Gaby Martinez

Exposition
January 23, 2001
My Idea of the Perfect Man
Love is viewed as the ultimate achievement, the end of a great race when it is actually
the beginning of one. This race is a search for the perfect mate and is a trial that will
hopefully reward the searcher with a lifetime of happiness. As I search, I keep in
mind my vision of the perfect man. The purpose of this essay is to present my view
of this ideal man. The perfect man will be of a certain belief, will have a special
appearance, a unique personality, and economic freedom.
First, he must be a Catholic. If he is not a Catholic, that ends the potential relationship
before it even begins. His faith is extremely important to me and to our future together.
His lack of faith might cause me to sway away from mine, and that is a risk far too great
to take. It is always possible that in a moment of weakness, I would compromise my
faith. My relationship with Jesus Christ is far more important than any man is and it is
worth the wait to find a good Christian man. He must not only be Catholic, but also
Spirit-filled. By Spirit-filled, I mean that he is in touch with God and has a heartfelt, real
relationship with Him. This is important because a lukewarm Christian can be more
dangerous than an unbeliever. A godly Christian man is an asset to any relationship and
will be a blessing to me whether or not we decide to marry. In John 9:31, the Bible says,
We know that God does not listen to sinners. He listens to the godly man who does His
will.
Our views on the laws and practices in our country must be nearly the same,
especially on abortion. He is against abortion and other wicked practices in the United

States; otherwise, we would never be able to pray together about how to vote. These are
the most important characteristics I look for in a man.
Second, I have preferences about his appearance. My ideal man will be handsome.
This is obviously important, as I would hopefully never desire an ugly man. He is
athletic, involved in sports and definitely in great shape. He is slim and muscular;
however, I do not like men with extremely pumped up bodies. I find it unnatural and
showy. My perfect man is taller and older than I am. That is a definite must. I could never
stand to be older or taller than my date or husband. Neatness is also a necessity. He is
well groomed and a sharp dresser, knowing what to wear and when to wear it.
Third, he has certain character traits. A kind man who goes out of his way to help
others always impresses me. He is trust-worthy. I must be able to completely trust him to
protect me from anything and to be strong enough not to pressure me into anything
wrong. He is courageous and devoted to me. A happy heart is also a requirement, because
a heart that has witnessed great unhappiness grows hard and cold. He is transparent,
having no hidden secrets, no ulterior motives, and no aliases. He is intelligent and willing
to learn more each day. My perfect man is not afraid to admit he is wrong. He has a wise
heart and mind. Finally, he knows himself and is secure in the Lord.
My ideal man possesses certain qualities. He is not afraid of hard work, because that is
what it will take to make it in life. He is romantic, not afraid to do special things for me
just because he loves me. My perfect man is out-going and friendly to everyone,
especially to children and the elderly. Humor is a requirement; he must have a good sense
of humor, yet know when to be serious. He is witty and clever, knowing exactly how to
lighten a moment with a silly comment.

Lastly, my perfect man will be splendidly wealthy. He must have earned his money
honestly and through hard work. My ideal man will be successful at everything he
attempts simply because he works hard at it. However, he must be generous with his
wealth, because he is simply a steward of it. My perfect man lives either in Hawaii or
California, in a large mansion with a huge pool. He has three cats named Sassy, Shadow,
and Snoops, and a dachshund named Cuddles.
This paper has described my ideal man. I know that a man that matches this
description probably does not exist, has never existed, and will not exist any time in the
near future. However, We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning
to see an imperfect person perfectly. (Stated by an anonymous author) Somewhere, God
has the perfect man picked out for me and I can simply wait and pray that he will be the
best match for me.