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INTRODUCTION
Our purpose here is to examine the attitudes towards human sexuality held
by two contemporary branches of the Buddhist religion, namely Theravada
and Zen . The issue of what the religious attitude towards sexuality should be
has proved to be a deeply divisive issue in many, if not all religious traditions,'
and Buddhism is no exception to this rule .
This study will not primarily concern itself with the historical Buddhist
sexual attitudes, though these will be initially described to serve as background
information . Nor will it concern itself with related issues such as the place of
women in Buddhist society and mythology, both of which subjects are
extensively covered elsewhere . 2 Rather will we concern ourselves here with
the contemporary stance towards the sexual relationship . Attention will also
be given to the various ways in which the spokesmen for the two traditions
under consideration justify their positions, for, as we shall see, widely different
methods ofjustification are used . This difference in justification largely follows
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sectarian lines, and some speculation as to the origin of this difference may well
be called for .
Our choice of Theravada and Zen for the two variations of Buddhism to be
compared stems partly from pragmatic reasons and partly from the nature of
the subject itself. One would have liked to include a much larger variety of
Buddhist sects for comparison, but, despite the sparseness of available literature
on this topic, limitations of space precluded such an approach, since it might
too easily have led to a superficial examination of the subject . In particular,
one would have liked to include Tibetan Buddhism, but its immense internal
diversity and the Tantric influence upon it justifies its having at least an article
to itself. 3
The two traditions which have been chosen, moreover, are not obscure sects
which hold little relevance for the wider religious world, but are both vital
faiths which have in recent years expanded their influence to the Western
world . This alone makes it important for us to examine their attitudes to
ethical matters even in a restricted area such as the one dealt with in this
article, as such an examination will not only enable us to ascertain the ethical
influence of these traditions on the inhabitants of those areas in which these
two types of Buddhism have traditionally existed, but also to gauge possible
future ethical developments arising from their spread into new territories . If
one considers Luckmann's influential thesis that sexuality is one of the key
factors in the new `invisible religion', 4 it becomes all the more vital to consider
how this aspect of human existence could interact with an influence such as
Buddhism . Furthermore, the traditionally Buddhist countries are themselves
being influenced by events and developments in the outside world, presumably
including changes in ethical and more specifically sexual attitudes, 5 and their
contemporary position on such matters may not necessarily be identical to
that found in the primordial form of their faith .
HISTORICAL BACKGROUND
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Furthermore, the monastic rules contain many lesser maxims, such as the
one which prevents the monk from sleeping under the same roof as a woman, 8
which are clearly designed to minimize the possibility of sexual contact .
Nor does the Rule apply only to association with women : `The Bhikkhu's
precepts do not allow him to sleep more than three nights with an unordained
male . . .' 9 Dhiravamsa, l0 however, notes that :
Physically (the monks) may be celibate due to the rule of refraining from sexuality,
but psychologically their desires for sex could be suppressed and diverted to
something else such as food or power, which is often found in those who live the
monastic life . This is because in the monastic system there are hierarchies with
rank and file so that any ordained man or woman may climb in order to become
more important in that institution . 11
It is interesting to note here the way in which the sublimation of sexual
desires is linked to a rise in interest in social competition-an almost Freudian
interpretation, one might say. Officially, a monk's standing in the monastic
hierarchy is solely dependent on the time elapsed since he was ordained, so
that a recently-ordained septuagenarian is junior to a teenager who was
ordained one day before him . Here we can perhaps see an intimation that this
neat and orderly scheme does not quite work out as it should, suggesting rich
possibilities for empirical research .
As the religion of renunciation, Buddhism had little to say about the
ideal family structure, and monogamy, polygyny and polyandry may all be
encountered in Buddhist countries as a result . 12 The Buddha recommended
chastity as the ideal, but was prepared to countenance marriage if fidelity
within it was maintained . 13 As we shall see, though, this precondition of
fidelity was more rigidly applied to women than to men, if not by the Buddha
himself, then by his followers .
A NOTE ON METHOD
In our discussion on the contemporary Buddhist attitude towards sexuality,
we shall focus on those sources in which leading figures in the Buddhist world
have commented on the subject in works the primary aims of which are the
instruction of the laity . This implies that we are here concerned with the
`official' Buddhist attitudes, rather than with the more diffuse stance which
is no doubt entertained by the laity before, or even despite, receiving such
instructions . Nor shall we directly deal with the fact, well-attested by research
in social psychology, that the relationship between attitudes and behaviour is
a complicated one, in which the specificity, strength and accessibility of
attitudes, as well as the level of self-attention, influence the degree to which
an attitude will direct actual behaviour . 14 The aim of this study will primarily
be an exploratory one, which attempts to present the data and show how they
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Walshe, in his booklet on `Buddhism and Sex' 24 closely follows the orthodox
Theravadin approach to sexuality . After describing the monastic rules pertaining
to sexual activity, which we have discussed above, he describes the ethical
environment in the Buddha's time as one in which concubinage and polygamy
were common, and in which `it was not expected that young men would lead
a life of much restraint . . .' . 25 He then reiterates the restrictions on possible
sexual partners which we have observed above, noting that these restrictions
could be seen as a realistic and even liberal injunction, given the prevailing
sexual norms .
What, exactly, is the position which the precept concerning `abstinence
from unlawful sensuality' has in the larger scheme of Theravada ethics?
According to Walshe :
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For the average lay person, the third Precept is on exactly the same footing as the
other four. There is, in the Buddhist view, nothing uniquely wicked about sexual
offences or failings . Those inclined to develop a guilt-complex about their sex-life
should realise that failure in this respect is neither more, nor on the other hand
less, serious than failure to live up to any other precept .26
After discussing his understanding of the traditional Western (and therefore
Christian) attitude towards sex, which he typifies as being a grudging acceptance
of sex within marriage, coupled with an implied denigration of sexuality in
general, Walshe describes `The inevitable reaction', which is an attitude of
extreme permissiveness . He then states that neither attitude is satisfactory to
the Buddhist: `What we have to do-what Buddhism in fact teaches us to Bois to map out a sane course between the two (extreme views)' . 27 The remainder
of his booklet may be seen as an attempt to do just that .
Walshe points out that the fundamental problem is not the brute fact of
sexual activity, but rather the attachment to it . 28 He freely admits that ` . . . it
is rather difficult . . . to experience pleasure of any sort without feeling
attached to it' . 29 Nevertheless, attachment is unskilful kamma, which will
have an effect in the future, and this process 'must be counteracted . Returning
to the dispute between the puritans and the permissivists, he suggests that his
sympathies lie closer to the former :
Sexual indulgence . i s not wicked, but it may be in some degree inadvisable . Most
people will not feel able to refrain altogether (nor are they being urged to), but
there is merit in moderation . 30
Having pointed out that marriage is not a sacrament in Buddhism, at least
not in its classical forms, and that no bhikkhu has the right to officiate as a
marriage officer or to protest at a marriage's dissolution, 31 Walshe proceeds
to discuss extramarital sex :
. . . quite obviously, this is something to be avoided . But the point should be made
that Buddhism does not regard this, or any other sexual irregularities and
deviations, as somehow uniquely wicked . In countries nominally Christian the
special kind of horror with which such things are, or recently were, regarded can
be pushed to grotesque extremes . Not many years ago a certain politician was
solemnly declared by some to be unfit to become Prime Minister because he had
been the innocent partner in a divorce case! More recently still, another politician
was hounded from office because of acts of adultery for which his wife forgave
him! Yet many politicians in all countries have got away with far worse things of
a non-sexual character without a word being said . Buddhists should try to behave
themselves sexually, as in other respects, to the best of their ability-but they
should learn to exercise the maximum of charity towards the lapses of others .32
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Walshe does not give precise references as to which two politicians he has
in mind here, but these anecdotes are hardly unbelievable . Since Walshe wrote
this article, for instance, American presidential candidate Gary Hart was
forced to renounce his candidature on very similar grounds .
It is clear that Walshe is writing primarily for a Western Buddhist audience
here, since his recurrent references to the prevailing Christian influence on
sexual morality would hardly be necessary in a publication directed at
members of a predominantly Buddhist culture . This makes his book valuable
from the point of view of understanding the impact Buddhism might have on
Western morality (and vice versa), rather than on furthering our anthropological
knowledge of sexual morality in other societies .
On the subject of premarital sex, Walshe takes the pragmatic attitude that
this is not something that can be wished away . He acknowledges that :
Nowadays there is pretty frank acceptance of what has always been the case, that
a lot of people in fact have sexual intercourse without going through the formality
of getting married . . . . This is a simple statement of fact, not of what ought or
ought not to be the case . . . . In any case, we may as well accept the fact that . . .
preaching by the older generation will . . . have precious little effect on the young . 33
While he is not totally opposed to `experimentation', considering the high
failure rate of early marriages, 34 he does consider self-restraint to be a superior
option, considering the dangers of venereal disease, 35 the possible side-effects
of contraceptives, and emotional disturbances . 36 He does not name unwanted
pregnancies as one of the disadvantages of unrestrained sexual activity .
Clearly, his fundamental standpoint is one of refusing to condemn the faults
of others, preferring rather to treat them empathetically . Although such a
perspective has much to recommend it, it cannot be denied that Walshe
supports the orthodox Theravadin view of sex as an evil which is only regarded
as `necessary' by the unenlightened, and which is to be transcended .
The remainder of Walshe's booklet is concerned with explicating further
the way in which sexuality is interpreted in the Theravada tradition as a form
of tanhd (craving) . He points out that in the traditional Buddhist soteriological
scheme, when one attains the stage of Andgamin (Non-Returner), the desire
for existence in the sensual world drops away completely . This, he maintains,
is proof that it is possible to transcend sexuality in this life, although this is
hardly a straightforward matter, necessitating deep meditative attainments . 37
To the modern, scientific mentality this is doubtful ; the question could well
be asked whether the ancient systems of classification corresponded to empirical
reality, especially if such a reality were viewed from within a Freudian
perspective. From such a viewpoint, it could be countered that a monk might
well have erased all sexual desires from the conscious mind, only to have them
resurface from the unconscious level, possibly in an altered form . It is precisely
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such a process that we have already encountered above, where the possibility
that sexual repression might lead to social competition within monastic circles
was raised . 38
Furthermore, it might be asked how completely the desire for sensual
pleasure can be erased from one's mental make-up . This is not a new question
in the Buddhist environment : precisely such a question was raised when the
first known schism of the Sangha, that between the Mahasanghikas and the
Sthaviras, occurred (approximately 340 B.c .E .), when one of the five points
raised against the Arhat as representing the perfected human being was that
`They could, among other things, have seminal emissions in their sleep . . . '39
To return to Walshe, he does accept the traditional scheme in which sexual
desire disappears at a given stage in the yogi's meditative career . From this we
can deduce that, in Walshe's view, all the advice given previously really has
only the status of an interim measure ; eventually, at the individual level,
sexuality is something to be abandoned . Given that Buddhism is a religion
which regards its message as being of universal import, this would logically
imply that the ideal society, in which every member had attained enlightenment,
would be a totally asexual one . Walshe's perspective, although advocating a
maximum possible amount of compassion in its application, is true to the
ultimately negative Theravadin attitude towards sexuality : in theory, if not
in practice, precisely the stance for which he lambasts traditional Christianity .
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and singled out for rejection to a greater degree than, say, the process of
breathing .
The surprise here is not so much that the Theravada attitude towards sex
is ultimately negative, but rather that the practical effects of this stance have
not been much more severe . The fact that leading Theravadins have expressed
the need for a sensitive and compassionate approach to non-celibate
life indicates the presence of counterbalancing factors within Theravadin
philosophy . While space precludes a detailed examination of these factors, we
could briefly mention some of the more likely candidates here ; the importance
of karuna (compassion) and the Brahma-viharas generally, the Buddha's
characterization of his teachings as the `Middle Way' between extremes,
which in the Theravadin context might be taken to imply a tendency to refrain
from excessively criticizing other life-styles for fear of lapsing into the opposite
extreme, and lastly the stress placed on the process of samsaric rebirth itself,
among the implications of which is the assurance that no action is ultimately
irreversible, since the celibate life-style can be adopted in a future existence .
One could also consider non-philosophical factors, such as the monks' dependence on the non-celibate laity for support, in this context .
ZEN
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Loving affection between a man and a woman may be a passion, a foolish passion .
But the extermination of this amorous passion would mean the simultaneous
drying up of humanity . (Similarly, anger at injustice brings about social progress,
and craving for `truth, good and beauty' establishes human culture, MC .) These
three `poisonous passions' should be affirmed, be given aufheben, and purified ; they
should not be negated or eradicated . On getting awakened, one realises passions
are originally Awakening . 57
ROBERT AITKEN ROSHI
The context of Aitken's discussion of sexual matters is the difference between
the traditional Japanese Zen temple, in which a strict separation of the sexes
is observed, and the Western Zen centre, which is almost universally coeducational . 58 He freely admits that both types of ecclesiastical organization cause
tensions, 59 in other words, he does not idealize the celibate state in quite the
same way as do the Theravadins . He does not extensively discuss sexual
situations outside the formal Zen atmosphere . Nevertheless, a close study of
his comments can shed much light on the Zen attitude towards sexuality in
general .
Fundamentally, Aitken propagates an acceptance of sexuality as an integral
part of human existence :
Certainly we cannot justify rejecting sex and accepting the other human drives
and emotions, such as anger, fear, hunger, and the need for sleep . . . . For all its
ecstatic nature, for all its power, sex is just another human drive . If we avoid it
just because it is more difficult to integrate than anger or fear, then we are simply
saying that when the chips are down we cannot follow our own p ractice . so
This statement is quite closely related to Walshe's assertion that Buddhism
does not regard sexual transgressions as being `uniquely wicked' . Like Walshe,
Aitken here establishes the status of sexual activity vis-a-vis other human
activities and finds it to be an emotional and volitional activity which is not
in principle qualitatively different from any other . Unlike Walshe, as we shall
see, he does not advocate its ultimate rejection . He does, however, reject sexual
activity that is not within an atmosphere of mutual affection . In another work
he writes :
Sex is sharing, but when it becomes using, it is perverted -a violation not only of
this precept, but of the earlier two precepts ('no killing' & `no stealing', MC) as
well, for it involves the brutalizing and taking things of others . . . . Another kind
of casual sex rises from a lack of confidence in the self as agent of the Dharma ; it
is a kind of false sharing, a prostitution . 61
While stressing that celibacy is the preferred state for some Zen practitioners, 62
Aitken does not imply that it is a required state for Zen practice at any stage
along the path
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marriage provides the safest environment . Without marriage, there still can
be an agreement to establish a relationship and to work on it' . 63
Aitken's acceptance of sexuality is therefore not a licence to promiscuity,
but rather an exhortation to his students to behave in a responsible way in
their sexual conduct . Viewed in the correct light, sexual activity is not
necessarily a negative, un-Buddhist action : in keeping with the Zen principle
that `the ordinary mind is enlightenment', when that ordinary mind is directed
towards dharma, 64 Zen does not restrict religious activity to certain narrowly
circumscribed circumstances, but attempts to sacralize all of human existence .
Thus sex, when approached from the correct angle, can be a Bodhisattvic act :
Saving all beings is our practice, and in the home this can be just the simple act
of doing the dishes or helping with homework-or it can be having a party when
the kids are in bed . The dance of sex, the dance of life in all circumstances requires
forgetting the self and giving over to the dance . Sexual intercourse is the dancing
nucleus of our homes, generating all beings at climax, bringing rest and renewal . 6
Like Dhiravamsa, Aitken regards sexual activity, in the right circumstances,
as a form of meditation . The difference between them is that Aitken's
fundamental philosophy makes it far easier for him to do so . In fact, as I shall
argue below, the Mahayana principles underlying Zen makes it logically
impossible for him not to take this attitude .
SUMMARY AND EVALUATION OF ZEN ATTITUDES
The Zen attitude towards human sexuality is a cautiously positive one .
Certainly, celibacy is recommended as a device which may be helpful in
spiritual growth for those who are naturally drawn to it, but it is not a sine
qua non for spiritual progress, as it ultimately is for the Theravada . Sex, like
any other human drive, is neither to be wildly indulged in nor denied and
repressed . It can be misused, like any human action can, but at its best it can
be an expression of the essential unity of creation, and therefore a form of
'meditation' . 66
This positive evaluation of sexuality in Zen does not lead to the establishment
of orgiastic religious rituals, 67 precisely because Zen stresses the ultimacy of
ordinary experience . As is well-known, the professed aim of Zen is `when
eating, just eat : when sleeping, just sleep' or as Yi-hsuan put it, `Only do
ordinary things with no special effort : relieve your bowels, pass water, wear
your clothes, eat your food, and, when tired, lie down! 68 It is in the `beginner's
mind' or `ordinary mind', in the crdinariness of everyday life, that ultimate
meaning is to be realized . Applying this principle to one's sex-life, the endresult is not all that different from that of the Theravadins : a `Middle Way'
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preferred avenue, and does appear to be highly regarded, but this remains a
judgement on the relative level of truth and may be disregarded if the situation
demands it .
CONCLUSION
As we have seen, the Theravada and Zen attitudes towards human sexuality
differ considerably . The Theravadins have mostly retained the negative
attitude that typified early Buddhism, while Zen has adopted a more positive
stance . In each case, the sexual ethic of the school under consideration can be
traced back to the fundamental presuppositions underlying its philosophy .
Returning to one of the key issues raised at the beginning of this paper,
considering the more relaxed attitude towards sexuality that has emerged in
Western society in recent decades, the Zen attitude is more likely to appeal
to Occidentals dissatisfied with the mores of their own traditional faiths .
Space precludes a thorough examination of issues closely related to this one ;
issues such as homosexuality, contraception, abortion, prostitution etc . I hope
to address these issues in either a series of follow-up articles or a full-scale
monograph .
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
The author would like to thank the Dharma Centre, Somerset West and the Buddhist
Retreat Centre, Ixopo for the use of their library facilities, without which this article
could not have been produced .
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and the Moon, Albany, NY, State University of New York Press 1986, pp . 77-9;
and G . Samuel, `The body in Buddhist and Hindu tantra: some notes', Religion
19 :3 (July 1989), pp . 197-210 .
T . Luckmann, The Invisible Religion, New York, Macmillan 1967, pp . 111-3 .
An example of such influence may be seen in the attendance of bhikkhus at
weddings, which R . Gomrich and G . Obeyesekere, Buddhism Transformed: Religious
Change in Sri Lanka, Princeton, NJ, Princeton University Press 1988, p . 228, call
a `startling innovation' and of which they say that `The gradual Buddhicization
of the Sinhala wedding has come hard on the heels of its westernization, and
indeed the two trends appeal to the same social strata' . As we shall see below,
authors such as Walshe also deny that the Buddhist monk should be involved in
marriage ceremonies, as these are considered a purely secular matter .
G . Parrinder, Sex in the World's Religions, London, Sheldon 1980, p . 45 .
Spiro, pp . 292-3 .
Ibid ., p . 298 .
Anonymous pamphlet (s .a.), A-Lay Buddhist's Guide to the Monk's Code of Conduct,
Reading, Amaravati Monastery, p . 4 . The term `sleeping with' should here be
understood quite literally, and not, as in the modern sense, as a euphemism for
`having sex with' .
V . R . Dhiravamsa, `The Place of Marriage in Buddhism', The Middle Way 48 :3
(November 1973), pp . 123-7 .
Ibid ., pp . 123-4 .
Gombrich & Obeyesekere, p, 256 . c Parrinder, p . 55 . S . Tachibana, The Ethics
of Buddhism, London, Curzon 1981, pp . 155-7, however, believes that there is
evidence that the Buddha did prefer monogamy .
Parridner, pp . 55-6 .
R . A. Baron, and D . Byrne, Social Psychology : Understanding Human Interaction,
Boston, MA, Allyn and Bacon 1987, pp . 140-4 .
R . Aitken, The Mind of Clover, San Francisco, CA, North Point 1984, pp . 37-8 .
L . Campbell, `On cutting off your arm', Blind Donkey 10:3 & 4 (Summer/Fall
1988), pp . 57-9, this reference p. 58 .
It is noteworthy that Saddhatissa does not adequately define `abnormal' sexuality
here .
H . Saddhatissa, Buddhist Ethics- The Path to Nirvana, London, Wisdom Publications
1987, pp . 91-2.
Sumedho, pp . 25-6 .
Bhikkhu Bodhi, Goingfor Refuge/Taking the Precepts, Kandy, Buddhist Publication
Society 1981, pp . 65-6 .
Bhikkhu Bodhi, The Noble Eightfold Path, Kandy, Buddhist Publication Society
1984, p . 63 . Bodhi only makes a slight reference to this in Bodhi, 1981, p. 66 .
E .g . Bodhi, 1984, p . 64 .
Bodhi, 1984, p . 64 ; Bodhi, 1981, p . 66 .
M . O'C . Walshe, Buddhism and Sex, Kandy, Buddhist Publication Society 1975 .
Ibid ., pp . 1-3 .
Ibid ., p . 3 .
Ibid ., p . 5 .
Ibid ., p. 7 .
Ibid ., pp . 7-8 .
Ibid ., p . 8 .
Ibid ., p . 9 . See also note 5 .
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