How to Write a

Perfect Wedding
Speech:
The Ultimate
Wedding Toast
Guide
Madison Jeffrey
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2012 by Madison Jeffrey
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Contents
&ntroduction
'hen (oes 'edding )peeches and $oasts
)tarted*
$hings to +onsider
$he ,asics of -iving )peech
)tarting .our )peech
Applying Mind Mapping to .our )peech
-etting to /no! $oasting
10 $ips &n $oasting for the 'eddings
)ome )ample )peeches
A )ample )peech for ,est Man01
A )ample )peech for ,est Man02
A )ample )peech for Maid of 1onor01
A )ample )peech for Maid of 1onor02
,ride#s )ample )peech
-rooms )ample )peech
2ather of the ,ride )ample )peech
2ather of the -room )ample )peech
Mother of the ,ride )ample )peech
Mother of the -room )ample )peech
3"amples of 'edding $oast
)ample of ,est Man 'edding $oast to the
-room
)ample Maid of 1onor 'edding $oast to
+ouple
)ample ,ride 'edding $oast to -room
)ample -room4s $oasts 0 2rom -room to
,ride4s 5arents
)ample ,ridesmaid $oast to +ouple
)ample 2ather of the ,ride 'edding $oast to
,ride
)ample )ister of ,ride 'edding $oast to the
+ouple
)ample ,rother of the ,ride 'edding $oasts
(o#s and (on#ts
1o! to 5resent .our 'edding )peech
$he $en +ommandments of $oasting
1o! to (eal 'ith An"iety
5ossible $opics
+onclusion
Introduction
Many people have problems about giving
speech in public because they are not used to
on the task. 5eople fear to talk in front of many
people because they are afraid that they !ould
make mistakes and %ust make a fool of
themselves. ,ut !e have the obligation to do it
because it is e"pected from us. 6ne e"ample
!ould be during a !edding ceremony.
'edding ceremony is the time !here every
close relative of the groom and bride are
e"pected to give their congratulatory speech.
)ome of them may do it !illingly but others !ill
be hesitant because they do not kno! ho! to
make a speech that !ill en%oy by the people
and !elcomed by the bride and groom.
+reating a speech can be a hard task !hen
you have never tried giving one. &t can also be
very difficult !hen you are not used to !riting
one. 2ortunately this guide is made to solve
the problem. $his !ill be your ultimate guide
to!ards !riting and giving speeches that !ill
be remembered by everybody.
.ou !ill be learning about ho! you should
!rite a speech ho! to give them in front of
many people and many more related things.
$he guide !ill also teach you ho! to rela" and
have confidence !hen you are in front !ith so
many people giving the speech. .ou can also
read some e"amples of speeches that you can
use as an idea of making your o!n one. &t !ill
be yours to decide.
)o let your speech be an inspiration of the
ne!ly!ed couple. 'eddings are supposed to
be en%oyed and celebrated for the t!o people
in loved !ith each other and not being afraid
and an"ious to!ards giving the speech. $his
time things like that !on#t happen in the future.
.ou are given the privilege here in this guide to
load yourself !ith techni7ues of ho! to give
speeches in front of many people. )o start
your !ay no!8
When Does Wedding Speeches
and Toasts Started
5ast traditions of !edding speeches and toasts
!ere for the fathers of the bride and groom
also sometimes the groom. ,rides !ere not
given the chance to have their o!n thoughts
about their !edding in front of many people. &t
!as not really a part of the culture but it !as
%ust to meant like that.
$he speeches made long ago differ from each
other. &n 3gypt the speeches !ere all about
blessings and offerings to the gods of people
for having the ceremony. &n 3urope the fathers
of both side talked about the great unions
bet!een both families. ,ut for &reland 3ngland
and )cotland mothers gave blessings and
toasts during the !edding day.
$here are other cultures that did not involve the
bride and groom. +elebrations !ere still part of
the !edding but the traditions !ere slo!ly
changing. )ome of the traditional people !ho
must give speeches !ere taken a!ay. &n the
past maid of honor didn#t deliver speech but as
of today it is no! very common. $he ne!
traditions and cultures of !edding ceremonies
no! have greatly changed. )ome may still be
there but there are ne! added ones.
$his guide is not about the !edding traditions.
&t !ill talk about !edding speeches to teach
you and give some idea. 'edding speeches
have changed for many years no!. Modern
!edding speeches have greatly evolved
adding some humors plus the !ishes for the
bride and groom.
,ut it#s good to kno! a little history about
!edding speeches and !ho !ere the people
giving them long ago. &f you are one of those
people !ho are assigned to give speech on
!edding day here is the guide to develop you
on your skill to!ards creating the best and
touching !edding speech.
Things to Consider
'hen you are going to !rite a good !edding
speech you must have some guidelines on
ho! to do it. &t must not really be hard but %ust
basic tips to help you in many !ays.
Here are the 10 tips that I hope can help you
a lot:
1ave a plan and simple ob%ective to develop
the potential outcome. &magine the things that
you !ant to get out after giving the speech in
front of the people. (o you like to make people
laugh* 6r touch the emotions of people*
,efore you !rite think of the theme of your
speech and visuali9e !hat !ill be the outcome
of the things you are going to say.
.our speech must have formal structure !ith a
good beginning middle an ending. Audience
!ill love to hear a speech that has a map or
has sense of direction !ithout drifting off from
the topic. .ou have to !elcome and recogni9e
the people attended the !edding. 6f course
you have to make the bride and groom the
stars.
(o not say too much non0sense. .ou have to
keep speech simple and uni7ue. .ou can talk
for about : to ; minutes to let others also do
their parts. <onger than that !ill %ust make
listeners bored and might find other interests
than your speech.
Al!ays talk of positive things. .ou have to talk
only of positive topics and scenario. (o not
make any negative comments that !ill only
give negative vibes on a happy celebration. &t
is a time to celebrate not to put a dark mark on
a happy day.
.ou can research your speech !hich you can
relate on personal stories. $he personal stories
can help you connect !ith the audience
especially the bride and groom. .ou are going
to ponder on the beautiful memories you have
relating to the celebrant and ho! you treasure
the moments you have !ith them. 1o! can
you relate those stories can be done through
searching to !ork for it positively.
.ou also have to remember to keep the
personal stories short. As much as possible
focus the story about the bride and groom
because it#s not about you. 1elp people
imagine ho! that moment become so special.
(escribe it clearly and briefly for them %ust to
grasp enough the event.
Make your opening and closing good. 5eople
!ill mostly remember the speech bet!een the
opening and closing. $he opening catches the
attention of the audience so you need a key to
make them !ant to hear more. $he ending !ill
give the inspiration and reali9ation about the
speech you have given. &t is some!hat the
core message you are trying to impart !here
they can feel emotions about !hat you have
said.
(o not drink alcohol not until you have given
your speech. .ou have to be alert and be
yourself !hile giving the speech. .ou save
yourself drinking alcohol !hen it is time to
celebrate the !edding.
/eep your eyes contact !ith the audience. &f
you can sometimes forget your speech you
can use an inde" card to read the important
points of your speech. Just avoid reading
throughout the speech and keep your eyes on
the audience as much as possible. $his is to
sho! that you are sincere on your speech.
5ractice makes perfect. 5ractice your speech
and rehearse it in front of someone. .ou have
to get some opinion from others. .ou can also
record the speech and listening back can help
you improve your speaking skills and
memori9e the speech fast.
The !asics of Gi"ing Speech
.ou may be one of the people !ho are a first
time to give formal speech in front of a large
audience. $here is a possibility that you are
getting nervous no!. &t is okay for a first timer
to feel that !ay because others !ho are also
giving the same special speeches are nervous.
+an you feel your stomach having like small
butterflies inside as you are an"ious on your
part to be called* $hat is !hy !e must really
improve our self0confidence to give a much
inspiration speech.
$he reason !hy a person !ho is giving the
speech is because of the !edding cro!ds
!aiting for a speech that !ill not touch only
them but most especially to the bride and
groom. 'hat you need is to convert your
nervous energy into making the most special
speech that !ill touch everybody.
$hese are some things that you should keep in
your mind !henever you are doing a speech in
front=
It is not just you that get nervous about public
speeches but also everyone who are assigned
to do it. Its part of the phobias that people feel
around the world. There are even some who
are afraid of giving speech than of dying.
The speech is for everyone who is close,
supportive and interested people in the
wedding ceremony. So, they will be anxious on
what you are going to say. The people
gathered around the special celebration are
there for the union of two people whom they
love. They want to hear an inspiration from you
and not about your perfect speech. Whatever
happens and the content of your speech, they
will be proud of you because you tried to
inspire them.
'hen you are !riting your speech think of
these things as an inspiration also. +lear
message speeches are easier to deliver and
less scary to speak. .our audience !ill also
have easier time to listen and very effective as
!ell.
1ere are some thoughts of !hat you can !rite
about your speech to make it easier.
Start with an introduction that can capture their
attention. ot only will you be the one to give
the speech so ma!e yours uni"ue among
others. That is why you need some start off
that will trigger interest in their ears. #ou can
start with some personal experience or
scenario you encountered with the couple. Its
anything that you thin! that can portrait how
much you care for the two for your audience to
listen eagerly what will be the next content of
your speech.