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WhiteTrash:
Man festingthe
Bisexual
Pajor
Carolyn
r~~~~~~~~~~~~~
IS WHAT
THIS
IT FEELS
LIKE
know why
BE BISEXUAL.
TO
You're
than your
other friends do. She does. You glide through your sophomore
ing notes
and holding
you were
that what
someone
were
and it so happened
aman,
year, writ
games,
you knew
do with
brown
even
(she dumped
memory,
you're
for a swimmer
then
loved
off a tree, such sweet breath, and the kind of skin that you want
There was. Now
and
once as
female; you'd
eyes
to touch.
named Champ)-no,
is somethingI'm going to
have tofigure out one day.You throw it on the back burner because you're not
you don't even like any of the feminists in your lit
dying for women-hell,
classes
miffed. You
think feminism
is unnecessary
don't
actually
(? 2005 by Carolyn
Pajor
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57I
feel likea girl, but aperson firstand foremost, and you don't feel any great
unity to some universal sisterhood.You meet someone with brown hair
and brown eyes who
who happens
to be aman.
Ifyou
werea woman,
you tell him in bed one night, ourliveswouldbemuchmorecomplex.
He rightlyunderstands this tomean thatyou'd stillbe thereon his side,on
his topside,sometimes on the inside.You wonder what itwould be like if
he were a girl. You see two lesbiansholding hands in the Kroger, un
whatit is,you tellyourself, IguessI'llneverknow.
abashedand unshaved. If that's
Now
23 and you
you're
an $8 mad
buzz from
Supercuts. And now you work at Kroger. Dykes come through your
checkout line and ask you when you're getting off work. This horrifies
you, and when
you recount
this to your
roommate,
thought
like the
Kroger lesbians.You take it off the backburner. She's strong and soft and
a great kisser.Boy,you think, thisisreallycool.
At night you dream of touch
ingher all over, andwhen thatmoment comes, you're not nervous at all.
Now you're girl crazy. You can't get your eyes big enough
the lesbians you allow yourself
bus and train for them when
She doesn't
to see. They're
everywhere.
to take in all
You
scan the
have to be cute-that's
not what
you're
after-it's
her energy
you want. You love how they look, especially the stereotypicalones, the
ones whose
some wild
statement
about
snide comments
in the margins.
You
You don't
call
is now
less miffed.
So you call
in your
team's jersey.
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CarolynPajor
isAJ. Her legs are hairy and her head is shaved. You
an animal,
think that if
exactly
always wanted.
You're
just
enchant
ed. Her eyes and hair are brown but that's not even it anymore. After
have imagined
on a blustery
the most
two
you can't stand it, you have to kiss her because you never
snowy months
and beautiful
person
January evening,
life, because
the crys
terrified. You
to spend your
life with
Dworkin.
She's
X of feminism.
the Malcolm
Your mother
One summer
afternoon,
to look at her.
a girl
in
she tries to
apologize, AJ laughs and says it's a good thing she has such bad aim.
But you appreciate her Malcolm
mother
phone
awoman,
truly in wonder.
done something
trapped. There's
lifewithout
nothing
this. Your
you can do
you're 50?
and more
your
struck with
think
the hor
with
you? Why
You
tenuous
end
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ing the connection feels like tearingoff a limb from your body. It'sun
imaginable.
Now you hate your sexuality. It's tangledandmessy and filledwith too
choices. You wish you were
many
look
But you're not fucking anyone now. AJ has left you, and you are sad for
two years.
PART II
Years pass. Dykes continue to draw your eye. If you're bisexual, how
come you haven't
aman
You think it's dormant. Once you figure your gay thing out, you'll be
free. The day you decide
woman,
that you
truly want
you develop
to spend your
life with
Is this a
Then you meet Cherie. She's half Native, half white, a voluminous
drinker, an incessant smoker, and a flagrant litterer. It'smywhiteside,she
says, as she flicks her tenth cigarette butt out your window.
shaved and her muscular
heavy silver chain
mocks
everyone
Her head
is
loosely around
letting her drink beer in your car. She calls you and
you meet
her
hard and fast and goes to your softest spots too quickly. She won't
roll to the top. You've
when
you want
never met
anyone
let you
the swallows. You will never come with her, yet she clings
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to a woman.
sex of my
rock Cherie
You
like it that
nights
and miss
herwhen she'sgone.
This iswhat you must know about bisexuals: lesbianisn't the only way
to be gay. Lesbian isn't the only dyke. You can be 50-50. You can be 70-30.
You can choose this. And me,
open,
this iswhere
region where
Iwant
I chose
this.With my
arms
boys are my
past, and my
future
is a
the white
a group whom
it's socially
amongst
gays iswhat
friends almost
but
it's my
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