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The word conflict stirs up thoughts of anger, friction, mistrust, frustration, and hostility. Rarely does anyone
think of conflict as a tool for deeper thinking, better results, and communication that is more dynamic.
When unmanaged, team conflict can destroy cohesiveness, but teams that use conflict resolution
strategies can turn their conflict into an asset. Managed conflict can promote an exchange of ideas to
generate well-thought-out results, encourage team members to think outside of their own ideas, and
develop deeper understanding.
Problem-solving negotiations: When both the goal and the relationship are highly
important to the students, problem-solving negotiations are initiated to resolve the conflict.
Solutions are sought that ensure both students fully achieve their goals and that any tensions or
negative feelings between the two are dissipated.
Smoothing: When the goal is of little importance, but the relationship is of high
importance, one person gives up their goals so that the other person can achieve theirs. This is
done to maintain the highest-quality relationship possible. If the teacher detects that one
students goals or interests in the conflict are much stronger than the others, the teacher can
facilitate a smoothing of the conflict. Smoothing should be done with good humor!
Forcing or win-lose negotiations: When the goal is very important but the relationship is
not, students will seek to achieve their own goals at the expense of the other persons goals.
They do so by forcing or persuading the other person to yield. They are competing for a win.
Compromising: When both the goal and the relationship are moderately important, and it
appears that neither person can have their way, the students will need to give up part of their
goals, and possibly sacrifice part of the relationship, in order to reach an agreement.
Compromising may involve meeting in the middle or flipping a coin. Compromising is often used
when students wish to engage in problem-solving negotiations but do not have the time to do
so.
Withdrawing: When the goal is not important to the student and neither is the
relationship, a student may wish to give up their goal completely and avoid the issue with the
person. Sometimes it is good for both students to withdraw from the conflict until they have
calmed down and are in control of their feelings.
Each of the five strategies is appropriate under a particular set of circumstances. To be truly
effective in managing conflicts, teachers must engage competently in each strategy. This takes
practice.
Introduce conflict resolution skills to the students and incorporate practicing them
into your classroom.
Realize that for some students, this is their only exposure to properly resolving a
conflict.
Help students see personal value in properly resolving a conflict. (How does it
benefit me? How does it make my life easier?)
Provide your students with the ability to solve their problems so that they can
build confidence and establish positive relationships with others.
Show students that there are systematic ways of resolving conflicts on their own,
allowing them to request the help of an adult only when necessary.
Remember that many of these conflicts occur during recess, at lunch, after
school, or on the bus.
Allow students to express their frustrations and feelings after they have resolved
a conflict, at an appropriate time. Review your conflict resolution strategies often.
Post steps for conflict resolution in your classroom. Refer to them and review
them often.