First/ Sykur (High Class): opinion regarding marriage

He believes that the process of choosing partner has changed over time. In
the past, parents were responsible for choosing the partner for their son or
daughter .Nowadays, the prevailing kind of marriage is that one based on
love rather than the parents arrangement.
He also explained the people, nowadays, tend to prefer love after marriage.
He personally prefers the parents arranged marriage, reasoning that they
are well aware about their sons needs and what is the best for them. But he
added that the partner must be given a chance to meet and to show on the
background of the family of his /her partner.
Regarding the characteristics of his partner, Sykur stated the following:

1. Parents choice I think parents decision is more better than you

choose because sometime parents they know about their children
how their behavior you know how person that he choose is better
so I think maybe marriage if parents choose for their (parents) for
their child I think its better than you choose.
2. Religion first I agree with you is religions and

second one is

education, and then I think that third one is more to behavior, because
the appearance is not a role if the behavior is not quite good
3. Education
4. Less important appearance I think appearance is not important.

5. Love can come after marriage Sykur: sorry for interrupt but I think
now these day people one likely love after marriage, rather than
before marriage

Second/ Adham (High class) his opinion:

He considered it not fair for a person to get married depending on
his/ her parents choice .reasoning that, there are so many things
can not be known only by the couples . when married with
someone I dont know so I feel like its not its not fair to me
Regarding the characteristics of his spouse , Adham put his priorities as
following :
1. Love if I want to married, love cames first
2. Education must be educated so far me education came first and
then the second thing is about to can cook or not
3. Other skills.

Third/ Angha (Girl Middle Class)

She prefers the arranged-marriage depending on her parents
choice. She would follow the decision of her parents ; because she
believed that they know what is the best for her.

She considered the following characteristics as

priorities for her

spouse :
1. To be according to her

parents choice. for me may be the

selection from parents good. To me I dont think soI think

just like my parents if they said youll marry on this time with this
boy the person is .. Just I will follow, for me the parents
arrangement is good because I know that parents are already
observed that guy will married with me, so they know that he is a good
religions, good education, canah guide me after married, so if what if
fall in love with someone, but then this guy cannot guide me, he just
bring me into the wrong way. so
2. To be religious ; to lead her to the right way ( because she
believed the duty of a man is to lead to the family to the way
of Islam). may be the first is about religions,
3. Has a stable job, to enable him to provide a safe shelter. he
has a fix job, to give shelter and food for us
4. Love is important, but it could come after marriage. love, we
can consider after mirage.

Forth /Akmal (Boy middle class):

He prefers to be in the middle of the two kinds of marriage, because
he believes the importance of giving the spouses the opportunity to
choose their partner provided that happens

within the aware and

approval of their parents through negotiation and discussion; but

the choice belongs to the son or the daughter of the family. couple
they just take the advice from the eldest only.
the most majority is the decision is made from the partner.
He puts the following as the characteristics of his future wife:
1. In the first place, to be religious (because he believes religion
can help in educating the life partner). for me, I would put my
religion number one
2. Education. and the second one I would put the education
3. Appearance I think appearance is not important,

the

appearance is a bonus
4. He believes in love after marriage. we can change educate little
by little and we can by together to improve our behavior, and may be
from there we can feel the loving feeling the romantic , when we are
together and try to strong our relationship.
Fifth / Rizal (Low class):
He believes in love before marriage and prefer the love-marriage,
and put his priorities as following :
1. To love her I agree with have love before mirage
2. To be respectful
3. To be religious ( because he believes he cannot

control the

women if she was not religious) follow the religious, she need
to know deeply about Islam, so thats can control her about what she

need to do or what she cant do, because, I NO always can control

her
4. To be educated. must be educated.