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James
When I settled into the panhandle of Florida I found denominations but my
myself amongst small Methodist Churches one every five heart is aching for the
miles. One day over coffee, I told a Pastor my regret that I denomination I have the
never became a Pastor. He asked me why I had not pursued greatest passion for. To
the ministry. I replied, I never felt good enough. Again take me out of the ministry
he asked why? I said, Because Im a recovering alcoholic. is like amputating one of
His reply was so what he was one too and it was one of my arms. Being gay has
his assets as a pastor and not a liability. Then he asked what always been such a small
else? I told him I was gay. After a long pause he told me that part of my life that being
we would keep that information between him and me. Then celibate in singleness
he urged me to send a letter to the District Superintendent was painful but tolerable.
regarding my willingness to serve. The Chairperson of
Things were happening fast. Within a year I was the District Committee on
attending seminary, I had quit my job and was appointed as Ordained Ministry asked
an Associate Pastor to a larger church. The next year I was why I wasnt open about
appointed full time as a local pastor while attending seminary. my sexual orientation
Halfway through the second year, I was having dinner with as I had been about my
a friend and a gay friendly couple from my church. This recovery from alcoholism. My answer was FEAR! The
sparked rumors at the local hardware store that the pastor board went against the bishops wishes and gave me the best
at the Methodist Church was queer. In January 2010 I was status they could as a Candidate in Good Standing without
voted out. Within two weeks the church board asked that I an Appointment. Their hope is that another conference
resign immediately. My career as a licensed local pastor and would accept me just the way I ama faithful pastor, making
a candidate for probationary elder was over in one hostile sacrifices to serve the church I love.
meeting without my presence. I have tried to look into other
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Miguel
This moment Im I know that God has called me and it does not matter where I
trying to find out or get am serving, in or outside the church, I am still serving Him.
the call of God in my I do not know what to do now; I have lost friends that I
life that is slipping away loved dearly, but my ex-wife is one of the most supportive
from my hands. I will friends I have and she is holding my hand so I can be raised
have to say good bye up (amazing woman!!) and my family is for me. My D.S.
to the church I came to was a great support for me but on July 1, 2010 my license
serve leaving family and as a pastor is not going to be renewed and the reason given
country behind because was that they cannot appoint me as a phantom ministry.
I believed there was a Yes maybe we do not have the numbers to become a self-
chance to fulfill my call sustaining church, but we have the many voices that we have
in this place. It was in this helped throughout these 9 years serving this conference, and
United Methodist church the many ministries we helped start. Ironically even though
where I found the grace the slogan of the church is open doors, I feel that they have
and love of Christ that I closed the doors for me, and without their support we have
never received in Latin lost the hope to keep working for our community.
American Protestantism. People will think that I did not try enough to change, but
This faith that I rediscovered took me to finally accept they really do not know my journey. This journey took me
myself as a gay man last May 2009. I know I am called to to an ex-gay ministry who took me to fall into a cycle of
teach others different ways to encounter the magnificence of self-destruction, depression, not acceptance, guiltiness, and
Christ. I am called to be real, open and vulnerable. A year emotional instability. So my question will be? Is it better
ago I started to write an online blog about being open and to deny who you are and live a pretend life? Because for
vulnerable; well I could not live a double life anymore if I me coming out saved my life, and took me out from this so
was teaching that. I have talked to other denominations. I unhealthy cycle into a search of my true self. I know that
do not want to go to another denomination, but I think I am finally I am who I am as a person, and as a child of God.
giving up on the idea of serving the church, even in general.
David
My name is David Jenkins and I was recently discon- As a result of all this
tinued from probationary membership in the Kansas West injustice, the Sharon
Annual Conference just months before becoming a full Springs charge has lost
elder. about 20-25% of its mem-
A short time after I was appointed to the Sharon Springs, bership and the Weskan
KS United Methodist Church a high school student, alleged charge is in the process
to be gay, was savagely beaten by another student who in- of officially withdraw-
tended to blow him up inside his own home. Fortunately, ing from the UMC. My
the bomb did not function. Several students in our commu- wife and I were forced to
nity said that if he were gay, he got what he deserved. I felt leave the parsonage at the
it necessary to preach on the love, grace, and compassion of end of January and are
Christ for all people and that no one ever deserves that type now paying rent in pub-
of treatment. Many in the congregation felt it was the best lic housing while living
sermon I had preached and requested a copy of it. on a part-time teachers
A few folks, strong adherents to Focus on the Family, salary. We are now with-
decided it was too liberal for them and their church. out health insurance and I
Unfortunately, the District Superintendent decided, in my have lost my pension. All
opinion, that it was easier to remove me than bear the brunt the hard work I did to become a full elder was for naught.
of their anger and filed a complaint against me. In contra- As this door closes in Kansas West, I pray God will help
diction to the reports from PPRC members, the DS alleged me find the door opening for a pastor who dares to preach a
that they voted to remove me immediately. I was never al- sermon against violence.
lowed to be present at any of these meetings.
All stories were compiled by Rev. Troy Plummber and Rachel Harvey, Deaconess
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WHERE CAN I TAKE MY KIDS TO CHURCH,
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1 first Reconciling church in Alabama, I of grace. Whether you find yourself
certainly hope and pray that our actions traveling through Alabama or reaching
treated with equal value as they grow will embolden others to be more electronically across the miles, know
up no matter what their sexual orien-
intentional in speaking out and working you are welcome at Woodlawn UMC
tation or gender identity may be.
for the day when all of the children of where daily they answer the question
That is why I work for and sup-
port Reconciling Ministries Network God, without exception, are welcome Who will build the church? Well build
today. After my service as a local pas- at Gods expansive and inclusive table it together!
tor in The United Methodist Church EASTER HOPE, CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1
was ended following a call to my but the theme was always the same: If tion in Alabama has been established.
bishops office made by the pastor of people know the real you, then YOU Clergy from my former home church,
a different church in our community ARE NOT ACCEPTABLE, especially Dumbarton United Methodist Church
reporting that I was one of Gods gay in church! in Washington, D.C. have declared
children, I initially planned to return I left Alabama in part for the adven- that they would conduct same-sex mar-
to my home denomination where I ture of life overseas, and in part to try riage ceremonies after Congress failed
hold ordained standing and serve a to escape the anguish of hiding. Now, to override D.C.s new law permitting
congregation in that tradition where 45 years after that first nightmare, Ive them. With the health care vote be-
my sexual orientation would not be come back. My gender angst resolved hind us, focus in political circles turns
an issue. But Sandys call broke my years ago, I return to the south as a mid- to employment rights through ENDA.
pastors heart and changed my mind. dle-aged woman looking for peace and The spring thaw has come, and now is
I knew I had to do something so that community. Sadly, if you are differ- such a critical time to be planting seeds
other pastors and other parishio- ent it is still hard to find. Reconciling of change. Even in difficult places, you
ners wouldnt be hurt like this in the communities in this part of the world can make a difference. Help sponsor a
future. are few and far between, and strides for BOLD gathering in your community.
This situation is not unique. There equality less visible than in some oth- Connect with RUMs in your Annual
are many people like Sandy all around er places. Im saddened that my child- Conference to take action. Everyone
the country, especially in our many hood nightmare is still alive. Where are counts and anyone can help.
rural communities - people who just the communities of believers who will Im dreaming of a time where no
want to go to a church that treats all accept all people as part of their own? 8 year-old child will have nightmares
people the same no matter what their The Easter message of hope is punc- about rejection from the church. And
sexual orientation or gender identi- tuated with the buds and nesting birds, I dream of an Easter morning where a
ty may be, people who want to have assuring me that our brutal, record- middle-aged lesbian, bisexual, gay or
a church in their community where breaking winter has been served notice, transgender person can walk into any
their children learn about Gods love and the fierce time of hate and exclu- United Methodist Church and know
for ALL people, period. sion wanes and will not prevail. There that acceptance, fellowship, love, and
Reconciling Ministries Network are new green shoots in our move- all opportunities await. Its spring.
is doing more to make that dream a ment. The first reconciling congrega- Lets plant some seeds.
reality than any other agency I know
of. By working to end the codified HOW YOU CAN GET INVOLVED, CONTINUED FROM PAGE 3
discrimination against Gods non- will continue to see progress resulting Please visit donate.rmnetwork.org or
straight children in the second larg- in the day when all of us are treated send your check to:
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stretches so that one day, Sandy will the support and donations from people match their employees charitable do-
have a church in her town, where she like you and I made not only on behalf nations so be sure to ask your employ-
feels comfortable taking her children of ourself, but on behalf of the people er about this option. If you would like
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