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KARAN 4U NEWSLETTER
Elder Abuse and Grandparent Alienation
Sadly, millions of older Americans are victims of
elder abuse each year; government statistics suggest
that as many as one out of every ten people 60 and
older suffers intentional physical, emotional or sexual abuse. These statistics do not even include the
large number of senior citizens who have been
cheated or financially exploited, often by their own
children.
There may well have been incidents of elder abuse
when I was a young boy growing up in the Midwest
after World War II. But what I saw directly in my
own family and all around me was not an aversion
but rather a reverence for elders. I remember having
to move from one city to another when I was seven
years old, and this was so that my father could live
closer to his parents who needed his care and supervision. A few years later, my maternal grandparents
came to live with us. At one point we even rented a
room in our house to Mrs. Becker, an elder boarder.
I saw the same pattern in the homes of my cousins in
Chicago and other cities where grandparents either
lived with their children or very close by. My wife
reports a similar situation in her family as her maternal grandmother lived with her through her formative years.
Social scientist like myself can uncover reasons why
elders in earlier times were viewed less as a burden
and more as a duty. Was it due to economic necessity? I can certainly affirm that this may have been a
factor since both parents could work if a grandparent
was around to cook and take care of the children.
Was it due to a shorter lifespan? Instead of the age
defying, youthful looking seniors of today, the elders
I remember as a child seemed frailer, helpless and
more in need of care and compassion. In short, they
needed us, and we needed them as well.
This is not to say that the elders of my youth or even
my own grandparents were perfect role models. For
sure, my mother's mother, Bubbe Fanny, would have
been a unanimous first ballot choice for Grand-
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