
fabulously in
it
(your
home
a smash, and your husband

for sexual excitement
and
obviously
if
gorgeous, the party was
is totally
dependent on you
satisfaction) is the headiest
kind of self-confidence that
Now
is
exists.
you're married to someone
whom
you no longer love or who no longer loves you (and

it's
irretrievably over because drug addiction, violence,
serious character flaws, a
new awareness of having no
basic compatibility, a realization that she doesn't really
love you anymore,

get out as soon as
This book
is
etc.,
you
are present), then
you should
can.
for wives
who truly
love their husbands,
love making love to them, and want to keep them faithful

forever
Why Some Men

Kinky
Sex
Get
If
into
you're not in love, sex can
physical experience.
An orgasm
still
but not
excitement beyond physical pleasure.
how do you
ual surrender, and
much
real
An orgasm is sex-
totally surrender to a
who's no longer loving, or someone
stranger, or a wife
you don't think
be a feel-great
is terrific
enough
to fall in love with?
Now some men are afraid of love, afraid to surrender

to a
woman
any
woman
and
these are the
men who
frequent prostitutes. Just pay the money, take off your

clothes and let her
A man
"do"
you.
can be married and have live kids and
be afraid of the surrender that being
in love
still
demands.
When a man's not in love, he needs much more stimulus

to
have an orgasm.
guy can be
in like
with his wife,
love her dearly, but not be in love, with the accompa-
nying great sexual attraction that goes with romance.
So he cheats on her and gets the temporary excitement
40
new
new body and maybe his stimulus

is his imagination with this new body, and that does it.
Maybe he wants to be spanked or maybe he wants to
of a
face and a
do the spanking.
When
needed
love
to
is
make
missing, lots of "incidentals" are

the sex exciting.
Sometimes pain
is
And it can start out solely imaginavelvet whip. You can only imagine
needed as a stimulus.
tive pain, as with a
the humiliation of having the velvet hit your flesh,
because there won't be any pain.
But as time goes on, the velvet whip loses

ment. Real pain
to
excite-
stimulate the sexual
A man will seek out real whips and a woman
response.
who's into
to
needed
is
its
S&M,
and the pain must gradually increase
keep sex exciting.
Without love, there

and
dirtier
is
few years ago when

all
be a romance), he told
heard
it,
To look
more pain
magazines and tighter chains.
biggest radio stars of
hair,
a constant need for
was turned
at
very handsome
started dating
one of the
time (and he was hoping we'd
me
off,
him you'd
his turn-on.
but
think
As soon
as
we did remain friends.

macho tall, dark wavy
hut he was
into submission to a
female dominatrix. His fantasy was crawling on his
hands and knees toward his woman/master and grovelling at her feet.
And
that's all
he wanted to do, he
did not want to reverse roles or do anything else but

grovel.
Why Some Men Get
into
Kinky Sex
4i
This guy, so charming and so successful but so unable

to give real love, could only
putting
woman
be excited by a
him down. He had been married and had
daughter, and he truly broke his wife's heart. She loved
him so much but
he, for
whatever reason, was unable
He craved humiliation and was

got it. He never told his wife about
to deeply love her back.
when he
his sexual needs, maybe because he didn't think she
could dominate him because she loved him so much,
or maybe he was afraid or embarrassed to tell her, but
only happy
a shame, because every
it's
woman
could play out
this
maybe if she had known and made it like a

game, just maybe he could have again been sexually
excited by her and stayed with her, and maybe she who
loved him dearly could have gotten him to try some
scene, and
other sexual games.
Another man, one of the biggest

all
political
tycoons of
times was also the head of an American political
dynasty.
men
He was one of the wealthiest and most powerful
in this country,
and he was also a sexual
But he had enough money

pay a show
girl at the
the late 1930s an
him
to beat her
a suite in a
cover up his sadism, to
Latin Quarter in
enormous sum so
New York
that she
up frequently. He also paid her
New York midtown
and during each

that
to
visit
he
sadist.
in
allowed
rent for
hotel for several years,
inflicted so
much
he had to have a nurse stay with her
injury
on her
in the
for several days after he physically abused her.
room
42
woman was a friend of a close friend

told him how this sadistic man would
This particular
of mine and she
punch her and beat her up, and one day

in the hotel
and saw
this
my
man emerge from
friend
was
the elevator
and walk through the lobby with a hat on, overcoat

and a
collar up,
false
nose (a false nose!!!). Just from
my reading knowledge of him with his large and famous

family, and particularly with his long-suffering religious
wife,
it
was
pretty apparent that
he was incapable of
real love.
He
also
had a long-time
and she told

dealings.
stories of his cruelty
My
after years of
the
her.
affair
favorite story
with a famous actress
and dishonest financial
was when he dumped her
being together, and then stole some of
money back from
her that he had previously given
Whattaguy!
Can
gentle,
a person be loving and cruel?
and sadistic?
and be a
Can you be
tender,
A person can act the loving virtues
tyrant, but real love displaces
any and
all
cruelty.
One
great
of the giants of the Big
band and dozens of
divorced several times.

aberrations,
his
Band
hit records,
Era,
who had
was married and
He had some
strange sexual
one of which was giving dinner
home, and as the guests
ate at the large
parties at
and long
dining table, he had a girl under the table doing him
while everyone
ate.
When
she was finished she'd crawl
out and of course everyone was shocked (he laughed
Why Some Men Get
into
and he got a reputation with those
and loved
it),
knew him
well as a very kinky cat
Many
43
Kinky Sex
times those
men who
who
are extraordinarily rich
or famous or both have sex thrown at them by "group-
ies"
who
man
does not have incredible sex
dozens of
larly
are eager to
women
when
a different
than one!).
go
to
it's
home, and has
at
throwing themselves
he's travelling),
When
bed with them.
at
him
(particu-
so easy to have sex with
woman every night (and many times more

And lots of these groupies will do wild and
crazy things, and a man, not earing a whit for any of

these
women, could
easily get into kinky stuff.
Some men get their kicks with a menage a trois

two women and a man interacting. Or some men want
to just watch two women make love, or watch another
man and woman make love. Or participate in an orgy
where everyone
everyone
else.
is
Besides the obvious disease possibility
(probability?), the
emotionally.
love.
They
sucking and intercoursing with
They
men needing
this are constricted
are not able to give or receive real
are only seeking physical pleasure, and with
love out of the picture, a lot of mental stimulation
needed
to get
it
up. Pain, humiliation, animals,
is
and
punishment are just some of the mental 'naughty things

'
you're not supposed to

ing.
Why
do"
that are temporarily excit-
would a man need two or more women when
he only has one penis?
know
there are other things
he and they could do, but the bottom
line is the
orgasm
44
happens with his penis, and the
more women,
enough so
etc.) is
only to
his penis will
rest
make
of
it
(the
two or
sure he gets excited
orgasm (which would happen
automatically and with the ultimate pleasure
if
he were
in love).
But what
if
he's depressed because of a repressed
childhood with his mother and father, or his church's

teachings, or
someone who got
tive impact, frightening
to
him emotionally?
spiritual
whammy of physical,
If he's not
woman and
able to open up totally to one
quadruple
him with some negafeel that
mental, emotional, and
soul-mating that this kind of total ecstasy
brings, he
would be wise
to seek counseling to get to
the root of his inability to love and be loved.
Sex without love

ily exciting
and soul and
It
may be temporar-
feel better
by getting
and releasing endorphins, but the mind

spirit are
and of itself;
lation,
not fulfilling.
and make the body
rid of tension
in
is
it
empty. Kinky sex never grows
always needs more and stronger stimu-
whereas sex with love (naturally where both
spouses have orgasms) always grows more exciting just
because of the love.
As men
get older and dissipate through drinking,
smoking, eating too

too
little
many
rich
and junky foods, having
exercise, or all the above, the wonderful sex
diminishes because their bodies diminish. So physically

they
may need more and more
stimulation. Playboy
Why Some Men Get
into
45
Kinky Sex
centerfolds, Penthouse pictorials, Screw, porno flicks,

etc.
It's
grow
a sad but true fact that as most of us mature and

older, our bodies
the better.
Most
get
change and sometimes not for
weaker as we age, but some of us
who work at it get better as we get older. If we never took

care of our bodies in our youth, if we never exercised and
we ate lots of junky foods, we went downhill. Then, as
we start recognizing that our bodies are starting to fail
us as we grow older, we start to exercise and really
make an effort to keep out sugar, booze, cigs, caffeine,
etc., we can get stronger, our skin can get "juicier,"
and we can look and feel much younger.
But for those who do not treat their bodies as temples
of God, their sex drives start to slow down. And it takes
more and more stimulation to be aroused and to orgasm.
There are many reasons for
circulation.
Of
your blood
isn't
course
this.
One
is
a person's
an individual thing, but
it's
flowing as easily as
it
if
once did because
now you have excess cholesterol and plaque taking up

a lot of room in your veins and arteries, or your heart
isn't
pumping
as strongly as
it
once
did,
your penis will
not engorge with blood and get as rigid as
And even though
the desire
doesn't respond to sexual

logically feel that
So
all
may be
it
used
there, if the
to.
body
commands, a person might
more mental
stimulation
is
needed.
kinds of fantasies run through your mind, and
46
maybe some very kinky thoughts are included in the

hope that maybe the wilder the kinks are, the faster the
erection will happen. But when your body is not in great
shape, Marilyn Monroe could come back in person nude
at
her most gorgeous time of
happen
to
your penis. But
if
thinking about a nude female
life,
and nothing
your body
body
is
will
healthy, just
will arouse you,
and
your penis will respond to your sexual desires without
any outside prodding necessary (see Chapter 7
re:
ginkgo biloba, vitamin E, and
CoQIO which
help your heart and circulation
and no matter what
your age,
it's
never too
The bottom
healthy, that's
erections are the
woman
late to start!).
line is that
when sex
most
(and to you!).
is
when your body
the
and satisfying
rigid
And
if
you
your
to
stay healthy as
you
become more and more
you and your woman.
But the very most important thing
when you
really
is
most pleasureful and the
get older, sex without kinks can

satisfying for both
will all
truly fall in love,
to
kinky sex
is
know
is
that
replaced by
an overwhelming desire to kiss and hold and make love

in a
normal fashion with your beloved. Because making
love in a normal fashion with your beloved

exciting sex there can and will ever be.
is
the
most
4
The True Sense of
Being In Love
Loving and being "in love" are two completely
dif-
ferent states.
Loving can be compassionate or caring, or both.

Being "in love" can be compassionate and caring,
but
it
must also be sexually
exciting,
which loving does
not have to be.
You can
love your
sister, brother,
mom and dad,
and
your kids, but you can't be "in love" with any of them
unless you have an incestuous relationship.
When you
master, the
are in love, your beloved
"one who has
you (Webster's
masochism
dictionary).
the
your sexual
power of controlling"
Being
in love is a
To
be
for both parties.
feel like a love slave
is
truly
powerless
in the
touch of
in love is to
hands of your
beloved.
But this power over you is something you consciously

and willingly give
to
your beloved. She does not make
48
you make yourself her
you her slave
slave. Willingly
and happily.
Because someone is your sexual master doesn't mean

that the person is necessarily
aware of
this.
Remember
you have made her your master through your imagination
and your innate desire
Because you
feel
to
have a sexual master.
you don't want
sexual master you get married. At

great and your sexual master turns
at the
to live without
first
you
married
on.
beginning because in your mind she
is
Sex
your
life is
is
great
your sexual
master and definitely in charge of your body. She
is
goddess and you are in awe of her hold on you. She

has incredible sexual powers that she uses with you,
and you love the feeling of being under her power.
It
makes you super-sexy.

Because she's not aware
ter,
is
that she's
she thinks the power she senses she has over you
just the strong love she feels
that
your sexual mas-
you want
to
make
from you
love often. She
and
the fact
knows you need
her body.
But she's wrong. You don't need her body. There

are millions of female bodies in the world, dozens in
your world, and you're not interested in only a body.
You want someone

not your
life,
your body.
on.
to take charge of
not your mind, not your
You want a
And because
your body
money but
sexual master. That's the turn-
she's not aware of this, she can't
understand why, after a while, you're not as sexy
The True Sense of Being In Love
49
around her as you once were. She senses you're getting

bored, but she doesn't
All you
know
know why. And
you
is
make
don't want to
Once
man
has
her you're
start telling
you've been working hard

love as
made
all
his
body and soul
And once you
let
tired,
day, and you honestly
much
as
you used
to.
body
the decision that your
and soul are the only body and soul
merge
neither do you.
with, he
that
is in
he wants to
love.
him down and don't keep
body
his
and soul excited with the promise of great body-andsoul-exploding sex on a constant basis, he will
make
the decision (consciously or unconsciously) to fall out
of love with you.
He
will probably
still
love you
if
you
still
love him,
but he won't be "in love" with you anymore.
Maybe he
abilities,
will
still
love your soul, your mothering
your personality, your sweetness, and maybe
even your brain.
He
will
still
need your help
fortable, cleaning
life.
That
is,
woman who
up
after
in
him
until
sexually.
he won't need you anymore.

you're not too angry and
if
feel
com-
him, your presence in his
he will need you

excites
making him
He
he finds another
When
will
that happens,
still
you allow him
love you
to
still
if
love
you.
But he won't
still
be
in love
with you.
Think of people you know who are
Now
really in love.
think of famous people you've read about
who
50
have stayed
What do
in love with the
they have in
same person
common? What's
all their lives.
different about
them?
Bess and Harry Truman
Georgiana and Ricardo Montalban

Clark Gable and Carole Lombard
Alma and
Colin Powell
Betsy and Walter Cronkite
Helen Gurley Brown and David Brown

Lydia and Charlton Heston
Renee Taylor and Joe Bologna

Veronique and Gregory Peck
Nancy and Ronald Reagan

Gloria and
Ellin
Jimmy
Stewart
and Irving Berlin
All these couples are (or were) together and in love

for their lifetimes.
Why have they stayed in love? What do (or did) they

as couples all have in
clearly looked
up
to
common?
First,
and respected the
each partner
other.
Harry, a very strong person, always called Bess The
Boss when talking about
her,
and for the President of
the United States to put his wife
on
shows the kind of respect he had
that
kind of pedestal
for her.
Clark and Carole weren't married a long time when

she died in a plane crash during World
War II,
but I've

always
thin.
felt
they would have lasted through thick and
She called him "The King" and he always said
made him feel like

don't know about
she
I
51_
one.
the intimate details of the sex
lives of these people, but I'd bet a
bundle they enjoy
You just know

bed partners. And I have
or enjoyed sex a lot with each other.
Renee and Joe
that
my own
are lusty
private visions of Harry (a rather small
man)
just losing himself literally with his beloved Bess (a
woman) when
very big
they went to bed.
I'd bet another bundle that
now and have always had an

'cause Helen
life
sex in
all
is
Helen and David have

active and exciting sex
super-aware of the importance of
of our lives, and she's written about
it
in the
books she's penned.

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my mind
her husband, bringing her
fies
that she sexually satis-
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day
to
(aka
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to sex in her marriage.
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all
have or had wonderfully happy and
successful marriages which lasted
all their lives.
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either part.
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years without sex being a strong part of that mar-
riage?
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get on each other's nerves and
tension and friction that the union
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could never
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last.
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that's
where sex comes
and creates a pleasure bond
and will carry two people through

and keep the sparks of love
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the
most beautiful
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girl in the
world, and
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I'll
show
of fucking her.
tired
my
woman is
passive as she's made love to, boredom soon sets in. No
matter what she looks like, how old she is, how much a
man loves her. Passivity is boring. Once a woman learns
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to
whole point of
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book. If a
be actively involved, she can hold her guy
as long as that marriage lasts.
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are not aware of
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why
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really
because sex
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at a
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me,"
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that the
woman's
or actually
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so boring at home.
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breasts, touching her
saying that sex
wives the
wives never find out that they're cheating
this, their
the truth
they are cheating,
to tell their
women they had the affair with.
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she remains sexually
will eventually cheat.
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the
in thrall for
is
not big-time for
making
the
first
arm
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(staring
as he's talking,
him anymore,
etc.),
move.
have had dozens of married men make a play for
me, and
own way,
never came on to them

let
me know
first.
Each one,
in his
he wanted to have an
affair. I
how many
married
used to get very distressed to see
men were obviously unhappy and wanted to fool around.
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At that time I didn't understand how utterly important

sexual excitement was to a man, and
wanted
to see happily
around.
wanted
to
married
know
that
were very few. The only time

married
man was many
was married.
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desperately
men who
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possible, but there
years ago, and
my
asked him to
come on to a
didn't know he
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house and he declined,
me he was married. I was so happy I found a

married man who was faithful, but I was ignorant then
telling
because
thought it
I
thought
men
all just started
cheated just to be cheating.
with them wanting to fool around.
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and wiser,
made
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sure he
no reason
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keeping their marriage going, and he said
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and effect.
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to start the
riage better, and if the
work of making
woman
starts to
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make
the sex
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make
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magazine and
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me
started asking
I
him
told
men and sex. When

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questions about
was just
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and have him beg for more! our
discussion got very animated. Every statement he threw

at
me
had covered. He said many
they love a man, that's
and
of course brought up
Then he
said that
try to barter
me
him
feel that their
faithful,
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husbands
women
again
should be enough to keep their hus-
faithful. It
was a very
because he verified
all
exciting discus-
the things that
were misunderstood by the majority
instinctively felt
women.
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said that
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going to
feel that if
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with them for sex, and these
bands happy and

sion for
takes to keep
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and have him beg for more! was

be more important than my HOW TO SATISFY
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more!, and here we disagreed. He said (and correctly)
that because a man orgasms so easily, women think
that's all that's important to him. I
agreed that just
having an orgasm doesn't necessarily make exciting

sex, but
isn't
pointed out that even though having an orgasm
always exciting,
orgasm.
And
it's
better than never having an
there are millions of
women who
have
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never had an orgasm, or have hardly ever had one. So
because of
their
this difference,
showing men how
wives orgasm every time
keeping a marriage happy. So
is
I
to
make
urgently important to
believe the two books
are equally important.
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husbands
to their
riage,
and
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people
is
women how
keep sex exciting
happy mar-
just as important to a
why
that's
to
I've written this book.
of the most important parts of sex between two
who
love each other
is
to
have fun,
to
make
it
a game.
You notice how games keep kids from getting bored?

If you're
going on a long car
some games
trip,
you
start
keep them occupied mentally before
to
they start complaining and kvetching about

longer,"
planning
"Why
is
so long,"
it
"When
'
'How much
will
we
get
there," etc.
Mothers do
all
kinds of things to keep their kids from
getting bored but they think their adult husbands are
beyond having
to
your relationship
he
is
starts
keep
interested.
starts getting boring, that's the
looking around.
getting boring,
thrilling to
Wrong! The minute
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you can bet
Naura's credo:
Love
Sex
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is
relationship
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always a game!
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The bottom line to mutually exciting sex is
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to
become
each other's sexual slave and each other's sexual master,
and
have fun with
to
At one sexual
it.
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slave and the husband
wife
is
is
the sexual
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then
the sexual slave and the
the sexual master.
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husband
body.
the sexual master.
is
husband
the next time the
may be
the wife is the sexual slave she allows her

to
He
be the sexual master and take control of her
is totally
until she is half
he wants
in charge
and will tease her body
mad with desire and then, when he feels
to, will
make
her have an orgasm. (See
TO SATISFY A WOMAN.)
When the husband is the
HOW
sexual slave he allows his
wife to be the sexual master and take control of his
body. She will be totally in charge and will tease his
body
until his penis is throbbing,
decides (and only
and she wants
to
when she
do
orgasm. (See Chapter

This
is
woman
it,
and then when she
decides)
she will
it's
the right time
make him have an
9.)
the biggest turn-on to every
every
your sexual body
to lose control over
have the person you love and
man and
trust totally control
to
you
sexually.
And when you have

think of sex with
made you
a sexual master, you will never
someone
a sexual slave
Your sexual master has

and when your sexual master
else.
makes you have an orgasm,
that is the ultimate pleasure,
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the
same
feeling as
when you
first fell
beloved was your sexual master.
in love
You
and
that
weren't aware
your beloved was your master, but she was.
And he
was.
So now you're aware of becoming a sexual
slave,
and that will make your sexual pleasure exciting as long

as your beloved continues being your sexual master.
And
of course you must also continue being a sexual
master when the roles are reversed.

It's
if
a game.
And
you don't want
it
doesn't have to take a lot of time
it to.
make sucking
can drive him wild
wife wants to
If a
her husband's penis a game, she
with desire by teasing his cock with her tongue for

several minutes, and then
making him orgasm sooner
rather than later.
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real pleasure every single time
isn't this
what each one of us
been looking for
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if
this
is
looking for?
our whole
your mate
is
game? Maybe
and not only in
And
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lives.
is silly
and refuses to
there's a lot of repression there
sex. It could
be from a number of
reasons possibly going back to childhood.

physically not in
love.
not the playful type, thinks
sexual master and sexual slave
play the
you make
Maybe
he's
good health and he could have anxiety
or even depression.
If
he doesn't have any of these problems, he's just
not into fun and games, you'll have to play the
game
by
yourself. All
You can be
ing
it
little
just take charge of his
extra imagination.
even know-
body and
if
he rebels
you stop your lovemaking. Eventually (very
soon) he'll get the idea.

the
is
his master sexually without his
you
(the fool!),
takes
it
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game because
won't get any.
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he'll find out that if
And
don't
negatives ("Stop," "This
let
is
when you've
to") because
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he doesn't, he
him bring you down by
ridiculous," "I don't want
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thing he says will roll off your back because you're the
sexual master
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(if
will find
only in your
it
own
exciting because
begin to realize he
made you
he originally
love with you.
it,
is
mind).
fell in
of course, but that's the
it's reality
his sexual master
reality,
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and
he'll
when
wasn't aware of
all
you're doing
becoming to him what you were originally, the woman
he adored, treated with kid gloves, and wanted

his life with.
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to
spend
who
don't
think of their mates as their sexual masters, and of
course their spouses are only sexual slaves, but these

relationships are sick to begin with
and won't
(can't)
last.
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tions,
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will give
will see the ques-
you the percentages of men who
answered each question either yes, no, or more in depth.
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tell
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you what men

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really
want sexually
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SURVEY OF MARRIED MEN

This
You
is
a survey in which your identity
will not sign
filled
it
it,
and no one
is
anonymous.
know
will ever
that
you
out.
Please be as frank and as completely honest as you can

be.
Your
truthful
answers will help millions of married
realize that they are not alone, that their
men
problems are shared
by millions of other married men.
Thank you
for taking the time to participate in this very
important marriage survey.
NAURA HAYDEN
Author
of:
HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN

EVERY TIME

Soon
to
be published:
HOW
TO SATISFY A MAN
EVERY TIME
.
and have him beg for more!
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SURVEY OF MARRIED MEN
1.
How
long have you been married?
2.
How
old are you?
Month, Date, Year

3.
Are you a
What
religious person?
religion?
4.
How
5.
Have you ever been
6.
7.
If
many
times
have
you
unfaithful
in
been
married?
this
marriage?
you ever cheated on your wife did
unfaithful?
affect
it
your
marriage?
8.
Do you
have
How many
boys?
9.
Does your wife ever use
How
first
10.
often?
time, or did
Do you
How many
children?
girls?
oral sex with
Did she
you?
offer to
do
this the
you ask her to?
have an orgasm every time through oral
sex?
11.
Does your wife ever use her hands

orgasm?
to bring
you
to
12.
Men
65
When you
Have you ever masturbated?

have, do you always have an orgasm?
13.
Do you smoke?
Do you drink?
14.
Do you
How much?
How much?
masturbate
since
How
15.
you've
been
often?
Has sex with your wife ever gotten boring
intercourse
In
17.
What
do
to
you
always
have
an
orgasm?
your favorite way of lovemaking? Mark
is
your favorite way, 2 as second favorite way,
Intercourse
(man on
Intercourse
(woman on
you?
why?
If so,
16.
married?
as
3, etc.
top)
top)
giving
Oral sex
Oral sex
receiving
Other
18.
Do you
love your wife?
Are you
in love with
anyone else besides your wife
now?
19.
Do you
20.
Do you
21.
Do you
like
feel
your wife?
an emotional intimacy with your wife?
use oral sex on your wife?
66
22.

During intercourse, would you prefer
to
be on top or
do you prefer your wife on top?

23.
Do you
feel that affection (hugs, kisses, etc.) is as
important as having an orgasm?

24.
Do
you
feel
your
wife
sexually
is
selfish?
Are you?
25.
How
26.
How
27.
Do you feel your wife is concerned that you are possibly
were you when you
old
when you
old were you
first
first
made love?
had an orgasm?
not sexually satisfied?

28.
Do you
think your wife has ever faked an orgasm with
you?
29.
Do you
think you'd be able to
Do you
think that
tell
if
she were?
some women may be
naturally
"frigid"?
30.
Have you ever wantedto make love but not been
able to
because you couldn't get an erection?

31.
Have
you
ever
lost
an
erection
during
love-
making?
Do you
fatigue?
have
any
idea
why? Alcohol,
Other?
drugs,
Men
67
32.
Do you
Why?
33.
Are your best orgasms during intercourse (you on top)?
think you are a
good lover?
Intercourse (wife on top)?
Masturbation?
Fellatio?
Other?
34.
Do you
35.
Do you
think your penis
is
a good size?
sometimes orgasm too soon
after penetra
tion?
36.
Have you ever gone

Did you enjoy
to a prostitute?
it?
37.
Does pornography
38.
Do you like anal
39.
Do you
like giving
40.
Do you
like stimulating
you on?
turn
stimulation, her fingers or tongue?
your wife oral sex?
your wife's
clitoris
with your
hand?
41.
Have you ever

you
42.
to
Are
ately
told or
make sex
you
shown your wife what
better for
affectionate?
hardly
43. Is your wife affectionate?

ately
hardly
to
do
to
you?
Very
not at
moderall
Very
modernot
at
all
68
44.

Do you
man can be
think a
happily married without
having sex often?

45.
How
46.
Would you
often
would you
like sex?
your wife to give you oral sex every
like
day?
47.
Do you
think
an orgasm as
it's
it is
48.
Do
49.
Do
50.
Are you happier
you
you
just as important for a
think
your
to
have
husband?
for her
consider
woman
yourself
wife
as a married
is
man
married?
happily
happily
married?
or were you happier
single?
51.
What
52.
Would you
about
like
marriage
do
you
like
best?
your wife to take sexual control of your
body?
53.
Would you
like to take sexual control of
your wife's
body?
54.
Would you
other's
55. Is
like taking turns
body?
your wife your best friend?
who
being in charge of each
is?
If not,
56. If
you didn't know your wife and you met her
are today,
57.
Men
Why
would you marry her now?
did you get married?
69
as
you
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ANSWERS TO SURVEY OF MARRIED MEN

1.
How
from 8 mos.
long have you been married?
2
to 57 yrs. (average) 9 A years
2.
How
old are you? from 17 to 86 (average) 341/2 years
Month, Date, Year

3.
Are you a
What
4.
7%
religious person?
religion?
How many
times have you been married?

2
4%
3 or more
X 26%
5.
Have you ever been
X 70%
unfaithful in this marriage?
63%
6.
unfaithful?
97%
7.
If
you ever cheated on your wife, did
it
affect
your
marriage?
72%
8.
Do you
boys?
9.
fj
ow man y
How many
girls?
oral sex with you?

every 5
(average) 1
Does your wife ever use
How
offer to
Do you
do
this the first time, or
12%
her t0?
sex?
often?
Did she
10.
92%
have children?
offered
88%
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did you ask
asked her
have an orgasm every time through oral
37%
11.
Does your wife ever use her hands
Have you ever masturbated?
When
you
Do you
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you've
since
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love your wife?

in love
83%
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with anyone else besides your wife
now?
19.
you?
orgasm?
your favorite way of lovemaking? Mark
Other
18.
to
yes
(woman on
2 Oral sex receiving
(man on
4 Oral sex giving
doggie
1%
3
week
why?
you
married?
(average) once a
your favorite way, 2 as second favorite way,
an
(average) moderately
intercourse
81%
17.
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Has sex with your wife ever gotten boring
82%
16.
have
always
42%
Do you smoke?
1
Do you drink?
P k 97%
100%
15.
to
100%
you
do
have,
How much?
14.
you
to bring
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orgasm:
13.
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orgasm?
12.
Men
like
your wife?
82%
y es
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20.
Do you feel
84% yes
21.
Do you
22.
During intercourse, would you prefer
an emotional intimacy with your wife?
Do you
Do
be on top or
to
94%
feel that affection (hugs, kisses, etc.) is
56%
important as having an orgasm?

24.
yes
wife on top
do you prefer your wife on top?

23.
92%
use oral sex on your wife?
you
feel
your
35%
wife
sexually
is
as
yes
selfish?
30%
Are you?
25.
How
26.
How
27.
Do you feel your wife is concerned that you are possibly

^2%
not sexually satisfied?
28.
Do you
old were you

(average) 17
old were you

(average) 15
42%
Do you think
93% yes
Do you
when you
made
first
love?
had an orgasm?
yes
you'd be able
think that
"frigid"?
30.
first
think your wife has ever faked an orgasm with
yoil 9
29.
when you
87%
to
tell
if
she were?
some women may be
naturally
y es
Have you ever wanted to make love but not been

because you couldn't get an erection?
59%
able to
yes
31.
Have you ever
72%
lost
Men
73
an erection during lovemaking?
yes
Do you have any idea why? Alcohol/drugs,

stress 22%
48% 30%
other?
32.
33.
Do you
Why?
think you are a
Z%
good lover?
always wait
till
fatigue?
satisfy wife
Are your best orgasms during intercourse (you on top)?
47%
Intercourse (wife on top)?
^9%
Fellatio?
5%
Masturbation?
Other?
34.
Do
you
91%
think
yes
your
penis
35.
Do you sometimes orgasm

72% yes
36.
Have you ever gone

Did you enjoy
Does pornography
38.
Do you like
76% yes
39.
Do you like giving

94% yes
40.
Do you
hand?
41.
to
size?
too soon after penetration?
^%
"^%
you on?
turn
85%
yes
your wife oral sex?
like stimulating
10Q%
make
good
anal stimulation, her fingers or tongue?
Have you ever

you
to a prostitute?
it?
37.
is
your wife's
clitoris
with your
y es
told or
shown your wife what
sex better for you?
^%
to
do
to
74
42.

38%
moderately
not at
all
Do you
man can be
often? 13% yes
every day 94%

would you like sex?
3 X week 5%
2 X week 1%
How
46.
Would you like your

100% yes
Hay?
47.
Do you think
often
an orgasm as
you
79%
it's
it
wife to give you oral sex every
just as important for a
is
for her husband?
consider
yes
yourself
49.
Do you
79%
50.
Are you happier
as a married
single? married
92%
51.
happily married without
think a
45.
Do
1%
hardly
all
having sex
48.
67%
Very
32%
moderately
not at
1%
hardly
43. Is your wife affectionate?
44.
^1%
Are you affectionate? Very
think
yes
your
wife
is
man
woman to have
98% yes
happily
happily
married?
married?
or were you happier
yes
What about marriage do you
like best?
companionship, sex often, kids
52.
Would you like your wife to

100% yes
body?
take sexual control of your
53.
Would you like to take

100% y es
body?
54.
Would you
other's
being in charge of each
1Q0% y es
55. Is your wife your best friend?
who
56. If
is?
buddy, male friend
8%
32%
jf not?
you didn't know your wife and you met her as you
are today,
57.
75^
sexual control of your wife's
like taking turns
body?
Men
Why
would you marry her now?
did you get married?
fell in
63%
love
yes
98%
Some Very
Important Male
Health Info
Health
all
is
everyone's most precious possession, and
of us, both males and females, must do everything
in our
power
to stay healthy
energy do go together!).
their bodies
and energetic (health and
Men
have a particular part of
which needs special
attention
and
that is the
prostate. I've researched
and found some extraordinary
natural plants and herbs
which can help males keep an
extra-healthy prostate without drugs.
But before
tell
stances, let's get into
The
external
testicles.
The
of these wonderful natural sub-
male anatomy.
male sex organs are the penis and the
testicles are inside the sac called the scro-
tum. Penises and testicles
come
and shapes, and the only time
man whose
penis
young and
at that
in
many
different sizes
have ever been with a
was unusable was when

time rebellious after
was very
my
religious
schooling that said no sex before marriage, so naturally
Some Very Important Male Health

I
had
to find out as often as I could
was about
ment are
(I
have since agreed
what all the brouhaha
that love
and commit-
the prerequisites for incredible sex).
This particular
man had
was over a
seen.
It
touch
when
of every
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put
my
foot long and
my
man who
the largest penis
hands around
him
ever saw
the truth of the matter
it.
in a
have ever
fingers couldn't
He was
the
envy
men's room, but
was he couldn't have intercourse
woman could ever get it in her mouth

He was extremely good-looking, tall
with anyone and no

or anywhere else.
with dark hair, and very successful as a "garmento"

in the fashion industry in
Los Angeles, but never married
and hardly ever had sex, and

stimulated
that only
when
him with her hands. He was
woman
truly a pathetic
case.
So much
for that old wives' tale!
Back to male anatomy: during an erection,
the spongy
around the penis become engorged with blood
tissues
making
the penis bigger and
muscles in a penis so
it
more
can't be
erect.
made
There are no
bigger by any
kind of exercise.
The head of
the penis
men, particularly the part
is
the
most
sensitive to
that connects the
head
most
to the
shaft.
The
internal sex organs are the testes
which produce
both sperm and testosterone, the male sex hormone. The

vas deferens are the two tubes which extend from the
testes to the prostate,
and the sperm, having travelled
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through the tubes,

they
mix with the
is
stored at the top of the tube until
secretions
from the prostate and semi-
nal vesicles just before ejaculation.
seminal
The
fluid,
urethra
The prostate secretes
and only a tiny percentage of this is sperm.

is
a tube from the bladder which goes
through the penis and ends in a tiny hole
bend
at the
of it. Both urine and seminal fluid go through the urethra,

but never at the same time. The prostate wraps around
the urethra right
where
it
begins at the bladder, and
that's
why many men
when
the prostate enlarges, compressing the prostatic
over
fifty
have urinary problems
urethra causing the obstruction of urine flow from the
bladder making urination difficult and sometimes painful.
Too many of my male

problems, and
want
friends have
to quote
doctors in the United States,
one of the
who
is
had prostate
finest
very
preventive medicine, John A. McDougall,

article in
Veggie
Life,
medical
much
M.D.
into
In an
he explains that routine prostate
examinations have never been proven to reduce the risk

of cancer.
Understanding the growth rate of cancer will help

explain
why
early prostate cancer detection and
treatment are of limited value.

Prostate cancer begins with one malignant
cell.
This transformed cell grows and divides into two

cells at a steady
rate called
For prostate cancer
the doubling time.
cells (as well as
most other
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solid tumors) the average doubling time is approxi-
mately 100 days. In other words, four malignant

cells
would be present
in the prostate after
days, and only twelve cells

after
200
would have formed
one year.
In six years, the cancer
mass would contain one
million cells (about the size of the tip of a pencil).
A mass of this size is undetectable by PSA, digital

rectal examination, or ultrasound. In essentially
every case, by
this
time the cancer has already
spread to other parts of the body. Only after an
average of ten years does the mass grow to a size

detectable by present day techniques.
the disease has
most
At
this point
likely spread to the liver,
lungs, bones, and brain, soon resulting in death.
Therefore, routine screening does not improve the

patient's outcome.
The American Cancer Society released guidelines advising individuals to avoid all red
meat
because of its very strong link to colon and prostate

cancer.
They
high in
fruits,
also
recommend following
vegetables, and
whole
a diet
grains.
low-fat, pure vegetarian diet is our best defense
for preventing prostate cancer,
slow
its
and may actually
progress even after the cancer has started.
I've been a vegetarian for over twenty-five years,
and I'm bursting with health and energy. Unfortunately
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some people think vegetarianism is weakening, and that

we humans need to eat meat to be strong, but that's
totally incorrect.
The
strongest animals in the world,
elephants, are vegetarians, as are hippos and rhinos, and
one of the
fastest animals in the world, the
race horse,
I
is
thoroughbred
also a vegetarian.
stopped eating
all
meat and
because
fish
animals and abhor cruelty to and killing of

but the side effect for
health. It
me
then? But
love
beings,
has been incredible good
was a bonus, because
clue that eating meat
all
was bad
at that
for you.
now we do know, and
time
hadn't a
Who knew
back
fortunately lots of
people are giving up animal protein and biting into faux
sesame chicken, soy hot dogs (with mustard on a bun),

pseudo beef with orange sauce, sunshine burgers (with
tomato, onions, and mustard on a sesame seed bun) Talk
!
about delicious!
portobello
And what
about barbecued marinated
mushrooms? They're one of my
all-time
favorite dishes.
So when you decide
to give
up eating animals
for
eating veggies, you'll discover a brand-new world of

truly delicious foods. Plus you'll start getting healthier
than you've ever been.
A healthy prostate is one of the most important parts

of a strong male sexuality.
It's
also vital to
good repro-
ductive function.
But by the age of
fifty,
half of the
male population
And
over the age of
will develop prostate problems.

of
sixty, seventy-five percent
men
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have developed
will
enlargement of the prostate gland, called benign prostatic
hyperplasia, or
BPH, which
is
caused by a buildup
of testosterone in the prostate. This in turn
DHT, which
to dihydrotestosterone,
it
converted
stimulates the cells
of the prostate to multiply excessively.
grows larger
is
As
the prostate
presses against the urethra, which starts
to obstruct the urine flow
from the bladder.
An
almost
constant need to urinate (especially at night), burning
weak
sensation while urinating,

bling,
are
and feeling
that
urinary stream, drib-
you can't urinate
"all the
way"
symptoms of BPH.
However, there are

that
of natural plants and herbs
lots
can reduce these prostate disorders. Often hormone
imbalances can create prostate problems and some nontoxic plants,
saw palmetto
for one, can produce hor-
mone-like activity thereby correcting the imbalance.
And
the
wonder of plants and herbs
side effects as there can be with
Two
some
many
no
drugs.
possible side effects: impo-
tence, decreased libido, dizziness,
the
mends
that there are
of the biggest-selling prostate medications on
the market have as
And
is
FDA
that
be used
if
and lightheadedness.
(Food and Drug Administration) recom-
one of them, because of

a
man
will
its
toxicity,
be ejaculating into a
never
woman
of
childbearing age because of the possibility of a male

fetus developing birth defects. Scary,
Saw
palmetto
is
no?
a small palm tree which produces
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berries,
ment
Many men
for enlarged prostate.
using
Saw
and the reddish-brown powder is a natural
it
as a preventive
palmetto extract
and
have ever been reported in
BPH
over forty
that's a very
good
and no negative
is safe,
treatstart
idea.
effects
clinical trials. It relieves the
by preventing the conversion of testosterone
to
dihydrotestosterone, thereby not allowing the prostate
and keeping the prostate from en-
cells to multiply
larging.
Saw palmetto is also getting a reputation for stimulating hair re-growth, so you not only help your prostate,
you might
also help your hair follicles.
Pumpkin seeds
are another natural treatment for
enlarged prostate, particularly

metto.
when used with saw
quarter to a half cup of
raw pumpkin
seeds,
day along with one 500
(a big handful) eaten every
pal-
mg
capsule of saw palmetto with each meal can be very

beneficial.
Some men
500
take two
mg
capsules with
each meal for a more intense dose.
Obviously a healthy
a good diet,
life-style is
booze, no cigs, and lots of exercise
little
(even ten to fifteen minutes a day
and nutrients
chapter,
after
I list all
meals
is
and
also
most people
excellent).
Vitamins
the vites and mins and antioxidants
body needs every day

list
is
also important. In the next
that a
I
important along with
how many
to stay well
I take,
take, but not too
which
and healthy,
is
more than
many people have my

energy and feel as good as
do (dare
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say hardly
anybody?).
Of
all
the minerals, zinc
is
most commonly
the one
used to bring about male sexual health. This

say that
all
man
needs to do
sex
all
working together
vites
is
is
not to
take zinc to have great
and mins are synergistic and you need them

in
your body to bring about health,
energy, and sexuality.
But zinc
is
concentrated in the prostate more than in
any other part of the body.

to take at least
mg
50
It's
very important for males
a day for testosterone synthesis
and the making of sperm, which obviously one needs

to
have a healthy and satisfying sex
recommend up
to
50
mg
life.
Some
doctors
of zinc three times a day after
meals.
Vitamins A, C, and E, three strong antioxidants which

strengthen the
immune
to help eliminate prostate
(minimum)
in the
problems.
units of beta carotene
body
work with
system, will
suggest 25,000
which
into vitamin A, 3,000
the zinc
is
converted
mg (minimum)
of
vitamin C, and 400 units (minimum) of vitamin E. Chap-
how much
how much I
ter
7 has details of
we
all
need plus
Selenium
is
of
all
the vites and mins
take every day.
another antioxidant and a mineral that
is
extremely important to your prostate health, so be sure to
look
at the labels
that all the
of any multi-vitamin you buy and see
above antioxidants are contained
in
it.
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Men
need sexual pleasure for other reasons besides
pleasure; they need

is
it
for health reasons too.
An orgasm
a release of tension and a flooding of the body with
endorphins which flow through you and immediately
make you
Now
feel good.
obviously a
man
needs not only his sexual
apparatus to be healthy, he also needs the rest of his
body
to function at
When
of
it,
you
your body
will
peak standards.
is
healthy, and
you take good care
have a natural energy
you, and you'll go through
life
that never leaves
without anxiety or
depression, but with a natural high!
You
Can't Be
Healthy and Be
Impotent! You
Can't Be Impotent
and Be Healthy!
TV
my many
When I spoke
learned something really interesting on
and radio tours around the country.
about smoking being very bad for your health
(I
don't
think there's anything worse!) and particularly bad for
your heart and lungs, I'd never get any big
call-in
response from the radio listeners (and sometimes on

particular
TV
shows, from viewers
who
could
call in
live).
But when
said (as
always did) that smoking was
an almost certain end to sex-organ strength, the phone

calls
poured
bad smoke
is,
in.
is
You
see,
almost everyone knows
for your lungs
how
and how carcinogenic
it
and almost everyone knows how smoke causes free
86
and do irreparable damage
radicals to increase
heart and lungs, but not everyone
can seriously
curtail
knows how smoke
activities
and pleasure.
can render you impotent!
It literally
Over
your sexual
your
to
thirty million
American men have had some
degree of impotence making them unable to achieve
Most
erection for intercourse.
(but certainly not
impotence happens to those over the age of

the cause for
ease.
One
most of these men
is
fifty,
all)
and
cardiovascular dis-
of the culprits (besides animal fats and lack
of exercise)
is
smoking.
Many people think cigs are relaxants, but they're not.

They're stimulants, and when we smoke, the nicotine
constricts our blood vessels and makes them so much
smaller that the blood has a harder time getting through,
particularly
when
there
is
plaque and/or other debris
clinging to the sides of our blood vessels.
Now
is
the swelling of the blood vessels in his penis
what gives a man an erection. The swelling also brings
with
it
great sexual excitement.
monoxide reduces
duction.
The lung capacity
ability for
an erection to
Every man
start
the blood
is
different
having problems
cut
down and
with
it
the
during intercourse.
and some male smokers don't
till
start in their early thirties.
smokers
the inhaled carbon
oxygen and hormone pro-
is
last
And
their forties
and others can
But eventually any and
all
who have not succumbed to heart or lung prob-
lems will have sexual problems.
You Can't Be Healthy and Be Impotent!
The AMA's Thomas Houston

is
the only product in the U.S. that,
by the manufacturer, predictably

I
quoted: "Tobacco
is
when used as directed
loving and
ing with
needed a
warm
person.
TV
several times
host, he's a very
remember discussing smok-
makeup room before the show (I

gas mask), and he was far in denial about
him
in the
harming himself, and because

terribly sad
knowing
would soon
either
When
user."
kills the
was on Morton Downey Jr.'s TV show
and he's not only a wonderful
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him so much
I like
that he, being a
was
heavy smoker,
have a heart attack or get cancer.
the inevitable
happened recently and he was
operated on successfully for cancer, he did a 180-degree

turn and started warning everyone
smoke
is
how dangerous
cig
is.
What a shame we usually have to wait till the damage

done to see the harm, but better late than never. Once
you stop smoking, the nicotine and
tar is
cleaned out
of the body in a few months.

It's difficult,
believe
me
know.
It's
the toughest
thing I've ever given up. Dieting and giving up foods

is
easy compared to stopping smoking. But the results
are phenomenal.
better,
sex
you
from your eyesight
to
starts to function
your breathing to your
life.
And
ing
Your whole body
all
don't ever feel that because you've been smok-
your
life that it
stop, that all the
won't make any difference
if
damage has already been done.
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That's not true.
Your lungs
go back
will
smoking condition a few months
And your
sexuality will also
after
you
go back
smoking condition. You'll get erections

ier,
your
you'll
PQ
stop.
your pre-
to
faster
and eas-
way
very happy woman.
up, and
(pleasure quotient!) will go
make your mate
Because
to their pre-
this is a chapter all
didn't mention that everything
about and for men,

I
said about
smoking
constricting the blood vessels in the penis also

for the clitoris (the female penis).
can be impotent too.
If the
is
true
So women who smoke
woman's sex organs
are not
swelling and being engorged with blood, she's also not
being aroused and her
not being sexually
clitoris is
excited.
So
if
both of you are smokers, you're eventually
going to have very
little
sex!
Liquor can also be deadening to the sex organs. Particularly if
are
you overdo
it
and/or do
it
often. All drugs
bad for all your cells throughout your body. Cocaine,
marijuana, speed, tranquilizers, antidepressants, and
blood pressure medications are
all
drugs that alter your
sexual appetite and sexual apparatus.
More
than a million prescriptions are being given to
patients each
month
for depression.
The
gigantic use of
Prozac began in 1993 when Dr. Peter Kramer wrote

Listening to Prozac which
became
a bestseller.
1995 Dr. Peter Breggin wrote Talking Back

in
which he likens Prozac
to
to
Then
in
Prozac
amphetamines, and very
much
like speed,
it
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boosts the level of serotonin (a neuro-
transmitter) in the brain. Serotonin gives
you a feeling
of great energy and confidence. Most neurotransmitters

act
is
on only
certain areas of the brain, whereas serotonin
found everywhere
in the brain, including the places
relating to sex. Prozac destroys the three phases of sex

desire, arousal,
and orgasm.
If
anyone
is
taking Prozac
or any other antidepressant (not including

cerely urge
if
you'd
you
I sin-
to read Dr. Breggin's great book.
like to
Ana Asian's
GH3),
know more about GH3
And
(the late Dr.
great formulation for depression
which has
GO*D IS ALIVE
AND WELL AND LIVING IN EACH ONE OF US. Also
no side
in this
effects),
book
go
John's
last
book,
into detail about
antioxidants which
St.
my
read
many
of the strongest
take every day.
Wort (hypericum perforatum) found
most health food
stores, is
and has been proved
in
in
widely prescribed in Europe,
many
clinical trials to
have
antidepressant activity equal to that of Prozac and other

synthetic antidepressant drugs (which all have serious
side effects ranging
and of course
it
St.
from anxiety attacks
to impotence,
John's Wort has no side effects). Take
four times a day in the form of an extract which has
0.2 to 1.0
mg
dried herb.
GH3
of hypericum, or a 500
mg
capsule of the
The reason drug companies don't market
or St. John's
Wort
so there's no gigantic
is
that they can't
money
to
be patented,
be made. Prozac made
over one billion dollars ($1,200,000,000) for Eli Lilly
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in
one year, and
hold
everything!
now
comes
in
peppermint flavor for the hundreds of thousands of kids
now
taking
So
to
it.
f/n-believable!
have a robust sex
body must be
in
good shape. Your sexual organs
true barometer of
functioning the
with your beloved, your
life
your overall health, and
way you'd
if
are a
they're not
look to what you're
like,
putting into your body.
In
two of
my
previous books, Everything You've
Always Wanted to Know About ENERGY, but Were Too
Weak
to Ask,
and
Isle
of View (Say
it
out loud),
into depth in layman's terms about all the vitamins
minerals, what they are and
how
you should take and where you

not to go into detail again.
they work,
how much
tell
about the John
Ellsworth Hayden Foundation (named after

father) giving
away
institutions (prisons,
free
and
find them, so I decided
also
go
my
late
Dynamite energy shake
mental health
institutes,
to
old age
homes, youth centers) where people obviously can't

get out to
buy the Dynamite
information
I
is
at health stores. All this
in either of those
two books.
have never made any money from the
shake because taking
it
totally
changed
my
from being a physical and mental wreck

healthiest,
most energetic person
way of showing my
sale of the
life
around
to being the
know. This
is
my
gratitude for having been led to
invent the Dynamite energy shake.
The only two vitamins you should not
of are vitamins
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take too
much
and D, and certainly the amounts
take are very safe and far under what could possibly
be toxic, but more than the

lously low. All the
and
soluble,
if
vites
USRDA, which is
and vitamin C are
you ever did get a
surplus,
flushed right out of your system.
take
them every morning with
shake, but
vitamins
make
couldn't
and
as
those Bs!
all
pressure
(I
don't),
my
Dynamite energy
the tablets as potent in
wanted for myself because, for
instance, if a person has a
the
nervous
formulated the Dynamite vites for myself, and
400
water-
would be
it
And your
system would sure be in good shape with
ridicu-
problem
like
high blood
he or she should not take more than
units of vitamin
Dynamite vites).
a day (which
I
want 2,400
take 2,000 units extra of vitamin
is
the
amount
in
units a day, so I
E and
12,000
mg extra
vitamin
C (everyone needs a different amount of vitamin
C, and
my
It's
up
vitamin
requirements are very high).
to
each one of us to find the right amount of
that
we
collagen and no
need, and the barometer
more
colds.
is
stronger
haven't had a bruise, or
even one cold in over twenty-five years.
start to get
'em, then zap 'em with huge amounts of vitamin

lots
of liquid (and I've taken as
vitamin
much
as 50,000
C and
mg of
and sometimes more throughout one day,
always followed by a
lot
of water).
92
take 4 table-
spoons
Vites
&
Vitamin
Mins
take 12
Dynamite
tablets
energy
Dynamite
shake
vites
30,000 I.U.
(Beta-
carotene)
Thiamine
25
mg
150
mg
25
mg
150
mg
125
mg
250
mg
125
mg
250
mg
1,000
mg
mg
mg
2,000
mg
mg
mg
(Vitamin B,)
Riboflavin
(Vitamin
2)
Niacin (Vitamin
3)
Niacinamide
(Vitamin
3)
Calcium
25
Iron
Vitamin
B6
25
36
150
400 meg
800 meg
meg
200 meg
Iodine
210 meg
300 meg
Magnesium
560
Folic acid
Vitamin
12
Zinc
Copper
100
50
mg
mg
2mg
Biotin
300 meg
Pantothenic acid
100
PABA
100
Choline
1,000
mg
mg
mg
800
30
mg
mg
4mg
600 meg
300
300
1,000
mg
mg
mg
mg
mg
mg
Papain
100
mg
mg
mg
Selenium
100
meg
200 meg
Ribonucleic acid
100
200
Betaine
100
mg
mg
Molybdenum
100
meg
Chromium
100
meg
Vanadium
100
meg
Inositol
1,000
Potassium
1,000
Manganese
Vitamin
1,000
198
200
200
mg
mg
200 meg
mg
10
3,000
mg
mg
(I
take 12,000
mg
Vitamin
Vitamin
93
extra)
3,000 I.U.
400
I.U.
(I
take 2,000
units extra)
Phosphorous
200
Citrus
100
mg
mg
200
mg
bioflavanoids
Glutamic acid
One of the reasons why

is
the
Dynamite energy shake
so important for older people
people
all
need
it
is
too, but older
calcium so they won't have
the calcium.
Younger
people urgently need
brittle
and porous bones
that break easily as they mature.
And
actually the bones are the last parts of the
that lose calcium.
cium
in
your
diet,
When
body
you're not getting enough cal-
which then leads
to a
calcium
defi-
ciency, the nervous system and the skin and other
94
body
nonvital
parts are the first places that lose precious
calcium.
So when your bones
become
start to
brittle
and
porous, you must realize your body has already lost
calcium and that's
why
you're tense, nervous, and not
sleeping well. Four tablespoons of the Dynamite energy
shake
in
any liquid (juice or water) gives the calcium
equivalent of a quart of milk!
And
it is
six different flavors that you'll find
that anything that tastes that
it
so delicious in
hard to believe
good can be
that
good
for
you!
The ginkgo tree is the longest-surviving living species

of tree on earth, growing during the dinosaur era 250
million years ago, and
As
far
it
back as 4800 years ago (2800
treated memory loss
Age
in Asia.
B.C.) the
Chinese
survived the Ice
and poor circulation with this herbal
mixture.
Ginkgo biloba
is
made up of
flavanoid glycosides
(a part of the bioflavanoid family),
culation,
which benefit
keep the capillaries from becoming
cir-
brittle,
aid the healing process, and have an anti-inflammatory

action.
It's also
made up of ginkgolides, which work syner-
gistically with the flavanoids to
reduce inflammation,
and prevent the clumping of blood
cells,
which can
lead to clots, which could cause a stroke or heart

attack.
Then
in 1985 a
German
was done with
study
showed some mental
stated that the
The
deterioration.
researchers
ginkgo biloba extract had a positive effect
on the deterioration of mental performance and
was
that this
reflected in the patients' behavior.
I've been taking
a difference in
seems
that
it
for over
my memory
was twenty and
it's still
two
years,
and
can see
(which was awful when
awful, but getting better).
I
It
because ginkgo helps the circulation it can be
a brain stimulant, and being an antioxidant,

free radicals before they can
I
sixty
and they
patients, fifty-seven to seventy-seven years old,

all
95
do
their
it
neutralizes
damage.
take two dropperfuls of the almost tasteless liquid
ginkgo biloba in a glass of water twice a day.
It' s
recom-
mended to take 30 mg of ginkgo from one to three times

a day.
When
got back from
South, there
York.
It
was a
tiny
my TV
package waiting for
was an audiocassette
of the Scoot Paisant show in

all
and radio tour of the
sent to
New
me
me by
Orleans, and
it's great. It's fifty
New
a listener
it
told
knew
ordered some and
about Pycnogenol, something about which
nothing. After listening to the tape,
in
times stronger than vitamin
E and
twenty times stronger than vitamin C in their antioxidant

strength, but
it
works with them and magnifies
then-
power.
CoQIO
is
manufactured in the body and found in
96
some
foods, particularly polyunsaturated
oils. It's
an
essential substance in cell respiration, electron transfer,
and the control of oxidation reaction.
It
works
in the
transport of electrons from the inside to the outside
of cell membranes,
necessary for energy production,
is
and is an antioxidant acting as a free-radical scavenger

and protecting
cell
membranes from
their
damaging
actions.
CoQIO
strength,
has helped heart ailments, increased muscle
improved gum tissue, helped with the synthesis
and secretion of
insulin,
and
in animals restored
of the age-induced decline of the

I
heard about
it
my
through
immune
and
started taking
90
mg
health books,
about six years ago.
it
small capsules of 10
many
system.
Herb Bailey,
late friend
a medical researcher and writer of
mg
some
take three
each after every meal, so
get
a day.
One of the most important things I learned from Herb

was about
SOD
enzyme found
(superoxide dismutase), a protein
in all
body
cells
whose function
an
is to
fight the aging effects
of superoxides (the medical term
for free radicals) in the
body
and
the body
is
constantly
creating these awful by-products.
These
free radicals are
oxygen molecules
one molecule, making them unstable, which
that lack
starts their
degenerative work.
Dismutation (deactivation)
is
what the
SOD
does
by transferring the
free radical into stable
97
oxygen and
hydrogen peroxide. This prevents irreparable
cell at-
tack and damage, which causes rapid aging and deterioration.
two
I've been taking
SOD
pills
a glass of water an hour before
shake, and
me
all
my
every morning with
my
Dynamite energy
other vites and mins, to help keep
strong, energetic,
and healthy.
I've always been a big fan and user of dolomite, a

natural combination of calcium
and magnesium
in the
best proportion of two to one. I'm repeating this because

I
feel it's really important for
healthy and natural relaxant.
on
me
money
(after
to
know about
Whenever
this
stress creeps
up
because of time (a deadline for something) or

(a late bill), I
which
enough,
utes
you
chew
three or four dolomite pills,
drink a glass of water), and
if that's
not
take three or four more. In a matter of min-
I start
to feel tension draining out
and relaxation
setting in.
I
'em so much,
like
in fact, that I've formulated
something delicious called Dolomints, which are minty
and yummy.
and small
them
in
am
bottles,
packaging them two ways: in large
and
like
Lifesavers so you can carry
your purse or pocket and
know
that you're
doing something good (and healthy) for yourself to

relieve stress.
98
For SOD,
call
Gero Vita
Int'l. at
1-800-406-1314.
Dynamite energy shake,
Dynamite vites, and Dolomints

available in
most health food
stores or call
1-800-255-1660.
All other natural supplements in this book are
available at health food stores.
So drink
eight to twelve glasses of water a day,
some
take lots of vites and mins, lots of antioxidants,

exercise,
or no booze, no cigs or other addictive
little
drugs, and you'll be
amazed
at
how speedy your
sexual
recovery will be.
And how
quickly your self-esteem will climb
you're able to give the

in intercourse (and
you're making
it
and marriage
...
woman you love several orgasms
you know she's not faking cause
happen for
Sexual happiness
when
is
her)!
one of the greatest joys of love
Why
Marriage Is as
Important to a
Man as to a
Woman
I
learned a lot from
my
sex survey of married men.
I'd always heard that statistically marriage is
good phys-
and psychologically for men, but I'd
ically, socially,
never observed that firsthand.
When
got the results of the survey back
surprised by
some of
by the answers
Some men
"Because
it
answers that
to
said
the answers, but really surprised
"Why
did you get married?"
"Because
was time," but

I
I fell
let
me
some
in love,"
give you
some
said
other
find enlightening.
"Because
"I never ate regular meals because
was very lonely
living alone."
I
didn't care
or take the time to cook for myself and
a lot."
was
was
sick
100

Because
it
was very
come up with a
"I
felt
date for the weekend."
sad 'cause
and feeling loved

loves
I
always having to
stressful
anybody loved
didn't think
important to me.
is
My
me
wife
me."
lived with several girls over a period of four
years and
I still felt
lonely with
them (one
for three
months, one for two and a half years, and one for
a
little
so
over a year).
much
in
other three,
to
spend
common
I just
my
When
(which
had sex
more
was
knew I wanted
and when
buddies a
thought
I
met
should be.
my
wife
and
lot
life
was
became
exciting."
and had sex with each one

it
we had
didn't have with the
my
"I went out with a different
and
wife
with her."
life
wasn't as happy as
lot
my
met
on-call), I
"I used to hang out with
bored a
girl
(this
every nite
was before AIDS)
was fun but something was missing and
love. I
found
it
with
my job
my
at
meet
was lonely and
so
that
wife."
"I worked hard

girls
(sic)
and didn't have time
good care of my health which
to
didn't take very
my wife does now."
men have been

married, most divorced and widowed men remarry. The
An
interesting statistic is that
marriage rate for both
is
once
higher than the marriage rate
Why Marriage
Is as
Important
to
Man
101
men. Half of all divorced men remarry within
for single
three years.
So once a man experiences

(even though
knowledge
and
not always a deep intimacy), and the
it's
someone not only loves him but wants
that
to take care of
him
physically, mentally, emotionally,
spiritually, those feelings
to resist
and almost impossible
as food
and water.
Men
free
(as
the feelings of intimacy,
do women)
of being loved are hard

to live without, the
want
instinctively
be
to
and have fun as often as possible, and
relationship being loved brings hugs
same
stress-
in a
good
and kisses and sex
and home-cooked food and fun.
Some men
choose
to live with different
they're very
ment.
say they're afraid of marriage so they
happy with
know
ness, the
this
women, and
it
appears
noncommitted arrange-
man
a very important
in the
music busi-
CEO of a giant worldwide conglomerate, who
lived with
two
different
women
over a period of eleven
years (five and a half years each, just missing the
com-
mon law
Then
statute
which was probably
deliberate).
he lived with another
woman
was sure
the one to marry him.
that she
was
for three years,
and she
But
alas,
moment he met a friend of mine, a darling PR

woman, he fell madly in love, got the three-year relationship to move out, and he married his "true love."
the
Sometimes
it
does work out that people living
102
together finally
tie
the knot, but too
many
times
it
doesn't.
When love hits a man, I mean HITS
a man, he wants
her commitment, he wants to make sure that she
woman, and
that's
what marriage does.
It
is
his
makes two
And you let the whole world know This

is my man" and "This is my woman."
All insurance companies know that the health of a
married man is much better than that of his single buddy.
And it's the truth.
commitments.
'
Marriage brings friendship, a relaxed atmosphere,

steady sex, normal eating patterns and hours, and being
needed by someone you love
man
the things that
make
healthier than life without them.
Milton Mayeroff in his book
The man who
is
On
Caring says,
not needed by someone
does
not belong and lives like a leaf blown about in the
wind.
As I mentioned earlier,
my
little
all
the years
red marriage manual,
WOMAN EVERY TIME
HOW
was publicizing
TO SATISFY A
me when I was going to write

HOW TO SATISFY A MAN EVERY TIME ...and have
everybody used to ask
him beg for more!
And
every time someone did ask me, from three
waiters and a captain
who work
at
The Four Seasons
Why Marriage
Is as
Important
to
Man
103
New York to Richard Bey on his fabulous

TV show, I'd always give the same answer:
restaurant in
syndicated
know this,
Well, you don't

it
(at this I
but I've already written
got a nice reaction).
book, actually
body looked
at
it
It's
only has one page
me
(at this
every-
strangely) and at the top of the
page are needed only two words
Show
a very small
to satisfy a
man:
up!
That always got a big laugh which was fun for

because
never made up a joke before and
me
loved
making people laugh.

But then
cheat,
and
started thinking about
it
must be because sex
why so many men

at home isn't that
and how important exciting sex
exciting,
is
in life to
men.
Then
marriages there are
men were
how many unhappy

and how many divorces, and if the
started thinking about
really sexually
would do anything
to
happy
in their marriages, they
keep those marriages going.
Now
true,
many
divorces are precipitated by the wives, but
even
if it's
50/50 wives and husbands, half the husbands
are sexually dissatisfied
enough
to
probably seek sex
outside their marriages and eventually to divorce.
So even though most healthy men have only

an attractive
woman
to
to see
become aroused, and they have
an easy time reaching orgasm, there must be a reason
104
why
so
many men who
obviously were in love enough
with their wives to have married them, are fooling

around, having affairs, just all-around cheating, which
almost always leads to the end of marriages. Cheating

sexually
is
the real barometer that sex with spouse-o
has gotten boring and won't
last
much
longer.
One of my favorite examples is George and Nena

O'Neill, who wrote Open Marriage a few years ago. I
remember watching them on
radio telling
and how
I
really
it
last.
New
and hearing them on
they both had outside sexual partners
worked
never believed
never
the
how
TV
it
Then about
to
keep
their marriage strong.
and knew
marriage could
their
three years ago
saw a
story in
York Times that George and Nena O'Neill had
gotten a divorce.
Of course open marriage

mate part of marriage
the pleasure
to
is
How
the spouse.
ever survive knowing that
if
is
being given
could any trust
she sees an attractive guy
probably seduce him and
bed her?
inti-
being shared with outsiders,
bond of sexual excitement
someone other than
she'll
The most
can't work.
if
he sees a hot-looking
Why be married? What's the point?
babe
he'll
Why
not stay single and have each other as friends and
keep sex out of
it.
Obviously the sex
enough with each other
to
want
to
keep
isn't exciting
it
just
between
them.
That
is
the point.
When sex is truly exciting, psychologically and phys-
Why Marriage
Is as
Important
to
Man
always go together when sex
ically (they
105
exciting,
is
they must go together for sex to be exciting, and they

are always together
when two people
love)
first fall in
then the point is to keep that excitement there throughout
your marriage.
Now
but
obviously everyone would
when
happens
it
.0000000001 of
incredibly
so
we
percent),
like that to
happen,
seldom
begin to doubt
(like
even
it's
possible to happen in a long-term relationship. Isn't that
why
people cheat, to have sex with someone
promises to be exciting?
him,
Of
would probably get
it
course
if
new who
you married
dull after a while too.
her/
And
usually (but not always) does.
So
Well,
it's
the
if that
exciting sex
Now
newness
were
seems
to
really true, the only
would be
there are
that
to constantly
some men who
cheat on their wives.
Of
make
it
answer
exciting.
to
having
change partners.
will possibly never
course for the "in love" hus-
bands, there's no desire or reason to cheat, but for

the others,
it's
not because they wouldn't like
because the opportunity hasn't presented
itself.
all
to, it's
Some
men will never be the aggressor because they're so filled

with fear or
guilt,
and
this
could be religious guilt and/
or subconscious fears, which can and will paralyze a
person through these negative emotions.

the fear that his wife will find out
But
if
another
woman
is
And
always
of course
there.
senses a man's need and desire
(which would be emanating from him) she might make
106
move
if
respond
if
if
she did, he would
he believed that no one would ever find
man
There's no
is
And
she liked him.
alive
who, although he loves
out.
his wife,
not "in love" with her, won't have a secret affair
if
the circumstances are right.
So when
never cheat,
minds,
it's
be known
say there are some
I
it
isn't that the
men who
him
maybe
thought hasn't crossed their
only that in each case no

to
will
woman
that she is interested in
has
let it
having him
as a lover.
Recently a friend of mine said to
me that psychologi-
cal problems, not lack of exciting sex, cause cheating
and divorce. He said
was
on the importance of sex
putting too
much emphasis
in keeping a couple together.
And I answered that psychological problems cause fear,

lack of
trust,
anger
at spouse, etc.,
and these negative
emotions destroy sexual desire. Fear, lack of
trust,
and
anger are not conducive to sexual intimacy and when

sexual intimacy leaves a marriage, the "marriage"
over.
The
is
relationship might continue because she's
afraid of being alone
and he needs the security of having
someone take care of him,
etc.,
but the union of two-
people-as-one is over. They are now two separate people

living under the
same
roof,
and they may love each
other as friends, but the deep intimacy

I
also believe that the
are so powerful that
is
over.
dynamics of sexual pleasure
no matter what psychological prob-
lems a married couple
may have
(he's a compulsive
Why Marriage
gambler, a
liar,
Is as
a thief,
Important
to
Man
107
they love and respect
etc.), if
each other enough to focus on and keep the sex exciting
between them, the marriage will endure.
Now
comes
the
complex
part.
compulsive gambler (drinker,
enough
to love
and respect
Can
man who
is
respect
himself
his wife? If he's
"out of
etc.)
control" (as a gambler or alcoholic obviously
is),
could
he respect himself? Self-respect comes from inner

strength and a compulsive gambler (drinker, etc.)
as strong as his compulsion. If
to control
it,
is
not
he were, he'd be able
and he cannot. So without self-respect there
can't be other-respect, and without respect for the other,

real love
cannot exist and grow. Need can
exist,
but not
love.
But he could love her enough

her,
to
be afraid of losing
and he could make a decision
to
change himself
so that his self-respect would strengthen because he
overcame a compulsion, and

his wife
would grow
in the
his respect
same
and love for
ratio as his
own
self-
respect.
I
know
and he with
woman who
her. After
fell in
love with an alcoholic
about three months she gave him
an ultimatum: stop drinking or I'm leaving you. She

kept her word and
left,
and said he couldn't

to drink again,
and four days
live
later
he called her
without her, and
vowed never
and he never
did.
They've been happily
married for over thirty years.
So when
it
comes
to psychological
problems, which
108
many
of us have,
it
how
love of spouse
is,
or neurosis
and
is,
really
if
depends on
how
strong our
strong our negative compulsion
our inner strength
overcome the negative so
is
that our self-love
enough
to
and spouse-
love will thrive.
But although most of us don't have major compulsions and neuroses,
we do have minor
ones.
And
the
physical pleasure of sex is so strong that it will overcome

just about anything
and everything, and bring a couple
closer together every time they share the intimacy of
each giving the other the
And what
band's libido
gift
of an orgasm.
about physical problems where the husis
dulled by medication or drugs?
these problems don't totally stop a
Even
man from some form
of sexual pleasure, usually masturbation.
Most husbands masturbate. The only ones who don't

are those
day.
whose wives take care of them sexually every
Even those who drink too much or who
other drugs, masturbate.

it
With those not
are
on
in great health
doesn't happen every day or every few days like those
who don't take any
stimulants, tranquilizers, high blood
pressure medication, sleeping
But unless he
stances.
pen,
if
only once a
'
or other toxic sub-
almost comatose,
week
it
does hap-
or once a month.
man who is not "in

with his wife (although he may still love her) will
The bottom
love'
is
pills,
have an
line is that every
affair if he's healthy
presents
itself.
enough and the opportunity
Why Marriage
But the
man and
Is as
woman
Mia Farrow's
Man
109
when
life is
marry, and stay "in
fall in love,
love" as long as they

In
to
and happiness of
real thrill
Important
live.
What
great book,
writes about working with
Roman
directed her in Rosemary's Baby.
day while waiting to shoot,
Falls Away, she
Polanski while he
She recounts how one
Roman was
saying that
monogamy was impossible because a man's

attraction for one woman only lasts a short time.
long-term
sexual
John Cassavetes, the

in the film
late actor- writer-director,
working as an
was
also
and he very excitedly
actor,
Roman that Roman knew little or nothing about

women or relationships, and that he, John, was more
attracted now to his wife Gena Rowlands then he ever
told
was
since they got married years before.
Roman was
that
so taken aback by John's outburst that he
could only stare

times, and
Mia writes
at
had no
him, then he blinked
at
him a few
reply.
Arnold Schwarzenegger was interviewed
in
Cosmo
about his marriage, as were several other actors, and
how important their wives were to them

and how much better their lives are since they've been
they
all
stated
married.
Arnold said
that
mother took care of

after their house,
when he grew up
his father
and
that's the
thought he'd marry. But
in Austria his
and cooked and looked

kind of
when he
woman Arnold
finally did fall in love
and married Maria Shriver he got much more than just
110
a wonderful care-giver as his mother was, he also got
an exciting career woman.
Denzel Washington
his wife Pauletta, that
is
so thrilled with marriage and
he married her twice so
and the world would know how happy he
much he
is
that she
and how
loves her after a decade and a half of being
together.
Suzanne
Fields, a syndicated columnist in the
York Post, had an
article titled
Food of Love," and
in
it
"When
Marriage
New
Is the
she quotes Leon Kass, a
professor of social thought at the University of Chicago,
"Marriage
is
not something one
tries
on
for size
and
then decides to keep," writes Kass in a provocative

essay in The Public Interest. "It
is
rather something
one decides with a promise and then bends every
effort
to keep."
Ms. Fields goes on

doesn't do what
that couples
it
who
to tells us that living together
proposes to do. She says
live together
it's
a fact
and then marry have a
higher percentage of divorce than those
who
don't live
together before they get married.
"Sex
cuts into the friendship stage,
which can pro-
vide the basis for a long-lasting marriage. Passion

quickly fulfilled reduces the need for commitment, the
need to
sacrifice
something of oneself in the tender trap
of marriage.
She continues
that
men, anxious
to try
any woman's
sexual favors, hardly ever pursue depth in friendship
Why Marriage
Is as
Important
to
Man
"Men
with them. She quotes Rousseau:
Ill
will forever
women, but only if someone exerts

over their sexual power and sets the standards
strive to please
control
for that pleasing."
Then she says that with encouragement, young people

can channel their desires into the 'slower rituals of self'
restraint in courtship."
In a wonderful article in Cosmo, Keith Blanchard
explains
"Why Men
He
Big Ultimatum."
Secretly
Want
states that
to
"Marriage
rubber-stamped version of living together
tum
leap into a
new
life is
He
existence."
case, after getting married:
'
be Given the
'Beyond
isn't just a
it's
a quan-
says that in his
all
expectation,
my
immeasurably richer, with a fulfilling complexity I
was unable
My
to imagine."
late aunt, Phyllis
McGinley, who won not only
the Pulitzer Prize for her wonderful
she also
won
book Times Three,
the very prestigious Laetare
Catholic church. Times Three
decades of her
is
brilliant, clever,
Medal of the
a compilation of three
warm, and always witty
poetry about marriage. Aunt Phyllis and Uncle Bill were
happily married for many years, and
up connubial
bliss very well
when
In a successful marriage, there

as one's way.
There
only the bumpy, dusty,

path!
is
think she
she wrote:
is
only the
difficult,
summed
no such thing
way of
both,
but always mutual
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agree with Aunt Phyllis, and the reason
why mar-
women is because
men have the same emotional need to be loved as women
riage
is
as important to
men as
to
it is
do, and both are overtly seeking and searching for the
same togetherness and the same soul mates
down
"My
is
walk with
mutual path.
that
So even though some men

riage
to
only for
wife
is
yell
and scream
women, and make with
that
mar-
the jokes that
married, I'm not!" and call the "little
woman"
a "ball and chain," the statistics prove that
marriage
is
possibly
as important to
more
so.
men
as
it
is
to
women,
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How to Keep Your
Husband Happy
and Faithful
Forever
The most important
part of marriage
is
love.
But
again, the deepest expression of that love is sex. Certainly
you can hold hands and hug and kiss, but sex is
closest
the
two people can ever get emotionally, mentally,
spiritually,
and obviously physically.
Two
people can't
get any closer physically than intercourse.
So
love.
to
have a happy marriage the
And
part of that love is like.
first
It is
ingredient
is
not a cliche to
say your spouse should be your best friend.
To have a lasting relationship you must have interests

in
common and you must like the person you're sexually
attracted to. If
like theater
you love movies and don't
and your spouse hates
flicks
particularly
and adores
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stage plays, you're going to have to

If
compromise a
you love the shore and your beloved
you love rock and spouse-o loves

gonna be a
Again,
life
let
quoted on the
lot.
likes the desert,
classical, there's
of compromise.
me
bring up Donald Trump,
TV
show
who was
E.T. about his separation
from
Maria:
Maria
is
not a person that's into the world of the
am. She would rather
materialistic, as perhaps I
walk down the beach
400 calls
I
have
to,
to bankers
and
for three hours than
make
and associates and people
would rather make the phone
like
calls.
believe that the reason they didn't see (or didn't
care to see) that they had
little
in
common was
because
Donald, like most husbands in long-term marriages, was

probably so bored sexually and was so turned-on by
the exciting sex with his
new amour,
that nothing else
mattered but to continue with the exciting sex.

exciting sex led to their getting married.
As
And
I
the
see
it,
once the sexual excitement died down, the important

differences in their personalities
she craving peacefulness
he craving
action and
became more obvious and
less acceptable to him.
So don't go
to
bed with every person of the opposite
sex you meet 'cause sex
comes
to
is
very persuasive
when
it
making a commitment, and you can believe
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when what
you're "in love"
and
after a
nothing in
When
while you
may
it
really is is "in lust,"
you actually had
find out
common.
reality sets in
total opposites,
you may
you are almost
find
and even though opposites may
attract,
they sure don't stay together.
We want to be with someone who has our same sense

of humor (boy,
same
is
that important!), our
fell in
values, our
sames.
sensitivities, plus all the other
Peter Falk
same
love with and married Shera Danese
because he says she makes him laugh, and Johnny Depp

says of his sweetie, Ms. Moss,
'
'Kate
makes me laugh!
But once you've met someone special

truly like,
and you have
bed and sex
is
lots
whom
'
you
of sames, and you go to
divine, that's the person to spend your
lifetime with.
There's a well-known quote that
When
sex
is great, it's
don't agree with:
ten percent of
a marriage.
When
sex
is
bad,
it's
ninety percent
of a marriage.
The bad sex being ninety
when
to a
sex
man.
is great, it's
It
may be
percent,
also ninety percent of a marriage

less important to a wife, but it's
ninety percent important to a husband.

is
ever 'bad'
'
'
is
agree with, but
The reason sex
because when your spouse
starts
taking
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you
and doesn't
for granted
A man
sex gets boring.
pay attention
really
will not
marry a
to you,
woman
if
he's not sexually attracted to her (unless of course he's
marrying her for her money or
if it's
an arranged mar-
riage).
So
the love
you wouldn't have gotten
there (or
is
married), and hopefully the like
and when you have
really compatible,
sex can
that
make you
two people
also there and you're
is
all
the rest, great
put up with a lot of sass and problems
living together
always encounter that
might otherwise overwhelm your relationship.
Now remember,
get,
so great sex
is
sex
is
two people can ever
the deepest expression of your love
One of
for each other.
the closest
the
main reasons why sex
boring later on in a marriage
gets
because one or both of
is
The excitement has died
the partners are bored sexually.
because you've allowed yourselves to forget the "sexual
master" part of sex. Once a husband learns
how
to give
her an orgasm through intercourse alone (he takes charge
much and
of her body), she'll want sex as

does!
And
she'll
do anything
for
him
as often as he
sexually to
make
it
exciting to assure he'll continue giving her the greatest
orgasms she's ever had.

his body, he'll
Because
And once
do anything for
this
book
is
a wife takes charge of
her.
a marriage manual,
have
to
assume you love your spouse. Maybe sex has gotten

boring, but
dated,
you
still
love each other.
you were very sexually
When you
first
attracted to each other
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and when you made love (assuming you did before you
got hitched), the sex was phenomenal. Just being near
each other got you excited and you both started really
feeling like
That's
you were "in love."
why you wanted
to get married.
You, the
husband, liked her of course, but the sexual excitement
was overpowering and you wanted
to
make
love to her
forever!
Did you ever wonder why you were was so much
in
love? Didn't you feel that she was in charge of you

sexually? She
was
the one
who
you on,
really turned
you were charged up every time you were near her and
you got incredibly excited thinking about going
with her, but she was the one
was
in control of the sex,
her and her body to
She was
the
like
who had
to say
to
bed
OK. She
and you were dependent on
make you
surrender in an orgasm.
your sexual master inasmuch as she had
power within her body and her mind
to get
you and
keep you excited, and then she had to respond to you
and your desires before you could have an orgasm. Well,
you could have masturbated and thought about

that's not real surrender
her
may have
her, but
even though your fantasies of
played a big
part.
There's no mystery with masturbation, no surprises.
How
could there be? You're the one in charge!
could you not
So
know what
you're going to do?
for masturbation (vs. intercourse), there
render,
no master, only
How
fantasy.
is
no
sur-
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To have
orgasm
perfect total
and
trust
takes a person
is!)
feel is
dumber than you.
strong and
really love
beneath you or weaker than
A man wants a woman who's
who knows she's in charge of him, and who's
really focused
on him,
really crazy about him,
you were
you
And you're never turned
and are turned on by.
on by someone you
you, or
what a
real sexual surrender (again, that's
paying attention to him,
really
and
what you had when
that's
dating.
During the dating phase, even

have an orgasm,
she'll fake
it
if
woman
doesn't
many
(as I did too
times)
because she loves him and wants to have a permanent

relationship with
important sex
is
him and she

to a
instinctively
man. So the sex wasn't
that great
you got mar-
for her (I'm talking intercourse), and after

ried she
knows how
stopped being your "sexual master," she
stopped consciously using her power over you, and sex

started slowly getting less exciting for
you
till it
started
getting actually boring.
That's the point at which most
around and fooling around.
It
man and
his
start
looking
could be after twenty
years, or eight years, or. two years
the
men
it all
depends on
boredom/excitement threshold to
how
quickly he will cheat. There's nothing deadlier to a
marriage than boring sex.
Now we
sexing you
all
is
woman who
know
sex
never boring but the person
is
boring, so he' s
will turn
him
gonna find another exciting
on.
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But he doesn't have
The woman
to!
assume
he's married to can once again
her power and become his sexual master and take charge
of his body.
It
all
can't be just one of the partners
the time. That
who
is in
charge
would be constantly exciting
for the
making him or her have
recipient of the sexual master
an orgasm every time, but
it
would soon become very
boring for the one in charge always to be in charge.

take turns.
One time one
in charge, is the sexual master
and drives the
So what you have

of you
is
other crazy with not
to
do
is
knowing when
him or her have an orgasm, and
(or if!) you'll
make
the next time the other
spouse does the same.
What
you're going to learn in this book, the very
most important
technical/physical
important.
How
show him
that
woman who
bites
it,
and the
thing, is that the psychological
part
of lovemaking
you physically make love

you have taken charge of
grabs his penis and squeezes
then grabs his balls
charge, she's a roughneck.
down
it,
him must
to
his body.
it
they hurt,
The woman who
at his penis, then gently takes
brings her tongue
till
equally
are
hard and
is
not in
first
tenderly licks
to his balls
looks
it
and
and gently runs her
tongue over them and goes back to his penis and runs
her tongue over the top, gently sucking the
woman
is in
tip,
that
charge of his body and really loves his
body, and he knows
it!
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She has taken over
his psyche!
You, the wife, when you take charge of
his body,
make him have an orgasm after sweetly

him and driving him crazy with his not knowing
are going to
teasing
when you're going
make him come
to
or even
if you 're
going to make him come.
You're going
of sex.
And
if
have fun with him and play the game

fun to be in charge of somebody's
it is
body and have

and
to
the
power
you decide the time
little
him an orgasm when
to give
is right.
sweet, loving torture
is
a big turn on!
Remember:
Sex
is
Love
You
always a game!
is
never a game!
never tease with love.
You always
tease with
sex.
Teasing really turns a
woman on when
her husband
drives her wild with physical promises of
orgasm
he deliberately keeps lovingly withholding
till
that
she's
absolutely crazy with desire.
And
as exciting as that is for a female,
exciting to a
man
to
have
his
woman
it's
just as
take charge of his
body and drive him wild by sexually teasing him and
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then giving
him
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orgasm he's ever had
the greatest
in
his life.
When you do
decide you're going to take charge of
your husband's body, you should
he leaves for work, or
call
him
at
him
tell
just before
work, that tonight
is
the night you're going to take complete control of his
body and tease him
him
think about
it
he goes out of his mind. Let
till
all
day.
And when he comes home,

and slowly take off
and underwear, and
Slowly
start to
lead
him
bedroom
to the
his shirt, belt, slacks, undershirt,

tell
him
to lie
on the bed.
take your clothes off,
first
your dress
or blouse and skirt/pants, then your bra, and then your
Go
panties.
over to him, and take both of your hands
with your fingers extended and lightly run them over

his chest
Tell
and arms.
him
he's not allowed to
that's part of the deal of
his chest
and arms and
move
or to touch you,
you taking charge. So tease
softly tease the inside of his
thighs with the pads of your fingertips.
bend
to
his legs,
Then
and gently go with your
tell
him
fingertips
behind his knees and tease him there.
At a certain point (and you are

you want), gently touch
over.
Then go
up and down
the
tip,
shaft,
in control of
his balls
to his penis
whenever
and tease them
and gently run your fingers
Wet your fingertips and run them across

he gets more aroused, go back down the
it.
and as
all
then do the same thing with your tongue.
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When he
his penis
Do
really gets hot, stop
and go back
not
let
what you're doing with
to teasing his chest
and arms.
him touch you.
He must be passive because you are actively in control. You can continue going from teasing his arms and
legs
and nipples back
many
to his penis. Start over again as
times and as long as you want.
your game
It's
and you are the coach calling every play.
Something
you
your husband
that is very sexy to
to masturbate
up and down
as
you play with
it.
wet because you've been sucking

into
it is
it
move
If it's not already
it,
your hand, or better yet give
very wet suck so
for
him with your hand.
Put either hand around his penis and begin to

it
is
put
some
saliva
a nice loving and
slippery as your
hand goes up
and down.
Gently keep moving your hand up and down, and
you can every once

head of
it
it
and
it,
lick
roll
it.
in a while put
your mouth over the
your tongue around
Then go back
it
and gently suck
to playing with
it,
wet and moving your hand up and down
comes.
Or,
if
promise you he will love
you
feel that after
keeping
until
he
it.
you have teased him with
your mouth and hands, the time has come for you to
give
him an intercourse orgasm, you very gently climb
onto his body, straddling him, and slowly lower your

self onto his penis, very slowly.
way
in, raise
up a
little,
When it's
about half-
very slowly go in and out
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halfway down a few times, then slowly go
all
the
way
down.
You
are
in charge,
still
still
on
top,
and he will erupt
very soon. Just keep slowly going up and

penis
his
he explodes into your body with the most
till
orgasm he's ever had.
intense
Or,
down on
if
you'd rather give him an oral orgasm, once
you've got him really aroused, go back to his penis and

tongue-teasing
start softly
hand around
it
and
start
it
and then put your
again,
moving
it
up and down the
He will love it when you take control

and make it harder and bigger by playing
slippery wet shaft.
of his penis
with
with your hand and
it
at the
and licking the head of it, except
same time sucking
this
time you're going
way to make him erupt into the greatest prolonged

pleasure he's ever had. You move your hand to the base
of his penis and begin to slowly and gently move your
all
the
mouth up and down, your tongue gently going

it.
The sensation
to
your husband
your mouth," and that
As you
is
is
that he's
all
"fucking
very exciting to him.
continue, very gently teasing his throbbing
penis with your tongue, and gently sucking
it,
let it
tenderly in and out of your mouth, and as you feel
more and more
getting
mouth
tighter
and down
it
feel for
until
around
it
excited,
as
a sense of
love.
go
him
you can make your
you move your mouth up
he has an orgasm.
And what
the man you
will be.
over
And what
an orgasm
power and love
you'll
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Or, let's say you both have to get to
don't have
much
you decide
time, but
work and you

to give
him a
"quickie" and take charge of his body on the spur of

the
moment. Your husband
is
already in bed and you
reach under the covers and gently take his penis in your
hand and
softly caress
continue fondling as
Now
you
mouth over
it
it.
pull the covers
back and
your mouth and suck
let's
softly put
the tip and very gently suck
down
it till
real quickie (about five minutes)
But
and you
grows bigger and harder.
run your tongue gently up and

all in
to get hard,
It starts
it.
your
Then you
the shaft, put
it
he comes. That's a
and
he'll love
it.
say you're not in a tremendous hurry, so
you've got him where he's out of his mind with pleasure
and probably seconds away from orgasm when you take

your mouth away and begin to softly kiss the inside of
his thighs.
You can
gently whisper,
heart, to give
"I'm not ready
you an orgasm." This
yet, sweet-
will really stun
him, because you have totally taken over his body.

are in charge
and he knows
it.
"I'll let
You
you know when
I'm ready," you whisper.

After gently kissing the inside of his thighs, you
might want to go back to his penis and tease a
little
more. The more you tease, the stronger the orgasm when
he
finally
If
has
you want
it.
to continue teasing,
you might go
to his
nipples and very gently rub your tongue around the
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and very
sides
softly kiss them.
him while you
to continue fondling
By now
And you might want

kiss his nipples.
he's fully crazed with desire, and you might
feel you're ready to give
him an orgasm.
It's
your
call,
so do whatever you feel you want to do, and he'll be

so attuned to the fact that you took control, that you
made him wait till you wanted him to have an orgasm.

What a turn-on to a guy to be sometimes passive.
The more fun you have with sex the better it always
is. Maybe you'll get on top of him and use his penis
to play with
That
your
own
clit till
a huge turn-on to a
is
his penis to masturbate
And maybe
rubbing your
put
it
you're crazy with desire.
man
to
know
you're using
and drive yourself crazy.
you'll actually give yourself an orgasm,
clit
with his penis
inside yourself and
till
you come, and then
move up and down on
it.
Believe me, he won't be able to control himself and he

will also
orgasm
as
you move up and down.
Oral sex and woman-on-top are the two best ways

for a
woman
to take
charge of her husband's body.
Man-on-top, aka intercourse missionary position,
most exciting and satisfying sex
to both a
is
the
husband and
my new technique in HOW

TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY TIME ...and have
a wife only if
done with
her beg for more!
One
very exciting
play. In
my
which
based
game (and
lots
of fun)
1981 sex survey of married
is
to role-
women from
HOW TO SATISFY A WOMAN EVERY
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TIME
and have her beg for more!, one of the women
wrote an addendum on the back of one of the pages

telling
that
how
she drove her husband wild by telling him
he was a "bad
little
boy" and wasn't allowed
to
touch any part of her body until he apologized, and even

then she wouldn't
let
him go
all
the
way
she
until
felt
appeased that he was really sorry for being so "bad."

I
have taken her idea and dramatized
it
in a very
sexy way:
After you have slowly taken
front of
your clothes off in
all
him and then slowly taken
(when you're
in charge,
all his
clothes off
you do the undressing
when
he's in charge, he will), you will begin the real fun.

first
you play with
his penis
and get
it
big and hard and
then say:
You know, you've been a naughty boy and I don't

know if I should let you touch me or not. I don't
think we should make love," you tell him as you
lie
next to
him on
the bed. "I don't
want
to allow
anyone as naughty as you to ever touch my body."
As he
stares at
"Are you
you
in
At
wonderment, you
sorry you've been such a bad
say,
little
boy?" and when he says "Yes" (which he has

to say to continue), you ask him "Are you going
to apologize for being so
naughty? 'Cause
don't, we're not going to
make
love."
if
you
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and then
1
my
make sure he says "I'm sorry"

make him say "I apologize."
then you
'Okay, you apologized, would you like to touch

nipple just for a second?"
"Yes," and he touches
"Would you
like to
it.
my
suck
nipples just for a
minute?"
"Yes," and he puts

it
his lips
on one and sucks
few moments, then on the other one.
for a
"Would you
hot between
my
boy can do,
just touch
touches
me where
legs? But that's

it
all
I'm
a bad
for a second,"
all
little
and he
with his hand.
it
Then you
play with
touch
like to
say, "I think
I'm going
to let
you
my pussy for a minute and get me hotter,
but just for a minute."
He
starts to softly
you want
it
As you
aroused),
gized,
get
clit.
more aroused (and he
you say
to him,
to let
him know
to let
gently) play with your
I'm going
tiny bit
(make sure
is
already
"Because you've apolo-
you put
you can only put
it in,
but only a
the head in and
no
more."
He
you
gets
say,
on top and puts the head
"You
And
did say you were sorry for being
so naughty, so I'm going to

inch, but
into you.
no more than
let
you go
that ..."
in another
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"Okay, you can put

only go in halfway
it
in a
little bit
more, but
halfway."
that's all, just
"You know, I'm going to forgive you for being

such a bad, naughty
all
little
boy and
let
you go
in
the way, but very, very slowly."
And you keep
Now
it
up
till
orgasms happen.
you can write any scenario you want. Remem-
game and you've
ber, it's a
gotta have fun.
Maybe
he'll
play the young, shy delivery boy and you are the older,
married
have
woman
hot for his young, hard body, and you
By
to seduce him.
woman's
tits
him look
at
before, and
asking
him
if
he ever saw a
you open your blouse and
your bra, and ask him
if
he'd like to unhook
your bra and touch your nipples, you can really get
"little
you'll be a
young schoolgirl
seduce, and he'll ask you to

he'll
ask
he'll
ask
if you'll let
if
(if
sit
and then
little
pussy.
By
this
time
hot.
tries to
his teacher at school, he's a kid,
seduce you by asking
prettiest teacher in the school

lot.
his lap,
take your panties off, then
school and talk to you. Then he
on
that he'll try to
you're really focusing on each other)
Or maybe you're
and he
him
he can touch your
both of you
be
this
kid" horny for you.
Maybe
will
let
He
tells
if
tells
he can stay
after
you you're the
and he dreams about you
you he's never thought about a woman's
129
The Master Plan
body
until you, but
now
all
he can think about
is
your
body.
You
to
could
have
to
after
he's spanked
off,
your
and
tell
him
to
him
he's naughty and you're going
spank him for talking
what you do
crazy; or
tell
you take
maybe
like that (and that's
his pants off),
and then
you'll suck his penis
till
after
he goes
you could slowly take your blouse or sweater

skirt,
and get down
him you're going
do
as his first
to
your bra and panties,
to
show him what you want
lovemaking lesson. Anything you
can imagine, you can play.
How
could he ever get bored with
women you
with?
Of
different
are inside yourself
and
all
will
the girls and
be teasing him
course you can use wigs to really look like
women
needed because
you want, but they're not
if
it's
your attitude
really
that's important.
You
can wear a schoolgirl dress or a hooker's G-string and

panties, or a pseudo-leather outfit with a whip, or a
riding habit with a riding crop.
The women you can become
are unlimited (but
don't have to have any costumes
if
you have
you
the right
attitude!).
Or you can just use your imagination and your partner

will never
you or
all
know how
that she's got
you're imagining he's spanking
you
tied to the
bed as she's licking
over your body, slowly getting closer to your penis.
To me, costumes
are fun, but superfluous, because
130
if
you use your imagination and
someone
else,
you go back
it
in
stifled
of different personalities
lots
because
we were
many
inappropriate to act in
But
if
memory and remember when you

old, or eleven or fifteen? And each
one of us has within us
we have
can you be uptight
your
were seven years
that
How
frees you.
really pretend you're
taught that
it
was
different ways.
that's the secret to play-acting.
An actor unlocks
a different character and personality with each role he

plays.
Now
Academy Award,
you're not out to win an
you're out to turn your spouse on.
And
as long as
you
believe you could be a schoolteacher seducing a young
boy, that's
all that's
You can be
riding crop
needed.
shy, tough, innocent, sadistic (with your
which you
both get into
it,
it's
flick
not only fun (because you're really
not yourself anymore) but
be his sexual master or

or next
week
onto his behind). Once you
it's
also sexy. You'll either
be yours.
he'll
And tomorrow
or later today, you'll reverse your roles.
Most of the time you may just want to have beautiful

sex with your spouse without any games, and an amazing thing happens.
You will remember whatever favorite
role really turned
you on, and you'll be making love
the master in that role,
were
which
when you
in love with
Whether you recognize
it
is
the
same one
first fell
to, that
person
who
you
in love.
or not, each one of us
is
we
look
has the power to control us.
You
and always has been searching for someone
up
that
to
The Master Plan

can deny
other
it,
131
but in reality that's what you were to each
when you
fell in love.
And when you become
each other's "sexual master" again, the tremendous

excitement will
It s all
start all
over again.
game and anything
goes!
Falling in love, being in love, and expressing that
love in orgasms of mutual pleasure and profound love

is
the closest
we
will ever
be to heaven on
this plane.
What a pity churches don't comprehend this and teach it,

because
if
they did, married couples would be infinitely
happier and
that
'
much more
'pleasure bond'
'
likely to stay together.
With
cementing them together and with
a sense of fun, the sexual excitement, the love and the

marriage will all
last
'
'as
long as you both shall
live
Afterword
To
you women out there who are putting
all
action what
you have just read, and are with open hearts
and much love and passion pleasuring your men

thank you
And
to all
practicing
much
all
all
of you
lots
who
are giving and receiving
of that love
when you're more
all
but are, with
is spilling
over and
the rest of us, and because we're
when I'm more

we're
and making love,
We're
and tenderly pleasuring your
gently
because from
nected,
you men out there who are no longer
thank you
touching
THE BIG BANG THEORY,
love,
women
into
loving
all in this
one.
it
loving
it
all
con-
touches me, and
touches you.
together,
and love makes us know
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the most intimate

details of their love lives: faithfulness, unfaithfulness,

pornography, prostitutes, impotence, sexual stimulants,

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often would you like sex?

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York Times bestseller

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and have him beg for more! but

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breeze could waft

by and give him an orgasm."

was kidding on the square.

men needed no help.

truly believed that

was almost impossible

an orgasm through intercourse alone, and that's

blessed with a sex organ that

aroused easily and climaxed easily.

men, why are so many men cheating

on their mates? If sex

so exciting for men,

the ideas started pour-

The psychology of sex dominated me

as the ideas started formulating.

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