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The 1990s proclaimed the era of the gayby boom (Salholz, 1990), a time
when lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals (LGBs) were entering into parent
roles in greater numbers than ever before. Unlike previous decades where
the pattern of LGB parenthood was situated within a context of prior heterosexual relationships that produced children, LGBs were utilizing changes in
medical technology and changes in the sociopolitical culture that afforded
them the opportunity to plan families (Lewin, 1993).
Part of the reason for the gayby boom is the solidification of gay rights.
LGBs are now navigating a social climate in which they are afforded some
legislative security, but are still subject to heterosexist norms in child-granting
bureaucracies and social interaction (Ryan & Berkowitz, 2009). Further, as
LGB mainstream discourse moves toward the ideologies of homonormativity
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FEMALE MASCULINITY
Halberstam (1998) describes female masculinity as the truest demonstration
of masculinity in that it is a gender expression removed from the conflation
with men and male bodies. It is an alternative masculinity, a masculinity
that is culturally ignored or framed as the rejected scraps of dominant masculinity in order that male masculinity may appear to be the real thing (1).
Crawley (2002a) argues that butchness stands in opposition to the cultural
discourse that expects all female bodies to enact a specific form of passive
femininity. As such, some scholarship suggests that gender expression has
the potential to dismantle the binary of male and female and to defy the
supposed anatomical destiny of female bodies (Crawley, 2002a; Halberstam,
1998; Maltz, 1998).
Although the expression of masculinity by a female-bodied person is
not necessarily connected to her sexual object choice (Califia, 2000), there
is a rich cultural history of female masculinity, referred to as butchness, in
lesbian communities (Kennedy & Davis, 1993). Butch lesbians, as always
visible gender/sexual outlaws, are at the forefront of cultural disapproval of
sexual nonconformity. When they receive respect in lesbian communities, it
is for their courage to withstand harassment and their ability to make straight
people nervous (Queen, 1994: 23). Female masculinity is not recognized
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Masculine
somewhere between
androgynous and
FTM
Androgynous
Masculine
Genderqueer
Butch
Butch
Butch
Dan
DJ
Drew
Jerry
Johnny
Justin
Mel
Patrick
Sam
Cara
Barbara
Lesbian
Lesbian
Lesbian
Queer
Dyke
Lesbian
Queer/Lesbian
Lesbian
Lesbian
Androgynous
Queer
androgynous but more Lesbian
on the masculine
side of things
Androgynous
lesbian with
bisexual
tendencies
Androgynous
Queer
Anne
Bailey
Lesbian
Sexual
orientation
Trans-butch
Self-described
gender
Aaron
Participant
pseudonym
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Black
white
white
white
white
white
African American
white
white
Latin@/Puerto
Rican
Latina
Black/West
Indian/Latina
Race
machine technician
mechanic
line cook
student
graduate student
clerical worker
manager of a business
graduate student
office manager
student
manager of a business
Job
High School
Diploma
BA degree
High School
Diploma
High School
Diploma
some college
some college
BA degree
some college
some college
BA degree
some college
BA degree
some college
BA degree
Education
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27
26
22
22
19
28
22
26
26
24
22
22
24
Age
maybe
Plan for
pregnancy
single
single
in a long-term
relationship
(>1 year)
single
single
in a long-term
relationship
(>1 year)
single
yes
No
maybe
yes
yes
maybe
no
in a long-term
no
relationship
(>1 year)
in a long-term
no
relationship
(>1 year)
in a relationship maybe
in a relationship yes
in a relationship maybe
single
maybe
single
Relationship
status
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This association of female bodies with femininity reached beyond physical characteristics and into psychological assumptions about femininity as
well. Bailey explained that she would feel vulnerable during pregnancy:
I think thats what femininity, to me, means. Being feminine to me . . .
thats what it is, is vulnerable. Its feeling weak; feeling like anyone can
step on you at any time; feeling like your emotions are on your shoulders;
feeling like you can be taken advantage of at any time.
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masculine woman should be a masculine woman, they think a masculine woman should be a man.
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Rejecting Pregnancy
All four participants who do not want to be pregnant articulated a desire
for their partneror a future partnerto become pregnant as their pathway
to parenthood. For example, Dan always wanted to raise children, but also
knew that she did not want to be pregnant. Before meeting Clair, her partner
with whom she is currently planning a family, she had researched logistical
methods and financial resources she would need to acquire in order for a
future partner to become pregnant. Bailey told me that a perfect situation
would be if she could find a woman to have kids for [her].
Sam explained that, as a mechanic, she wouldnt be able to lift things
or be upside down in a car if she were pregnant. This is why she has
always planned on a partner getting pregnant, support[ing] her, pay[ing] the
bills, and tak[ing] care of her. In what Crawley (2002a) refers to as the
discursive practice of butchness, masculine ableness would be disrupted
by a pregnancy. For Sam, performing activities associated with the partner
of a pregnant personproviding economic supportkeeps her masculinity
undamaged.
In imagining herself as a future partner of a pregnant person, Aaron
named the role she would like to fulfill as being a daddy. Pregnancy does
not seem like something she wants to partake in bodily, but she said, I
could have a paternal instinct if, you know, like say if I have a partner whos
with childI could be daddy. Although Aaron identifies as a trans-butch,
she does not identify as male and yet she sees her future parent role as a
daddy. Imagining a future fatherhood role in her family is a resourceful
way this participant utilized hegemonic heterosexual notions about parental
family formations to make sense of herself in a system that ignores her
existence as a gender non-conforming queer person.
Redefining Pregnancy
Many participants have redefined pregnancy as something they could do as
masculine people four of them plan on becoming pregnant and six of
them may decide to become pregnant. Many of them want to experience
pregnancy and birth; eight participants talked about wanting to be pregnant because they have the physiological ability to have a unique human
experience. Barbara told me, I want to have that experience. Its not something everyone gets to do. Expressing the same kind of feeling, DJ told me
why she might want to become pregnant because its something a womans
body can do. She went on to say, because I have the plumbing, its an
option. Bailey also explained, its a complete experience. I would like to
go through that experience, you know? Notice how Barbara, DJ, and Bailey
talk about experiencing pregnancy without narrating it as part of a feminine identity. For some participants who wanted to experience pregnancy as
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a human capability, they were able to remove it from the constraints of social
gender.
However, for many participants redefining pregnancy by their inclusion
in the practice meant conforming to the idea that they should feel feminine
during the process. For three participants being seen as feminine was something they were willing to sacrifice in order to produce a child. Although
Sam does not want to be pregnant, she said she could be: The end result
of pregnancy would be possible, but nothing about being pregnant [would
be something to look forward to]. Id be surviving until the child got there.
Justin also explained, it does freak me out that I would inevitably feel more
feminine. I kind of see that as a sacrifice that I would make for me to
be able to experience pregnancy because its certainly something I would
enjoy.
Sam and Justin utilized the community discourse that sees masculinity
as an unproblematic and positive extension of femaleness so that pregnancy
might be undertaken by them. They saw pregnancy as something they were
capable of because of their female anatomy. Pregnancy, therefore, would
not be a time to express masculinity for them, but to temporarily ignore their
desire to express masculinity in order to experience pregnancy.
Five participants argued that if they were to become pregnant that their
pregnancies should be seen as masculine. Johnny explained how she has
come to think of masculine pregnancies, I think that just like female bodies
can be masculine, pregnant bodies can be masculine. If Aaron were to
decide to be pregnant she would redefine it as Johnny has, Why cant
boys have boobs?. . . this boy does, so obviously they can. So its kinda like
the same thing. Why cant boys get pregnant? This boy is pregnant so . . .
obviously its a moot point. Patrick also illustrated this point. Although she
felt her masculinity prevented [her] from being pregnant at one time, she
feels differently now. She said, [I went through a] process, coming to terms
with my butchness and my womanness, [it] helped me imagine myself as an
appropriate body for pregnancy.
Although these stories reflect a spectrum of feelings about pregnancy,
these participants were able to redefine it as an act conceivably achieved by
masculine people.
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NOTE
1. Although motherhood and pregnancy should not be conflated, hetero-patriarchal ideals situate
pregnancy as a pathway to motherhood.
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CONTRIBUTOR
Maura Ryan, Ph.D., specializes in the study of gender identity and activism
in LGBTQ communities; she is a Lecturer in the Department of Sociology at
Georgia State University.