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SpeedSeductionAlgorithm

0.Preparation:Lookandfeelyourbest
SpeedSeducer'sStateofMind

1. Approachingandmakingtheminterested
SayHelloGiveaComplimentAskforinformation
Commentaboutthesituationyouarebothin(ormusic,painting,whether)
Requestorofferassistanceindoingsomething
Introduceyourself
DisclosesomethingaboutyourselfExpressyourfeelsaboutsituation
Tellajoke:Getherlaughing
Getheralone

2.Calibratethegirl
Askopenendedquestions:Howdoyoulike?
BodyPostureBodymovementsGesturesEyeMovementsTranceWordsLanguagePatterns
L/RhandMeta(nonverbalbody)message
mainrepresentationsysteminternalsubmodalstrategiesPersonalTimeLine
LieDetectorNonverbalYesNoresponse.

3.Pace(Rapport)
Peoplelikepeoplelikethemselfmakeherfeelcompletelyunderstoodbyyou
Findandtalkabouttopicwhichbothofyoulikeverymuch=>automaticrapport
BodyPositionVerbalPaceverballypacetheongoingsituation
PAYATTENTIONTOHOWSHERESPONDSTOYOU!!!

4.Lead(usePatterns)
EmbeddedCommands=WeaselPhrases+CommandVerbs+DescriptionofState
focusherattentiononyourwords
Getherfeelingsecure,relax,trust
EmotionalConnection
Getherimaginationgoinghorny

5.StateAcceleratorsandPatterns
Quotes
AnotherPersonExperience
Zipanchors
Synethstesia
Submodalityshifts
Commandssuchas,"Feelitbuilding...focusinonthosefeelings....surrendercompletely...."
Sexualmetaphor.."Createanopeningforit.....feelitpenetrate.....comeoverandoveragaintothesame
conclusion..."
Ageregression
Visualizations
Storytellingandmetaphors
Linguisticdoublebinds,useofsuggestion(ThreeLevelStacking)
Disorientation/confusion
Sensorydeprivationand/orsensoryoverload

6.Anchoringandlinkintoyourself
Pouronthekino(physicalcontact)
VerbalAnchring
Bindercommands:
"DOTHAT...NOW"
"DOTHAT..WITHME...NOW"
"WITHME...DOTHAT...NOW"

7.Close
FindoutherNameandContactinformation(phone,email)
Askforlunch,coffee,ordate
Askforgoout

KissClose
Kissandfuckher(doyourbest)
ENDcloseorejectbasedontheindicators.Closingwillstallwhenyoudon'trealisethatyouwillsucceedwiththeclose
ifyouhavewitnessed3positiveindicators.Decideoneitherthe*closeorthe#close.Ifpressedfortime,just#close...but
trytokisshergoodbyeontheLIPSifyouhavealittletime,alwaysKISSCLOSE.

8.SelfDefence:AcceptNowithsmile
Neverresistherwordsdirectly.Refremingofsituation.SleightofMouthPatterns.
NegotionPattern:"Your'reright.Ishouldn't..."
StopPattern:"Stop..andstartthinkthingsdifferently..."
"Letmeaskyousomething.IfIhadamagicwand,andIcouldwaveitandmakeanythingwewantedtodisappear,what
wouldhavetodisappearinorderforyoutofeelcomfortablegoingoutwithme?".

9.tobreakup
Hey,itisn'tthereanymore,forme!ButIstillcaredeeplyforyou...ASAFRIEND!"

0.BEGINNINGpreparation...clothing,props,initiateanentertainingandinteractiveconversation(thatiswhatan
OPENERisallabout).
Lookandfeelyourbest,allthetime
Beplayful.Beconfident.Beincharge
Makeyourselfmoreattractive.Workoutregularly.Wearbetterclothes.
confidence+humour+smile
wellgroomed/goodlooks
abilitytocreateanemotionalconnection/afeelingofromance
beingsensitivetohowshefeels/respondsandmodifyingyourapproachaccordingly
donotspendmorethan10minuteswithanyonegirlifyouhavenotbeengivenanysignaltokeepgoing

SeducersstateofMind:
1. Affirmations:UnstoppableConfidence
2. Goodtonality:BreathingExercises
3. Trigger:Specialplayfulmelodyinmind+Zoomonpartofherbody+WOW!!!+Letshavesomefun!!
4. Focusonyourfinaloutcome.Youarekeepingyourmindonwhereyouwanthertobe,wheresheisnowandwhat
youneedtodotobridgethatgap."Yourmindisfocusedonyourfinaloutcomeyougoforwhatyouwant
congruentlyandpowerfully."

1.Approachingandmakingtheminterested

Speakwithgoodtonality,clearly,anddeeplywheneveryoutalktoawoman.
Makegoodeyecontact.

Whereveryouare,don'twaitformorethenthreesecondstobegin.
Whenapproachingthesechicks,IusedMystery's3secondruleapproachandtriedtopickoutsomethingaboutthemto
commenton.Itcouldbeabook,somethingtheyarewearing,questionsaboutsomethingthattheyMAY(notnecessarily
DO)haveknowledgeon,somethingwehaveincommon,whatever."

Keepenougheyecontact
Usehumourtogetyoustarted
Setthemoodofthedatefromthestart.

YaGottaGet'EmToStop!
VERBALLYPACETHEONGOINGSITUATION
"Look,Iknowthisisatotallynuttywaytomeetsomeone(pacingherongoingbelief)...butIknewifIdidn'tdo
SOMETHINGtostopyou,we'dnevergetachancetotalk(alsocompletelytrue...atruismwithwhichshecannotargue)
andmaybeseehowmuchWECOULDREALLYLIKEEACHOTHER(embeddedsuggestion).
DEMONSTRATINGUNDERSTANDING,YOUINCREASERAPPORT!

Excuseme,Forgivemeforinterruptingyou,Ijustwantedtotellyou.....(pauseasecondortwoforeffect...theywillbegin
towonder"what???..whatdoeshewanttotellme?")Ithinkyou'reabsolutelystunning....andIreallywantedtomeetyou.
(Pauseagain)

"Myname's...."Ithenextendmyhandandshaketheirs!
THEINTRUSIONPRINCIPLEtoGetHerAttentionFocusedOnYou:
Well,whenyoutakeherhandtoshakeit...DON'TLETGOAFTERWARDS!!!.Keepholdingonasyoucontinuetotalk
toher,lookingstraightinhereyes.
ToTakeControlOfHerInternalRepresentations:
Youcouldsaysomethinglike,"Youknow,Icantellyouareawomanwithgreattaste!"Andwhenshesays,"Howdoyou
know?"Respond,"BecauseyoulaughatwhatIsay.Andthemoreyoulaugh,themoreyou'llLOOKFORWARDto
havingthebesttimewhenwegoout!".Whenshelaughsatthis,yousay,"See...justlikethat.
Toaddtothisyousay,"Seriously...haven'tyouevermetsomeone,andyoujustknewyouweregoingtolikethis
person(pointtoyourself),causeyoucouldjustSTOP,andIMAGINEBEINGTOGETHER,feelingtotallycomfortable,
andabsolutelyconnected,foralltherightreasons?".
Asshesighsandsays,"yeah"yousay,"Well,see?So,asyouthinkaboutitlikethat..."thenjustkeepchatting.

Excuseme,Idon'tmeantointerruptyouwhileyouare(whateversheisdoing),butyoulookexactlylike...someoneI
shouldgettoknowbetter"or"...somebodyIwouldliketomeet!"
Mynameis"."

"Excuseme...forgivetheinterruption...butIhadtopayyouacompliment."
ThenIwillpause.Whensheasks,"What?"I'llreply,"Youcarryyourselfwithdisciplineandelegance..it'saveryrareand
attractivecombination.MynameisRoss...."
"Damn...youarebothstrongANDfeminine.Howtotallywonderfulanduniqueandspecialtoo!"

Spotthewomanyouwanttomeet.Walkuptoher,andputapuzzledlookonyourfacethelookyou'duseifyousaw
someoneyoutrulythoughtyourecognizedthembutcouldn'tquiteputyourfingeronit.Thenyousay:"Pardonmemiss.I
knowthisisgoingtosoundalittlefunny,butIknowI'veseenyousomewherebefore,andIjustcan'tfigureoutwhere."
Sofar,soundslikeastandardpickupploy,right?Here'swhereyouadthetwist.Pauseforanothersecondandsay,witha
suddenlookofrealization:"Iknowwhereitwas.Iwasreadingabookonangels,andtheyhadyourpictureinit!"Now,
thisnextpartiscritical.Whenshelaughs,immediatelyfollowupwith,"I'mgladyoulaughed,becauseIthinkyouare
absolutelybreaktaking,(smallpause)andIreallywantedtomeetyou.Mynameis:_______."

(Deliveredrapidfirefast!)Hi!Doyouhaveaboyfriend?Wouldyoulikeabetterone?Answerthesecondquestionfirst!
(Towomanwithgreatlegsinanysituation!)Excuse,butIjustwantedtotellyou,ifGodmadeanythingnicerthanyour
legs,(orsmile!)he'ssavingitforhimself!Mynameis...............!

(Theshy,sincereapproach)Excuseme!I'msorrytointerruptyouherebutIreallywantedtomeetyouandI'mwillingto
makeatotalfoolofmyselftodoit!Mynameis..........!

"Pardonmem'am...forgivemeforinterruptingyouhere.....butyouaresopretty.....I'mwillingtomakeatotalassof
myself,justtogetachancetomeetyou.Myname's."ShelaughedandtoldmehernameandwhenIaskedwhyshe
laughedsheresponded,"Becauseit'ssouncommon.".Steptwo:Saysomethinglike,"Icantellyou'reawomanwithgreat
taste...causeyoulaughatwhatIsay..Now,themoreyoulaughatwhatIsay...themoreyou'llrecognizejusthowattractive
youfindthat...andthemoreyou'lllookforwardtobeingwithsomeonejustlikethat...."Stepthree(Workitintoa
connectionpattern)"Infact...juststandinghere....talkingwithyou...Ihaveanintuition...thatwhenyouconnectwith
someone...someoneyoureallylike...someoneyou'rereallyattractedtowhomakesyoufeelthatclick..rightthere...you
knowthatsenseofjustfeelingtotallydrawn...likeyou'veknownthispersonforever...likeyouweremeanttoknow
them....abigpartofitisthatrecognitionthatyoucanRELAXandlaughwiththisperson..canyoufeelthat..ismaybehow
itworks?)Stepfour:transitionintotalkingabouthowinterestingitishowpeoplebegintheprocessof
connecting..oftentimesthere'sastrongelementoffascinationinvolved...IfindwhenIstarttolistencarefully(blahblah
blah).TogetthemLaughing:
"IwishIwereagirllikeyou...soIcouldhaveaguylikemecomeintomylife!"
"Iknowwhatyouideal,dreamguylookslike.....Iseehisfaceeverymorning,whenIlookinthebathroommirror."
"IfIwereawoman..andIwerehalfasattractiveasyouare..I'dstandinfrontofthemirroralldaylong..untilIworkedup
thecouragetoaskmyselfout!"
"Infact,Idon'tknowifyoucanrecognizethatwitheachlittlegiggle...witheachbreathyoutake...witheachbeatofyour
heart...you'regrowingmoreintrigued,butanyway..justsettingasidewhateverpicturesjustkeeppoppingintoyourmind
whenIsaythat...howareyoudoingtoday?"

SuperLeadInPhrase:

"Ihaveanintuitionaboutyou"or"Iknowsomethingaboutyou"+"IncredibleConnectionPattern"
Ihaveanintutionabouther...thatwhenshefeelsaconnectionwithsomeone...thatspecialclickthatjustlet'sherknow
she'sgoingtoreallylikesomeone...andfeelabsolutelyintrigued...etc.etc.Ijustusetheintroof"Ihaveanintuitionabout
you"asanexcuse/leadinforthestandardincredibleconnectionpatterns.Anchorthisbysqueezingherhandandsaying,

"CanyouFEELTHAT..ismaybehowithappens?".Nexttimeyoucomein,fireofftheanchorandaskherout!

"YouWannaSeeSomethingReallyCoolAboutTheWayThingsWorkInsideYourMine?"
"Isn'titinterestinghowthemindworks?"or"YouknowwhatIfindreallyfascinatingaboutplaceslikethis?"+youthen
goontoslipina"connection"patternoreventalkbytalkingabouttheprocessoffallinginlove.+"TheBlammo".

"CanIaskyouareallyinterestingquestion?"
"CanYouRememberTheLastTimeYou...???"+tostartupeitherthe"fallinginlove"or"peakexperiences"patterns.

"Doyouhaveaquarter?""Why?""MymothertoldmetocallherwhenImetthewomanofmydreams."Thisone
deservesatleastachuckle,perhapsevena"nicetry,but...".Oh,well.

Pardonme,Iseemtohavelostmyphonenumber.CanIborrowyours?

"Youhavesuchbeautifulblueeyes..."
"That'saverynicedress..."
"Whatdoyouthinkoftheweatherlately..."
"Youseemedsolonely,standingtherebyyourself..."
"What'sanicewomanlikeyoudoinginaplacelike..."
"Thesesnackstastealittlestale,don'tyouthink..."
"Doforgiveme.I'mnotgoodatthissortofthing.Pleaseallowmetopresentmyself."
"Iadmirethatperfume,mayIinquireastowhatitis?mysisterhasbeenlookingforauniquefragrance"
Excusememiss,doIknowyou??(NO.)I'msorry,youlooklikemyfriendCinyCrawford.
Doyoubelieveinloveatfirstsite,ordoIhavetowalkbyagain?
IfItoldyouthatyouhadabeautifulsmile,youwouldprobablythinkIwastryingtopickyouup.Wellyoudohavea
beautifulsmile,...andIamtryingtopickyouup!
Iheardyouwerealesbian.Ifnot,PROVEIT!!
Myname's[yourname].That'ssoyouknowwhattoscream.
Thinkofanumberbetween1and10Youlosetakeallyourclothesoff!

Excuseme,hasanyoneevertoldyouyou'reashiningexampleofphysiological/geneticperfection?"
Herresponseofcourse,wastolaughandsay"Thankyou...no,youarethefirst!"
IthenUSEDherlaughterresponsebysaying,"Well,I'mgladyoulaughed.Becausealthoughyoureallyarebreathtaking,
andIwantedtogetaglimpseatthepersonalityinsideofthebeautybeforeIintroducedmyself.Mynameis...".

"Hi.AreyouthesortofpersonIshouldgettoknowbetter?"Ifshesays"Yes",thenask"Why?"

"Excuseme.Wouldyoubesokindtoholdthisupinfrontofyouforamoment?It'smysister'sbirthdaynextweekand
youareaboutthesamesizeasherandfromwhatIcantellyouhavethesameexcellentfashionsense."

"Excuseme(togethertostop)Ijustwantedtosaythankyou."
HercuriositybellsjustwentDING.She'llalmostinevitablyaskwhy,thoughitisokifshedoesn't.Moveintostandard
mirroringandrapportbuildingtechniquesasyoucontinue...

"Haveyoueverhadoneofthosedayswhere,youfindyourselffeelingsortofaloof...you'renotreallyhappy,butnot
reallysadeither...youjustfeellikeyouradrift.Thensuddenlyyoufindyoubumpintosomebodywithanincrediblywarm
andbeautifulsmilethatjustmakesyoufeelwonderfulfortherestoftheday?"

Shewillalmostsurelysmilemoreatthispoint,orgivesomedegreeofpositiveresponse.
"So,Ijusthadtothankyouforbrighteningupmyday...Though,youknowitwouldbeashameifthisisthelasttimeI'll
seethatwonderfulsmile...what'syourname?""

Howwasyourday?
"Iknewyouhadasmilethatcouldlightuptheroom."

"Whatdoyoudo?""I'mahumanbeing."
I'manavatar.""I'mthereincarnationofAlbertusMagnus."I'mTheOneAndOnly."

2.Calibratethegirl

therearebasically4doorwaysintoawoman'smind:
1.Gettinghertovisualize
2.Bodysensations

3.Emotionalconnections
4.Askingquestionsthatrequirehertoaccessdeeplevelsofthemindtoanswer

mirrorherphysicallynoticehertrancewords,rememberandusethemrephraseeverythingshesaysandfeeditbackto
heranchorallgoodfeelingsdon'targuewithher,beveryunderstanding,deeplyunderstandingthiscanhelpcreatean
immenserapportusepresuppositionstodirectheractionshaveandkeepgoodeyecontactalsohelpstocreatean
immenserapporttouchher
andalwaysstartwiththecutestgirlaround:)

Me:Doyoulikelivingherein[whatevertheplaceiscalled]?
Her:Ya,Iguess.
Me:**Playfully**Whatdoyouliketodoforfun?Doyouhavealotofguyschasingyou?
Her:No,notreally...I'mkindofpicky.
Me:Really?Imean,Idon'tmeantosoundstrangeoranything...butwhatqualitiesdoyoulookforinaguy?
***Thisiswhereyoushutupandlisten***

TheUltimateFulfillmentInARelationshipPattern:
You:
What'simportanttoyouinarelationship?
Her:
Oh,Idon'tknow..Iguessmutualadmiration.
You:
Gee..thatisanimportantone.Howdoyouknowwhenyouhavemutualadmiration.
Her:
Well...I guess when I see thingsinhimIreallyadmire,thatmakemelookuptohim. Andhe expresses
tomethattherearethingsaboutmehereallyadmires.
You:
Iagree...that'sapowerfulone.Well,whatelseimportanttoyouinarelationship?
Her:
Oh... a sense of humor. (Note here she's gone off track by naming a quality she wants in the man.
Here'showyousteerherbacktovaluesintherelationshipwhenthisoccurs:)
You:
Well, I know that'san important quality for a person to have, butwhatdoesaperson'shavingasense
ofhumorallowyoutoexperiencethatyouwouldn'totherwiseexperience?
Note:Thiscanbedoneafteryou'vedroppedthetopic...fromanhourlatertoweekslater.Saysomethinglike:
You:
You know...I've been thinking that maybe we've really got the start of something here. And I think
maybe it's something based on really enjoying each other's company, mutual admiration, and trust.
(You'll see her go into aprofoundpleasurestate...asthisispeakingreach overandtouchherandas you
dosoyousay:)CanyouFEELTHATwouldbeareallywonderfulthingtoexperience?

Askquestionsthatgethertogoinside&comebackwithvaluesandcriteria.
Questionsthattouchonheridentityasaperson.
Whatshewants?
Whatshelikes?
Whatshethinkssheneeds?
Whatshethinksshedeserves?
Whatshehadinthepastthatshewantstorepeat?
Whatshehadinthepastthatshewantstoavoid?
Whatscaresher?
Whatmakesherhappy?
Whatmakesherfeelsexy?

"Whatarethechallengesinherlineofwork/whataretheeasyparts/whatshelikes/whatshedoesn'tlikeabouther
job?"
"Whatisthemostunusualthingyou'vedonewhenplaying"truthordare"?"Hopefullyshecomesupwithsomesexual
stuff:)
"WhatdoyouthinkIamlike?"You'llgetusefulfeedbackonhowyou'redoingandhowsheperceivesyou:)
"Yourfirstchildhoodmemory?"Ifitspositive,anchorit,andevenifitsjustneutral,nevermindthat,inhermindshesees
herselfasopeninguptoyouwhentellingyouaboutsuchstuff:)
"Yourmostpleasant/sweetestmemoryfromschool?"Hopefullyhassomethingtodowithaguy,anchorit:)Ifnot,be
morespecific.
"Yourfirstdayatschool?"Sameaswith"firstchildhoodmemory",butdon'tuseitbeforethe"sweetestmemoryfrom
school"itwouldmakeittooeasyforhertoanswer"well,myfirstdayatschoolwasit"andavoidanypossibleromantic
memories:)
"Inwhatperiodofyourlifewhereyoumostpopular?"Haveherrememberthe"goodtimes":)
"Doyourememberthefirsttimeyoufellseriously,completelyandhelplesslyinlove:)Howdidithappen?"
"Thehappiestmomentofyourlife?"
"Whatrolewouldyouliketoplayinsomemovie?"
"Achievingwhatgoalsinyourlifehavebroughtyouthemostjoy?"
"Howwelldoyouknowyourself?"

1)makingherfeelcompletelyunderstoodbyyou
2)andcompletelyunderstandingherwhichiswhatyouneedinordertoknowhowtomakeherfeelthewayshewantsto
feelwiththatspecialmanofhers:)

"YouknowDebbie,mostofthetimewetalkaboutsurfacestuff,likewhatwedidlastnightattheparty,orwherewewant
togonextweekend,thingslikethat.It'soktotalkaboutthatstuff,andIenjoyit.IfindthatIgetalotmoreoutoftalking
aboutwhoweareaspeopleonadeeplevel,what'simportanttous,whatwebelievein,howwefeel,andwhy.SoIwas
wonderingwhat'simportanttoyouinarelationship(orthisclass,orafriend,or)?"Thenlistentowhatshetellsyou
Sticktowhatemotionsshe'sexperiencing&whyandyou'llneverrunoutofthingstotalkabout."

"Ithinkitsanabsolutelyfantasticfeelingtogettoknowanotherhumanbeing.Andwhat'sreallystimulating,istolearn
whatsomeoneelsethinksofmajorissuesrevolvingaroundusinthisworldanddiscoveringwhat'simportantforherin
life.SoifIweretoaskyou,whatdoyoureallyvalueandwhat'simportanttoyouinarelationship,whatwouldyou
answer?"Ifshereplieswithendsvalues(feelingloved,understood)bingo!Betheonetomakeherfeelthat(by
incorporatingthatintotalkaboutyourselformakingupapatternaboutthat).Ifshereplieswithmeansvalues(themeans
ofachievingendsvalueslikeastrong,braveman...tomakeherfeelwhat?youneedtofindout!),dosomeadditional
asking:"Andwhatdoesitfeelliketohavearelationshipwithsuchaguy?".
Findout,byasking,whatshelookslikewhensheagree'swithsomething.Findout,byasking,whatshelookslikewhen
shedisagreeswithsomething.Findout,byasking,whatshelookslikewhenshe'snuetralaboutsomething.

Youcouldofcoursego"Well,Iknowyouhadaverybeautifulnamebutwhatwasitexactly?"

"IfIweretoaskyou,what'sthemostimportantthinginarelationship,howwouldyoudescribeittome?"

M:So,whatisimportanttoyouinarelationship?
H:WellIliketallguys.(MeansValue)
M:*nod*Andwhatfeelingdoesthatallowyoutoexperiencewhenyouarewithatallguy?
H:Wellitmakesmefeelsafeandprotected(EndsValueakaDesiredState)

Findoutwhatsheneeds

Asimplevalueelicitingscheme(fromanunknownsource):
You:What'simportanttoyouinarelationship?Arelationship,notqualitiesinaperson...
Her:Well...x1
You:Yeah...that'sreallyimportanttometoo.Howdoyouknowwhenyouhavex1?
Her:xxx(talkingaboutx1).
You:Iagree...that'sapowerfulone.Well,whatelseisimportanttoyouinarelationship?
Her:x2
You:Yeah...xxx(talkingaboutx2).
Her:xxx(talkingaboutx2).
You:Wow...thatwouldbegreattobewithsomeonelikethat.Well,whatelseis=importanttoyouinarelationship?
Her:x3
You:Yeah...xxx(talkingaboutx3).
Her:xxx(talkingaboutx3).

Step2
You:Ofthosethreevaluesx1,x2,x3whichisthemostimportant?Whichwouldyouabsolutelyhavetohave?
Her:Well...xn(nbeingeither1,2or3)
You:Well...Icouldseethat.Oftheothertwo,whichismostimportant?
Her:xn(nbeingeither1,2or3)

Step3
Aboutanhour+later:
You:Youknow...I'vebeenthinkingthatmaybewe'vereallygotthestartofsomethingbeautifulhere.AndIthinkit's
somethingbasedon(x1,x2,andx3inorderofherpreferencesheprovidedinstep2).
Shewillgointoapleasurestate,atthepeaktouchherandsay:
You:CanyouFEELTHATwouldbeareallywonderfulthingtoexperience?

LieDetector
Tryitoutwithaseriesofyes,yes,yesquestionsandwatchcarefully.TheeyesDOaccesssomewhere.Then
tryaseriesofNo,no,noquestionsandwatchcarefully.Yourquestionscan'tbethekindthatcanbeanswered"offthetop
oftheheadwithoutthinking",sotheyhavetobesurprisingquestionsthatthesubjectmustretrievesomethingtoanswer.
Andtheeyesarenottheonlythingthatrespondsasbiofeedbackwilltellyouifyougointothatstuff(whichcanbe
absolutelymarvelousasthebodyrespondsBEFOREtheclientcanframeaverbalanswer!).Theseriesofinnocentyes,

yes,yesandno,no,noquestionsitthebasisforallmentalismand"coldreadings"donebyfortunetellersandothercons.
Whenyouhavecalibratedtheirbodylanguagetheydon'tevenhavetoansweryourquestionsoutloud,you'vealready
gottenyouranswer.

Topassliedetector:
NLPstrategytoaccomplishthismightbedesignedthus:CreateafullVAKOGexperienceinternally&associatefullyto
it.Dothiswellenough&maybewhenquestionedaboutityourresponsemaybeasifitisreal.

3.Pace(Rapport)

Usestemslike"Ihaveanincredibleconnectionwhen..","Ifeelexcitedwhen..","Iamcomfortablewhen..","Ifeelgood
about.."andthennotethetrancewords.
Sothatifitweretobe"Ifeelabsolutelyturnedonwhen..""...Iamsafe,warm,andcomfortable",youmightjustsay
"Stop,goinsideandthinkbacktowhenyoufirstfeltsafe,warm,andcomfortable..."

"Excuseme,Idon'tmeantointerruptyou[drinkingcoffee/readingthenewspaper/waitingforthecommuter/yourtrain
ofthought],butIjustwantedtotellyouthatIfindyouveryattractiveandwantedtomeetyou.MynameisRick,what's
yours?"[Herecomesthepacing]"Youknow,youneverknowwhensomethingwonderfulisabouttohappen,likeyou
couldfindyourself[inthecafe/inthewaitinghall/sittingonthebench/whereever]justthinkingabout[eatinganother
donut/whattimethecommuterarrives/whatevershe'sdoingorexpectingtohappen],andthenextthingyouknowan
attractivestrangeristalkingtoyou,andasyoulistentohimyoumaynoticethateventhough[you'veneverseenhim
before/you'veseenhimbeforeatthisbusstop/you'vemethimbeforehereinthislibrary],somehowtoday,becauseheis
talkingtoyou,youmayseehiminanewanddifferentway.Canyouimaginethat?"

PAYATTENTIONTOHOWSHERESPONDSTOYOU!!!

Flufftalk"whereyagoin?","whatchadoin?","whatdidyoudotoday/yesterday?"

DEMONSTRATINGUNDERSTANDING,YOUINCREASERAPPORT!Talkingtoher=echoingher
Inorderforhertofeelunderstood,youneedtolistentowhatshesays,rephraseitandfeeditbacktoher(ithelpsifyou
agreewithwhateverstatementshemade:).
"Iknowwhatyoumean..."
1)makingherfeelcompletelyunderstoodbyyou
2)andcompletelyunderstandingherwhichiswhatyouneedinordertoknowhowtomakeherfeelthewayshewantsto
feelwiththatspecialmanofhers:)

Her:Whydoyouask?
You:WellaswearesittingheretalkingovercoffeeIthoughtitwouldbenicetogettoknowyouasapersonI
rememberonegirl(doesn'tmatterifyoudoornot:)Iwasincollegeitwasliketherewasanalmostmagicalbond
connectinguswewouldevenfinisheachotherssentences.IwonderdidyoueverfeelthatwayWithmeitisso
wonderfultohavethatsortofconnectiondon'tyouthink?

Doallthis[askingquestions,elicitingvalues]BEFOREtellingheraboutyourself.ThenselectivelyeditorFABRICATE
yourexistencetoalwaysfitthethingsthatshetoldyouHERSELFarepositivethingsandAVOIDwhatshetoldyou
HERSELFarenegativethings.
FindoutFIRSTwhichoneshewantsandTHENprojectthatimagetoher.
Herfavouritepastimesandhobbiescanalsobeuseful.

WhattheyTELLMEtheywantiseasilydemonstratedtothemthroughstories,andIdon'thavetotellthemANYTHING
directly.Iwouldneversay"Ilovecatsmyselftoo...",IwouldtellthemastoryINWHICHIdemonstratedthatIlikecats.
IletherderivewhoIambytellingherastorybasedonwhatshewantstohearinthefirstplace:)".

4.Lead

RecallthatthebasicpatternforPacingandLeadingis:
Pace,Pace,Pace,Lead
Pace,Pace,Lead
Pace,Lead
Lead,Lead,Lead...

MIDDLEusingentertainingstoriesandroutines,youconveythehumour,confidenceandtheothertypicalattractive
traits,useNEGStomakethemchaseyou,testthem(stopconversationtoseeiftheyreinitiateit)andlookforthe
indicatorstoseeifclosingisworthdoing(likeKINO,positionandbodylanguage,laughter,etc),usually3positive

indicators.

Humor,romance,humor,romance,sextalk,romance,humor,kino,sextalk,humor,sextalk,kino,kino,kino,kino...
instantaneousconnection,timedistortion,bringingoutfeelingsofincrediblepleasureandsatisfaction.

Withwomenwhowantittobetheirownexperience,combining,bodysensations,theirownpersonaltrancewords,
vaguenessandsexualmetaphorisaknockoutcombination!
thesexualmetaphors("openyourself""comedeepinside")aswellasthecommands"experiencethat""letithappen".

shetoldmeIwasn'ther"type"andshehadaboyfriend.Noproblem,Isaidandjustkepttalkinggotherlaughing,built
thatincredibleconnection,anchoredpeakexperiences,zoomedheraroundinspaceandtimeandthistimeIleftherinthat
peakstatewhileIusheredherbacktomyplace.

EnoughFlexibilityToGetTheInitialEntrywayIntoHerNeurologyWhenyoustartrunningpatternsonawoman,the
pointistofindthatinitialentryintoherneurologythatlightsherupandgetsastrongresponse.
ifyoucancombinebodysensations/emotionalfeelings/sexualstuffallatonce,itcompletelyoverloadsandlightsupher
neurologytothepointwhereshejustcan'tresistit.

1. Breakthewoman'scurrentstate/fixedbeliefset.
2. Focusherattentiononyou.
3. Takecontrolofherinternalrepresentations.
4. Createthestate
Putyourselfinsomeofthefeelingstatesyouwanttoinstallinothers!
****Haveyouever...*****
**What'sitlikewhen*****
***Canyourememberthelasttime(firsttime)youever***

5. Bind/linkittoyou
Bindercommands:
"DOTHAT...NOW"
"DOTHAT..WITHME...NOW"
"WITHME...DOTHAT...NOW"
6. Amplify
1. Zipanchors
2. Synethstesia
3. Submodalityshifts
4. Commandssuchas,"Feelitbuilding...focusinonthosefeelings....surrendercompletely...."
5. Sexualmetaphor.."Createanopeningforit.....feelitpenetrate.....comeoverandoveragaintothesame
conclusion..."

"Youknow,whenwegoout,Idon'tknowwhetheritwillbeanincrediblyexcitingadventureorjustawonderfullyfun
time,butitsureisgoingtofeelgoodtolaughalot,isn'tit?Whenyouthinkaboutitlikethat,areyouawareofhowmuch
moreitmakesyoureallylookforwardtodoingit?"

Onceshelaughs,callattentiontoitbysayingsomethinglike,"See...you'relaughing.Itfeelsgoodtolaugh.Andthemore
youlaugh,themoreyou'lldiscoverthatyoureallywanttogooutwithme!".

"Themoreyoutrytothinkofreasonswhyyoucan't,themoreyourealizejusthowmuchyoucan!"
"Themoreyoulaughthemoreyourecognizehowmuchfunitwouldbetospendtimetogether,NOW.Doyouwantto
havecoffee,orwouldlunchworkbetter?"
"Themoreyoutrytothinkofyourboyfriend,themoreyoufindyourselfthinkingofme."
"Hi.I'mwritingabookonangels,andhavetointerviewoneformyfinalchapter.Areyouavailableforcoffeeorwould
lunchbebetter?"

Askquestionsthatgethertogoinside&comebackwithvaluesandcriteria.Questionsthattouchonheridentityasa
person.

"I'msurethatyou,likeme,havehadsomereallyinterestingexperiencesinyourlife.Youknowexperiencesthatwere
incrediblyfascinatingandabsorbing,likemaybewhenyouwereakidandyouwenttoamuseumandyoujustgotlostin
wonderanddelightatwhatyouwereseeing.Ifyouweretoshareamemoryaboutoneofyourmostinteresting
experiences,apersonyoumetperhaps,oraplaceyou'vebeen,orsomethingyou'velearnedthatstillholdsadeepinterest
foryou,whatwoulditbe?"

Her:"Iwantamanwhomakesmefeelcomfortablewithmyself"(youremember"feel"and"comfortable")

You:"Wouldn'titbeniceifyoucouldspendtimewithamanwhomakesyoufeellikeyoucouldletdownyourguardand
justbecomfortable?Whosevoicesoothedandatthesametimestimulatedyou?Igetthefeelingthatthiscouldhappento
yourightnow,withme."

Like:"Whatwasyourfirstkisslike?","Whendidyouhavesexforthefirsttime?","Howdidyouhaveyourfirst
orgasm?","Whatmakesyouhorny?",

Usepersonalexperienceorfantasystoriestogetherhornyandusethirdpersonspeechifyouwanttobesafe:)
ASF:"NeverusestoriesDIRECTLYINVOLVINGthegirlyou'rewith.QUOTEaboutwhatyoudidtootherchicksor
whatyouwanttodotootherchicksoraskheraboutwhatshehasdoneorwouldliketodowithotherguys.

Talksomemore,tellmorestories(Itellastoryabout"Myfriend,whoisaplaygirl,andtriestosleepwithmarriedmen..
Canyoubelievethat..Imean,didyoueverdolikeher..ieHaveyoueverhada1nightstand...
blahblah".
ThenImoveontothestoryofmydrunkchickcoworkers,whoatadinnerparty,weaskediftheyeverdida3p(3
person)sex,andoneraisedherhand.ThenIaskedhowmanywantedto,andALLraisedtheirhands!Andthen
goteachtotellusallthestufftheydidwiththeirBFs(costumeplay,SM..etc)..DidyoueverhaveanyBF'slikethis?".
Judgeherreactionstotheabovestory,thiswilltellyouwhatshemight/mightnotbeinterestedin.
ShemayaskyouaboutoldGFs,sotellhersomegoodstories
FindoutaboutoldBF's,whatsheliked/didn'tlike.Andwhenshementionsafeeling,elaborateonit(thegoodfeelings
andhowyoulikethem,andthebadoneshowyouhateitwhenthathappens,andhowtofeelYYY(goodfeeling)is
muchbetter..
Ask,"howdoyouknowyouaregettingintoaspecialrelationship,orsomeonehasbecomeyourboyfriend"(andthendo
/talkaboutthosesteps),gethervisualizingthatidealrelationship/timewithaguy..
finishdrinking.

dreamsaboutyoupattern

"Haveyoueverhaddreamsaboutsomeoneyoureallyreallylike?Me,forinstance,Ifindthatwhenyoumeetsomebody
whoyou'reveryattractedto,andyoustarttoTHINKABOUTTHATPERSONallthetime,that'swhenyoucanreally
begintoNOTICETHATPERSONINYOURDREAMS.ImeanyouknowhowyouREMEMBERsomedreams,and
othersyouFORGET?It'slikewhenyouconstantlyTHINKABOUTTHISPERSON,youconsciousmindGOESDOWN
REALDEEPintoyoursubconsciousandBRINGSBACKallthesewonderfuldreamsaboutthem.IfyouweretoDO
THATatnight,howlongwouldittakeyoutoREALIZEthatyou'redreamingaboutthisperson?Me,I'vehadthathappen
beforemanytimes..."

Don'tLetYourFeelingsDetermineWhatYourVisionWillBe!
(thisRossspatternisverygoodifgirlisinbadmood)
Listen:recentlyIwastalkingwithafriendwhohadbeenfeelingdown..goingthroughaVERYtoughperiod...andshewas
askingmehowIgotthroughmybadtimes(whichhavebeenprettybadanddesperateattimes...TRUSTME!).Andit
occurredtomethateveryonehasstruggleseveryonehasdifficulties,everyonehassomerealchallenges.Butthosewho
getthroughitallandmakealifeforthemselvesthewaytheywantdon'tlethowtheyfeelinthemomentdetermine
whattheirvisionwillbe.Now..don'tgetmewrong.I'mnotsayingtoignoretheinitialfrustrationyoumightfeelwhen
youarefirsttryingtoflyandmaybetrippingonyourdickorfallingonyourass.Orevenmorefrustrating,gettingsome
reallygreatresponsesfromhotwomen,butforgettingornotknowingthatlastvitalsteptoclosethedeal.We'veallbeen
there.WhatIamsayingis,acknowledgethefrustration..oreventheconfusion.Butdon'tmakethemthedecidingfactor.
Letmegiveyouahintaboutsomethingweliveinaworldwhere99%ofthepopulationarecontrolledbytheirfeelingsin
themoment.Thatmeanstheyhavelittleornodiscipline.Thatmeanstheyhavelittleornodirectionormotivation.That
meanstheysitaroundandwaitfortheirfeelingstokickthemintoaction.Thatmeansyoucanbeazilliontimesmore
successfulthantheminANYareaoflifeifyoucanjustgetpastthis.Here'smyantidoteforlifesuccess:
AcknowledgeYourFeelingsBut
ActBasedOnYourVisionOfTheWayYouWantThingsToBeAndWhatYouWantToHaveHappenAndDevelopA
StubbornRefusalToGiveUpUntilYourExternalRealityMatchesThatVision!
Abitmoreabout"stubbornrefusals".Yousee,sometimes,Ithinkbeing"negative"canworkbetterintheboostphase
ofaprojectoranendeavorthanbeingpositive.Again..don'tgetmewrong.YourVISIONcanandshouldbepositive.
Butasfarasfeelingsgo,sometimeswhatittakestogetstartedisaSTUBBORNrefusaltoacceptthingsasthey
currentlyare..tobewillingtodoanythingtofightyourwayoutofitandgettosomethingbetter.

Asanexamplefrommyownlife:whenIwas19yearsold,Iwasstillabsolutelyterrifiedoflife.ButIdecidedthat
summer..andthisisreallyweird..IjustdecidedoneafternoonthatIwouldnolongerbeaprisoneroffear.ThatIdidn't
carewhathappenedtomewhileIdiditorwhatIhadtogothroughbutthatIwaseithergoingtogetovermyfearoflife
ordieintheattempt.


Andguesswhat?Afteraboutthe20thattempt..astrangefeelingcameoverme.Arushofelation..ofknowingIhad
kickedoverandtriumphedoveraboundaryandbarrierthathadkeptmeback!AndIknewthateverytimeIfought
thatbarrier..everytimeIdefiedandworkedandactedagainstit,Iwasgrowingstronger,nomatterHOWthewomen
happenedtorespond.Iwasexperiencingthepowerandjoyofdefiningthroughbrave(albeitnotveryeffective)actionhow
Iwantedtobe.
Now..sincethenI'vedevelopedandfoundMUCHbettertools.Butthatwillingnesstopaythepriceandthestubborn
refusaltostaystuckmadeallthedifferenceintheworld.Whichbringsmetoanothervitalpoint.Andthatis...
UnderstandAndUtilizeTheValueOf"Willingess"Vs.Will!!
Mypointisthisifyousimplyopenyourselftowhateverlearningsmightcomeyourwayandwhateverinitial
embarassmentsorfrustrationsyoumightexperienceasyouareattainingmasteryatSS,youdon'thavetosteelyourself
likeyouareabouttobeinacaraccident!Rather,youcanRELAXandacceptthatitmaybetoughforawhileand
decideyouwillpushyouselfthroughitanyway.Becausewhenyourelaxintoityou'llrocketthroughthelearning
curve..
Willingnessontheotherhandallowsyoutorelaxandkeepyourfocusduringthelearningcurve.You'renotfighting
yourselfandthingsthereforeflowmucheasier.ThelearningscomefasterandaboveallyougettokeepyourFOCUSon
whereyouwanttobe!AGoodPracticalExerciseForMaintaingYourVisionI'vefoundthatthefollowingmeditation
REALLYhashelpedmeduringthetoughesttimestokeepmyvisionfocusedonthefuture!Sitquietly,anddosomedeep
breathing.Ifyouknowsomebreathingdisciplinesoralreadyknowhowtodoalteredstateworkofsomekind,goahead
anddoit.Onceyoureachthatalteredstate,closeyoureyesandsaytoyourself,"Iriseabovewhatothersthinkispossible
andenteraplacewhereanythingcanbe."Asyousaythat,literallyvisualizeyourselfrisingabovethegroundandseethe
citybeneathyou,containingallthelimitsandlimitedthinking(includingwhatwasonceyourown)downtherebelow.And
nowfromthisNEWplace..thisplacewhereanythingcanbepossible..whereanythingcanbetriedoutandanythingcanbe
triedon..fromTHISplace,thinkabouthowyou'dlikethingstobeandwhatanswersyoucanfind.Fromthisplacesetyour
visionanddoyourthinking.Andcarrythisplacewithyou.Becauseit'swhereyouDESERVEtolivefrom.Andthetruth
isthis:itisONLYwhenyoulivefromisplaceFIRSTthatyourexternalrealitywillbegintoreflectit.Thesoletrick
isgettingthroughthelagtimebetweenthetwo!Thatactofdiscipline,clarityandwillingnessisthekeytogetting
whereveryouwanttoinlife!

PatternFlowIsImportant!Oneofthemostcrucialskillsisknowinghowtotransitionfromonepatterntothenext!

5.StateAccelerators

Zipanchors
Synethstesia
Submodalityshifts
Commandssuchas,"Feelitbuilding...focusinonthosefeelings....surrendercompletely...."
Sexualmetaphor.."Createanopeningforit.....feelitpenetrate.....comeoverandoveragaintothesame
conclusion..."
Quotes
AnotherPersonExperience
Ageregression
Visualizations
Storytellingandmetaphors
Linguisticdoublebinds,useofsuggestion(ThreeLevelStacking)
Disorientation/confusion
Sensorydeprivationand/orsensoryoverload

"ThreeLevelStacking"...:

1.Quotes
You:"Youknow...Iwasreadingthemostinterestingarticleabouthowmenandwomenfallinlovedifferently.
Anditwassayingthatmenusuallyfeelanattractionfirst,butthatwomen,bycontrast,usuallyfeelaconnection
andthenbecomemoreattracted.Imean,youknowthatkindofspecialconnectionyousometimesfeel...that
mysteriouscompellingclickthattakesplacerightTHERE..."Youthengoontodotheconnectionpatternfora
while,andsay,"So...thisarticlewassaying,thatwhenit'sreallyspecial...that'swhenyoucanjustSTOP..and
IMAGINEatimeinfuture...sayyearsfromnow...blahblahblah".

2.QuoteWhatA"Friend"HadToSayToYouAboutIt!(stackingrealities"pattern)

Youknow,Iwastellingmyfriendaboutthis,andshewassaying,whenshereallystartstoFEELTHAT
CONNECTION.......andGROWevenmoreattracted..shebeginstopayattentioninaspecialway.First,
becomesaware...oftherhythmofherbreathing...thebeatingofherheart...andthatsenseofgrowing
fascination...suchthatasshecontinuestobeawareollthis...oneparticuliarfeatureoftheguysfacebeginsto
rivetherattention...soasshejustcontinuetokeeplooking.it'sliketherestoftheenviromentdisappears...andthe

entireworldbecomesthisface...thisvoicethatjuststarttowrapitselfaroundherlikeapairofpowerfulbut
gentlearms...pullingherin...deeper....justallowingthatwarmth..etc..etc

3.GivingHerYOUROpinionOntheSubject!!

You:Now...whatreallyfascinatesmeaboutallthisisnotjusthowpeopleconnectsopowerfullywith
someone...buthowpeopleconnectwiththeirownneedsandwantsanddesires...like..thinkaboutthedifference
betweencompulsionsandanticipation....Hereofcourse,youlaunchintomyfamous"BlowJobPattern"

6.Anchoring(Kino)

Whileyouaredoingallthis,often(whenyoulaugh..etc),touchhersidewaist,orshoulder,orbackwithyourhand,
firmly..(dontdothehandsorhipsyet,unlessshestartstoinitiate/getincloser,orstartstouchingyourshoulder/waist
sometimes).Thisisauthoritarian,andshewillrespectthis,andyourauthority.DothisOFTEN.
Everytimeyoulaugh,orsaysomething,putyourhandonhershoulder,orwaist,orthigh,gently,butauthoritively..get
thekinogoing.

"Can'thearyou:)".Ifshesayssomething,leanforwardasifyouaren'thearingherverywell,andtouchher(armorback).

Patterns

1)Initialflufftalktoestablishsomefaintrapport
2)Patternsandtonalitytoestablishdeeperrapport.Takeyourtime,don'thurry,slowdownthetempooftheconversation,
watchyourtonality.She'llbefeelingalotbynow,butsheisprobablyconfusedastothenatureofherfeelings,soitstime
forstep3.
3)incredibleconnectionICpattern(oramodificationofit)tohelpherrealisethatanincredibleconnectionwithYOU
isexactlywhatsheisfeelingatthemoment:)"Notallwomenwillrespondto"connection"patterns.
Somewomenwhoarealreadyemotionallyoccupied,butsexuallybored,orshutdownemotionally,butopensexuallyor
justdon'tbelieverelationshipsarepossiblewillstillbeveryreceptivetoa"bodysensation"approach.
Asfaraspossible,layerinbodysensationsalongwithyourconnectionpatterns!Whenyoucombinebodysensastions
alongwithemotionalconnections,eitheratthesametimeorrapidlyinsequence,theeffectispracticallyirresistibleand
thepowerisn'tadditive...it'sexponential!

APeakExperiencePattern

You:"Canyourememberthelasttimeyouhadapeakexperience?Likeclimbingamountain...orwatchingabeautiful
sunset...orthefirsttimeyoulookedatsomeone(pointtoyourself,selfpointing,sp)andrecognisedYOUREALLY
LOVETHISPERSON(sp)."
Her:"Sure..."
You:"Whatwasthatlike?"
Hereyoushouldshutupandletherdescribeit.Listencarefullyasshewillgiveawaylotsoftrancewords.

"That'sreallyinteresting.Youknow,IfinditsoneathowYOURMINDcanbegoingalonginonedirection,youknowin
aneverydayordinarystate,andthenSUDDENLYforwhateverMYSTERIOUSreason,youjustGOINTOAMUCH
DIFFERENTSTATE...astatewhereYOURMINdissointouchwiththeMYSTERYandtheWONDERandthebeauty
oflife(pointtoyourself,dumbshit!).Andsometimesit'slikeinYOURMIND,youjustSLOWTIMEDOWN,andthe
wholeworldstops,asyoujustLETYOURSELFGOWITHTHIS(pointtoyourself).CanyouFEELTHAT(reachout
andtouchanchor)isanincrediblethingtoexperience+WITHME+NOW,Iknowthatforalotofpeopledifferentthings
cantriggerthat."
Her:"God...yeah...ILOVEthewayyoutalk...it'slikeyourinsidemysoul."
You:"Well,thankyou(whateveryournamewas).Andyouknow,foralotofpeoplefallinginlove,oranorgasmare
peakexperiences,butforme,it'smusic.Like,theothernightIwaslisteningtoMozart,andIdon'tknowifyouare
familiarwithhimornot("Moewho?"atleastthat'swhatArnoldSchwartzeneggerrespondedwithinLastActionHero:),
butsomeofhisstuffisjustaseriesofshortlittlemusicalsegments...likelittlepecksonthecheek,andwithsomeofhis
stuffthosesegmentsjustGETLAID(whateveryournamewas),fromendtoend,andkeepgettingrepeated.Buthis
reallygreatstuffiscomposedoftheselong,slow,lingeringmovements...they'relikelong,slow,lingeringkisses...long
slowlingeringcaresses,andyoujustFEELALLOFTHATALLOVERYOURBODYwhenyouLISTEN...TOME+
NOW...it'sanincrediblething...youknow."

NaturalWomanpattern

"Doyouthinkmostmenknowwhatwomenreallywant?"

Ofcourse,she'lljustlaugh.
"IthinkmostmenmightTHINKtheyknow,butIthinkalmosteverymanmakesone,huge,criticalmistakewhenit
comestowomen..."
(NowTHATshouldgetthemintrigued.)
"Themistakeisthattheydon'trecognizethatineachwomantheirareactuallyTWOwomen...thenaturalwomanandthe
culturallyprogrammedwoman.Theculturallyprogrammedwomanistheonewithalltherulesandalltheroles...allthe
restrictions,constrictions...alltheshouldn'ts,shoulds,don'ts,can'ts,mustn'ts...etc.
Butthenaturalwoman....that'sthewomanrightthereatthecore...whereyoukeepyourmostexcitingmemories...where
youponderfantasies...daydreams...amazingpossibilities...thethingsyou'ddoifnoonewerewatchingandnoone...even
yourbestfriends...wouldever,everknowabout...
Mostmenjustdothingsthattriggertheculturallyprogrammedwoman...Butwhenaman...arareman...cantoucha
womaninthatspecialplaceinallthosespecialwaysyouLONGtobetouched...inwaysyoumaybeevencan'tadmitto
yourself...thenWOW...analmostcompletetransformationtakesplace...andyoustartblossomingwaybeyondwhatyou
evereventhoughtpossible.
SoIthinkthesmartmanisthemanwhohastherealizationthatthatplaceisthere...waitingandlonging...eveninspitethe
factthatwomenoftenhavetolockallofthataway...andyettheyarestillthere..."

GirlinsidePattern

"Whereisthegirlthatlivedinyourmind?Rememberthelittleonetheonethatbelievedinlove?Maybeshedreamedof
thatidealmanshe'donedaygiveherheartto,andsheknewatthatmomentshedreamtofhim,shehadalreadyfallenin
love.Andeachday,eachmomentofherlived,shecarriedthatlovewithherinherheart,waitingforthedaywhenitcould
bereleasedreleasedandgiventotheonewhowasworthy.(Pointtoyourself).Whatwoulditbeliketorealizethatafter
allthesorrowandtears...thatpersonhadcomealong?(pointtoyourself)IfyouweretoLOOKforthatgirlwithinyour
heartandmind..andLISTENtothemessage...sheissendingyou..NOW...howdoyoufeel?"
Quiteoften,youwantedtobemorelikeher

ResistanceBreakingPattern

Firststepis,get'emlaughing!I'llsaysomethinglike,"Youknow,IwishIwereagirllikeyou,soIcouldhaveaguylike
mecomeintomylife!".

TIMEDISTORTION
So,assoonastheyfinishlaughingyousay,"Speakingtoyouasapersonwholovestolaugh..."Now,theiraretwo
possibleoptionsforstepthree.Optionone:"Won'titbegreatAFTERwe'vegoneoutandlaughedandfeltreally
comfortabletogether?Thenyoucanjustlookbackatitall,smilethatsmileofsatisfaction,andthinktoyourself:thatwas
oneofthebesttimes,I'veeverhad!".

Optiontwo:"Idon'tknow,whenwegoout,whetheritwillbeawonderfullyfunadventureorjustanincrediblyenjoyable
goodtime,butitsurewillfeelgreattolaughthatmuch,won'tit?".

FromIncredibleConnectionpatternTotheBlowJobpattern
"Youknow,theotherthingIthinkissointeresting,besides***howweconnect***witheachother,
is***howweconnect***withourownfantasies,daydreamsanddesires....andwhenwedothat,how
westrikeabalancebetweencompulsionsandanticipation"

Well,anyway..toputawomanintothismindset,youmuststructureyourcommunicationfromstartto
finishtodoatleasttwoofthethreefollowingthings.
1.Structureopportunities
2.Offerchallenges
3.Elicit/evokeprocesses
Bystructureopportunities,Imeanspecificallyoffersomething
SHEcanintuit,perceive,orthinkofabenefittoHER.
"Look,Idon'thavealotoftimehere(setsmeupasachallenge..moreonthiswhenwediscuss#2).Butif
you'llsitwithmeforacoupleofminutes,I'llanalyzeyourhandwriting.You'llgettolearnthingsabout
yourselfyourbestfriendsdon'tknow(opportunity),andI'llgettofindoutifyou'rethekindofpersonIwant
toknowbetter.

"HeyDebbie..thisisBob..IthoughtI'dgiveitonelastshotatgettingachancetotalk.I'velearnedone
lesson,livingin(insertyourcityorpartofthecountry...sinceIliveinL.A.,IsayL.A!)L.A.mywholelife,
andthat'sthatbeautyiscommon...butpeoplewithagreatattitude..agreatenergy..agreatoutlookonlife
arerare..andthey'reworthworkingtogettoknow.AndIthinkthat'sanunderstandingthatgoesBOTH

ways.Soifyoucanfindyourownreasonstocallme,mynumberis5555512."

7.Close

You:"Well,Myname,it'sreallybeenfuntalkingtoyou.It'stoobadthatwewon'tgetthechancetodoitagainwithoutall
thesedistractionsandinterruptions."
Her:(Ifshedoesn'tcatchthehint,thenbeforeyouleave)
You:"Youknow,ImeantwhatIsaidaboutitbeingfuntalkingtoyou.Maybewecouldmeetforcoffeesometime.Like
tomorrow?"

"Ihavetogo,butI'vereallyenjoyedthisconversation,whydon'tyougivemeyournumberandwecantalkagain"

Say"It'sbeenapleasuremeetingyou:)".Sayitlikeyoureallyreallymeanitinafriendly,respectfulyetempathic
manner.

Close#1:Whydon'twecontinuethissomewhereelseandseehowmuchwecanenjoyeachother'scompany?
Close#2:It'stoobadyou'renotthetypeofpersonwhocanimaginefeelinganddoingallthethingsyoulovetofeeland
do..forallthereasonsthatmakesensetoyou..butasyouthinkaboutitjustlikethat..doesn'titjustseemthatspending
sometimetogetherissomethingwehavetodo?
Close#3:So..whatstepswouldwehavetotakeinordertomakesurewecantalkagain?
Close#4:Ihaveanintuition..andIdon'tknowifyoucanimaginethisasIdescribeit..thatwhenwegetachancetotalk
withouttimepressuresorinterruptions...we'llreallyenjoyeachother'scompany..andI'mwonderingifthere'sanumber
whereyoufeelcomfortablehavingmecallyou.

8.SelfDefence

Inevergetrejected.Ionlydiscoverifawomanhasgoodtaste!!
Whenevertheydon'treactpositivelyenough,yousay:
"Hideyourjoy/pleasure!!"
"LasttimeIsawsomeoneasexcitedasyou,shewasinacoma!"
"Ifyoudon'tlikecuteguys,justtellme!"
"Ifyoubuymeadrink,youmightgetluckytonight"
"Ican'tpleaseeverygirlbutI'llgiveyouachancetonight"
"Womenarelininguptobewithme"
"It'stoughtobesuchasexsymbol"

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