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Description of Problem
As mentioned above, I believe that the two areas that need improvement in my life are self management and relationship management. Starting with relationship management, I often find myself in a position of being the person that listens while the other vents their problems and concerns to me. However, I notice that when I respond to the situation theyre in, its an answer that says, Well thats too bad, or Thats life, I guess. This leaves little room for them thinking I have a solution to their problem, which often I dont. I believe that, because I am so young, there are many other experienced people that would be able to help with their problem. Similarly, I think many of those same responses when I come across my own problems, which brings me to the next area I think I need to improve: self management. I often find myself bottling up my emotions; thinking that it is unmanly to show any sort of emotion. Last semester I took a humanities class where we discussed gender roles. In the discussion, we were showed
many pictures of children breaking those roles and while there was little reaction to the girls, the boys were often getting disciplined for their actions. We decided that it was mostly because of the society that we live in that men are the way we are. Thinking I have that image to uphold, like I said before, I bottle up my emotions until the bottle is full. Then, whoever is the unlucky one around me gets the whole bottle unleashed on them. I realize that this is has detrimental effect on both my self-management and relationship management. While these two problems go hand in hand, I think they can be fixed with the same solution.
that persistent focus and practice can help you develop your emotional intelligence, just like all things in life.
Recommendations
The first part of my plan will involve me learning a lot about myself and recognizing I dont have to handle all of my emotions by myself. This will require me to rely on others by talking to them, to help with the heavy loads put on my mind by the happenings in my day to day life. I have heard many people say in my life to just talk it out. While writing this paper, Ive realized that it doesnt mean to just talk out an issue you may have with someone, but it can also be applied to talking out your bad, hurt, or sad emotions. Along with getting rid of those emotions in myself and not bottling them up, it will also teach me strategies to help others get rid of those same feelings. I will also try my best to recognize others needs while talking to them so I can further improve in the area social awareness. This will allow me to think more clearly about the other persons situation and come up with a possible solution.
Summary
Though I may not have recognized it until recently, I believe I have always had a problem with my self-management and relationship management. By making myself talk about my feelings to others, I can further control more aspects in my life. And in turn, I can teach people I come in contact with that there are ways of letting go of the negative emotions we hold inside ourselves. By getting rid of the negative emotions we all hold inside, we will be able to become stronger communicators and also become more comfortable within our own social groups.
References
Assessing Your Emotional Intelligence http://www.mhhe.com/business/management/buildyourmanagementskills/updated_flash/t opic5a/quiz.html How to Develop Your Emotional Intelligence Susan M. Heathfield http://humanresources.about.com/od/interpersonalcommunicatio1/qt/develop-youremotional-intelligence.htm COMM 1010: Communicating at Work Ronald B. Adler, Jeanne Marquardt Elmhorst, Kristen Lucas