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There comes a point in every persons life when he or she parts ways with someone: ex, friend and anyone in
between.
Upon first meeting this person, theres a sweet beginning, but once you come to really know each other and
grow comfortable, you suddenly realize that the relationship no longer brings any particular value to your life
and is perhaps, even detrimental.
Sometimes, we hold on to people purely based on how long we have known them. Time can tie people
together, but if you feel as though theres nothing substantial keeping you connected, time is not a strong
enough reason to hold on to something thats simply no longer worth holding onto.
We grow complacent with people once were comfortable with them. But, hanging onto someone for the pure
sake of it and because you dont know anything else isnt a good enough reason.
Fear is another reason why we cant move on. Theres the fear of being alone and not being able to find
someone else; fear of someone using our deepest and darkest secrets as blackmail; fear of the hate and
tension that will ensue; fear of regret once someone is gone.
Sometimes, things are better left as mere memories. You can try to change things back to how they were or try
to create things to be the way you want them, but youll never be truly happy because itll never be anything like
how things once were.
If anything, theres now too much pressure and expectation in the air to recreate what you both once had.
Instead, hold on to and cherish the memories, but move forward. Be thankful for what a friendship or
relationship brought you and taught you.
Beyond that, friendships and relationships whilst they do have their downfalls and can require fixing
should essentially come naturally.
If a person isnt bringing something significant to your life, not treating you how youd like or isnt the type of
person you want him or her to be, its a clear sign that you need distance.
While it would be selfish of you to not accept a person for whom he or she is, it would be unfair for you to have
to endure a friendship or relationship that isnt cultivating a better you.
Now that we have come to ascertain why you may be holding on, lets make it clear why you need to let go:
If theyre not present, it may only lead to paranoia, frustration, tension and anger that youre better off without
feeling.
Find someone with whom you can share your deepest darkest secrets and you know that after walking away,
his or her lips will remain tightly sealed. Find someone whose faithfulness to you will be unquestionable
because his or her actions, rather than empty promises, bring you a peace of mind.
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go if youre the one fighting to make it work.
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or not its worth it. If someone truly loves you, cares for you or wants and needs you, the person will
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8. Let go if the relationship isnt bringing you what you want and need.
Ask yourself whether you can do without the relationship or whether its something you unquestionably want
and deserve. Sometimes, theres this belief that we can be too fussy with what we want from others in life, but
then again, why should we settle for anything less than happiness?
Dont ever allow someone to make you feel needy for wanting someone who will love, care and support you,
someone who will listen and give you insightful advice, someone who wants the same things, someone you can
trust and will be loyal to you, someone who believes so strongly in you and your capabilities. Just someone who
makes you feel like youre someone.
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Ziggy Siegfried
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Wow! I've had great frinds for over 40 years. If I listened to pathetic advice like this, I'd be
friendless and divorced. Friendship isn't always built on the good times. Strong friendships do t
put expectations on one another. Whoever wrote this needs a friend.
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How is this advice pathetic? There maybe people who keep the friendship going as
long as you did and still going, and there maybe someone who also had a
friendship as long as you did, but things still change, people change, and
friendships and any other types of relationships between people can change, and
it's not necessarily a bad change. If that change benefits both people, why not?
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14 July 31 at 4:12pm
Mark Christopher
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Friends that still live at home for the past 15 years isn't toxic? You serious? Making
$25000 a year and always leeching off you because you are successful is
considered hard time? Its called I grew up and they live in high school still. You need
to learn to read. But then again, you are probably that person they are talking about
here.
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9 August 1 at 12:56am
Madison Norris
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Seems as if you failed to grasp the concept of this article, or maybe you just wanted
to disagree to sound off an irrelavant opinion. The context of this article is for people
who may not have the best of friends or relationship, those in questioning, those
who might not be reaping the engaging and learning experience or uplifting positive
joy of that relationship or friendship any longer; If at all. If you have great friends good
for you! obviously this doesn't apply....smh
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11 August 1 at 10:31am
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Griselda Martinez
Just because you've been friends with someone for a long time, doesn't mean they're good
friends. I've learned this the hard way.
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9 July 31 at 7:34am
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9 July 31 at 4:24pm
Jenilyn E. Alexandrie
I actually found this article insightful. Relationships and friendships translates
differently for everyone if you find this article relatable then it's worth but if you
don't...doesn't mean it's bad advice.
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4 July 31 at 10:37pm
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Rosemary Carchide LeBlanc
this is dangerous self centered self serving, destined to die alone schlock... who authorized you
to advise?
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Selam
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1 July 31 at 8:58am
23 August 1 at 1:55am
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I also think people are missing the point of this article. I perceived that the author is
directing this toward close relationships that are detrimental and toxic to a person.
There needs to be a balance between give and take to an extent. It's easy and
convenient for people to use and take advantage you if you're totally committed to
them. You need to draw the line somewhere and assess if the other person is
making an effort in the relationship or just reaping the benefits. I've had some
relationships where I kept focused on the good things although the scale was tilted
relationships where I kept focused on the good things although the scale was tilted
much heavier on the bad side. I can relate to this with an ex boyfriend and an ex best
friend. The ex boyfriend was dishonest, abusive, and used me the whole time, but I
loved him. It took me way too long to finally get rid of him. The ex best friend would
use me and all of the people in our circle of friends. She was very selfish and would
constantly gossip about other people. I always wondered what she said about me
behind my back. Finally one day, out of nowhere, she said it all directly to me. I
honestly can't believe some of the things that came out of her (one of my BEST
friends) mouth. I think the author is saying that you should IDENTIFY these traits in
people and REALIZE if you would be better off without them.
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Vicente Jr Torrento Lim Sr. Manager(branch head) at FAR EAST BANK AND TRUST COMPANY
let go, move on. grow & live gracefully!!!
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Victor A. Vallejo
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Interesting comments, thanks everyone. It's when you've done all you can that you are not
getting back the same or close to it that you have to let go. One thing if the bad behavior is due
to some mental illness or even a personality disorder, you take this into account. Even then, you
may have to put some distance between you and them just to save your own sanity. A story from
a book I read about the people we love, it said something to the effect of a woman who came
from a very dysfunctional family. For years she made countless efforts to gain their favor and
better treatment from them. Then the straw that broke the camel's back: it was her son's
birthday. None of her relatives even sent him a birthday card. He was heartbroken. When this
happened she cut them loose. She had had enough from their neglect and bad treatment. She
was freed from this bad situation. She felt liberated and was then able to proceed with her life
being much happier and freer to meet other people who were treating her right.
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Just a thought from a guy who probably has a little more insight on something like this...
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly
broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an
animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it
up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless,
airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable,
irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable
CS Lewis
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Steve Goh
The article makes sense. It's simply about playing safe to avoid yourself from losing out and
being hurt in a relationship .... but then again it's also discouraging us from fighting to save
relationships and we might end up hurting other people too. There can be positive points
sometimes if you hang and battle on...
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2 July 30 at 8:07pm
Jenessa Aleff
The way I saw this article was letting go AFTER fighting and doing your own part to
save the friendship or relationship....sometimes you fight and try for so long and the
other person has no interest or doesn't see a problem...and you end up being the
one hurt anyway.
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Gajendran Sudharson
43 July 30 at 9:14pm
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Just what I needed to read! Thanks for posting something like this at an important time in my
life.
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