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MODULE 1
What Are the Big Five Dimensions of Personality?
Personality researchers have proposed that there are five basic dimensions of personality.
Today, many contemporary personality psychologists believe that there are five basic dimensions
of personality, often referred to as the "Big 5" personality traits. Previous trait theorist had
suggested a various number of possible traits, includingGordon Allport's list of 4,000 personality
traits, Raymond Cattell's 16 personality factors and Hans Eysenck's three-factor theory.
However, many researchers felt that Cattell's theory was too complex and Eysenck's was too
limited in scope. As a result, the five-factor theory emerged to describe the basic traits that serve
as the building blocks of personality.
What Are the Big Five Dimensions of Personality?
Today, many researchers believe that they are five core personality traits. Evidence of this theory
has been growing over the past 50 years, beginning with the research of D. W. Fiske (1949) and
later expanded upon by other researchers including Norman (1967), Smith (1967), Goldberg
(1981), and McCrae & Costa (1987).
The "big five" are broad categories of personality traits. While there is a significant body of
literature supporting this five-factor model of personality, researchers don't always agree on the
exact labels for each dimension. However, these five categories are usually described as follows:
1.
Extraversion: This trait includes characteristics such as excitability, sociability,
talkativeness, assertiveness and high amounts of emotional expressiveness.
2.
3.
4.
5.
Openness: This trait features characteristics such as imagination and insight, and those
high in this trait also tend to have a broad range of interests.
It is important to note that each of the five personality factors represents a range between two
extremes. For example, extraversion represents a continuum between extreme extraversion and
extreme introversion. In the real world, most people lie somewhere in between the two polar
ends of each dimension.
What is the socialization process?
Socialization is the process by which children and adults learn from others. We begin
learning from others during the early days of life; and most people continue their social learning
all through life (unless some mental or physical disability slows or stops the learning process).
Sometimes the learning is fun, as when we learn a new sport, art or musical technique from a
friend we like. At other times, social learning is painful, as when we learn not to drive too fast by
receiving a large fine for speeding.
Natural socialization occurs when infants and youngsters explore, play and discover the
social world around them. Planned socialization occurs when other people take actions designed
to teach or train others -- from infancy on. Natural socialization is easily seen when looking at
the young of almost any mammalian species (and some birds). Planned socialization is mostly a
human phenomenon; and all through history, people have been making plans for teaching or
training others. Both natural and planned socialization can have good and bad features: It is wise
to learn the best features of both natural and planned socialization and weave them into our lives.
Positive socialization is the type of social learning that is based on pleasurable and exciting
experiences. We tend to like the people who fill our social learning processes with positive
motivation, loving care, and rewarding opportunities. Negative socialization occurs when others
use punishment, harsh criticisms or anger to try to "teach us a lesson;" and often we come to
dislike both negative socialization and the people who impose it on us.
There are all types of mixes of positive and negative socialization; and the more positive
social learning experiences we have, the happier we tend to be -- especially if we learn useful
information that helps us cope well with the challenges of life. A high ratio of negative to
positive socialization can make a person unhappy, defeated or pessimistic about life. One of the
goals of Soc 142 is to show people how to increase the ratio of positive to negative in the
socialization they receive from others -- and that they give to others. [Some people will defend
negative socialization, since painful training can prepare people to be ready to fight and die in
battle, put themselves at great risk in order to save others, endure torture and hardship. This is
true; but many people receive far more negative socialization than they need, and hopefully
fewer and fewer people will need to be trained for battle, torture and hardship.]
Soc 142 shows that positive socialization, coupled with valuable information about life
and the skills needed to live well, can be a powerful tool for promoting human development. We
all have an enormous human potential, and we all could develop a large portion of it if we had
the encouragement that comes from positive socialization and the wisdom that comes from
valuable information about living. Information about both natural and planned socialization can
be especially useful.
Our prior socialization helps explain a gigantic chunk of who we are at present -- what we
think and feel, where we plan to go in life. But we are not limited by the things given to us by
our prior social learning experiences; we can take all our remaining days and steer our future
social learning in directions that we value. The more that we know about the socialization
process, the more effective we can be in directing our future learning in the ways that will help
us most.
Because we were not able to select our parents, we were not able to control much of the
first 10 or 20 years of our socialization. However, most people learn to influence their own
socialization as they gain experience in life. It takes special skills to steer and direct our own
socialization, and many of us pick up some of those skills naturally as we go through life.
Having a course on socialization can help us understand which skills are most effective in
guiding our socialization toward the goals we most value.
It is important to know that we all come into life with a variety of psychology systems that
foster self-actualization and favor the development of our human potential. These are the
biosocial mechanisms that underlie natural socialization. We can see and study natural
socialization by examining the socialization of primates and other mammals. Once we under the
natural biosocial processes, we can try to build strategies of self-actualization that are compatible
with the natural biosocial mechanisms we are born with to make self-development as easy and
rewarding as possible.
Soc 142 shows how the natural self-actualization systems operate in everyday life so we
can create as many good social experiences as possible. The study of behavior principles in
everyday life is crucial to this, and that is why John and Janice Baldwin wrote a book with that
name. If we understand the ways to create positive socialization experiences, we can take our
human potential and develop the happy and creative sides of that potential. If we had too much
negative socialization in the past and have learned to be too sad or inhibited, knowledge about
positive socialization can help minimize some of the pain and allow us to build toward a more
positive and creative future.
The goal of Soc 142 is to help you learn how to be most effective in directing your own
socialization and self-actualization processes toward the goals that you value most. Special
attention will be paid to exploration, play, creativity, wisdom, and positive reinforcement -- five
centrally important aspects of positive socialization.
Patriotism is showing pride of your country because if you are proud of you country and respect
the law then you are showing pride of your country. Patriotism is a nationalist feeling of pride in
or support for your country. It manifests itself in many forms, both small and large. While some
people regard patriotism as a sort of civic virtue, others consider it a dangerous way of thinking.
That difference of opinion reflects the diverse ways in which patriotism can impact society.
National Pride
One effect of patriotism is its creation of a sense of national pride. Individuals take pride
in their country, its history and its culture. They see themselves as part of a nation and identify
positively with it. National pride is often expressed symbolically; in the U.S., familiar patriotic
symbols such as the bald eagle and the flag serve this purpose.
Unity
Patriotism often has the effect of promoting national unity. A patriotic society sees itself
as a single unit with common, national goals. Commentators frequently described the sense of
unity that emerged from the groundswell of patriotism following the September 11 attacks.
Patriotism also was closely linked with the unified spirit Americans had following the country's
entry into World War II.
Obedience
A patriotic society tends to be more obedient than rebellious. Patriotic individuals tend to
have greater faith in the government and its leaders. Patriotism often instills a sense of national
duty, which can lead to enlistment in the armed forces or some other position of perceived public
service. Historically, political figures have seized on patriotic sentiment to compel obedience to
some mission. In World War I, for example, patriotic attitudes had a repressive effect on
opposition to the war and made the citizenry more eager to obey.
Conformity
Patriotism can also have the effect of inducing conformist attitudes among a populace.
Extreme patriotism makes criticism less acceptable, even taboo. This has a chilling effect on the
free exchange of ideas and public discourse, which encourages a more narrow-minded thinking
that is less open to critical ideas about a nation. Following the September 11 attacks, a number of
journalists and editors were removed from their positions for making comments critical of the
president or U.S. policy, in part because the upsurge of patriotism made people less tolerant of
controversial views.
managing diversity
Definition
The management and leadership of a workforce with the goal of encouraging productive and
mutually beneficial interactions among the employees of an organization. Managing
diversity aims at providing employees with backgrounds, needs, and skill sets that may vary
widely with the opportunity to engage with the company and their co-workers in a manner
that produces an optimal work environment and the best possible business results for the
company.
How to Manage Diversity in a Workplace
Diversity in the workplace means bringing together people of different ethnic backgrounds,
religions and age groups into a cohesive and productive unit. Advances in communication
technology, such as the Internet and cellular phones, have made the marketplace a more global
concept. In order to survive, a company needs to be able to manage and utilize its diverse
workplace effectively. Managing diversity in the workplace should be a part of the culture of the
entire organization.
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Step 1
Confirm that all of your personnel policies from hiring to promotions and raises are based on
employee performance. Avoid allowing tenure, ethnic background or any other kind of category
into your human resources policies. Managing a diverse workplace begins with strong policies of
equality from the company. Once these policies are in place, the company can begin
implementing diversity measures throughout the entire organization.
Step 2
Rate the qualifications of the candidate based on the quality of his experience, not age or any
other category, when hiring. When you hire a diverse but qualified workforce, you are on the
right track towards being able to manage the diversity in your company.
Step 3
Encourage diversity when creating teams and special work groups within the company. If a
manager creates a work group that does not utilize the skills of the most qualified employees,
then insist that the group be changed to include all qualified staff members.
Step 4
Treat complaints of favoritism or discrimination seriously. Encourage employees to report all
instances of discriminatory behavior, and have a definitive process in place for investigating and
dealing with these issues.
Step 5
Hold quarterly trainings for the entire staff on the benefits of diversity in the workplace.
Encourage discussions at these meetings on how the company can better manage workplace
diversity.
Importance of Managing Diversity
Managers can help guide diversity and inclusion in organizations, from hiring
practices to communication and career development practices.
Operating Globally
Global businesses demand management that can work in a diverse environment.
Human resource managers are often tasked with managing many aspects of diversity in
organizations, but project managers and other managers with whom employees directly work or
to whom they directly report can also guide inclusion practices.
Diversity training is another way that managers and other employees can manage
diversity in the workplace. Diversity training has the purpose of increasing participants' cultural
awareness, knowledge, and skills.
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an organization by protecting against civil rights violations, increasing the inclusion of different
identity groups, and promoting better teamwork.
MODULE II
Excellence is a talent or quality which is unusually good and so surpasses ordinary standards. It is also
used as a standard of performance.
Do you procrastinate?
Does your emotional state frequently prevent you from getting work done?
Discipline is important for personal excellence, but it should be the last skill to use, not the first.
If youre constantly having to drag yourself to do everything, you wont last long. Thats why
its important to build the other aspects of personal skill.
Emotional Control
Emotional control does not mean you should strive to be stoic and unfeeling. Strong emotions
are important for personal excellence too. Being able to motivate yourself and build enthusiasm
are components of emotional control.
Emotional control comes in two aspects: self-awareness of what emotional state is appropriate
and the ability to change that state. Building emotional control starts with building selfawareness. Realize when youre lazy, angry, energetic or depressed and ask yourself whether its
the best perspective for dealing with a problem.
Once you have self-awareness, you can find the triggers you need to change your state. People
change moods all the time, you just need to realize what causes you to change states and activate
it when you need it. When Im trying to motivate myself, a big help is being organized.
Decluttering is a tool I use to motivate myself to do other things.
Attitude
A positive attitude does not mean you think things are going great all the time. Thats being
stupid. When things are going poorly, you need to be able to recognize and fix whats happening
immediately.
A positive attitude, in the realm of personal excellence, means that you dont let negative
information shut you down. Someone with a positive attitude can take verbal abuse from
someone, and turn it into fuel for improvement. Alchemy is the heart of a great attitude, being
able to transmute the negative feedback from your environment into new solutions.
Courage
Fear is your friend. Fear tells you to work when others are lazy. Fear tells you secure yourself
when others are gambling. The first way to overcome your fears is to realize they serve a very
good purpose in focusing you.
Courage, of course, isnt the lack of fear. Its being able to realize your terrified but stand up
anyways. People with personal excellence know how to make their fears work for them. Fear
can be a powerful motivating force if you know how to channel it, and are able to override it
when necessary.
Calmness
The best sign of personal excellence is that a person has grace when handling problems. If
regular stresses cause a nervous breakdown, you dont have personal excellence. The
scaffolding that supports your inner mental life, should be strong enough that when a hurricane
comes through it, you dont collapse.
Ive found that knowing what to focus on in situations makes a big difference to your mental
calmness. Stress usually results, not from the actual workload or pressures (although exhaustion
can happen), but from the way you focus on that information. A huge to-do list can be handled
one item at a time, not as an impossible mountain of tasks.
Building Personal Excellence First
Trying to fix external problems without building personal excellence is like putting a band-aid
over a leaky pipe. You might stop the water for a few minutes, but youve only masked the real
problem.
Personal excellence is similar to athletic training. Although you might get some conditioning
just by playing the game, the best athletes practice. Here are some ways to start building
personal excellence:
1.
Get in shape. If you arent already eating healthy and exercising, start. The problem
isnt having enough time, its having enough discipline.
2.
Give up television. Switch to entertainment that requires more effort, and read a book
instead of watching reruns. There is value in books, and there is also value in doing something
more difficult, but more rewarding.
3.
Wake up earlier. Yes, I like to sleep in too. But every day you can push yourself to
wake up earlier, you earn more control to do other things that are important to you.
4.
Speak in public. Get booed a few times too. A good test of personal excellence is to be
able to swallow the unfiltered, face-to-face reactions of a few dozen people and still keep
going.
5.
Follow a budget. Try cutting your spending for a month, and following a strict budget.
The exercise isnt just to save money, its to test yourself to see the limits of what youre able to
do.
Youre square one. If you start there, the rest is easy
you become a successful work at home mom. Prioritizing goals must start with identifying your
long-term and short-term goals.
What are Short-Term and Long-Term Goals?
Short-term goals are those that you can realize in the near future, such as in a day, within the
week or even a few months. Examples of short-term goals include finishing a pending project at
work or getting done with shopping for the holidays.
Meanwhile, long-term goals are the ones that you plan to achieve over a longer period of time
such as over a year, 5 years or more. Long-term goals are usually those that are meaningful give
you a sense of greater purpose. An example of a long-term goal is finally starting the home-based
business of your dreams.
A problem with long-term goals is that they are usually far off in the future and it will take a long
time before they are achieved. As a result, staying focused on long-term goals can be
challenging.
The Importance of having Short-Term and Long-Term Goals
It is important to maintain a balance between short-term and long-term goals. Have at least one
short-term goal and one long-term goal at any given time. Having long-term goals is necessary
but always keep in mind that you will need time before you can achieve them. It's easy to
become discouraged on your long-term goals if you have no short-term goals to provide you with
a sense of accomplishment.
Meanwhile, having only short-term goals and no long-term goals is not healthy either. Without a
long-term goal to give you a clear focus on the future, achieved short-term goals doesn't add up to
much. Having a long-term goal helps eases the burden of a tedious task while you are accomplishing a
short-term goal by reminding you that there is a greater purpose.
Before you start setting your goals, take a few moments to list down the things that matter most
to you. Writing down your goals help solidify them in your mind. Most importantly, never forget
to reward yourself whenever you achieve success in any of your goals.
Prioritize: You may have several goals. Prioritize them on your list.
Positive: Use positive language. "I will ", "Ill be", "Ill have"
Precise: Be precise. "I will have supper with my family three nights a week"rather than "I will be
home earlier"
Performance: Measure your performance. Set time for starting and completing your goal. "May
1 I will be home at 5:30 three nights this week"
Practical: Make your goals practical. Do you have the control to make this work or do you rely
on other people to meet your goal?
Personal: Is this goal a personal goal or someone elses desire for you?
Time management is easier when you can motivate yourself and judge the value of your time. If
your goals are based on someone elses desires (if your mate wants you to work in a steady job
but you want to be self-employed) you will find it difficult to manage your time due to lack of
motivation.
Creating an Action Plan
Your action plan will have a great deal to do with your day to day scheduling.
Now that you have made yourself conscious of where you are headed (long term goal) and have
set up guide posts (short term goals) it will merely mean implementing an action plan to get your
time on track.
Use your short term goals to implement your action plan. If you are not making radical changes
but are just trying to take the stress out of your day you will find the time you took to think about
your goals may be enough to keep your priorities in order.
If you find that you need to refocus on your goals you will need to give each short term goal a
date to start or complete write it down.
Within the time frame of the goal write down the actions that need to be taken to realize the goal.
If you have discovered from the exercises above that you need to hire an assistant this may mean
putting out an ad, reviewing resumes, conducting interviews, hiring and training. Each task must
be assigned a time to complete.
The action plan combined with a focus on goals will help you appreciate the overall effects of
valuing your time. In this example you will realize that even though you may need to use MORE
time this month by interviewing and training an assistant your GOAL to spend less time on
minor tasks is being accomplished. At this point your time is valued comparative to your goal. In
a month you will be spending less time with minor matters even if it requires more work at the
early stage.
Resources
Part of your Action Plan should include a summary of the resources you need to meet your goals.
An assistant is a resource, more education is a resource, a supportive mate is a resource. List the
resources you need to obtain and include them in your action plan when will you get them and
how will they be obtained?
Review and Update
While writing goals down is an effective tool for managing your time you will still need to
review and update them occasionally. Perhaps you encounter an unexpected obstacle on your
way to meeting your long term goal. Reassess and determine if you can adapt your action plan. If
you cannot adapt your plan you will need to consider why the plan went off course did you
have less power to control the situation than you thought? Were you unaware of some of the
resources you would need and their cost or time obligations?
Understanding yourself provides the foundation for taking self-determined actions. It is a key to
success. To know yourself means to be aware of strengths, weaknesses, needs, In studies of
childhood risks and adversities it has been found that young people can minimize the effects of
disabilities and other risk factors by learning to see ones adversities in a new light (Katz,
1997). Successful individuals who overcome adversities are often able to define themselves more
around their multiple talents than around their areas of vulnerability. Being able to show their
talents and have them valued by those who are important to them helps them define their
identities around that which they do best. It has even been found that childrens perceptions of
their competence are stronger predictors of behavior and achievement than objective measures of
their capabilities (Phillips & Zimmerman, 1990) interests and preferences. Self-awareness is
essential for developing goals that reflect personal desires and for making informed decisions.
Valuing yourself leads to positive self-esteem. The belief that you are part of something larger
and more enduring than daily struggles can provide the strength required to persevere when life
presents its inevitable challenges.
You can help young people gain an understanding of their abilities and disabilities and then learn
to play to their strengths. This knowledge and skill can contribute to a successful life. For
example, one successful college student who had a stroke at a young How society labels
individuals with disabilities as a group can also have an impact on how young people with
disabilities view themselves. Responding to labels can test self-identity and self-value. Mentors
can play a key role in shaping the self-perceptions of young people.
People with disabilities who consider themselves successful generally accept their disabilities as
one aspect of who they are. They do not define themselves by their disabilities. They recognize
that they are not responsible for their disabilities, and they know that they are not inherently
impaired. They do not blame others for their situation, nor do they have a sense of entitlement.
Instead, they take responsibility for their own happiness and future. After completing the online
activities in this chapter, young people will reach a greater understanding of their abilities and
disabilities. These exercises will help students to know their strengths and weaknesses.
understand their rights and responsibilities. know that their disabilities do not define them as
individuals and have a limited impact on their lives. define their self-worth in terms other than
the stereotypes of others. have high self-esteem. know their lives have meaning. make positive
contributions to their families, schools, and communities
MODULE III
Career planning is an ongoing process that can help you manage your learning and development.
You can use the four step planning process whether you are:
still at school;
a school leaver;
ensuring that your work fits with your personal circumstances; and
continuously fine-tuning your work and learning plans to help you manage the changes in
your life and the world of work.
You can revisit and make use of this process all the way through your career.
Start at the step that is most relevant for you now.
The career planning process has four steps:
Where am I at now?
At the end of this step you will have a clearer idea of your work or learning goal and your
individual preferences. You can use this information about yourself as your personal wish list
against which you can compare all the information you gather in Step 2: finding out. Your
personal preferences are very useful for helping you choose your best option at this point in time,
which you can do in Step 3: making decisions.
Step 2: finding out
This step is about exploring the occupations and learning areas that interest you. Once you have
some idea of your occupational preferences you can research the specific skills and qualifications
required for those occupations.
Explore occupations that interest you and ask yourself how do my skills and interests
match up with these occupations?
What options do I have to gain these skills or qualify for these occupations?
At the end of this step you will have a list of preferred occupations and/or learning options.
Step 3: making decisions
This step involves comparing your options, narrowing down your choices and thinking about
what suits you best at this point in time.
Ask yourself:
At the end of this step you will have narrowed down your options and have more of an idea of
what you need to do next to help you achieve your goals.
Step 4: taking action
Here you plan the steps you need to take to put your plan into action.
Use all you have learnt about your skills, interests and values together with the information you
have gathered about the world of work to create your plan.
Begin by asking yourself:
What actions/steps will help me achieve my work, training and career goals?
a plan to help you explore your options further (eg work experience, work shadowing or
more research); or
a plan which sets out the steps to help you achieve your next learning or work goal.
Decide which step is relevant for you right now and start from there.
Just like any plan, it provides a more formal way of thinking about your future by writing down a
proposed way forward and periodically revisiting your plan to see how you're tracking.
A career plan involves:
Identifying your skills, goals and interests and matching them to a job, course or training
program
Researching the range and type of jobs that fit your skills and interests
Developing a strategy to find work or pursue training in your chosen field
Carrying out your plan
A career plan is not set in stone and should grow and change as you do.
How do I create and action a career plan?
Online career planning resources
We've profiled some websites (see the 'Career planning links' below) that provide steps, tips and
tools for planning your career.
Career counsellors
Alternatively, seek assistance from a qualified career planner or, if you're still at school or doing
tertiary training, through your career counsellor or career resource centre.
We've also linked to some sites that provide more information about finding and using career
planning professionals.
Analytical skills: the ability to debate and argue a case interpreting complex material;
picking out inconsistencies in reasoning; analysing data from an experiment.
Information Technology: entering data onto a spreadsheet, using the Internet to find
information. Designing a web page. Programming.
Students often say "I haven't done any real vacation work - not anything that would be
relevant to a career - just a bit of shop work, bar work, waiting on tables and so on. I
couldn't put anything like that on an application form".
But what employers tell us is that they do value this type of work experience and wish that
students would make more of it on their application forms!
Here are some of the skills that you might gain from shop, bar or restaurant
work:
Some popular employers early. The best opportunities for taking part in employers'
undergraduate vacation training schemes are available in the summer vacation after your second
year - but you may need to apply for these opportunities before the Christmas vacation in some
instances.
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Stages of Stress
When you are under stress, you experience and pass through three specific stages. These stages
are
Alarm, Resistance, and Exhaustion. However, you may or may not pass through all stages of
stress,
depending on the events that triggered the occurence.
First Stage: ALARM
When you face any danger, your nervous system immediately sends an emergency signal to your
brain. All the different body parts and their functions coordinate to either fight or flee away from
the
danger.
You get more energy and your limbs work faster. This is clearly visible in your facial expressions
as
fear or tension.
Normally, this stage of stress can be due to an actual event such as an accident.
It is then primary stress. Otherwise, you could cause your stress like when you are appearing for
an
important examination. This is secondary stress.
The general indications of this stage are your fast breathing with sweating and accelerated heart
beat
which leads to higher blood pressure and indigestion.
Second Stage: RESISTANCE
When you do not get any relief from the first stage of stress, you slowly start feeling a reduction
in
your energy levels.
However, still you want to keep fighting the danger. Hence, you feel exasperated and are
impatient
with trivial matters. You miss your sleep schedules and find your resistance breaking Your body
reacts by releasing the stored sugars and fats into your system. This leads to defined changes in
your physical and mental behavioral patterns.
The normal indications of this level are exhaustion, weariness, anxiousness, and being forgetful.
You
start smoking and drinking more to come out of your stress. Being weak, you are an easy target
for
colds and flu.
Third Stage: EXHAUSTION
When stress continues beyond the second stage and you do not adhere to remedial measures, the
final stress stage of exhaustion settles in. You are now totally tired and drained out of all energy.
You do not even have the desire or the drive to do your work or live your life.
This stage symbolizes a breakdown of your system and your basic physical existence itself. This
leads to loss of mental equilibrium and extreme complications such as heart diseases, blood
pressure, and ulcers.
Definition of Stress
Stress may be defined as "a state of psychological and / or physiological imbalance resulting
from the disparity between situational demand and the individual's ability and / or motivation to
meet those demands."
Dr. Hans Selye, one of the leading authorities on the concept of stress, described stress as "the
rate of all wear and tear caused by life."
Stress can be positive or negative. Stress can be positive when the situation offers an opportunity
for a person to gain something. It acts as a motivator for peak performance. Stress can be
negative when a person faces social, physical, organisational and emotional problems.
Causes of Stress
Factors that cause stress are called "Stressors." The following are the sources or causes of an
organisational and non-organisational stress.
1. Causes of an Organisational Stress
The main sources or causes of an organisational stress are :-
1.
Career Concern : If an employee feels that he is very much behind in corporate ladder,
then he may experience stress and if he feels that there are no opportunities for self-growth he
may experience stress. Hence unfulfilled career expectations are a major source of stress.
2.
Role Ambiguity : It occurs when the person does not known what he is supposed to do
on the job. His tasks and responsibilities are not clear. The employee is not sure what he is
expected to do. This creates confusion in the minds of the worker and results in stress.
3.
Rotating Shifts : Stress may occur to those individuals who work in different shifts.
Employees may be expected to work in day shift for some days and then in the night shift.
This may create problems in adjusting to the shift timings, and it can affect not only personal
life but also family life of the employee.
4.
Role Conflict : It takes place when different people have different expectations from a
person performing a particular role. It can also occur if the job is not as per the expectation or
when a job demands a certain type of behaviour that is against the person's moral values.
5.
Occupational Demands : Some jobs are more stressful than others. Jobs that involve risk
and danger are more stressful. Research findings indicate that jobs that are more stressful
usually requires constant monitoring of equipments and devices, unpleasant physical
conditions, making decisions, etc.
6.
Lack of Participation in Decision Making : Many experienced employees feel that
management should consult them on matters affecting their jobs. In reality, the superiors
hardly consult the concerned employees before taking a decision. This develops a feeling of
being neglected, which may lead to stress.
7.
Work Overload : Excessive work load leads to stress as it puts a person under
tremendous pressure. Work overload may take two different forms :i.
Qualitative work overload implies performing a job that is complicated or beyond
the employee's capacity.
ii.
Quantitative work overload arises when number of activities to be performed in
the prescribed time are many.
8.
Work Underload : In this case, very little work or too simple work is expected on the
part of the employee. Doing less work or jobs of routine and simple nature would lead to
monotony and boredom, which can lead to stress.
9.
Working Conditions : Employees may be subject to poor working conditions. It would
include poor lighting and ventilations, unhygienic sanitation facilities, excessive noise and
dust, presence of toxic gases and fumes, inadequate safety measures, etc. All these unpleasant
conditions create physiological and psychological imbalance in humans thereby causing stress.
10.
Lack of Group Cohesiveness : Every group is characterised by its cohesiveness
although they differ widely in degree of cohesiveness. Individuals experience stress when
there is no unity among the members of work group. There is mistrust, jealously, frequent
quarrels, etc., in groups and this lead to stress to employees.
11.
Interpersonal and Intergroup Conflict : Interpersonal and intergroup conflict takes
place due to differences in perceptions, attitudes, values and beliefs between two or more
individuals and groups. Such conflicts can be a source of stress to group members.
12.
Organisational Changes : When changes occur, people have to adapt to those changes
and this may cause stress. Stress is higher when changes are major or unusual like transfer or
adaption of new technology.
13.
Lack of Social Support : When individuals believe that they have the friendship and
support of others at work, their ability to cope with the effects of stress increases. If this kind
of social support is not available then an employee experiences more stress.
2. Causes of Non-Organisational Stress
Certain factors outside the scope of an organisation also cause stress.
These main sources or causes of non-organisational stress are :1.
2.
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4.
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Civic Amenities : Poor civic amenities in the area in which one lives can be a cause of
stress. Inadequate or lack of civic facilities like improper water supply, excessive noise or air
pollution, lack of proper transport facility can be quite stressful.
Life Changes : Life changes can bring stress to a person. Life changes can be slow or
sudden. Slow life changes include getting older and sudden life changes include death or
accident of a loved one. Sudden life changes are highly stressful and very difficult to cope.
Frustration : Frustration is another cause of stress. Frustration arises when goal directed
behaviour is blocked. Management should attempt to remove barriers and help the employees
to reach their goals.
Caste and Religion Conflicts : Employees living in areas which are subject to caste and
religious conflicts do suffer from stress. In case of religion, the minorities and lower-caste
people (seen especially in India) are subject to more stress.
Personality : People are broadly classified as 'Type A' and 'Type B'.
Feels guilty while relaxing.
Gets irritated by minor mistakes of self and others.
Feels impatient and dislikes waiting.
Does several things at one time.
While the 'Type B' people are exactly opposite and hence are less affected by stress due to
above mentioned factors.
6.
Technological Changes : When there are any changes in technological field, employees
are under the constant stress of fear of losing jobs, or need to adjust to new technologies. This
can be a source of stress.
7.
Career Changes : When a person suddenly switches over a new job, he is under stress to
shoulder new responsibilities properly. Under promotion, over promotion, demotion and
transfers can also cause stress
COPING STRATEGIES
1. Your morning routine will set the tone for your day while your evening routine will influence
the quality of your sleep.
2. Wake up 15-20 minutes earlier than usual to begin your morning routine.
3. Begin with some gentle stretching, yoga postures or light calisthenics.
4. Spend at least 15 minutes centering yourself through meditation, progressive relaxation or
listening to a meditation tape.
5. Eat a nourishing breakfast slowly.
6. Leave plenty of time to commute to work.
7. Your evening activities should consist of calming endeavors such as reading uplifting books,
writing, meditating, taking a bath or having light discussions.
8. Try not to watch over-stimulating or violent television shows in the evening.
9. For 30 minutes prior to going to sleep, turn off the day and go inward by meditating, listening
to a relaxation tape or whatever helps you make the transition to a restful sleep.
Using the senses to calm the HSP
1. Avoid jarring noises by listening to relaxing background music or wearing earplugs.
2. Give yourself or receive a massage on a regular bases.
3. Reduce the time you are sitting in front of a television or computer screen and gaze at
beautiful pictures or nature frequently.
4. Reduce your use of caffeine while drinking calming herbal teas and a lot of pure water.
5. Eat warm, nurturing food.
6. Try inhaling calming essential oils or incense.
7. Take a mini retreat twice a week and a longer retreat several times a year.
Important points in reducing time pressure
1. Listen to soothing music while driving slowly.
2. Try to avoid driving during peak traffic hours.
3. Utilize the opportunity of red lights and traffic jams as cues to spend time practicing relaxation
techniques.
4. Regularly practice slow, walking meditations in nature to stay calm and focused in the present.
5. Try talking slower and being in silence sometimes.
6. Wait five seconds before responding during an intense conversation to reduce over-stimulating
arguments.
7. Try mindful eating during at least one meal a week without engaging in any other stimuli, such
as reading, watching television or talking.
8. Try writing and typing at a slower rate.
9. Transform the ring of the telephone into a relaxation cue by not answering the phone until the
3rd or 4th ring if possible, while using the precious moments to relax deeply.
10. Minimize your use of the computer, phones and television.
How to Create Enjoyable and Relaxing Work for the HSP
1. Try to develop a positive attitude toward your job by creating enjoyable social interactions,
helping others and being enthusiastic about your work.
2. Listen to background music that is calming and maintain proper air circulation and
temperature.
3. Gaze at pictures of natural settings; bring flowers and plants to work.
4. Have juice or herb tea and healthy snack foods available as well as uplifting magazines or
articles for your clients or employees to read.
5. Have a comfortable chair to sit on. If you are sitting all day at work, periodically perform
stretches and take short walks.
6. Throughout the day do some slow abdominal breathing exercises and take short meditation
breaks.
7. If you are calm, your co-workers will be more relaxed creating interpersonal harmony. Don't
forget to smile frequently.
8. Explore changes in your job schedule such as beginning work later, working from home or
reducing your hours.
9. Create a daily work schedule each morning to plan a pressure-free day.
10. If you are working in a very stressful job that cannot be modified, examine your beliefs and
values as to why you continue to work in a difficult situation.
11. Investigate new job possibilities that are well suited for your sensitivity.
MODULE V
Dependence, Independence, Interdependence and the Stages in
Between
FranklinCovey has recently partnered with OpenSesame to offer some of our online learning
courses to their catalog. In addition the company is reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective
People. Below is a post from Micaela Deitch, an intern at OpenSesame about her experience
reading the book.
As an intern at OpenSesame, my peers and I recently started reading the The 7 Habits of Highly
Effective People as a group. Book in hand, I started the path to becoming a compassionate,
efficient and most of all effective career woman.
The beginning of my journey was not as smooth as Id hoped. Dr. Stephen R. Covey explains
that many individuals live in a state of dependence, where they feel and take no responsibility for
the events of their lives. As a young professional, this resonated with me. Since I was born Ive
been dependent on my family financially and emotionally. Every personal success I achieved felt
like it partly came from my family supporting me: paying for my school, consoling me when I
didnt get the part, or praising me when I got a good grade.
Being in a state of dependence had its perks, but I know it is not a sustainable option. All of my
role models, including my parents, had a time in their life when they made the change from
dependence to independence. It may not have been seamless or pretty, but at some point they
moved out of their parents house, got a job, and started taking care of themselves. When Covey
explained that the state beyond dependence is independence, I had an aha moment.
From Independence to Interdependence
However, in the next passage of the book, Covey explains that after achieving independence,
enlightened individuals move into a state of interdependence. This gave me pause. Moving from
dependence to independence to interdependence seems regressive. Isnt the independent
individual, who takes no help from anyone, the epitome of success?
I found my misunderstanding lay in the distinction between dependence and interdependence.
While dependence refers to relying on others to take care of us, interdependence refers to the
cooperation for a greater goal. And because there are limits on how productive we can be as
individuals, but virtually no limit on how productive we can be when we strategically collaborate
with others, being highly effective requires interdependence.
It took me awhile to understand this difference, but I soon realized many of my biggest successes
in life came from collaborative efforts. Take, for example, my last year of rowing as a senior in
high school. I had spent all winter training, hoping to be the fastest and fittest. I spent a lot of
time that season thinking about how I could be faster as a rower, but all that individual energy
wasnt helping my boat win races. A crew, like any group endeavor, relies on teammates working
together, not for personal success. When I stopped focusing on how I could be stronger or faster,
and started thinking about how I could row better to complement my teammates, we started
going faster. Eventually, we were rowing fast enough to win 2nd in the region.
The Next Step for Young Leaders
As college students make the transition from high school to college to adult life, theres
inevitable urge to rebel, to make a point of becoming independent and throwing off the
limitations of childhood. But it is important to remember that paying our own rent, buying our
own food, and working diligently at a chosen career path is not the apex of being effective. In
order to become truly effective we must use our independence and the stability it grants us as a
platform on upon which to build interdependent, highly effective relationships. Only when we
work in collaboration with others can we achieve our full potential.
Character vs. Personality Ethic
To provide a framework whereupon to build the 7 Habits, Covey begins his work introducing the
dichotomy between what he calls the character ethicand the personality ethic.
For years, the cultural theme that ran throughout the US was built upon the character ethic. This
is the idea that a person advances throughout life on the basis of their character. It was the
foundation of Benjamin Franklins Twelve Virtues and could be found in most of the self-help
literature of the time.
However, since WWI, a shift started to happen. Developing ones character began to be
overshadowed by the quick-fix solution of the personality ethic. All you had to do was learn
specific skills and techniques, work on your public image, personality and attitudes, and youd
be guaranteed success. However, the problem came when you were eventually discovered as
insincere and shallow. A perfect example is many of our modern politicians all fluff and no
substance.
Covey doesnt knock the personality ethic. In fact, he says it is sometimes absolutely necessary.
But these ideas are only effective when they flow naturally from a good character and the right
motives. And this is where the 7 Habits come into play.
Timeless Principles
The 7 Habits bring us back into the realm of the character ethic, where we live based upon timetested principles that have worked throughout the ages, regardless of social context. Values such
as the Golden Rule (do unto others as you would have them do unto you), going the extra mile,
charity and so on, are what truly effective people have lived by throughout history.
According to Covey, having a principle-centered life is the only way to be truly effective.
From Dependence to Interdependence: a Continuum
The 7 Habits are not mutually exclusive. In fact, from the first to the last habit, they are intended
to work with and build upon each other in a specific order and structure. When they are
sequentially applied in your life, they will take you from a state of dependence on others and
society to independence and ultimately interdependence an attribute reserved for the most
effective people.
Habits 1 through 3 comprise the private victory or independence (Ill be covering this
tomorrow). They take us from that feeling of helplessness and powerlessness to one of
empowerment and pro-activity.
Habits 4 through six make up the public victory or interdependence, where we learn to
effectively work with others in a mutually beneficial way. If we can achieve this, we have
achieved true effectiveness.
The 7th and last habit, Sharpen the Saw, is what keeps us running at peak levels. Just as any
machine requires regular maintenance to function properly, we require our own down-time to
rejuvenate our bodies, our minds and our spirits.
We have all understood our life from the outside in paradigm, believing that our needs are
supplied by something or someone outside of us. This leaves us in a very precarious position. It
is self-defeating to believe that our happiness, self-esteem and purpose are anyone elses job.
If we havent claimed our identity, we are defenceless to the effects of life outside of ourselves.
Working on emotional maturity, healthy boundary-setting, (please see my eBook How to
Understand and Implement Healthy Boundary Function) self-identity and alignment with Life
Principles that work allows us to enter a state of independence, which then sets the platform to
not only secure private accomplishment, but one that will expand into public accomplishment.
This transformation secures a synergistic expansion of love, happiness and success with others
and our environment. Read on to discover the crucial and essential steps of this journey.
Ultimately our new world that is emerging is one that works with the components of love, trust,
warmth and communion.
The days of dog eat dog, survival of the fittest, and me versus you and I need to succeed
with intimidation, victim behaviour or manipulation have now become ineffectual, and create
great disappointment, delays and pain.
These old states are ego (fear-based) mechanisms that dont create lasting and solid love, success
and happiness. Win-lose is no longer the workable trend. Win-win is now the goal.
Businesses, love relationships and families in modern times are breaking apart as a result of fear
based, low-trust conditions. As a species, we are all evolving and sensing the need for healthy
and trustworthy connections. No longer will many spouses or employees tolerate the stresses of
lack of trust. The days of put up and shut up are becoming obsolete, and are becoming
exposed.
No longer can lack of trust and lack of connection with others and our environment create
worthy realities. These old incongruent energy statements are becoming more obvious and more
unbearable to live with. Its time to change!
We are all being called, as part of a new world, to make the journey from co-dependence to
independence to interdependence.
In other words, we must leave behind our co-dependent behaviour to step up into independence,
and we must have a solid sense of independence to be able to function effectively in
interdependence. Having said this, it isnt necessary to be solely independent before working on
interdependence. These two stages can be achieved simultaneously. It certainly is a truth the
more healthy your emotional independence operates (as opposed to pure practical independence)
the easier it will be to connect to healthy interdependence.
Do you spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think about you?
Do you get distressed by bad things that happen which are out of your control?
Do you say and do what you think other people want you to say and do?
Do you try to control other peoples behaviour so that you can feel OK?
When an interaction with someone goes wrong do you spend time analysing their
actions, what they said and what they might be feeling and thinking?
Do you find it difficult to speak up and confront an issue when you feel uncomfortable?
Do you immediately think of someone else who needs this information more than you?
Do you seek and listen to other peoples opinions rather than seeking and listening to
your own?
Do you obsess over having said the wrong thing or hurting someone elses feelings?
We can all be guilty of these traits. When we are, we have lost a connection to ourselves by
handing our power over to life and others. No longer are we capable of sustaining our needs and
looking after ourselves, we have forfeited this worthiness and trust to conditions on the outside
- conditions that we have no control over, and no right to control! Co-dependency fosters
insecurity, anxiety, depression and in many cases leads to premature death. In its advanced stages
Do you give in to other people's expectations and demands even when you feel
uncomfortable?
Do you feel controlled by life and dont believe you have a choice in many
circumstances?
Do you follow protocols and traditions that you dont agree with anymore?
Do you grab onto things and people outside of yourself to feel better?
I really should...
boundary function, you recognise where you can help, how to help in empowered ways, and you
make a decision that creates a win/win opportunity for everyone involved. No longer do you fuel
yourself and someone elses dysfunctions and insecurities by reacting in unhealthy ways.
Achieving independence means releasing yourself from the need for other people to validate
your sense of self. Ill explain with an example...
Not long ago my son and I had an interaction. He had spent money on a social event and hadnt
saved enough money to have petrol in his car to get to work. My sense of self on this matter is
I am living a principle centered life (non-co-dependent) where I no longer fix his irresponsible
mistakes for him and I dont enable him to be irresponsible. When he asked if he could borrow
my car (he knew my take on lending him money), I calmly and clearly said No. When he
asked me why, I stated my declaration of truth on the matter quietly and calmly. He ranted and
raved a bit which I totally ignored. An hour later we were having tea together as if nothing had
happened and hed rung one of his friends to organise a lift. After he finished work we had
pleasant talks about other unrelated issues.
In the past I would have acted co-dependently. I would have argued and been totally dismayed if
he didnt understand my point of view. One of the biggest lessons I have learnt in life is: Its not
important for other people to get it. Its important that I get it.
So you can see the old pattern would have created a Lose/Win if I had given in and fixed his
problem for him with my own resources, or a Lose/Lose where we both would have lost because
I was enabling him to be irresponsible. And whats more we could have argued for two days
about my Disbelief of His Irresponsible and Thoughtless Behaviour and his version What an
Unsupportive Mother I am.
Instead my decisions: 1) Knowing where I stood, 2) Stating it with no guilt, fear, explanations or
justifications and 3) Detaching from him getting it or validating it - created a Win/Win, not in
the sense of a marvelous synergistic transformation (which is possible in interdependent problem
solving) but most definitely a Win/Win. My resource and principle centre was not exploited and I
was implementing by example mature and responsible behaviour, which was to his advantage.
Part of being a healthy independent with a sense of inner self is escaping the need for the quick
emotional fix. Our co-dependent nature wants relief, validation (to be understood) and results
immediately. This is why we go in harder trying to make it happen. This is a function of
the ego that is immature (scared) and perceives scarcity. If I dont get it now, there may not be
more later on, or someone else is going to get it.
Healthy independence KNOWS that if we live calmly with an inner foundation of principles that
life will bit by bit, slowly and surely respond and match these principles. By not being attached
to timing, we are simply attached to doing the right thing the thing that works, and trusting the
process to unfold in its own time accordingly. Healthy independence realises that the old
emotional and co-dependent behaviours create temporary relief at best, disasters and blows ups
at worst, and are simply band-aid attempts that dont have durable results.
needing to be understood which is what every person truly wants. Naturally this pushing
creates a push back where the other person is trying to do the same. In this state of non-evolved
problem-solving the most convincing, intimidating or manipulative person will win. The person
that backs down will lose. This Win/Lose dynamic destroys potential for trust, teamwork and
connection, and seriously undermines relationships in all walks of life.
The golden key to creating healthy interdependence is: understand yourself without the need
for others to understand you, and then seek to understand them.
Lets start with the first step...
It is logical in an energy based reality to embrace the concept of like attracts like. And this
like is an inner state, because this is where our energy emanates from.
If you trust and know yourself:
Other people are going to be more open to trusting and knowing you
you'll not be hankered by the need to be understood every time you have a conversation
with someone.
you'll be safe and secure enough to listen and be open to someone elses beliefs, feelings
and model of life knowing full well that you have the power to remain safely in your centre.
You know their communication is about them and you dont have to take it on personally
and make it about you.
By leading the way, you can allow the other individual to feel open and trusted. you'll hear the
heart of their concerns rather than defensive and projecting logical arguments, by being
genuinely interested in their feelings and perceptions with empathy. You dont have to agree with
them, you simply need to honour that they are also a human beings with real feelings and
emotions and are entitled to their view of life.
I say to my son, I dont have to believe in everything you do. But this doesnt mean that I dont
always believe in you. By saying this he feels supported, understood and trusted, and in turn he
trusts me and shares life issues and feelings openly with me. I am blessed to experience our
connection as a team.
An interesting and powerful miracle occurs when you genuinely and openly listen and
emotionally validate another individuals concerns and what is on their mind. In almost every
case they will then allow you to do the same. Then as if there is a force all of its own, a higher
solution appears. This solution is more than a compromise - it is a greater reality than either one
of you could have created if you were defending your own frame of reference and trying to
disagree with the other. And a spectacular Win/Win occurs for both parties. Trust, communion,
love, respect and teamwork are created.
On of the most powerful statements you can make to another person who is challenging you in
your personal life or in business is:
I truly want to understand what your concerns are and know what the problems are from your
point of view. I am here to genuinely listen.
Then to do this with no other reason than to genuinely understand and connect. This is not a tool
to use to manipulate others to get your own way. If you are stuck in a Win/Lose framework you'll
keep creating people in your life who leave and dont want to play anymore no matter how
much you try to conceal the true motives.
Please note it takes courage and a high level of emotional maturity and calm healthy boundaries
to really take this journey. Make it a goal and apply the awareness and processes to your life and
you'll notice spectacular differences.
We all require the energetic support of life and others to really, really, really shine and others in
the world require our love and support to really, really, really shine. This communion and
teamwork is the way to create a life of spectacular love and inspiration. This is the truth and the
necessary shift of our new world. We all have the power to assist this shift. Please do it with all
your heart!!
DULE V