SPEECH FOR JANEYS SHLOSHIM

Its just 6am - Im sitting on the a!"on# o$ m# %oom o&e% !oo'ing the (ea) Sea an) am *at"hing the g!o%ious sun%ise o&e% this uni+ue !o"ation, I&e *at"he) su"h a sun%ise man# times in the "om-an# o$ m# )a%!ing siste%. Jane#, I) "ome to Is%ae! to &isit Jane#. /eith 0 o% as is his He %e* name . Chaim an) 1u#!i an) o$ten *ou!) ta'e Jane# )o*n to the (ea) Sea $o% a t%eat, At he% %e+uest *e) sta# at the Youth Hoste! at Ein 1e)i 0 she )i)nt *ant me to *aste m# mone# on u- ma%'et a""ommo)ation *hen *e -!anne) to e out an) a out a!! )a# 0 %athe% she) -%e$e% me to t%eat he% to massages an) t%eatments at the Ein ge)i s-a, 2e) s-en) the *ho!e )a# at that S-a. $!oating in Yom Hame!e"h. ta'ing )i-s in the su!-hu% -oo!. $!inging mu) at one anothe% as on!# siste%s "an. sitting on the ea"h an) gi&ing a s"o%e out o$ 34 $o% ea"h an) e&e%# ma!e that -asse) us # an) $ina!!# in)u!ging in the t%eatments the S-a ha) to o$$e% 0 *on)e%$u! +ua!it# time togethe%,

5his mo%ning. as the s'# tu%ne) to sha)es o$ -in' an) the sun egan to -eeth%ough. I thought o$ Jane#. stan)ing on a simi!a% a!"on#. just 36 o% so months ago. )a&ening he% Sha"ha%it se%&i"e *hi!st %e$!e"ting on the g!o%ies o$ natu%e,

I %e$!e"te) on Jane#s -assing an) $oun) m#se!$ sa#ing 7Jane#. #ou must no* ha&e a ette% "onne"tion than me 0 -!ease as' Hashem to "%eate a eauti$u! sun%ise to)a# so that I "an %emem e% #ou an) the *on)e%$u! times *e ha) togethe%, An) su%e enough. I) !i'e to thin' Jane# hea%) me an) as she a!*a#s )i) 0 -u!!e) st%ings0 it *as in)ee) a eauti$u! sun%ise,

Jane# an) I ha) su"h s-e"ia! times togethe% an) o$ "ou%se the o""asiona! it"h $ight in ou% #outh, Im going to miss ou% 8,94am S'#-e "hats 0 #es: Im a -oo% s!ee-e% so it *as g%eat to "at"h u- *ith he% at that hou% o$ the mo%ning, 2e) )is"uss e&e%#thing $%om geneti"s- as man# o$ #ou *ou!) 'no* Jane# *as a *e!! %es-e"te) an) !o&e) geneti"ist at ;ei!inson Hos-ita! in Petah 5i'&ah 0 to %e"i-es. -o!iti"s an) she es-e"ia!!# !o&e) to hea% sto%ies o$ the anti"s o$ m# g%an)"hi!)%en *hom she a)o%e),

5han' goo)ness Li< an) Mim ha) the o--o%tunit# to s-en) time *ith Jane#. /eith an) 1u#!i just a $e* months ago an) Jane#. e&en though she *as &e%# i!! an) *ea' manage) to a%ise at 6am one mo%ning to ma'e the )ough $o% "ha!!ah *hi"h (e . Li< an) Mim *ou!) he!- he% *ith !ate% in the )a# 0 su"h )ete%mination an) stoi"ism- just a sma!! as-e"t o$ Jane#s "ha%a"te%,

Jane#. as man# o$ #ou *ou!) 'no*. ha) a !ong ha%) att!e *ith "an"e%. in $a"t => #ea%s o$ sta%ting *ith a %a)i"a! maste"tom# an) en)ing *ith metastati" "an"e% in he% !ungs. !i&e% an) %ain,

Just ho* man# times )i) *e thin' *e *e%e sa#ing ou% $ina! $a%e*e!!s on!# $o% he% to %a!!# an) o$$ *e) t%ot to Is%ae! the $o!!o*ing #ea% to ha&e #et mo%e $un togethe%, She $a"e) he% "an"e% %a&e!#. se!)om sha%ing he% inne% thoughts. as she just )i)nt *ant othe%s to e *o%%ie) *ith he% t%ou !es, 5his *as Jane# in a nutshe!! 0 a!*a#s *anting to su--o%t an) honou% othe%s e$o%e he%,

She *o%'e) ha%) in Is%ae! $o% Emunah. es-e"ia!!# no* at Pu%im time. *hen she *as the hea) hon"ho in "ha%ge o$ a%%anging the Mish!oa"h Maanot -a"'aging an) )ist%i ution $o% "ha%it#, Ea"h #ea% she *ou!) *o%' ti%e!ess!# $o% months sou%"ing -a"'aging -something a !itt!e )i$$e%ent 0 a sho* ag. an e&ening ag. *hate&e% an) in $a"t e&en this #ea% *as in&o!&e) ut a month -%io% to he% )eath, I *as &e%# tou"he) *hen one o$ he% man# goo) $%ien)s ga&e me a sam-!e ag to %ing home as Jane# ha) "hosen it,

You -%o a !# 'no* that Ha%%# an) I on!# manage) to a%%i&e in Is%ae! *ith ut 34)a#s ti!! he% -assing, 2e s-ent a "ou-!e o$ )a#s sti!! at home *ith he% then she *as ta'en to hos-ita! , On the )a# o$ m# a%%i&a!. one o$ the $i%st things Jane# sai) to me *as 0 goo) #ou a%e he%e. #ou "an no* massage m# $eet 0 -oo% )a%!ing ha) so mu"h $!ui) on oa%), 2e s-ent the ne?t *ee' &isiting the hos-ita! $o% hou%s on en). !aughing. jo'ing. an) t%easu%ing the sho%t time *e ha) togethe%, I) sit on the $!oo% # he% "hai% an) on"e again massage he% $eet 0 the ta"ti!e the%a-# *as *on)e%$u! $o% oth o$ us, 2e a%e t%u!# g%ate$u! to (% Simon 2ein. he% -a!!iati&e on"o!ogist. *ho as it ha--ens *as a!so m# mothe%s on"o!ogist he%e in Me! ou%ne -%io% to him ma'ing A!i#ah. $o% his 'in)ness in a)&ising us to "ome to Is%ae! in a hu%%#,

Jane#s $%ien)s ha) een s*o%n to se"%e"# not to a)&ise us that he% "on)ition ha) )ete%io%ate) %a-i)!# as Janeh# 'ne* that Ha%%# ha) me)i"a! issues an) she )i)nt *ant me to e to%n et*een he% an) ha%%#,

I )ont thin' I $u!!# %ea!i<e) *hat a *e!!-%es-e"te) $%ien) an) !o&e) %e!ation Jane *as unti! the Shi&a *hen hoa%)s o$ -eo-!e "ame to -a# thei% %es-e"ts an) honou% he% memo%#, 5he hea) o$ ;ei!inson Hos-ita! an) the Chie$ 1eneti"ist %ought $!o%a! t%i utes to the "emete%#- not +uite the )one thing in he% %e!igious!# o se%&ant "i%"!es ut g%a"ious!# a""e-te) an) a--%e"iate),

Re!ati&es "ame $%om nea% an) $a% 0 $i%st "ousins $%om /i%#at A% a. E!!ie Sea%!e *ho ha) een in Is%ae! ut a *ee', He% $%ien)s *e%e ama<ing 0 e&e% su--o%ti&e an) 'in), E&e a%%ange) $o% a $oo) %oste% an) )e!i"ious mea!s *e%e -%e-a%e) an) %ought to the mou%ne%s an) thei% $ami!ies, 5hese $%ien)s ha&e "onstant!# een in tou"h *ith /eith %ega%)ing the *e!$a%e o$ m# nie"e. 1u#!i *ho as #ou 'no* has a menta! )isa i!it#, 1u#!i has a ha%) %oa) ahea) *ithout he% )a%!ing Mumm#,

As man# o$ #ou ma# 'no*. Jane# *as o sesse) *ith "ats, He% e!o&e) Su$$i *as the !ight o$ he% !i$e an) in)ee) that o$ the *ho!e $ami!#, He% home *as $i!!e) *ith "at -a%a-he%na!ia 0 "at tee shi%ts. "at o%naments et", She ha) a &e%# "!ose s"hoo! $%ien). Ji!!. *ho !i&e) nea% Ei!)on. @i"to%ia *ho sha%e) he% -assion, Ji!! 'nitte) a 7(o!!#"at A $o% Jane# man# months ago *hi"h )i) not a%%i&e in Petah 5i'&ah, Jane# to!) Ji!!. *ho -%om-t!# -%o)u"e) anothe% one *hi"h )i) a%%i&e an) it e"ame Jane#s mas"ot %ight ti!! he% )#ing moment, /eith un)e%stoo) he% !o&e $o% (o!!#"at *hi"h I -%esume %e-%esente) he% e!o&e) Su$$i an) as'e) $o% the (o!!#"at to e u%ie) *ith Jane#, A""o%)ing to t%a)ition it *as not -!a"e) %ight ne?t to he% ut gent!# -!a"e) on the "on"%ete !o"'s that $o%me) the !i) a$te% he% o)# ha) een !o*e%e) into the -%e-$o%me) "on"%ete ase in the g%a&e, ;oth /eith an) I *e%e then gi&en the honou% o$ he!-ing to $i!! the g%a&e *ith ea%th 0 e&e%#one e!se *ith a sho&e! an) /eith an) I *ith ou% a%e han)s,

(o!!#"at &e%sion one )i) a%%i&e a"' to @i"to%ia 0 on the )a# o$ Jane#s )eath an) Ji!! has o$$e%e) it to me to 'ee- $o% -oste%it# 0 a eauti$u!

memo%ia!,

I must te!! #ou that than' goo)ness 1u#!i )oes un)e%stan) that he% mothe% has -asse) a*a#, She !o&es to -!a# *ith sti"'e%s. *hi"h she usua!!# -!a"es in %an)om !o"ations on a -age, 5he *ee' a$te% Jane#s -assing. she too' an A8 sheet o$ -a-e%. stu"' sti"'e%s $o%ming a uni$o%m o%)e% a%oun) the -age an) then a $e* %o*s o$ sti"'e%s a"%oss the -age, At the ottom o$ the -age she *%ote MBMMYS ME5CE@AH 0 Mumm#s tom stone, A -s#"ho!ogist "ou!) ha&e ta'en ages en"ou%aging $o% he% to -%o)u"e su"h *o%'DD 5hought$u!. 'in) an) e&e% "onsi)e%ate. Jane# a%%ange) *ith /eith $o% 1u#!i to e %ought to the hos-ita! just a $e* )a#s e$o%e she )ie). to sa# he $a%e*e!!s, Jane#s main "on"e%n *as to !oo' -%ett# $o% he% )aughte% an) to a!!a# an# $ea%s she ma# ha&e in &isiting a hos-ita!, As su"h. Jane# ha) assistan"e in "hanging into a house go*n %athe% than *ea%ing hos-ita! -#jamas. she as'e) me to ma'e u- he% $a"e 0 the *o%'s 0 mas"a%a an) the !ot an) then *e ha) a majo% )e"ision as to *hi"h !i-sti"' tone) *ith the house go*n, She e&en a%%ange) to ha&e he% in$usion -um- %emo&e)- ha) the )%i-s hanging $%om a -o!e on he% *hee!"hai%, /eith *hee!e) he% )o*n to the $o#e% *he%e she met 1u#!i an) *e a!! *ent out into the hos-ita! ga%)en, Jane# then as'e) to e ta'en to the "hi!)%ens se"tion o$ the hos-ita! *he%e she 'ne* the%e to e a gi$t sho-, She as'e) me to u# sti"'e%s *ith 1u#!i 0 a!*a#s a majo% )e"ision as to *hi"h ones to "hoose- an) Jane# ha) -%e--!anne) an a"ti&it# 0 ha&ing 1u#!i )e"o%ate the huge "%o" shoes 0 the on!# shoes Jane# "ou!) *ea% at this stage *ith he% o)# so s*o!!en, Jane#. 1u#!i an) I sat the%e an) "%eate) a maste%-ie"e on these "%o"s. *hi"h Jane# -%ou)!# *o%e ti!! the en), 1u#!i *ou!) !ate% *ea% those same "%o"s at he% home 0 Mumm#s shoes,

5han' goo)ness /eith is *e!! su--o%t *ith !o&ing $%ien)s an) $ami!#, I 'no* he!! e O/, Jane# ha) -%e-a%e) him $o% e&entua!ities ut it has een ha%) $o% him to a""e-t *hi"h *as -e%$e"t!# no%ma!, 1u#!i *i!! "ome to sta# e&e%# =n) Sha at as she a!*a#s has an) thei% on) *i!! g%o* e&en st%onge%, I must sa# a ig than' #ou to m# )a%!ing Ha%%# *ho is an) a!*a#s has een m# %o"', His su--o%t th%oughout the #ea%s o$ Jane#s t%auma an)

in)ee) *hen m# e!)e% siste%. Mu%ie! )ie) some 9= #ea%s ago. a!so o$ "an"e%. has a!*a#s een ama<ing,

5han's to (e o%ah an) /a%#n an) a!! m# $ami!# $o% thei% ongoing su--o%t an) !o&e an) $o% a%%anging matte%s at this en) *hi!st *e *e%e in Is%ae!,

A s-e"ia! than's to Ra i Yaa"o& 1!asman $o% a%%anging an) o$$i"iating at this se%&i"e an) to #ou. m# )ea% $ami!# an) $%ien)s $o% honou%ing m# e!o&e) Jane# *ith #ou% -%esen"e he%e tonight,

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