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Reformer
Perfectionists, responsible, fixated on
improvement
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being good.
Flawed Ones can be opinionated and self-righteous. They are
perfectionists and expect others to live up to their exacting standards. Ones
function by the rule book and if procedures are changed they may feel
they're being set up for criticism. They have problems dealing with
interactions that require multiple points Of view. As managers they are
prone to over-controlling subordinates out of an attempt to "get it right" on
their terms. They want rules and progress reports. They attempt to control
the situation by setting limits, by tightening controls and assigning blame.
At their worst, they are fault-finders and nit-pickers.
Well-adapted Ones have learned to be tolerant of themselves, and,
consequently, tolerant of others. They have transcended petty fault-finding
in themselves and others. They have discovered that their impulses are not
inherently bad and they no longer repress their feelings inappropriately.
They remain moral people and are often sought for guidance. They are
known for their integrity and high principles, but are able to allow for
differences in the ideals of others. The healthy One can be a strong force in
community life because he or she will look to his conscience for guidance,
rather than to personal gain or power.
As managers they harness their heightened sense of order to constructive
ends. They no longer oppress subordinates with their high standards, but
respect the performance levels of others. They have fine organizational
abilities and are capable of taking real pleasure in developing their skills.
They hold strong convictions without being self-righteous and rigid. They
appraise themselves and others against their standards without being overly
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Understand that correctness and rightness are not part of natural order
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Ultimate task: Reclaiming the sense of perfection in all things and everyone,
which includes accepting differences, mistakes, natural desires and the dark side.
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Learn to relax. Take some time for yourself, without feeling that everything is up to
you or that what you do not accomplish will result in chaos and disaster. Mercifully,
the salvation of the world does not depend on you alone, even though you may
sometimes feel it does.
You have a lot to teach others and are probably a good teacher, but do not expect
others to change immediately. What is obvious to you may not be as obvious to
them, especially if they are not used to being as self-disciplined and objective about
themselves as you are about yourself. Many people may also want to do what is right
and may agree with you in principle but for various reasons simply cannot change
right away. The fact that others do not change immediately according to your
prescriptions does not mean that they will not change sometime in the future. Your
words and above all, your example may do more good than you realize, although
they may take longer than you expect. So have patience.
It is easy for you to work yourself up into a lather about the wrongdoings of others.
And it may sometimes be true that they are wrong. But what is it to you? Your
irritation with them will do nothing to help them see another way of being. Similarly,
beware of your constant irritation with your own "shortcomings." Does your own
harsh self-criticism really help you to improve? Or does it simply make you tense,
nervous, and self-doubting? Learn to recognize the attacks of your superego and how
they undermine you rather than helping you.
It is important for you to get in touch with your feelings, particularly your
unconscious impulses. You may find that you are uneasy with your emotions and
your sexual and aggressive impulsesin short, with the messy human things that
make us human. It might be beneficial to keep a journal or to get into some kind of
group therapy or other group work both to develop your emotions and to see that
others will not condemn you for having human needs and limitations.
Your Achilles' heel is your self-righteous anger. You get angry easily and are offended
by what seems to you to be the perverse refusal of others to do the right thingas
you have defined it. Try to step back and see that your anger alienates people so
that they cannot hear many of the good things you have to say. Further, your own
repressed anger may well be giving you an ulcer or high blood pressure and is a
harbinger of worse things to come.
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Type 1. Reformer
The Perfectionist (the One)
Perfectionists are realistic, conscientious, and principled. They strive to live up to their high ideals.
How to Get Along with Me
Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.
Acknowledge my achievements.
I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am.
being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people
being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met
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refrain from doing things that they think might not come out perfect
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Ones as Parents
discipline firmly
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Insight
We can see from the diagram that a way to help break the control of the basic fear is to
weaken the unhealthy loop. Ones can refrain from correcting others and start examining
self for truth, which will help Ones to do the right thing, and reduce the fear of being
condemned.
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