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Eliminate Self-Condemnation End the Cycle

NOVEMBER 7, 2011 | NIGHTSHADE130 | 16 COMMENTS

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We all know that we all make mistakes but we have a bad habit of beating ourselves up over it. This is
what we call self-condemnation.
Self-condemnation (www.thefreedictionary.com/Self-condemnation)- an admission that you have
failed to do or be something you know you should do or be.
Its one thing to learn to forgive others but you will find that some people have an even more difficult
time at learning to forgive themselves for their past mistakes and failures. Sometimes people land in
this negative mindset not because of things that they have done but because of the negative feedback
they recieve from others which reinforces this state of self-condemnation. If you are told often
enough that youre not good enough or are in a verbally or physically abusive relationship, you can
start to believe that you deserve the ill-treatment that you receive from others and end up allowing
yourself to start to practice self-abuse because of self-condemnation.

(http://nightshade130.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/imagescab98fz3.jpg)Let me tell you right now

that self-condemnation is NOT your PORTION in life. You have the ability to free yourself from
this self-destructive way of thinking. Some people may find that if they are trapped in an
abusive situation from their peers or loved ones, they face larger obstacles from freeing their mind from
self-condemnation. I find that its one thing to teach on the value of forgiveness but its harder to put it
into practice when the times call for it in these types of situations. This is not to say that there is no
freedom from this vicious cycle, but there are obvious factors that are present in these circumstances
that become obstacles from releasing ones mind from this type of negative mentality.
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Self-condemnation is a type of noose that is tied around a

persons mind. There are steps one can take to avoid getting
trapped into a cycle of self-condemnation. Normally, when
you know youve made a mistake, you should allow yourself
to:
1) RECOGNIZE your mistake(s);
2) REFLECT on what you could have done differently;

(http://nightshade130.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/imagescaoi2ukt.jpg)3) ACCEPT your current

circumstances;
4) MOVE ON after learning what to do differently for the next time you encounter the same or similar
situation.
Those that practice self-condemnation never seem to get past stage 1. Its not enough to recognize your
mistakes if you arent planning on reflecting on how to move on beyond it. This is how people get into
emotional bondages that cause them to be unable to progress in life because they havent learned to
forgive and let go of past mistakes. I remember a time when I made some crazy mistakes and beat
myself out of it that I landed into a state of DEPRESSION. If you have read my earlier post on
Comfort zones (http://nightshade130.wordpress.com/2011/11/03/comfort-zones-the-disablerof-destiny/), this state of behavior is
(http://nightshade130.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/forgiveness-of-self3150x150.jpg)closely tied to that topic as well. When you get depressed you
start to feel hopeless and you digress into negative thought patterns that
entertain thoughts of suicide and eventually death if you leave yourself
unchecked. You will feel vulnerable and this is why it is important to have
accountability partners in your life. They snap you out of this crazy state of
mind. At the time I didnt have friends that could do this for me and I had to
learn how to fight this way of thinking on my own. Even if you are alone, you can battle it out and get
out of that cycle. However, I didnt do this by my personal might nor by power because I knew if I did,
it would be a losing battle. I relied on praying to God to get my mind back on track and meditating on
His Word (Zecheriah 4:6). Believe me when I say that prayer really works and meditating on what the
Word of God says helps you understand that you arent the first person to feel this way.Remember you
can do all things through Christ you strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).

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Break the cycle of self-abusive behaviours that trap you into that emotional roller-coaster of
self-condemnation.

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Self-condemnation prevents you from reaching out for help when you need it the most. You
dont deserve to live in regret. Everyone has regrets, but you have to get past the regret and move
forward to

(http://nightshade130.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/imagesca8hzrhf.jpg)continue pressing on towards

the goal (Philippians 3:13-15). You cant change the past so look at your present circumstances and see
the things that you need to change in order to do those things and have something too look forward to
in your future. Learn to have a Positive mind by confessing positive things to yourself. Do this
everyday until you break your negative thought patterns. It can be as simple as writing 3 good things
about yourself each day and believing in it. Notice the operative word here is BELIEVING. If you

dont believe in the positive things you hear about yourself then you will set yourself up to remain in
that emotional bondage. Break yourself out of this mental entrapment. Do this and you will overcome
and break the cycle.

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Self-Condemners have a defeatist mentality. They already believe that there is no way they can
change. That is lie that you should stop believing RIGHT NOW! You can overcome feeling defeated by
changing how you see your failure.

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Allow yourself to be free from self-condemnation. You have to surround yourself with positiveminded people. Meditate on things that give you that strength to look beyond your mistakes and
failures. I keep repeating this in a lot of my posts but seriously you become what you think
(Proverbs 23:7).
Exercise your FREEDOM! You dont have to condemn yourself anymore. You can learn from
your mistakes and free yourself from self-abusive meditation. Regrets shouldnt shackle you down from
pursuing your dreams and meaningful relationships. Understand that only you can change the way
you think at the end of the day. People may be there in your life to guide you out of that negative

pattern but essentially, it all boils down to you deciding to change your thought patterns. You can do
this, it is achievable, it is possible, and is in your hands to break the

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believing that there is no way out. Change your belief patterns and think of positive things that will
boost your self-esteem. You can change the way you think and start renewing your mind to think of
things that edify your image as a person (Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:23). Reject negative reports of
others and don t allow others to keep you feeling condemned for your actions forever.
Recognize your failures and decide to be free from this negative cycle and learn to FORGIVE
YOURSELF.

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FORGIVENESS
CONDEMNATION

OVERCOME
POSITIVE THINKING
WEAKNESSES

REGRET

SELF-

16 thoughts on Eliminate Self-Condemnation End the

Cycle
1. poeticjourney says:
NOVEMBER 7, 2011 AT 1:36 PM
Amen! Very positive message! Pray for me at the ER! God Bless
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nightshade130 says:
NOVEMBER 7, 2011 AT 2:14 PM
PJ, I will definitely keep you in my prayers

2. Russell Mazonde says:

NOVEMBER 8, 2011 AT 12:26 AM
the voice of self condemnation is so loud and its one no one can claim to have never encountered.
Indeed do the 4 steps and learn as you go. Will also remember to pray for you poetic
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nightshade130 says:
NOVEMBER 8, 2011 AT 3:58 PM
The battle is always in our minds.

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DECEMBER 12, 2011 AT 6:13 AM
Thanks for reading and Im glad it helped your pals. Stay blessed

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