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Volunteers at the International AIDS Conference, Vancouver, 2015. Photo: ICW Global, all
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should be considered carefully before its us ein global policies. Whilst published
as global level as voluntary guidelines, it often has dire knock-on effects at the
country level. In that speech I offered alternative language also.
Another concept which is curiously negative is the idea of ending genderbased violence, which is closely connected to HIV for women. In a West
African regional workshop in Dakar in 2013, we asked UN staff, government
staff and NGO staff alike what kind of world they dreamt of beyond the end of
gender-based violence (GBV). Their common or unified response was if we
have a world without gender-based violence, then we will be out of a job I
found that response immensely revealing about the self-limiting nature of using
negative language since they were sub-consciously unable to work towards a
world beyond GBV, firstly because such a positive concept had never even
been considered and secondly because realising such a vision would herald
their redundancies.
Language, as Lakoff and Johnson have explained at length, frames the way we
think about and shape our worlds. If we use negative, combative, problemfocused, competitive militaristic language, we think and act accordingly. By
contrast if we use the language of nature, nurture and growth our thoughts and
actions respond creatively and also turn to positive solutions.
Militaristic, combative language is widely used in relation to cancer too
beating cancer, fighting it and, when someone dies, declaring that s/he has
lost her/his battle with it. But such language, I believe, is both unnecessary
and damaging to our souls. I am a great believer in organic gardening, in finding
balance in my plot and in not zapping weeds or slugs with toxic chemicals but
with living alongside them, accepting them as part of natures rich tapestry,
using physical barriers such as gravel, copper strips and old carpet to contain
them instead, so that I can also grow nourishing vegetables safely. If I were to
use any spray I would only use it with extreme caution and in very small
quantity. Bugs were here before us and will outlive us. To imagine otherwise is
folly indeed.
Similarly, I look at my HIV as a part of me which I accept rather than reject. I
live alongside it and around it in my body, with modest HIV medication, rather
than trying to reject or defeat it. It is not a wholly negative experience. I and
many colleagues thank our HIV for giving us many insights into the purpose of
our lives and into the injustices which it has brought so many others around the
world. I have had many good conversations over the past year with my sister,
who has pancreatic cancer. She points out that when people die in the normal
course of events, we do not say that they have lost the battle' to stay alive, but
accept it as normal. Though challenged by her cancer, my sister is not fighting
it: rather she is doing all she can to support her immune system so that it can
best perform its normal function (cancer has been described as a breakdown of
the immune system - the body is hard wired to heal). Recognising better the
impermanence of life, the quality of her life is actually enhanced - this does not
sound like a battle.
A more gentle, holistic response to the containment of disease is needed rather
than the aggressively-charged metaphors which bombard us all. The one
certainty that joins us all as living human beings is our impermanence - that we
will die. Atul Gawande and Deepak Chopra have eloquently argued how our
attempts to assume otherwise are hubristic and there is often more sense in our
seeking to heal rather than to cure ourselves, to find balance in ourselves as
our bodies deal with our ailments.
The language of nature, nurture, roots, shoots, branches, warmth, rain, growth
and creation is something that makes me feel good about myself and others
around me. In my garden I need a toolshed, not an arsenal.
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With our tools, we can join together to create a better world for us all, with
greater equity of income, of social, gender and environmental justice, greater
involvement in political decision-making in all policies that affect our lives. What
will help us along the way is a sense that we have scientists, donors and policy
makers working with us, not against us, seeking a shared vision rather than
chasing their targets, offering us respect, dignity and appreciation of the trials
we face along the way in initiating and continuing with our self-care. We all
need to work together in this garden and we need to respect the workings of the
slugs, bugs and weeds also in our lives.
The forces of nature are bigger than us all and to assume we can overcome
them and to blame people with HIV if we dont - is folly on a grand scale
indeed.
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