How to create the marriage of your dream 5

Everything you see on the face of the earth didn’t get there by accident; it was
created. Even if you don’t believe in the concept of a God that made all things,
yet logic shows that what you see around you was created by a brilliant mind. The
chair you sit on, the table in your office, the car with their different make,
shows the exquisiteness of the human mind and its capacity to bring out beauty
from within.

I will like to share with you in this write up the concluding part of ways to
create the marriage of your dream-

Learn to release the creative force- When it’s the issue of relationship; its
success or failure lies in the ability to unleash the creative force imbedded in
an individual. To leave life to chance, is believing in a lie that things just
work out its self. The reality is that there is a need of an individual to take
responsibility for his/her life and work out what he wants to see in his
relationship until it comes to reality.

One reality is that some of the things that we see in other peoples’ lives and
ours were directly or indirectly created by the environment we made by our self.
For instance, if you want to be happy, you will have to create environments around
you that will grant you desire of your life. Loren is a lady that believes in the
power of creation (the power to create in ones life, what he was to see); her
parents marriage is a success because she observer that her mum was always
praying. She would hear her pray for her father and siblings; asking for God to
take control of her home and prevent the infiltration of those that may want to
destroy it. Though there were challenges between her mum and dad, yet by a
miraculous way, their marriage was sustained.

She had joined suit with her mum after marriage, by creating the environment
through prayer; praying for what she will like to see in her marriage rather than
leaving it to circumstances of life. According to her; if this secret works for
her mum, it’ll work for her too.

One of the ways to release creative forces is to always say what you want and not
what you feel; the reason is because you will see on to reality your words. The
most dangerous person to live with is someone who lacks discretion in the use of
words when angry. If you haven’t learnt to tame your tongue, it’ll never stop
creating problems in your life. Always use you mouth to pray and speak positive
things; I know a young man that is having serious challenges in all aspect of
life. I guess one of the reasons is because, is wife never cease cursing him. One
interesting reality is that if you curse your partner, you are not only cursing
him, but it includes everything that comes out of him- even the children.

Don’t learn from experience, what you can learn from others- The adage,
‘Experience is the best teacher’ is not the truth; it’s a fact of life that people
should however be careful off. I appreciate the statement of Reverend Sam Adeyemi,
he said, ‘Experience is the best teacher, o yes, but other peoples’ experience is
the best teacher.’ I am particularly against the Nigeria adage that says,
‘Matrimony is a place of learning.’

There are some issues of life that experience is vital; you need to be good in
your vocation and it comes for doing the job over and over again (experience).
However, most experience people go through in life is needless if they had taken
the time to learn from others that had gone through the path before they took it
too. Why learn from experience what you can learn from what others have gone
through; the challenge with people is the believe that they can do what others
have done but have a different direction. That is one deception that had gotten
some singles into a lot of the heart today.

When Toyin heard how Dolapo spoke about the need for her to tread the path of
relationship with care, she felt that she was only jealous that one of the
celebrated guy around was interested in her alone. She knew that at a time in her
life (Dolapo), she was the lady in town, yet none of the lady that dated her got
married to her. She was their babe as long as she was the baby in town; when she
began to age, like smoke they fizzle out of her life. Presently too, Toyin is the
new queen in the neighborhood; all the attention of the big boys around her on her
and she was enjoying the attention that she was getting.

She wouldn’t listen to Dolapo’s advice until she was set up by the love her life
(Dare) and was ganged raped by him and his friends. She never believed her eyes
until the reality dawn on her what he had done; he had invited her to his place to
have some fun. When she got their, he was all alone, until one after the other,
his friends began to show up. She was threatened to comply with their demand or be
killed; she could see in their eyes that they meant business, so she complied.
Today, she still feels ashamed for what happened to her; she wished she had
listened to the counsel of Dolapo.

My question to every single that will have the privilege to read this write up is,
what have you learnt from other peoples mistakes especially that of your parents.
One group of people you should learn from, are your parents; before you call your
father useless, the question I will like to ask is, what have you learnt from him
to prevent your treading the path he took? When I counsel singles, I often point
them to the direction of their parents; I have observed over time that those who
hold their parents in contempt often take the path the one the hold in contempt
took consciously or unconsciously.

Choose your partner wisely- If your dream involves another person for its
fulfillment, it implies that you don’t have absolute power to bring it to reality.
I have said this, in meetings that I have been privilege to speak in to singles- I
don’t care the glory of the future you can see; I don’t care how much anointed you
are; I don’t care your plans for the future- marry a fool and you’ll never see it
come to reality.

Who you get married to will play a great role in your success or failure in life;
to a great measure, I accept the saying that beside every successful man is a
woman. It’s the role of the man to dream; while that of the woman is to ascertain
if her passion is in line with the dream of the guy that is interested in her. One
of the terrible mistake any lady can make is to get married to man because he is
rich alone; if a man have no particular thing that is driving him with a passion,
he isn’t worthy for any sensible lady.

Your dream is one of the determinant of who you can get married to; I hold the
opinion that you just can get married to any single of the opposite sex. Some of
the people you love are also not marriageable if they can’t if they are not
passionate enough to join you in the direction you are heading towards.

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