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KATALYST

NEWSLETTER OF RECONCILING MINISTRIES NETWORK

VOL. 27 NO. 2 WWW.RMNETWORK.ORG SPRING, 2010

Where Can I Take Easter Hope


By Sally Sparks, RMN Board Member
My Kids To Church? This past Easter morning I woke to
by Rev. Carl Davis
a spectacular sunrise; bright, warm, and
Where can I cloudless. The daffodils are popping,
take my kids to and a bird is busily tucking a nest on
church? Sandy a beam under the roof. This is my first
asked me a few Easter in my native deep south since
weeks after the I left Alabama 28 years ago. Things
bishop removed were different then. I had an easy up-
me from the pas- bringing, taking for granted my privi-
torate of her church because Im gay. leged position as white, male, affluent,
What do you mean? I asked. Your and being fortunate enough to grow up
family has been a part of your church in a loving home. No one saw the strug-
for generations. gle I kept to myself. As I child, I would
But, I cant keep taking my kids go to bed dreaming I would wake up on and was quickly out the door, ea-
to a church that treats gay people that and be a girl. I succeeded at boyhood, ger to go to church. I walked down
way. What if one of my kids turns but it didnt feel right. This southern to the main road looking for someone
out to be gay? Or even if they arent, Easter morning reminds me of a recur- to take me to worship. Cars streamed
I cant raise them in a church that ring nightmare that haunted me when I past full of people decked out in their
teaches them that it is okay to dis- was very young; only about 8 or 9. In Easter finery. Cars slowed, but didnt
criminate. Where can I take my kids the dream I woke to a glorious Easter stop. Some laughed. All stared. No
to church? very much like today; but this time my one would take me to church. I looked
I didnt have an answer. The sad wish had come true, I was that little girl in a mirror and saw what was wrong.
truth is that there were no churches of I longed to be. Laid out in my bedroom Although I got my wish and was a little
any denomination within driving dis- was a new Easter dress; that Easter daf- girl, I was completely bald! The de-
tance of Sandys small town where fodil and downy chick yellow. I put it tails of the dream changed over time,
Gods love for lesbian, gay, bisexual
and transgender people was openly Continued on Page 6
proclaimed in policy and practice.
I am hurt and angered by the anti-
gay policies of The United Methodist I remember when I used to call
Church which cause damage and de- church home. I most regretfully
struction not only to LGBT peo- resigned from the candidacy
ple like me, but also to people like process for ordination in the
Sandy and her children. Sandy de-
serves to have a congregation in her
United Methodist Church, not
town where she can take her children because I am not called to serve,
without worrying that they will expe- but because I am not allowed to
rience homophobia from the pulpit or serve as God has created me.
from the practice of the church. The
-Joseph Allen Kyser
babies I baptized while serving as a
United Methodist pastor deserve to
be raised in churches where they are
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Woodlawn UMC , Birmingham, AL RECONCILING MINISTRIES NET WORK
By Rachel Harvey, Deaconess mobilizes United Methodists of
On May 31, 2009 a fire began in all sexual orientations and gender
the basement of Woodlawn UMC that identities to transform our Church
consumed its historic sanctuary and and world into the full expression of
pipe organ. While this fire may have Christs inclusive love.
displaced some faith communities and
BOARD OF DIRECTORS
stifled their voice, the community at
Helen Andrew
Woodlawn UMC decided to pick up Rachel Birkhahn-Rommelfanger
the pieces, open their doors and sing a Vincent Cervantes
new song. Rev. Daniel Diss
A Believe Out Loud training hosted Lawrence T. Duncan
by Woodlawn early in 2010 fanned a movement it carried hope, courage Rev. Duane A. Ewers
flame of inclusion that had been burning and joy with it. For weeks the RMN Elizabeth A. Fimbres
at Woodlawn for generations. When office received phone calls verifying Will J. Green
I arrived at Woodlawn UMC in 1994, that the information in Flashnet was Esther Villarreal Houser
I discovered that one of the churchs correct, Do we really have a church Madelyn Marsh
Rev. David Meredith
former pastors had already sown the in Alabama? Thats amazing, maybe
Dr. Randall Miller
seeds of love and acceptance of all I can really get my church to start the
Rev. Holland Morgan
Gods children. I simply continued to processif they can do it in Alabama, Rev. Joshua M. Noblitt
preach that same love and acceptance we can at least try! Woodlawns bold Rev. John Oda
that the community had been hearing for Reconciling identity not only lends Elizabeth Okayama
generations Larry Horne, Woodlawn courage to churches in the process, it Rev. Dr. Karen Oliveto
pastor shared. The Believe Out also sends a clear message that all are Rosario Quiones
Loud training provided a catalyst for welcome. Norm Osland, a Reconciling Rev. Dr. Bruce Robbins
Woodlawn to envision what it means to United Methodist in Toledo, Ohio Sally Sparks
be the church. After the training, Matt shared his excitement via Facebook Rev. Dr. Derrick Spiva
Lacy, new outreach minister, and his saying, I once attended the first Monica L. Swink
Joy T. Watts
wife Katie Gilbert led a visioning team (Reconciling church) in Texasknow
Ralph A. Williams
with the specific task of developing how important your faithful witness is
a vision and mission statement for even to those you have never met, and LEGAL COUNSEL
the church. Woodlawns mission may never meet. Every time I have been Jennifer Soule
and vision statements are inherently in Alabama I have kept on drivin, now
reconciling, which is a reflection of it is so wonderful to know that there is RMN STAFF
Meg Carey
both who they are, and who they seek a place stop and worship.
Business Manager
to be as a community. The phone calls and Facebook
As news of Woodlawns decision posts Woodlawn have received mirror James Dalton
to join RMN spread throughout the Larrys hope for their witness as the Communication/Technology Coord.
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Rev. Carl Davis
New Reconciling Communities Director of Development
Churches:
Stephanie Harris
UMC of Merced of Merced, CA Admin & Donor Relations Associate
Walnut Hills UMC of Urbandale, IA
Woodlawn UMC of Birmingham, AL Rachel Harvey, Deaconess
St. Andrew UMC of Highlands Ranch, CO Associate Executive Director

Audrey Krumbach, M.Div.


Communities: Field Organizer
The Friends of Trinity of Salina, KS
United Methodist Laity & Retired Clergy of the Rochester, NY Area Rev. Troy Plummer
Executive Director

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How You Can Get Involved
By Rev. Carl Davis A few weeks after I started to atte
nd a local
As you read this edition of Katalyst, you will hear the United Methodist Church I met wit
h the senior
stories of people who have been hurt by the discriminato- pastor to introduce myself. I told
him I am a
ry policies and practices of The United Methodist Church transgender woman; he seemed to
- effective pastors removed from pulpits (often against the be fine with
it. I met with him a few more tim
wishes of their congregation), children taught that Gods es to be sure
everything was going well and the
welcome didnt extend to them because they were differ- re werent any
issues with me attending. A year afte
ent, a promising seminary student denied ordination because r worshiping
in church and participating in wo
it was rumored that he was a queer, a straight pastor de- mens group
nied ordained standing in The United Methodist Church af-
activities, I was called to the church
for a special
ter preaching a sermon condemning anti-gay violence in his meeting. The senior pastor and lay
leader issued
community. Many of you reading this have similar stories me banishment papers which state
in bold letters
from your own life and interactions with the Church. you no longer have the right to com
e onto the
Hearing these stories reminds us of how broad the prob- property...if you enter or remain on
the property
lem of discrimination is and causes each of us to ask our- you will be prosecuted for crimina
l trespass. The
selves the question Can I do anything to fix this problem? purpose of me being there was to
The answer to that question is YES. Yes, each of us can,
worship and
serve the Lord, not to be an activist.
MUST work to fix this problem. But how?
First of all, we must remember that it is God alone who - Kathy
has created us, redeemed us and sustains us not another
person, or group of people not even if that person is called Finally and very importantly, we can work together to
a pastor or a bishop and not even if that group of people is end this culture of discrimination by sharing and investing
called a denomination or a board of ordained ministry. Our our resources according to our inclusive values.
value and worth come from our identity as children of God For the last 25 years RMN has been working to end dis-
and we are ALL Gods children solely because of Gods crimination against LGBT people in The United Methodist
choosing no one and nothing can ever change that. Always Church. While our mission is not yet accomplished we are
remember, YOU are of sacred worth no matter what. All of nearing the tipping point. For instance, while the last General
the work we do for change is rooted in that reality. Conference voted to retain the incompatibility clause it did
Next, we can be the change we wish to see. Let each of so by the smallest margin ever only 54.6% in favor of dis-
us examine the way we think about and treat others to be crimination, down from a high of 80.9% back in 1988. This
sure that we arent ourselves causing harm. Let each of us progress is only possible because people like you and I make
strive to live by the golden rule each day. financial contributions to RMN. As we continue to share, we
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Tributes and Memorial


In Memory of... Tiffany Steinwert was honored by:
Cynthia Good, Deborah Weekley, Julie Arms,
Kathy Reynolds remembers Lee Williamson Roxanne Danek, Stacy Pever Anzick
Jean Jones remembers Sally Daniel
Kara Ker honors Anne Brown
In Honor of...
Carl Davis was honored by: Wesley & Connie Paulson
Adrienne Trevathon, Kathy Austin honor Emily Vaias & Mariah Mitchell
David Braden was honored by: Richard Burns honors Joy & Bill
Amanda Stein, Carl Davis, Julie Arms Watts, Joanne & Phil Gillis
David Weekley was honored by:
Bruce Brown, Carol Waymack, Deborah Mary & Jim Todd honor Julie M. Todd
Weekley, Jake Kopmeier, Lauryn Ferris Arlene M. Tully honors Linda
Karen Oliveto was honored by: Keniston & Sandra Hammond
David Braden, Deborah Weekley, Jerry Fillingim,
John Oda, Julie Arms, Rusty Clyma, Tiffany Marlene Crowder was honored by Anonymous
Steinwert, Tom Cullens, Will J. Green
Rev. & Mrs. Thomason honor Rev. William Coleman
Laura & Laurie were honored by:
Ed Folkwein, Shirley Folkwein

Spring 2010 Katalyst | 


OUR STORIES
Within a four month period the RMN office received six stories from people who have been excluded
from participating in the life of The United Methodist Church because of discriminatory policies in the
Book of Discipline. Here are a few of their stories.
Violet
Growing up, I was I had attended Boston Avenue UMC for nearly five years
taught that being gay or and had been living full-time as myself for six months. One
lesbian was sinful and Sunday, I brought a friend of mine who was also transgender
immoral. After I became to church. The following Friday, I was asked to attend a
an adult and joined a meeting in the office of one of the Associate Ministers. There,
UMC church, I became I was asked to leave the Sunday School class that I had been
more open-minded. I a member of for over four years. I was told that there were
began to explore my own many who were uncomfortable with me and I was blamed
sexuality and gender for the decline in class attendance. Rather than allowing me
issues. to remain in the class, I was asked to leave simply because
When I began my ten other members threatened to leave. The Senior Minister
gender transition in the refused to do anything.
summer of 2008, in I was shocked and hurt deeply and I felt betrayed. The
the midst of all of the open-minds and acceptance that I had before were no longer
uncertainty that comes there. Now, I am a Reconciling Methodist in exile because
with such a huge change, there are no open and affirming congregations anywhere
the one certain aspect that near me. Despite this, I remain optimistic and know that with
I had was the fact that I would be loved and accepted in the time and hard work, the UMC will become a Reconciling
church I was attending. That all changed in June of 2009. denomination.

James
When I settled into the panhandle of Florida I found denominations but my
myself amongst small Methodist Churches one every five heart is aching for the
miles. One day over coffee, I told a Pastor my regret that I denomination I have the
never became a Pastor. He asked me why I had not pursued greatest passion for. To
the ministry. I replied, I never felt good enough. Again take me out of the ministry
he asked why? I said, Because Im a recovering alcoholic. is like amputating one of
His reply was so what he was one too and it was one of my arms. Being gay has
his assets as a pastor and not a liability. Then he asked what always been such a small
else? I told him I was gay. After a long pause he told me that part of my life that being
we would keep that information between him and me. Then celibate in singleness
he urged me to send a letter to the District Superintendent was painful but tolerable.
regarding my willingness to serve. The Chairperson of
Things were happening fast. Within a year I was the District Committee on
attending seminary, I had quit my job and was appointed as Ordained Ministry asked
an Associate Pastor to a larger church. The next year I was why I wasnt open about
appointed full time as a local pastor while attending seminary. my sexual orientation
Halfway through the second year, I was having dinner with as I had been about my
a friend and a gay friendly couple from my church. This recovery from alcoholism. My answer was FEAR! The
sparked rumors at the local hardware store that the pastor board went against the bishops wishes and gave me the best
at the Methodist Church was queer. In January 2010 I was status they could as a Candidate in Good Standing without
voted out. Within two weeks the church board asked that I an Appointment. Their hope is that another conference
resign immediately. My career as a licensed local pastor and would accept me just the way I ama faithful pastor, making
a candidate for probationary elder was over in one hostile sacrifices to serve the church I love.
meeting without my presence. I have tried to look into other
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Miguel
This moment Im I know that God has called me and it does not matter where I
trying to find out or get am serving, in or outside the church, I am still serving Him.
the call of God in my I do not know what to do now; I have lost friends that I
life that is slipping away loved dearly, but my ex-wife is one of the most supportive
from my hands. I will friends I have and she is holding my hand so I can be raised
have to say good bye up (amazing woman!!) and my family is for me. My D.S.
to the church I came to was a great support for me but on July 1, 2010 my license
serve leaving family and as a pastor is not going to be renewed and the reason given
country behind because was that they cannot appoint me as a phantom ministry.
I believed there was a Yes maybe we do not have the numbers to become a self-
chance to fulfill my call sustaining church, but we have the many voices that we have
in this place. It was in this helped throughout these 9 years serving this conference, and
United Methodist church the many ministries we helped start. Ironically even though
where I found the grace the slogan of the church is open doors, I feel that they have
and love of Christ that I closed the doors for me, and without their support we have
never received in Latin lost the hope to keep working for our community.
American Protestantism. People will think that I did not try enough to change, but
This faith that I rediscovered took me to finally accept they really do not know my journey. This journey took me
myself as a gay man last May 2009. I know I am called to to an ex-gay ministry who took me to fall into a cycle of
teach others different ways to encounter the magnificence of self-destruction, depression, not acceptance, guiltiness, and
Christ. I am called to be real, open and vulnerable. A year emotional instability. So my question will be? Is it better
ago I started to write an online blog about being open and to deny who you are and live a pretend life? Because for
vulnerable; well I could not live a double life anymore if I me coming out saved my life, and took me out from this so
was teaching that. I have talked to other denominations. I unhealthy cycle into a search of my true self. I know that
do not want to go to another denomination, but I think I am finally I am who I am as a person, and as a child of God.
giving up on the idea of serving the church, even in general.

David
My name is David Jenkins and I was recently discon- As a result of all this
tinued from probationary membership in the Kansas West injustice, the Sharon
Annual Conference just months before becoming a full Springs charge has lost
elder. about 20-25% of its mem-
A short time after I was appointed to the Sharon Springs, bership and the Weskan
KS United Methodist Church a high school student, alleged charge is in the process
to be gay, was savagely beaten by another student who in- of officially withdraw-
tended to blow him up inside his own home. Fortunately, ing from the UMC. My
the bomb did not function. Several students in our commu- wife and I were forced to
nity said that if he were gay, he got what he deserved. I felt leave the parsonage at the
it necessary to preach on the love, grace, and compassion of end of January and are
Christ for all people and that no one ever deserves that type now paying rent in pub-
of treatment. Many in the congregation felt it was the best lic housing while living
sermon I had preached and requested a copy of it. on a part-time teachers
A few folks, strong adherents to Focus on the Family, salary. We are now with-
decided it was too liberal for them and their church. out health insurance and I
Unfortunately, the District Superintendent decided, in my have lost my pension. All
opinion, that it was easier to remove me than bear the brunt the hard work I did to become a full elder was for naught.
of their anger and filed a complaint against me. In contra- As this door closes in Kansas West, I pray God will help
diction to the reports from PPRC members, the DS alleged me find the door opening for a pastor who dares to preach a
that they voted to remove me immediately. I was never al- sermon against violence.
lowed to be present at any of these meetings.

All stories were compiled by Rev. Troy Plummber and Rachel Harvey, Deaconess
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WOODLAWN UMC, CONTINUED FROM PAGE 2
WHERE CAN I TAKE MY KIDS TO CHURCH,
CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1 first Reconciling church in Alabama, I of grace. Whether you find yourself
certainly hope and pray that our actions traveling through Alabama or reaching
treated with equal value as they grow will embolden others to be more electronically across the miles, know
up no matter what their sexual orien-
intentional in speaking out and working you are welcome at Woodlawn UMC
tation or gender identity may be.
for the day when all of the children of where daily they answer the question
That is why I work for and sup-
port Reconciling Ministries Network God, without exception, are welcome Who will build the church? Well build
today. After my service as a local pas- at Gods expansive and inclusive table it together!
tor in The United Methodist Church EASTER HOPE, CONTINUED FROM PAGE 1
was ended following a call to my but the theme was always the same: If tion in Alabama has been established.
bishops office made by the pastor of people know the real you, then YOU Clergy from my former home church,
a different church in our community ARE NOT ACCEPTABLE, especially Dumbarton United Methodist Church
reporting that I was one of Gods gay in church! in Washington, D.C. have declared
children, I initially planned to return I left Alabama in part for the adven- that they would conduct same-sex mar-
to my home denomination where I ture of life overseas, and in part to try riage ceremonies after Congress failed
hold ordained standing and serve a to escape the anguish of hiding. Now, to override D.C.s new law permitting
congregation in that tradition where 45 years after that first nightmare, Ive them. With the health care vote be-
my sexual orientation would not be come back. My gender angst resolved hind us, focus in political circles turns
an issue. But Sandys call broke my years ago, I return to the south as a mid- to employment rights through ENDA.
pastors heart and changed my mind. dle-aged woman looking for peace and The spring thaw has come, and now is
I knew I had to do something so that community. Sadly, if you are differ- such a critical time to be planting seeds
other pastors and other parishio- ent it is still hard to find. Reconciling of change. Even in difficult places, you
ners wouldnt be hurt like this in the communities in this part of the world can make a difference. Help sponsor a
future. are few and far between, and strides for BOLD gathering in your community.
This situation is not unique. There equality less visible than in some oth- Connect with RUMs in your Annual
are many people like Sandy all around er places. Im saddened that my child- Conference to take action. Everyone
the country, especially in our many hood nightmare is still alive. Where are counts and anyone can help.
rural communities - people who just the communities of believers who will Im dreaming of a time where no
want to go to a church that treats all accept all people as part of their own? 8 year-old child will have nightmares
people the same no matter what their The Easter message of hope is punc- about rejection from the church. And
sexual orientation or gender identi- tuated with the buds and nesting birds, I dream of an Easter morning where a
ty may be, people who want to have assuring me that our brutal, record- middle-aged lesbian, bisexual, gay or
a church in their community where breaking winter has been served notice, transgender person can walk into any
their children learn about Gods love and the fierce time of hate and exclu- United Methodist Church and know
for ALL people, period. sion wanes and will not prevail. There that acceptance, fellowship, love, and
Reconciling Ministries Network are new green shoots in our move- all opportunities await. Its spring.
is doing more to make that dream a ment. The first reconciling congrega- Lets plant some seeds.
reality than any other agency I know
of. By working to end the codified HOW YOU CAN GET INVOLVED, CONTINUED FROM PAGE 3
discrimination against Gods non- will continue to see progress resulting Please visit donate.rmnetwork.org or
straight children in the second larg- in the day when all of us are treated send your check to:
est Protestant denomination, RMN equally. Reconciling Ministries Network
is working to share Gods inclusive RMNs faithful witness and grass- 3801 N. Keeler Ave. Floor 3
love in small towns and big cities as roots organizing is having a positive Chicago, IL 60641
far as The United Methodist Church impact. Change is coming because of Also remember that many employers
stretches so that one day, Sandy will the support and donations from people match their employees charitable do-
have a church in her town, where she like you and I made not only on behalf nations so be sure to ask your employ-
feels comfortable taking her children of ourself, but on behalf of the people er about this option. If you would like
to learn the love of Jesus, a church whose stories appear in this newsletter to speak with someone about ways you
that transforms the world by living and the many like them throughout the can support RMN (ranging from host-
out the Gospels teaching of justice Church. ing a dinner party to making a planned
and inclusion. I invite you to join me in creat- gift, or a gift of stock or real property)
ing a Church for ALL Gods children please call me at (773) 736-5526.
through a financial gift to RMN today.

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Take Action SAVE THE DATE!
By Audrey Krumbach
Now that you have heard these stories of exclusion, are Reconciling Ministries Network is excited to
you ready to take action? Here are a few simple ways you announce the dates for Convocation 2011 at
can work to end discrimination in our church and world. Sawmill Creek Resort in Huron, OH. So get out
Find a friend to help you, choose one of the below action your calendars and save:
items and begin today in your home to make a change that
helps our church and world move towards Gods fully August 25th - 28th
inclusive vision where all people are welcome at the table. For more information visit:
Begin a conversation about full http://convo2011.rmnetwork.org
inclusion in your congregation:
Meet with a few supportive friends against or fear harassment at work. I strongly urge
Share why each of you are committed you to support the speedy passage of this bill.
to working for full inclusion Add gender identity (transgender) to
Together, offer education for your your churchs reconciling statement:
congregation. RMN recommends: Study gender diversity. RMN recommends:
Claiming the Promise, a Bible study on what the
Made In Gods Image by Ann Thompson Cook
Bible really says
Talking about Homosexuality, a Wesleyan study on TransAction curriculum at www.welcomingresources.
church and sexuality org/transgender
For the Bible Tells Me So film, or Call Me Malcolm (2008) & discussion
the Reconciling Voices DVD. guide at www.callmemalcom.com
Call RMN and ask about next steps Invite the congregation to add gender identity by voice-
vote in worship; update church media and publications.
Support the Employment Non-
Discrimination Act (ENDA) Create a Culture of Inclusion and
This bill extends federal employment protections Support for RMN in your area:
against discrimination based upon race, color, Write a letter/article in your church
religion, sex or national origin to include sexual newsletter about full inclusion.
orientation and gender identity. Right now, it is legal Call your bishop and ask her/him to preach
to harass or fire employees based on gender identity about the sins of racism, sexism, able-ism,
in 38 states, and sexual orientation in 29 states. ageism, heterosexism and homophobia.
To support this law, call your congress people Wear your RMN pin/buttons to events. When
at (202) 224-3121 and ask for them by name and people ask say, I believe Jesus would not exclude
district/state. Ask for the staffer in charge of labor gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.
issues. Say, I am a constituent calling about the Believe Out Loud: Be part of a national
Employment non-Discrimination Act (Senate bill # house-gatherings campaign
1584/ House Resolution 3017). I want you to fully Order a Believe Out Loud House Party Kit from RMN
support the inclusion of sexual orientation and gender Invite 12 friends or church members
identity in the Employment Non-Discrimination Share stories of full inclusion.
Act. No qualified person should be discriminated Invite participants to sign up as BOLD RUMs.

Together Our Small Actions Make a Big Difference!


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Dear Bishop,

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I am a Reconciling United Methodist.
I believe when Jesus said love your neighbor, he
meant the church should include whosoever believes
in Christ.
At my baptism, I accepted the freedom and power
God gives to resist evil, injustice, and oppression
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exclusion, I live out that vow.
Today, I call for the full inclusion of all gay, lesbian,
bisexual and transgender Christians in participation
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