DISCOVER WHAT YOUR SLEEPING STYLE REVEALS ABOUT YOUR

RELATIONSHIP
Do you like to rest your head on your partners shoulders or chest, and hug them while sleeping?
Or, do they like to cling tightly to you as they doze off? Or perhaps, you both love your own
personal space and dont want any disturbance as you go off to sleep?
Just like your body language reflects your personality, and like dreams have unique
interpretations, the way you sleep with your partner speaks volumes about your relationship
!hat does your sleeping position say about you? "et us demystify what some popular sleeping
positions depict about your marriage
1. Back to Back Cherih ! #leeping back to back, but with intimate physical contact is one of
the favourite positions for most couples because it gives them space while keeping them in touch
with each other $t is also known as the %en pose &his position is symbolic of a high level of
security and comfort between the partners &here is usually a rela'ed camaraderie, and a sense of
equality between couples who sleep this way &his is a style that couples develop over the years
once they are fully comfortable with their independence and interdependence
". The C#aic C#i$$ha%&er ! &he classic (liffhanger is also a back to back position, but in this
case, there is no physical contact between the partners &his position can mean a lot of things On
the positive side, it means that you are so secure and comfortable with each other that you dont
need physical contact to feel connected )sually, couples who are fiercely independent prefer this
position On the flip side, it could indicate a growing distance between the couple, especially if
this was not their normal sleeping position earlier $t is a good idea to have a heart to heart
conversation with your partner once, to find out what is going on if the distance between you two
is growing in the bed
* &he #poon #tyle + #pooning is of two kinds+ either the man spoons with the woman or vice
versa &his sleeping position indicates a feeling of protectiveness towards the partner $t is
a very warm and intimate pose depicting love, care and concern $t also reflects feelings of
passionate love between the couple, especially the newlyweds $t depicts closeness
between you two
'. The S(eetheart H)& ! $f the cuddly sweetheart pose is your favourite, it shows that you two
are true romantic souls $t is a nurturing pose that also indicates the dominance of the male
partner, since he takes his woman under his wing in a protective gesture ,owever, if you
sleep like this in the later years, you are one of the lucky few whose honeymoon phase is
still on
*. The Ho%e+,oo% H)& ! Do you like to sleep facing your partner on the same level of the
pillow, and having your limbs entwined with them? &his pose, called the ,oneymoon ,ug,
indicates an intense need to stay physically connected to each other One of the most intimate
and romantic sleeping poses, it depicts deep love, and emotional and physical dependence on
each other &his romantic pose is common in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, and after
lovemaking
-. The Shi%&#e ! -lso known as the royal pose, it depicts that both partners have strong
individualistic personalities, since both partners are on their backs, and looking at the
world from the same perspective -lthough both the partners are equally strong, the
woman is the more understanding partner out of the two, because she chooses to bridge the
gap between the two, and rests her head on his shoulder &his position depicts equality and
a high level of trust between the partners .ven though this is what research has to say
about these popular positions, and what they reveal about your relationship, according to
psychologists, there is no /perfect0 sleeping position for couples ,owever, now that you
know what different sleeping poses mean, you can get a deeper insight into your
relationship and work on making it stronger
.ISTA/ES S.ART COUPLES ALSO .A/E
1our friends and relatives have known you both to be the perfect couple, balancing each other in
all aspects of life 2ust like #hah3ukh 4han and 3ani 5ukher2ee in /(halte (halte0 ,owever,
little do they know that even perfectly happy couples go through trials and tribulations and yours
is not an e'ception $f you wish to avoid such plights in your relationship and not end up leaving
your partners house as the heroine of the film does, take a glimpse at the following mistakes that
cause fights even between the best matched couples
1. Ditri0)ti%& ho)e(ork 1 &his might appear to be one of the best ways to be out of any fall+
outs, but studies show couples fight the most when attempting to divide household chores
on a 67+67 basis Divide the work in accordance with the things which you both are good
at, which will not give you a chance to lash at each other for being imperfect
". .o%e+ ,atter 1 5oney reigns high on the reasons behind fights between couples 8eing in
debt is even more dangerous and to avoid such circumstances from cropping up, sit with
your partner to discuss the monthly budget and e'penses from the day one of your
relationship
2. Waiti%& $or that 3er$ect ,oo4 $or e5 1 &his has been found to be one of the biggest
mistakes couples make &he fact is, most of the time you might not be in the mood and
waiting for the right moment might even worsen the gap between you too 9etting cosy
with your beloved will not cost you anything and so why wait for ambience to be perfectly
romantic?
'. Na&&i%& a## the (a+ 1 :erpetual nagging is the most annoying things to bear and is often
responsible for making the other partner to 2ust burst out $f you are not arriving at a
resolution, it is better to leave the matter for the night &he following morning will see you
both much calmed down and better harnessed to resolve the issues
*. Not 3eaki%& +o)r ,i%4 1 1ou can;t e'pect your partner to understand everything that goes
inside your mind, $t is undoubtedly another of the common issues making couples go mad
at each other 8e transparent about what you feel and tell him if you do need a hug after a
bad day at work
-. Ba0+ 0#)e 1 !hile you might be craving to go through the beautiful emotions of parenthood,
give your relationship some time to revel in the glorious moments together 1our nappy+
changing sessions can wait till both of you are ready
6. Taki%& each other $or &ra%te4 1 <inally, 2ust because you have been hitched does not mean
you can take each other for granted )nderstanding your partner;s needs and respecting each
other;s feelings is the key to a happy relationship
REASONS WHY COUPLES 7IGHT IN A .ARRIAGE
- perfect marriage is not the one where nothing ever goes wrong $f you have this fairy tale
perception about marriages, then you may land up yourself in the soup #o before this thought
gets you in any kind of trouble, buckle up and realise that fighting is an integral part of any
marriage ;=o fight; is as equally terrible for a relationship as is the ;continuous fighting; ,ere is
a short list of what sparks a fight, simple ways to prevent them and how to solve them if they get
out of hand
1. Daily Chores
&his is a common issue that pops up every now and then #hirking simple chores is something
that all couples are guilty of and sometimes, it ignites a row that can bring other small problems
on to the table #ince household chores are so small, you tend to ignore them and if this happens
over a period of time, your partner will throw a fit sooner or later &he only way you can avoid
such a clash with your partner is by sticking to your chores
2. Planning a vacation
&his could turn ugly if you are not open to what your partner has to say !hether you go for a
beach trip or a mountain trek, make sure you give your partner enough space so that you dont
end up having arguments instead of a happy holiday
3. Me time
Okay, this is something you need to navigate very carefully or you can land up having a ma2or
fight with your spouse !hen you are planning something with your friends make sure you tell
your partner about it in a proper manner #imilarly, do not ob2ect when your partner looks
forward to spend some time with his>her friends
4. TV Space
&his might seem like a petty thing to bring up, but you would be surprised to learn that many
marital fights crop up because one partner hogged all the &? time 5ake sure you give your
other half a chance to watch his>her favourite shows also
. !elatives
&his is one area that you need to deal with utmost care :assing comments regarding your
partners family could be the starting point of a heated argument &his can happen over even the
smallest of remarks, so ensure your partner and you dont end up quarreling over a family
member
". #or$aholic
,ave been spending e'tra hours at office so that you can nail that promotion? 5ake sure you
dont ignore your partner while doing so -lso, do not annoy your spouse by bringing your work
to home -s this can become the basis of many fights, try to maintain a balance between your
personal and professional life
%. Physical intimacy
&his is an important issue that sometimes causes a lot of friction between couples 1ou need to
sit down with your other half and discuss any issues that could be hampering your love life
$nstead of starting a fight, try to understand the reason behind the argument and solve the matter