Environment is the most important place to developed our personality.

It
has influences of both, positive and negative to our personality. Positive and
condusive environment may influence a persons personality into a positive one.
Same principle applies to negative and deteroriating environment. Sometimes,
people do not realize that their personality changes caused by their problems
which can not be solved, depression or stress caues by pressure.

Among many environmental factors that influences our personality, family

is an important one. In addition, family plays a great role in infulencing
personality especially to children whose still in developing stage. A childs family
environment will significantly affects his/her personality in the future. Like an
idiom like parent, like child childrens will conciously and subconciously mirror,
act and copy what their parent do. Hence, childrens who grows up in harmonious
family environment, with good parents present, will become adults with good
personality. There are many positive results from this scenario such as good
character, ability to solved ones problems and many other good traits that the
children taught, copied or observed from their good parents. On the other hand,
there is another side of this environment which is called an unconducive family
environment. There are many factors that causes or presents in unconducive
family environment, one of them is divorced parents. This factor would affect
their childrens personality in the future. The effect would make childrens
suffered, especially for their mental aspect. Depression would be uncommon for
them and many of the childrens with these situations choose to keep their
problems on their own.
In daily life, children usually interact with others using communication,
mostly using verbal means to share their mind and feelings. There are many
ways, styles and characteristics of delivering information from one children to
another. This means of delivering communication should be handled carefully as
it might arise discomfort to other children. Such example would be when a child
speaks straight forward about something which may harmed his/her friends
feeling. Although the friend could have forgiven the child, the feelings of
discomfort might be hard to be forgotten.
The feelings of hurt or discomfort that mentioned above can drive the
person to a negative or positive attitude. It depends on how she/he manages
her/his emotion and norms that she/he believes. After they experienced
discomfort feelings, an anxiety feeling is created and might produce worries,
fear, painful or other uncomfortable feelings. She/he will try to find a way to alter
her/his anxiety in order to alleviate the discomfort symptoms or to get better
feelings. One of the ways is by creating a new world that she/he thinks safer and
more comfortable than the real world. In psychoanalysis, this behavior is called
ego defense mechanisms.