Karen Faith T.

Villaflores
3D-Pharmacy
The Art of Letting Go

The alphabets start with letter A, while numbers start with number 1. But me, I dont know
how to start this experience of mine. My life is like a jigsaw puzzle, each puzzle piece is consist
of different experiences that made me as a person. When I was young, I thought the world is a
playground where you only play and play, just having fun until you get tired. It was so magical
that my only focus was to enjoy till time passed by. I grew up with a so called picture-perfect
family; my dad, my mom, my brothers and sister. We lived in a house full of love, dreams and
hope. Until one day, our dad had to go work abroad (Brunei) then when he already saves money
we will go there for a living. But things didnt work out as planned. My parents ended up in a
decision that we need to go back to Philippines. We lived in my fathers side in Occidental
Mindoro. Everything changed, my own little world which I thought was perfect turned out to
have flaws. As I grew up, I started to see the real world and realized that life is not simply like
that. Its hard for us that we need to adjust to environment and also to our relatives, most
importantly from our parents that is not with us. I cant explain the pain I felt that very moment.
When I was in second year high school, Id read a text message saying that my mother left my
father then go to US. It was a long time since I saw my mother way back then.
The phenomenology method identifies three steps and the first one is an epoche. It is defined
as bracketing or suspending your biases, natural attitude, or your judgment about something or
someone. The method requires us to put our belief out of action in order focus upon the sheer
appearances of things or people, which then become tantamount to the existence of our
awareness to them. Here, I dismissed my thoughts of her being my mother, who supposed to be
taking care for a child; non-stop loving and understanding a child. Mothers are patient, nurturing,
and open-minded. They are the best. They are the ones who first help us and I believe that she
will do that if only she is with us. In fulfillment of her loss, Id join Youth for Christ in able to
lessen the pain Id experience, also to learn to forgive and forget.

This is the second step in phenomenology method: the phenomenological eidetic reduction in
which there is an essence in the object. This is a method in which we move from the
consciousness of an individual and concrete objects to the trans empirical realm of pure essences
and to achieve the intuition of eidos or essence. It is not dependent on either mental constructs or
concrete factual objects, although it starts from the knowledge of facts. So I thought, from the
facts of society, that my mother is caring and wouldnt let me down. I cant accept the fact that
she left us for some unknown reason. I thought she is like the other mothers that will take care of
their children, grow with them, and encourage them when they are down. I felt that I was like
drowning in my tears, begging for her to come back and live with us. But then, she always have
many alibis that I cant understand why. What if she is with us now, will I still be the same me?
The third step in phenomenology method is the phenomenological transcendental
reduction. This is the most important step of the three. It is defined as the reduction of an object
to the object of your consciousness. It is the moment of returning to the world from
consciousness as it shows itself in consciousness. Here, I can reduce the meaning of society that
having a mother with you is very important. She can help you out in your problems literally and
will never let you down. I realized that having someone with you helps you to become stronger
version of yourself. She is just not your mother, but also your buddy. A buddy you can always
count in. But what to I experienced, I can say that something is missing on me. I feel so
incomplete and lonely. As of now, the routine is still the same. There is always a room for
forgiveness if she will insist it and live with us here in the Philippines. I can truly say that Ive
been strong enough, but always remember that there will come a time that I will get tired, but
still going.