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Alcoholics Anonymous, page 68:

Perhaps there is a better way we think so. For we are now on a different basis the basis of
trusting and relying upon !od. "e trust infinite !od rather than our finite sel#es. "e are
in the world to play the role $e assigns. %ust to the e&tent that we do as we think $e would
ha#e us, and humbly rely on $im, does $e enable us to match calamity with serenity.
"e ne#er apologi'e to anyone for depending upon our (reator. "e can laugh at those who
think spirituality the way of weakness. Parado&ically, it is the way of strength. )he #erdict
of the ages is that faith means courage. All men of faith ha#e courage. )hey trust their !od.
"e ne#er apologi'e for !od. *nstead we let $im demonstrate, through us, what $e can do.
"e ask $im to remo#e our fear and direct our attention to what $e would ha#e us be. At once,
we commence to outgrow fear. +,
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-tep Prayer.
When writing on your 4
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Step, always ask your Higher Power to remove your fear and
allow you to write from your heart with truth.
/se the forms below as templates for your own paperwork. )here isn0t enough room on any of
them to actually write.
Basic Instincts of Life Which Create Self
Social Instinct Security Instinct Sex Instinct
Companionship wanting to
belong, to be accepted.
Prestige wanting to be
recognized, or to be accepted as a
leader.
Pride - an excessive or unjustified
opinion of oneself, either positive
(self-love) or negative (self-hate).
Personal Relationships our
relations with other human beings
and the world around us.
Ambitions our plans to gain
acceptance, power, recognition,
prestige, etc.
Material wanting money, property,
clothing, etc. in order to be
secure in the future.
motional based on our needs for
another person or persons. ome
tend to dominate, some are
overly dependent on others.
Ambitions our plans to gain
material wealth, or to dominate,
or to depend on others.
Acceptable our sex lives as
accepted by society, !od"s
principles, or our own principles.
!idden our sex lives that are
contrary to either society, !od"s
principles, or our own principles.
Ambitions our plans regarding our
sex lives, either acceptable or
hidden.
Resentments
#eelings of bitter hurt or indignation
which come from rightly- or wrongly-
held feelings of being injured or
offended.
"ear
#eelings of anxiety, agitation,
uneasiness, apprehension, etc.
!arm or !urts
$rong acts which result in pain, hurt
feelings, worry, financial loss, etc.,
for others and also self.
Self
Wrongs
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2. *n dealing with fears, we put them on paper. "e listed people, institutions, or principles with whom we
were fearful. (omplete (34/56 2 from top to bottom. 7o nothing with (34/56- 8, 9, or , until
(34/56 2 is complete.
8. "e ask oursel#es why we ha#e the fear. (omplete (34/56 8 from top to bottom. 7o nothing with
(34/56- 9 or , until (34/56 8 is complete.
9. "hich part of self caused the fear: "as it our self;esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal or
se& relations which had been interfered with: (omplete (34/56 9 from top to bottom in the bo& that
applies. 7o nothing with (34/56 , until (34/56 9 is complete.
,. 1eferring to our list again, putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked at
our own mistakes. "here had we been selfish, dishonest, self;seeking, frightened, or inconsiderate:
Asking oursel#es the abo#e <uestions, we check a bo& in (34/56 , that applies.
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