Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Kane (2012) categorized the parents that she had interviewed for the book
into five categories that had different characteristics and beliefs. The first
two she introduced were the Naturalizers and the Cultivators. Generally, the
Naturalizers steer their children towards gender normative behavior. They
The third category of parents was known as the Refiners. These parents were
less keen on gender typing, and they try to broaden opportunities for their
children by allowing for activities that gender boundaries would usually limit.
This could be seen in the example of one of the parents in the Refiner
category, Lisa. In addition to buying gender typical toys such as toy trucks
for her boys, she encourages them to learn nurturing skills by also buying
dolls for them. She also allows her two boys to play with her makeup, and
she also told them that it is typically for girls but she is fine with it. As seen in
that example, refiners try to avoid doing gender for their children, striving
for gender neutrality. They adopt the mindset of following the lead as their
The fourth group of parents is the Innovators. This group of parents strongly
believed that they could nurture their children with gender non-conformity.
Anthony, one of the parents in the Innovators who has two sons and a
daughter, promotes gender neutrality by introducing toys such as play
kitchens and work benches to all his kids. He also allows for gender typical
behavior, but is careful to not assume gender typical activities for them. In
Anthonys case, he also ensures that his children do not fall under social
influences in gender categorization Anthony corrected his young son when
he recognized Barbie dolls as girl toys. Miriam is another parent categorized
under Innovators. She displayed gender resistance with little care for
In conclusion, the gender trap is one that is inevitable despite the changes
that the different groups of parents try to create. They need to understand
that gender is socially constructed, and that biology only accounts for
minimal difference. Also, it is important for them to understand that the
binary system of gender is built up on the individual, interactional and
institutional level. This means that to create changes, all levels must be
challenged and it is beyond the control of just one agent of change in society.
Pascoe (2012) carried out her research stint in a working-class suburban high
school in north central California, under the pseudonym of River High School.
It was there that she observed that white high school boys used the term
fag very loosely and frequently. The word fag was traditionally used to
describe a homosexual or gay male. However, by todays terms, fag
encompasses descriptions of guys that did not display masculinity. The
failure to display masculinity is a fear shared by many high school boys and
hence, they regulate their own behavior to ensure that they do not fall into
fag behavior. The deliberate and conscious act of doing so became what is
known as the fag discourse. This arose because boys were afraid of being
labeled as a fag to avoid it they directed the term to other boys by pointing
out any behavior that may be seen as less masculine. This led to the term
being regarded as a hot potato. The insult was thrown around these boys
and this caused the boys to constantly police each others behavior. The
definition of fag therefore included many behaviors: being incompetent,
revealing too much emotion, or even being conscious of clothing were some
The term fag did not have the same effect for African Americans. The term
fag was largely used by white guys, but the characteristics in which they
had defined for that term did not have the same meaning for African
American boys. African American men have a different set of expectations of
masculinity, due to their hypersexualization in America. The two main
aspects that would have been seen as unmasculine in white guys but not in
African Americans is in the increased focus given to clothes and dancing. A
well-dressed African American who was good at hip-hop was thus highly
regarded. On the other hand, white boys were conscious as to avoid being
conscious of their appearance, and dancing was seen as extremely feminine.
The fag discourse, however, denoted a harsher tone when used by African
American boys. Pascoe observed this in an occurrence whereby Kevin, an
African American boy, used the term faggot in a confrontation. Kevin was
then faced with punishment from the school authorities. Pascoe concluded
from this observation that teachers were more intentional in their
punishment when dealing with African Americans.