SexualTechniquesandBehavior

SolitarySexualBehaviors
I.Masturbationstimulationofone'sowngenitalsforsexualpleasure;WoodyAlleninAnnieHall
sexwiththepersonyoulovethemost
A.Negativeattitudes:AMatterofHistoryancientHebrewsbelievedtheywerepartnersof
GodinreplenishingtheEarth
1.Also,theyneededmaleoffspringtomaintainpatriarchalsystem&tosupplyneededlabor
2.Thus,lawswereenactedtodiscouragenonprocreativesexualbehavior
3.BestrepresentedbystoryofOnaninGenesis(onanism)

B.Ourattitudestowardmasturbationarecoloredbytheseancientproscriptions
1.Freudbelievedmasturbationisnormalchildhoodpractice,butfearedthatifitiscarried
intoadulthood,itwouldinterferewiththeformationofhealthysexualrelationships

C.Thedangernophysiologicalharmisassociatedwithmasturbation;doesnotcause
insanity,sterility,sexualdysfunction,hairypalmsoranyotherphysicalaffliction
1.Noevidencethatitleadstoaninabilitytoestablishmeaningfulsexualrelationships

D.Prevalencemajorityofstudieshaveshownthat~90%ofadultmales&abit>60%ofadult
femalesreporthavingmasturbated;thesefiguresremainconsistent&steadyovertime
E.Techniques
1.Males
2.Females
F.Masturbationisapleasurable,common&variedbehavior

II.Fantasythoughts&images,daydreams&scenarios(sexualfantasies)
A.Prevalencequitecommonplace;only7%ofmiddleclasswomenhadneverexperienced
sexualdaydreams/fantasies
1.Kinsey84%ofmen&67%ofwomenhadsexualfantasies
2.CollegestudentstudybySue(1979)60%ofmen&womenfantasizedduringsex

B.Contentofsexualfantasiessimilar&dissimilarwhengenderisvariable
1.Whenmales&femalesarebythemselves,theyfantasizeaboutsexwiththeirusual
partners;whenwiththeirusualpartner,theyfantasizeaboutsexwithsomeoneelse(movie
star,model)
2.Otherprevalentfantasies:

3.Sexualfantasiesmayinclude:
4.1995reviewof>200otherstudieswomen'sfantasiestendedtoincludesexwithnew
malepartnerorcelebrity,seductionofyoungerman/boy;sexwitholderman
C.Functionsofsexualfantasiessourceofpleasure&enhancesexualarousal
1.Allowpeopletotest&rehearsevarioussexualactivitiesiftheyareconcernedabout
beingjudgedbytheirpartnersactivityistestedinnonthreateningsetting
2.Allowspeopletoacknowledgesexualfeelingswithoutactingonthem
3.Maybehelpfulinovercomingsexualanxietymanysextherapistsencouragefantasies
incounselingclientswithsexualdysfunctions
4.Fantasiesallowustobebetterthanwereallyare
5.Safewayofengaginginsexualactivitiesinwhichwemayneverwanttoparticipate,e.g.,
forcedsex

6.Meansoffulfillingoureverydesirewhilenothurtingourselvesorthoseweloveprivate
&safewayofdoinganythingwewant;waytoactoutwildestdreamswithoutacting
improperly
D.SomearguethattheyareunhealthyApfelbaumsaysthatfantasizingduringsexwithone's
partnercandecreasethedegreeoftrust&intimacyinarelationship
1.Predominantviewisthatsexualfantasizingcanenhancesexualrelationshipsaslongasit
isnotobsessive&aslongasthereisnocompulsiontoactitout
2.Somemaybeactedoutwiththeconsentofthepartner,butifonefeelsuncomfortable,
problemsmayarise

SexualBehaviorWithOthers
I.Foreplayphysicalcontactthatusuallyprecedescoitusororalgenitalsexualactivity;includes
touching,kissing,biting,&genitalfondling
A.Thewordforeplayisreallyamisnomer,sincethisbehaviorcanbeenjoyedforitself&need
notbeapreludetoanything
1.Allsuchactivityismeanttoexpresslove,sensuousness,desireoralloftheabove
B.Itsimportancetosexualenjoymentiswidelyacknowledged

C.Sincewomenneedmoretimetobevaginallylubricatedsufficientlyforintercoursethanmen
dotoachieveerection&beready..
II.Sexualstimulationinforeplay,intercourseoranyotheractivityinvolvesimagination&allof
thesenses:touch,sight,smell,hearing&taste
TheImportanceoftheSenses
I.Touchsexualtouchingiscentraltosexualstimulation
A.Skinisnotasexualorgan,butstrokingitonanypartofthebodycancontributeto&initiate
sexualarousal;eachmanner&intensityofbodycontactcarriesitsownkindofstimulation
1.Gentletouchingwithfingers

2.Caressing(gentlestrokingorrubbing)
3.Firmertouches
4.Hugs,squeezes,embracesareallexpressionsofcaring
5.Fullbodymassage
B.Notnecessarilyfocusedongenitals,butonceoneisprimed,touchingincertainareasis
intenselystimulating
1.Breast(especiallythenipple),innerthighs,clitoris,penis,theneck,theears&thenavel
2.Touchingofsomesensitivegenitalareas(vulva,glans)

C.Touchingonallpartsofthebodycanbeofateasingnature
D.Touchingforsexualselfstimulation
1.Peopleoftenlearnwhichbodyareas&whichtypesoftouchingaremoststimulating
throughmasturbation

E.Goodcommunicationisessentialforguidingpartnersintouchingeachothereffectively
II.Sightuseofsexualimageryforsexualstimulation;sometimesuseimageryinbooks,
magazines,films&photographstobecomearousedtogether;clothing
A.Clothingcanhelp;dressingsexycanenhanceexperience&excitement
B.Someexcitedbysightofhair,eyes,legsorotherbodyparts
III.Smellexplainspopularityofperfumes&colognes;theycanarousesexualinterest;animal
studiesidentifysmellasmoreimportantinmanyspeciesthansightorsoundinattractingmate
A.Pheromonessubstancessecretedbysomefemaleanimalstoattractmalesexpartners;
recentlyverifiedinhumansalthoughtheywerelongsuspected
1.Inhumans,donotserveassexattractantsbutratheraltertimingofwomen'smenstrual
cycle
2.MonellChemicalSciencesCtr.(Univ.OfPA)womenwhohavecoitusweeklyaremore
likelytohavenormalmenstrualcycles,fewerinfertilityproblems&mildermenopauses

3.Womenalsoproducepheromonethataffectsotherwomen'smenstrualcycles

4.Thewaythathumanpheromonesworkisnotfullyunderstood

5.Practicalapplicationsofthisknowledge
B.Unpleasantsmells(badbreath)caninterferewithsexarousal;attentiontonormalhygiene
important
IV.Hearingwords&soundsbefore&duringcoituscanbesexuallystimulating;musiccan
contributetoeroticatmosphere
A.Sexualtalkcantakemanyforms
1.Somepeoplearearousedby"dirtywords"
2.Somepeoplefindmoaningduringsexexciting
3.Somesaysayingorhearing"Iloveyou"duringoraftersexcanbeexciting&romantic
B.Communicationiskey
V.Tasteuseofmouthcanbesexuallyarousing;kissingcanbeintenselystimulatingwhatever
variationisused
OralGenitalSexualBehavior
I.Contactbetweenmouth,lips&tongueofonepartner&genitalsofanother;somefindit
arousing;othersareindifferenttoitorfinditrepulsive
A.Types
1.Cunnilingus(Latinonewholicksthevulva)
2.Fellatio(Latinfellare,meaningtosuck)
B.Generallyarguedthatitisquitecommon
1.Hunt(1974)
2.Michaeletal(1994)
II.Manyforeplaytechniquesareapplicabletooralgenitalsexualactivityteasingapproachgentle
inform&variedinforminvolvingmouth,lips&tongueisstimulating

A.Somewomenlikelicking/suckingofclitoris&labiaminoraorthrustingoftongueinto
vagina
B.Menareoftenarousedwhenpartnerlickstheundersideofthepenileshaft&glansorwhen
partnerlicksorlightlyholdstesticleinmouth
C.Testicles&clitorisareverysensitive&shouldbetreatedgently
D.Partnersneedtodiscusswhetherejaculationshouldoccurinmouthduringfellatio
III.Simultaneousoralstimulationbycouplesisreferredtoas69(theirbodiesinpositionresemble
thenumbers6&9);performedsidebysideorwithonepartnerontopoftheother
A.Positiondependsonwhichtheyfindmorecomfortable&stimulating

AnalStimulation
I.Somepeopleenjoybecomingsexuallyarousedanallyduetonumerousnerveendingsinthatarea
A.Partnerscanstimulateeachotherbyinsertingafingerintheanus,strokingtheanalopening
orlickingthearea
1.Lickingtheanus(analingusorrimming)
2.Intestinalinfections(Escherichiacoli),hepatitis&STIscanspreadbyanalingus
B.MinutetearsthatoccurinanusduringanalintercourseprovideeasyentryintobodyforSTI
organisms;especiallylikelyifcondomisnotused
II.Penilepenetrationofanusispossibleforbothheterosexual&homosexualcouples
A.Dildos(fakepenises)canalsobeusedforanalinsertion
B.Topreventinfection,penisshouldbethoroughlycleansedimmediatelyafteranalinsertion
SexualIntercourse
I.Mostauthoritiesrecognizefourbasicpositionswithinfinitevariations
A.Inadditiontodesireforvariety,othersituations(pregnancy,obesity,poorhealth)maydictate
certainmodifications

B.Varietyofsexualpositionslimitedonlybyimagination
C.Bondbetweenpartnersisjustasimportantastechnique;lovingrelationshipcanaddmuch
D.Whethersuchbehaviorismoralorlegalisanothermatter,whichdependsonyourethics&
society'sethics
II.Manontopsometimescalledmissionarypositionormalesuperiorposition
A.Allowsfullfrontalbodycontact,whichisusuallypleasurable
B.Becausecoupleislyingdown,handsarefreetoroam;becausecoupleisfacingeachother,
partnerscankiss,talk&watcheachother'sexpressions
III.Womanontopfemalesuperiorposition
A.Womancanbeproneoronherkneespermitsmoreclitoralstimulationbyeitherpartner
thanmanontopposition

B.Womanfreetomovewithoutbeingpinnedunderpartner
C.Goodpositionformentryingtocontrolorgasms;squeezetechniqueiseasytousebecause
penisisrelativelyaccessible
D.Disadvantage

IV.Sidebysideneitherpersonbearstheweightoftheother;relaxingbecausepelvicthrustsdo
notmeetasmuchresistanceaswithwomanormanontop
A.Sincearms&legsmaybepinnedunderotherarms&legs,bloodcirculationcanbe
temporarilycutoff;makesperiodicswitchingoradjustmentnecessaryforcomfort
B.Alsoallowsforkissing&facewatching&alsofreeshandsforstroking&caressing

V.Rearentryperformedin2ways;withbothpeoplelyingdown(sidebysideorwithwomanon
top)orwithpartnerskneeling(dogposition)
A.Male'shandsfreetofondlepartner'sbreasts&stimulateclitoris
B.Disadvantages

SexualBehaviorinHomosexuals
I.Homosexualsenjoymostofthesameactivitiesasheterosexuals
A.Intimacy&closenessseemtobemoreimportantthanwhatisspecificallydonebythepartners
1.Incontrasttomyths,bothmale&femalehomosexualsappeartotaketheirtime&make
sexualactivitylastlonger

2.Contrarytopopularbelief,malehomosexualsdonotgenerallyhaveapreferencetoreceive
orinsertthepenis
B.FindingsofMasters&Johnson(1997)intheirstudyofhomosexualityhavereportedanumber
offindingsaboutspecificsexualbehaviorsofhomosexualmen&women

II.Fromdevelopmentalstandpoint,itiscommonformale&femalehomosexuals/bisexualstohave
historyofsexactivitywiththesame&oppositegenders&tostartsexualactivityduringearly
teens
A.Nosignificantgenderdifferencesarefoundinlifetimeprevalenceratesoragesofinitiating
homosexualpractices,butfemalestendtobecomesexuallyactiveatanolderagethanmales
B.Sexualpracticesfollowaninitiationsequencebeginningwithmanualsexualactivityduring
theirearlyteens&leadingtofurthersexualactivitiesduringthemiddle&lateteens
III.Lesbiansexualactivitiesoralsexualactivitiesarecommon,asaremanualstimulation&
tribadism(rubbingofgenitalsagainstsomeone'sbodyorgenitalarea)
A.Touching,caressing&hugging,theemotionalcomponentsoflovemaking
B.Vaginalpenetrationwithdildosisrare;lesbianstendtodomoreoverallgenitalstimulation,
ratherthandirectclitoralstimulation,asisoftenthecaseinheterosexualrelationships
IV.Gaysexualactivitieshomosexualmenengageinforeplayactivitiessimilartothoseof
heterosexuals(hugging,kissing,nipplestimulation,petting)

A.Intercourseisactuallytheleastfrequentmalehomosexualactivity
B.LabstudiesbyMasters&Johnson(1979)showedthatgaymenwerelikelytopaymore
attentiontotheareaofthepenisonthelowersidethanheterosexualcouples