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PERCEPTION CHECK: Helps the counsellor determine what the client wants to work on. It follows
the summary statement. (Summary) I wonder if you would like to focus on one of these areas,
or is there something else that you havent mentioned that you would like to talk about?
NORMALIZING helps clients understand that what they are going through is a normal reaction to life.
It can alleviate unnecessary stress and anxiety so that the clients can focus their energy on
recovering.
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Source: http://www.thecounsellorsguide.co.uk/attending-skills.html
Attending Skills
By: Anna Martin - Updated: 15 Dec 2015
In order to build a firm foundation in any supportive or caring clientcounsellor/therapist relationship strong, clearly defined attending skills must be in
evidence. These are skills that require being in attendance in the present, in any
situation, and means that a counsellor is giving their full attention, and listening, to
the client at all times.
How to Attend
To begin and maintain attendance a counsellor must first welcome the client warmly.
Making him/her feel comfortable, in the counselling environment, will make the client
feel more relaxed about disclosing personal information about their emotions,
feelings and thoughts. By maintaining eye contact with the client, a counsellor shows
they value what the client has to say. Looking at the client, as they speak, also
shows the counsellor is respectful.
A counsellor should also be aware of the tone of their voice, during time in the
clients presence. Slowing down speech will make the client feel more relaxed and
less rushed. It will convey that the counsellor has adequate time to listen to the
clients problems and concerns. The counsellors facial expressions must also
convey interest and comprehension.
Tracking, or following the flow of what the client is saying, is a key skill that the
counsellor must also be confident demonstrating. Without the ability to do this a
counsellor will not be able to provide the level of supportive service a counselling
client requires.
Selective Attending
By selective attending a counsellor is choosing to pay particular close attention to an
element of what is being said by the client. The counsellor may decide to focus on
the way the client is speaking whether they are displaying distress, discomfort,
anger etc or on a particular phrase or sentence.
A counsellor may be listening out for clues to why the client exhibits a particular
behaviour pattern or holds limiting beliefs, or any number of other things. It is the
counsellors job to gather as much information about a client as possible, and to
interpret the disclosure so that they can support and encourage the individual
through the counselling process.
Focus Control
Controlling your focus can sometimes be difficult. We are all open to outside
distractions and can momentarily lose our concentration and focus. Attending
requires that a counsellors physical and psychological attention is directed at the
client for the whole duration of the one-to-one counselling session.