The Confidence SkyScraper

The Confidence Skyscraper
by The Confidence Magnet
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Table Of Contents Part I. 1. Introduction 2. What Is Confidence? 3. Ste s To Success !. "on#t $% ect &ire'or(s ). *uild +our Self,$stee- .i(e / S(yscra er Part II. 0. / 1e' Way of Thin(ing 2. 3e4ection /nd &ailure56o' To .o7e The8. .osing +our Identity 9. Confidence &or 1o 3eason 1:. Conclusion
Introduction This eBook can be considered a philosophy book, a manual, or better yet...a blueprint to build your self-esteem like a skyscraper. You will feel an avalanche of confidence flow upon you to the point that it's unfair why you haven't figured this out years ago . et me put out a disclaimer! I am not a guru or specialist in the area of human psychology and I am not making any guarantees that the methods and ideology in this eBook will work, but what will happen is you will learn something and you will be entertained. Your success or failure is totally on you. "hat this product attempts to do is take the average person and help them build their confidence to the point that they improve any area of their lives. The principles, once applied on a consistent basis, could actually turn you into a whole new person. The #uestion is are you ready to make the change$ %re you ready to go from who you are now to who you want to be$ If you are ready to do that then you definitely need to keep reading. "hat I focus on in this eBook is how to change your mentality on being a confident person. &ost people think that confidence is all about having it all and being good-looking with fame and fortune. You could have that if that's the route you want to take, but in this book we don't focus on that. "e focus on building your self-esteem to the point that you are not faking being confident but you are 'ust being yourself and people will say, (You are full of yourself) with a smile because they like the way your confidence shines through and how certain you are in yourself. But first I'm gonna ask you a #uestion!
"hat Is *onfidence$
Most people would answer this by saying something like: A person who is rich A man who has beautiful women all around him A person who is talented A person who is successful in everything
Let me give you a simple answer: Confidence is a trust and love you have for yourself. If you trust someone you can tell them things in confidence . If you love someone! you are confident or trust that this person has your best interests. A simple definition but we sometimes lack confidence because we lack trust and love within ourselves. Look at all of your favorite actors"entertainers who lost their lives to drugs or suicide. #hey had the fame! the money! the talent! the fans! but there was something missing. #hey figured out that fame and fortune is not always the path to happiness. $uccess does not always e%uate happiness and confidence. If you have success! but no happiness it&s kinda pointless because you want your success to bring 'oy to your life. It&s kinda like what came first the chicken or the egg( )hat comes first! confidence or success( If you want to be truly happy you have to love yourself first before you can have love for others or have others love you. #he word respect must be applied as well. $elf*respect is so important. If you don&t respect yourself! you may put any garbage into your body. If you don&t respect yourself then others will find it almost impossible to respect you. #his is one of the reasons why people can&t find true happiness...lack of respect either self*respect or respect from others. If you were to enforce respect! then you would find more happiness in the way others treat you. +oors would open up almost automatically and all you have to do is walk through. ,espect must
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be top priority if you want to have 'oy in your life. If you are not getting the things you want! don&t sacrifice your self*respect for success or material things. -ou will only find that those things are not the path to your happiness. #he true path is having inner confidence and self* respect. Confidence and self*respect )ILL bring you happiness because others will treat you the way you want to be treated! you will love and trust yourself! and you will get what you want out of life...happiness. $uccess alone is not the path to happiness! but only a by*product of happiness. Confidence alone does not bring success. )ith the help of this e.ook! you will learn how to bring the two together so you can have true happiness.
+teps To +uccess
.efore you can become a success you have to learn the steps to success. If you don&t know the steps then you will miss the whole point. $uccess! as I said before! is not the way to true happiness all the time! but success can bring confidence if it is something that you truly want out of life. If you set out to do something! and are not successful! then it can break your confidence. In later chapters I will show you the mentality to have when setback come up in your life. Anyway! when you succeed in something that you set out to do! it brings 'oy and motivates you to keep going. Lack of motivation is the reason why there are fewer successes in this world. Mediocrity is the norm and following your dreams is kind of looked down upon. /or e0ample! if you want to become a musician! people that care about you most will tell you things like! 1et a real 'ob or 2uit dreaming . #he mediocre thing to do is get a 'ob. 3obs are a sure way to make money but it may not bring you 'oy or serve a purpose but pay a few bills. +reams are more uncertain but if you reach them then they can bring you so much meaning and 'oy. Another thing about dreams are they can sometimes become nightmares. )hen this happens it&s not always a bad thing. All this means is it&s time to learn how to deal with the reality of your dream. 4eople think that once you become rich and famous that all your problems will go away! but that&s when you have a new set of problems that you need to learn how to handle. #he better you handle these problems the better you will en'oy your life as a rich and famous person. As the saying goes! More money! more problems ! but if you learn how to handle or solve those problems you will see the rewards are far greater than the problems that came with them. I think we are getting ahead of ourselves! this chapter is not about being a rich and famous and the 'oy it can bring. 5o! this chapter is about steps to being a success in whatever you do. ,emember! we
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all have different paths in our lives that is why this template can be applied anywhere you want to do. #he first step is a ma'or step because once you do this step it kind of lets the other steps slide into place. -ou must et ,o of -ast Interpretations of .ailure and .laws. #here are going to be bad times in our lives that we think failures is a guarantee. And to be honest it is! but it is how we look at the failure that determines if we will be successful or not. #hat is why you have to let go of the interpretation you are giving that failure. If you start your own business and you are not getting a profit in one year! you may take that as being a failure and you may %uit! but someone else may say to themselves! what else do I need to learn so I can make a profit consistently( . )hen you ask yourself that %uestion you will find your answer because your brain will go to work. In #ony ,obbins book! A)A675 #87 1IA5# )I#8I5! he talks about %uestions being the answer. #his is true! if we have a bad e0perience we could ask ourselves victimi9ed %uestions such as!why me( or we can ask empowering %uestions that will help us with a solution such as! 8ow can I learn from this( . In both %uestions your brain will go to work and look for the answer. .e careful in what %uestions you ask yourself. -ou want to increase the chances of your success by asking empowering! constructive %uestions. #he way to build confidence in yourself is to learn and move on. If someone beat you in competition! you need to learn what they did that beat you and what you did that allowed you to get beaten. If you&ve learned from the e0perience! you will be more aware of how to do something and how not to do something. Most of our lack of confidence comes from lack of trust. 7ither ourselves or someone else. :ne reason for lack of trust is because we put ourselves in a certain situation that made us fail or get harmed. If you&ve ever failed at something numerous times! you will find it hard
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to trust your own 'udgment. #hat is why you have to let go of past negative interpretations of your failures and flaws and also .orgive The -erson or /vent That *aused The 0amage. In most cases we have to forgive ourselves because we lack the trust we need to succeed. If you put yourself in a compromising situation such as someone violating you! it may take longer to get over but you must. If you can&t forgive yourself then you will never trust yourself in compromising situations. It&s funny how we can have more confidence in others than we have in ourselves. In certain situations it&s called for if the person is trained in something that we are not such as a specialist. .ut in other situations it&s in situations where there is an even playing field. If you are capable of doing something that another person is then you need to trust yourself as well. If that other person knows more than you; learn from that person. #hen know that you can do better than you&ve done before. $ometimes success is all about timing. )e are not ready to be successful because we wouldn&t know how to handle it. If someone made you an owner of a billion*dollar company with no business e0perience! you may run that business into the ground. )e wouldn&t know how to succeed in success for long. #hat is why your failure is better in the beginning. If you struggle in the beginning! you will notice that it won&t be much of a struggle later on. 3ust like e0ercise! your muscles and lungs have to struggle in the beginning so it won&t be much of a struggle later on. .elieve it or not but we are being tested every day of our waking lives. I don&t care if you are in school or not...life always gives you a pop %ui9. And the only way you can truly learn from anything is by earning .rom /1perience or The /1periences of 2thers. I&m not saying aim for failure but if it comes your way! learn from it.. #rial and error is one way to learn or you can learn how someone else failed or succeeded. )hen you do this you are actually accelerating your success rate. If I were a successful businessman and told you to do e0actly as I did and made it simple and doable! you could have the same success. -ou may not get it instantly but it takes the guesswork that trial and error brings.
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)hen someone sets out to do great things they sometimes don&t know where to start. #hat is why you must 3ave % -ositive -lan .or +uccess. If you want to be a doctor there are certain things you need to do to reach that goal. If you want to have a herd of hot women chasing you! you have to have a plan for that as well. -ou need to learn a few things and you have to have a new attitude or mindset that goes with what you set out to do. -ou cannot have the mentality It&s too hard or It&ll take forever . #hat&s the great thing about a positive plan. It actually makes things easier for you. .efore you know it! you may find that you succeeded in a shorter time than you thought. .elief is something that is all in the mind. $ometimes evidence or lack of evidence doesn&t even shake a belief. #he concept of 1od or a 8igher power is ingrained into the world&s mind. 5o one has ever seen 1od <even though some claim to have=! but they still believe he e0ist. )hy( .ecause they and the world has learned since they were born that there is a god. )hy can&t you have that same faith in yourself. )hy can&t you say that I am a success even though the evidence doesn&t show...yet( $omething like this you don&t have to broadcast to the world if there is no evidence. 3ust know it within yourself. #hat brings me to the fifth step 3ave %n 4nshakable Belief That +uccess Is % 0efinite -ossibility. $o what makes you a success( )ell! you are a success because it starts in your head first. +o you know that rich and poor is all a state of mind( Let me elaborate on this one: You have two people--one with millions in his bank account and the other with knowledge in his head. The one with the big bank may spend everything in a matter of years but the one that has only knowledge may be building his wealth at the same time. You may come to a point where the man with a lot of money may be broke and the other may be wealthy. Why? State of mind, baby. In order for you to be a success you have to know that success is in
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your reach if you do certain things to get to it. I&m not saying say that you are a success without putting in some work. 8ell no> $uccess is a 'ourney not a movie or book you read. $uccess is a path that must be taken. -ou have to learn a few things before you start your 'ourney! while you are on your 'ourney! and when you have reached your destination. #hat is why %ction is the most important step. In order to make things work! you have to add fuel and power to it. -ou have to get ideas and put those ideas into action. If not then you are 'ust delusional. -ou are no better than the man who claims he is 1od when! in reality! he is 'ust some homeless man who is either drunk! high or 'ust plain cra9y. Action is how to you get from where you are to where you want to be. If you don&t take action then others will take actions for you and! in some cases! those actions aren&t in your best interests. I&m not saying that others helping you is bad but! without action! all you are doing is dreaming. #he thing about action is sometimes we take the wrong actions. )hy( .ecause we are human and we make mistakes. )e don&t have the guidance that we need in order to do things right. Tweak Your .laws and make a few ad'ustments here and there. $ome ad'ustments could be minor and some could be ma'or. In the dating community! being a nice guy is bad. If you are considered a nice guy then you need to tweak the parts about you that are repelling women. /or e0ample! you may let others take advantage of you. In this instance! be generous but don&t let others take your generosity as a weakness. $o instead of being known as the dreaded nice guy you will be known as a generous guy. )hen you tweak your flaws! you will reali9e that certain things don&t serve a purpose anymore. If you have an old typewriter! you don&t really need it anymore if you have a computer. If you have old ideas that served a purpose in the past! they may be hindering your success in the present. #hat&s when you discard those ideas and bring them back when the times ask for them. If you are in a place with no electricity! a typewriter will be an e0cellent tool. #he same thing with
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ideas. If you have ideas that made you money in the past you can bring back those ideas if it&s a time for them. Look at all those styles that were out twenty or thirty years ago that made a comeback. It&s all about timing. $uccess isn&t 'ust about reaching a destination on a 'ourney...it&s all about ,rowth. )hen we take our first steps as a child we are reaching a new stage of development. )hen we have a success in one area of our lives! we have growth. )hat was once a struggle is now manageable. )hat was once difficult is now easy. 1rowing is the part of success that changes us from novice all the way to e0pert. -ou see! it may not make you into instant e0pert! but you will get better at what you do. I love it when I was once struggling with something! later on I got back to it and it was a bree9e. ,emember when you were a kid and you lifted the milk 'ug and it felt like you were lifting a ?@*pound weight( If you were to lift a milk 'ug today it would feel way lighter. )hy is that( :ur muscles have grown and we have lifted things as heavy as the milk 'ug and heavier! that made the milk 'ug weight seem minor. $ame thing with some struggles in our lives. If we come across a problem a few times! our brain tends to find a way to either manage it or solve it. If you are having money problems! your brain <depending on your attitude= will find a way for you to either manage the money you already have or find a way for you to make more money. .y the way! money management is one of the best ways to solve money problems. If you are good at managing your money! you will spend it wisely. If you are having relationship problems your brain will tell you how to either solve the problem or manage it. +epending on what you do! this could make or break the relationship. ,elationships are very tricky because it is not 'ust about you but about the other person as well. $o if you are not compatible with the other person then you should find someone else before you go deeper into the relationship. It may hurt at first! but relationships are not 'ust about being with someone but being with someone that you are compatible with that loves and respect you.
#here is going to be a time in your life that you have mastery in a field or area of your life. 3ust like you were on a 'ourney! others are on the same 'ourney. )hen these people come across your path! you can now -ass 2n Your 5nowledge. )hen I say come across your path it may not be physically face*to*face. It may be through video! over the phone! or a book that you&ve written. )hen people have succeeded in an area of their lives and write a step*by*step guide! this is not only passing on knowledge but also a way to make big bucks. -ou will be rewarded some way for your efforts. It isn&t always money that we strive for when we pass on our knowledge. :ur egos need to be boosted from time to time. It&s okay...we&re human and every human being has some type of an ego. 3ust the feeling of knowing that -:A have passed on your knowledge so others can thank you and tell you how much success you have brought them is a giant ego booster. #hat&s why people always say! give me my props . If you don&t know what that means it means acknowledge the fact that I have done something that is valuable . )hy do you think men want to have sons( #hey want to pass on their wisdom to a mini*version of themselves. $o when they die! there will be another version of them still living. 5ow the last step is not really a step but more of a mentality to have during the whole process. )hen we set out to do something we are told that we should take it seriously. I agree and disagree. $erious as in stick with it! but don&t take it too serious that it is more of a chore or 'ob. #hat is why 3aving .un is so important. )hen you have fun with something it doesn&t matter how long it takes because time is no longer an issue. )hen we were kids we didn&t worry about our weight. )hen we played! we en'oyed ourselves! but not caring was what kept our weight in check. )e didn&t like to eat a lot but we couldn&t wait until it was time to play. )e have lost our fun factor due to growing up. )e have been conditioned to grow up and take things more serious. $o what did we do( )e made everything into a chore; losing weight! e0ercise! working at a 'ob we hate! and the list goes on. )e lost our imagination and our ability to make something boring into
something fun. )e need to reconnect with that inner child to become a true success. +on&t get me wrong! we still need to be mature! responsible adults! but we also need to have fun in our lives to keep that balance. If you were to go out and talk to beautiful women! don&t worry about them liking you! but 'ust have fun. -ou will get better results. If you find a way to make e0tra money doing what you love and is fun to do! then you will be more successful at that than trying to get promoted at a 'ob that you hate. $o let&s recap: B. Let 1o of 5egative Interpretations of 4ast /ailures and /laws. C. )e need to /orgive #he 4erson or 7vent #hat Caused #he +amage <that&s mentally! physically! financially! etc= D. Learn /rom 70perience either from ourselves or others ?. 8ave a 4ositive 4lan /or $uccess E. 8ave An Anshakable .elief #hat $uccess Is A +efinite 4ossibility F. #ake Action G. #weak :ur /laws H. 1row I. 4ass :n :ur 6nowledge B@.8ave /un #hroughout #he )hole 4rocess #he beauty about these steps is that it can be applied to anything you set out to do. If you are trying to overcome something! trying to ac%uire a skill! build a strong relationship! build a business! build wealth**it doesn&t matter. $o what I want you to do is copy these steps and put them in a place where you can refer to anytime things get rough. #he whole process could be instantaneous or it could take a lifetime! but it does work and it can be accelerated with a little e0tra help. :n to the ne0t chapter...
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0on't /1pect .ireworks

#he reason why confidence and success evades us is because we e0pect fireworks or magic as soon as we set out to do something. Life plays no favorites but you can have things go in your favor if you know how to align yourself in the right direction. If you want to be rich you cannot align yourself with poor people. -ou have to align yourself with rich people. If you want a swarm of women or men begging to be with you! you have to align yourself with attractive people. #his doesn&t always mean good*looking! rich! or the stereotype. It means align yourself with charismatic people! charming people! seductive people. )e as humans tend to be influenced whether we want to or not. If you hang around people who complain you will find yourself doing what they do...complain. If you are in an environment that is built for success! success will come easier. Is this always true( 5ot at all. As a matter of fact you may in fact do the opposite. #he thing is the influence needs to be invited first then it takes over. /or e0ample! if you grew up in a poor neighborhood all your life and you were so miserable that you decided that you want to become rich! you are going to re'ect anything that says broke . -ou may do it in a constructive way or a destructive way! but you will try to make your wishes come true. I think that this chapter is very important because it actually prevents you from %uitting. )hen you e0pect things to happen almost instantly! you are in for a rude awakening. #he reason why the get*rich*%uick market thrives is because people want to have instant success without going through the trials and tribulations. #he only get rich %uick scheme that works is good information about making a lot of money. Let me elaborate on that a bit. If you are learning how to sell or invest it may take months even years depending on your level. .ut once you learn how to sell or invest then you could possibly make millions in less than a year...sometimes even in days> #his isn&t going to be easy in the beginning though. 7specially if you work at a 'ob all your life
with no type of selling or investing skills. All your brain knows is how to make an hourly wage. )hen you learn how to sell or invest! your brain actually has to re*wire itself to succeed. #hat is why good information on how to sell and invest is so much more valuable than a get*rich*%uick scam. #he only people who get rich are the people selling you the product. #hey prey off of your ignorance to becoming rich. #hey are actually applying the skills needed to sell;finding a need! selling to people&s emotions! and so on and so fourth. #he story of love at first sight is so attractive to women. #hey hope to meet their prince charming someday with one of those moments. #his is pure fairy tale! storybook non*sense. In order to love someone you have to get to know them. )hat you are e0periencing <and I&m sorry to ruin this for you! but I&m not sorry= is lust! crush! fantasy! but not love. +o you know that there are people who study how to act and not act to attract people...even if it isn&t genuine. If you get out of your fantasy world for a moment and call it for what it is then you can actually get to find out if that person is worth your love. #his is the reason why you hear people say! you are not the person I met. -ou&ve changed . $ometimes this isn&t a change but a mask or facade that was put up to lure you in. #his is why you shouldn&t look for love in the first encounter. 8ell not even e0pect anything. If you like what you see then go up and to know the person first. #alk! hang out! have se0! or whatever you need to do to find out if you want to be with this person. And yes I added se0 because if you don&t have se0 early on you may not like the se0 when you have it later. In any relationship! lack of se0 or poor performance in se0 leads to problems. #his also means that you have to fi0 your flaws and work on yourself so you won&t be the problem in the relationship. )hen there are fireworks! en'oy them. #hat is the moment that things are going right. 7ven if it is in the beginning. 3ust know that you still need to keep learning and growing to keep the fireworks going. )hen things are not going the way you want them! don&t feel bad. 3ust like the seasons! most people like the heat but hate the cold! so when
$pring and $ummer comes along they en'oy it. I love the $pring and $ummer. #hat is the time of the year when I can go swimming <the $ummer! that is=! go outside with a t*shirt! women start wearing less showing off their nice bodies! and the list goes on. Anytime the /all and )inter comes! I don&t get depressed or lose my confidence. I 'ust dress to stay warm and look forward to the warm weather again. Life still goes on.
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Build Your +elf-/steem ike % +kyscraper

#here is one ma'or factor that affects our confidence and that is self* esteem;how we feel about ourselves. $omeone could be very talented but feel like they are worthless. Like I said success and confidence aren&t the same. If you want to be truly confident you must have a healthy high self*esteem. #his doesn&t mean be arrogant! but know that you are valuable no matter the outcome in your life. I want you to picture this for a second. It may be minor or it may be ma'or but it will help you see the worth that you already have so far. #hink of a time that you did something that helped someone out. #hink of something that you know that can actually helped someone&s life change for the better. It doesn&t matter how minor or ma'or it is 'ust think of it. )hat do you think would happen if you were not alive or born( #hat&s right these things would not have come to pass. -ou could say that someone else could have done it! but you are missing the whole point. 5o one else has done it...you did> 5ow let&s get on to the building of your self*esteem. )hen it comes to any type of architecture! there has to be a strong foundation. #he ground that it is actually build on has to be firm and leveled. #here can be no sinking or lopsidedness of your foundation. If there is it will compromise the whole building once it is erected <if you are thinking of a penis when I wrote erected get your mind out of the gutter=. Anyway! for a person to have a strong and lasting success full of happiness! they must have a strong solid foundation of who they are and what they want out of life. If someone tries to tell them that they can&t do something! they 'ust shrug it off and go about their business. )ill this be easy( 5ot always. +epending how strong your foundation is. $o how do you build a strong foundation( /irst clear your mind of any garbage that hinders your self*esteem. Anworthy thoughts must be eliminated as soon as possible. #his is like leveling the land getting it ready for the foundation and support.
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#he ne0t thing you do is start building your reinforcements. -ou want your reinforcements to be strong and durable. /or architecture! they use support beams made from strong steel beams. In building your self*esteem! you are going to need to have a strong belief that you can find happiness and success. It may not be evident at the time but we never know what the future holds. )hen you practice and act in a certain way that you want to be then something happens. -ou start to believe it as who you are and then it is a part of you. Let me e0plain. 5o one is something on their own. +octors are not born they are made. )hen you were a baby you did not know how to read! write! or your numbers. As you got older you went to school and you learned how to do these things. As far as being who you want to be you have to model the personality you want to have. #his could mean losing your identity and I will talk about that later on. As for right now you have to model the person you want to be. If you want go from a geek to super smooth you have to model and accept super smooth people. #he main reason why most aren&t successful with modeling is because they re'ect the very thing they want to be. If a fat woman sees a hot! slim woman what does she say about the slim woman( $he will have a dislike for this woman without even knowing who this woman is but in reality she wants to be like this woman;slim! getting attention from attractive guys! etc. If this is what you do then you need to stop immediately. As an e0ercise think of a behavior or personality you would like to have and model it. #his means practicing it until it feels natural. #his will be uncomfortable at first but you will start to get use to it and notice that it is now a part of -:A, personality. -our personality and behavior is like plumbing and electicity that powers and sends water to the many rooms in the building. Architectures all need a solid well*built roof that will protect whatever is underneath it from rain and temperature. #his is the e%uivalent to your brain. -ou brain has the power to accept and re'ect whatever you give it. #he reason why you want your mind right is because that is the source of your self*esteem. If you have a bad day it sends a signal to your brain that sends a signal to the rest of your body and
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this affects your behavior or mood. If you have a good day the same thing happens. )hat you want to do is have the power to accept things that are beneficial to your life and re'ect what is nonsensical. .eneficial could be something that you may want to re'ect such as criticism. /or e0ample! if you want to be something and someone tells you that you are la9y and your actions show that you are la9y! then this could actually help you because they are addressing the problem by being honest with you. $omething that is nonsensical could be something that you en'oy doing but it is not helping you. In fact it could be the very thing that is destroying you. #o prevent this from happening you have to know who you are and what you want to become. If you are la9y and want to be successful in any field then you have to filet the la9y bones out your body. It may take getting use to but once you get use to it! it will be a part of you. -ou will be successful and have the balance of work! play! and rest. $elf*7steem and your brain is connected like you wouldn&t believe. -ou must have a strong foundation of who you are and what you want out of life. -ou have to have a strong belief that you have the power to make things happen and have 'oy and happiness in your life. )hen things get confusing it doesn&t hurt to learn from someone else. #his could be reading! watching videos! listening to audios! or even talking to someone who knows more and who has been through what you want to succeed. A high self*esteem keeps successful people happy. -ou have to be honest with yourself. -ou can&t be delusional. #ake the actions needed to bring 'oy to your life. +on&t look to others for approval and permission to feel good about yourself. $elf*esteem come from inside you.
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In part one we talked about the mentality to have. In the second part we are gonna focus more on the #ransformation. #his is the part where you have to have an open mind. It is about living instead of spectating. It&s about doing. -our new mindset should be an action* oriented mindset. -ou are like a scientist or researcher in this part of the the transformation. -ou will see what works and what doesn&t. If you lack confidence approaching someone you like! then you must learn how to approach. Approaching gets easy if you know what to do and what not to do. If you want to start your own business! you have to learn how to be a business owner. :wning a business will be a rude awakening if you are an employee! but you will see that owning a business can be ten times rewarding. #he list goes on. #here is information that I can give you and there is information that others have. #he internet has so much free information that you can learn anything in a short period of time for free. #here is also paid information. -ou know that there is good paid information and bad paid information. -ou will find things that is actually so helpful that you bought it at a bargain. In the ne0t few chapters I&m gonna share with you a new way of thinking that works like you wouldn&t believe. It will have your confidence go from @*F@ in G seconds. It may be hard to grasp at first because of your conditioning but if you give it a chance you will be happier even in times of failure. #hat&s right in times of failure> $peaking of failure...
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7e'ection %nd .ailure83ow To ove Them

.y the title of this chapter you may think that I am cra9y. )ho loves failure( )ho loves re'ection( )hy would I write such cra9y stuff( #he reason is that failure and re'ection is like a weight. #he more you get re'ected and the more you fail! the stronger you can become. /or e0ample! if you lift weights you will notice that you will reach a point that your muscles can&t take it anymore and tell you to stop. #his is the point of failure. #his is actually good failure because your muscles will be sore but they will repair themselves so you can lift again. After you do this a few times you will reali9e that the weight actually gets easier and you will do more reps. #he same thing can be applied to other things in your life. If you like someone and they re'ect you! this could be a message that you are not their type or you need to work on your approach. It may hurt but that 'ust means you need to get re'ected a few times so it will not hurt so much when it does happen. Another thing happens! you will learn how to attract people in a way that they will accept you for who you are. Confidence even when you fail or get re'ected actually builds your attraction to others. ,e'ection also could mean that something isn&t for you. -ou have to stop looking at the pretty wrapper and look at what&s inside the package. .eautiful people are very attractive but 'ust like everyone else they come with problems. $ometimes even more problems than you can handle. $ometimes beautiful people have lower self*esteem than an average person. +on&t believe me( Models are no strangers to drugs! anore0ia! bulimia! and other things so they can stay thin. #hey are relying solely on their appearance and what people think of them to feel good about themselves. If you take an average woman and put her side by side by a model! the model may look more beautiful! but the average woman may be someone who you can actually find yourself being in a better relationship with. #he thing is there are beautiful! average women> $ome are model*like but not actually models> It is your 'ob to open the package and see what&s
inside. #he same thing can be applied to sales. $elling can be very difficult if you are not use to the sales environment. -ou will hear B@@ no&s before you hear a yes . -ou will actually come to a point that you will hear so many no&s that you will say what&s the point( but something ama9ing happens when you continue! you learn how to take re'ection without feeling like a failure and also you will learn how to pull a yes more often. It&s a numbers game> )hen you hear a yes more often it adds to your sales ability and you will reali9e that selling actually is more rewarding than hourly wages. I&ll give you an e0ample: Let&s say you work eight hours a day. -ou make JB@ an hour. $omeone else sells items for JH a piece. :n a good day! let&s say that that person sells D items an hour and also works eight hours a day. )ho makes more money( -ou or the salesman( Let&s do the math: -ou: JB@ K Hhrs L JH@ gross a day $alesman: D K JH L JC? in one hourM JC? K H hrs. L JBIC gross a day -ou see the salesman works the same amount of hours but makes more than double what you make> Isn&t sales e0citing> All you would need to do is get over the re'ection and feelings of failure and learn how to sell products and you could probably make more than that. Let say that you sold something for JB@@ an item and sold three items an hour. I don&t think I need to do the math to show how much of an advantage sales has over hourly wages if you are good at it. ,e'ection and failure makes you stronger as time goes by. It may not seem that way in the beginning but it does get easier to handle and actually helps you with your success! but <and this is a big but=! you have to ask yourself how can you become successful and what is it that you can improve to get you to reduce the re'ection and increase your success rate. #his will put your brain to work and you will actually find a solution when you do this. ,e'ection and failure! if
asked the right %uestions! e0ercises your brain to make it stronger and help you find solutions. #here are gonna be times when you want to give up because there is so much re'ection in your life. #hat is when I give you the advice to rest and restart. -ou can never do something with frustration on your brain and e0pect to succeed if you don&t know how. It&s like finding your way in the dark you are gonna stumble and possibly bump into things! but once a light shines through the room! 'ust a little! it gives you a better vision on where to go. )hen you don&t know what to do you will stumble and fail but once you learn how to handle it and overcome it you will be better than you once were. Learn to love re'ection the way a bodybuilder loves his weights.
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osing Your Identity

I mention in an earlier chapter that once you start to have a new mindset it will be like you are losing your identity. .ut what kind of identity do you want( $ometimes you think that you will lose your friends if you change who you are. If you start to stand up for yourself you may think that people will not like you anymore. Let me ask you! if this person cared about you! would they want you to be taken advantage of( $ome people love to act like they have your best interests but only if it benefits them. #hat is why you have to treat yourself like you are the most important person who has ever walked this earth. #hat is your new identity. )hat do important people do( /irst off they respect themselves and command that respect in others. #hey are valuable to others. )hat makes the owner of a /ortune E@@ company! or any company at that! so important( #his person is the one who directs where the company can go. A business is like a machine. It has people work like gears and if one gear is not working it can actually compromise the whole machine. #he owner of the company is like the owner of the machine. 8e hires people to make sure his machine is running smoothly and if anything goes wrong! he let&s them solve the problem. -our world is like a machine and you have to make sure it runs smoothly. -ou have to direct your world in the direction you want it to go. -ou will find people along the way that can help you the way a manager helps the boss run things on the sales floor. As an important person respect is your core aim in life. 4eople could say they love you to death but if they don&t respect you then you need to either earn it or leave them alone. $ome people aren&t capable of respecting anybody. #hese are the people you stay away from. ,espect comes from having a high self*esteem. If you are poor or your status is low right now then you need to build up your status by going through certain things to bring it up. 3ust like being promoted at a 'ob;as you get promoted! you get a raise! you get more power and
where there is power a certain amount of respect comes with it. -ou don&t want to be respected solely off of your position you hold in a company! but you also want to respected because you are a person worth respecting. -ou don&t want people respecting you 'ust because you have a lot of money! are stronger than them! etc. 5o! you want people to respect you because it is mandatory when dealing with you. Confidence bring respect and when people respect you! then you work on the love part. Love is nothing without respect. If someone loves you but has no respect for you then you will be very miserable and unhappy with that love. It wouldn&t be true love! but love 'ust because that person has some type of association to you. /or e0ample! friends! family! significant other! etc. -ou want people to respect you first! like the important person you are! and then let the love come after. 8ow can this be done( #his is done by raising your standards of what you will accept and what you will not accept. )hen you raise your standards there are gonna people who will love you and there will be people who hate you. Is this your problem( As long as! while you are raising your standards you are not bringing others down to build yourself up! then you shouldn&t worry about haters. 8aters are the most miserable people because they hate for no reason sometimes. Anyway! when you raise your standards you will want people to address you in a certain way. #his doesn&t mean them calling you sir or madam ! but they can&t talk to you like you are beneath them. -ou will tell! with your actions! that you are on their level or have an edge over them. -ou never want to put anyone on a pedestal! but if someone needs your help you want to give them a boost. #his means that you will want to help others raise their standards but you will not treat others like you are not worthy. )hen you lose you identity! you are not losing who you are! you are unveiling the person that you want to be. If someone is has a reputation for being nice then that person may take being nice as who they are. It will become their identity. 5ow let&s say that someone
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angers them! and they decide that it is hard for them to be nice. 8ow do you think this person will feel. #hat&s right! like they would lose their identity if the weren&t nice in this situation. #he thing is we are all humans with different emotions and anger happens to be an emotion that we have. 5ow does this mean you walk around angry all the time( 5o. +oes it mean that you walk around with a smile all the time( 5o. It means that we will have days that we are not smiling and we will have days that it will be hard for us not to smile. +on&t let people tell you what your identity is. /ind your own identity. Make sure it is something that you will be happy with. .e like the wind. -ou will have your cool bree9es and you will have your storms. 4eople think that if they are not one way all the time that they are losing their identity. #hat is why you have people who are always serious and try not to let others see them smile. :r it could go the other way. -ou have people that are always happy and try not to let others see them angry. .alance is something that we need to have in our lives. .alance keeps us sane. Imagine if someone died that you cared about and you were telling yourself to be happy in a time like this. #his was an e0treme e0ample but my point was that you are not gonna be one way all the time. )ith all I have said you will need to keep others opinions of you as feedback. -ou don&t want to feel down on yourself if someone calls you weak. -ou ask yourself! how am I giving off a weak vibe( .ecause guess what( )hen you give off a weak vibe people will not respect you like if you were to give off a strong vibe. ,espect has to have a slight element of fear in it for it to be effective. #his doesn&t mean bodily harm or danger fear! but fear could be something as simple as not wanting to disappoint a good person. It&s funny how if someone you truly care about were to tell you that you disappoint them could hurt more than someone punching you in the face. #he pain of being punched in the face will go away after a while but disappointment could linger for years. $o I&m not saying use fear tactics but 'ust be aware how others perceive you. If it will compromise the respect they show then you need to check something about you
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that is weak or not getting you the respect you want. -our new identity will give you...
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Like I said in an earlier chapter being rich and poor is a state of mind. -ou are going to want to have the mindset of a rich person to become rich and you are going to avoid poor person&s thoughts and actions on money. #he same thing for confidence. Confidence is a state of mind because it is a trust and love you have for yourself. -ou will want to avoid thoughts of distrust and self*hatred to be a confident person. #hat brings me to the title Confidence /or 5o ,eason. 8ow can you be confident for no reason you may ask( )ell! it comes from building your self*esteem like a skyscraper like we&ve mentioned and have the foundation and support that you will succeed because your mind is right and you will walk the path of the confident people. Confident people have their days when they doubt themselves but this doubt is very short term. It is a doubt that a person has when they have never done something. #hey will still have the confidence that they will learn it once they are taught! but they will doubt themselves because they don&t know anything yet. )hen you have confidence for no reason you will see how others treat you. #hey will treat you like you are more valuable than you really think you are. )ill they be disappointed if you are not successful in what you set out to do( 5ot really because they know that you are not confident because of what you do! but you are confident because it is who you are. #hink of my point like this. )e have all been to the doctor and we know that doctors don&t know everything but we still give them the benefit of the doubt because they are doctors. It is what they do. If you are a confident person! you don&t have to be successful at everything! you 'ust have to know that you are valuable and a person that deserves respect. #his is not the same as having an entitlement mentality. -ou aren&t telling people to give you respect without you giving it back. -ou want to aim for mutual respect. -ou respect others and they respect you. If they don&t then you let them know that! with you! respect is a privilege and it can be taken away 'ust like any
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privilege. #his is the way you start having confidence for no reason. Adopt the mindset that you are valuable. 7veryday learn something new. #his isn&t to brag or show off but to add value to yourself. )ho is more valuable in a company! a person that knows one language or more than one( #hat is what you are going to do. -ou are going to learn as much as possible so as you get older you will be more confident than you are now. -ou also have to have the mindset that you are an important person who deserves love and respect. ,emember that respect must be established first. If you want to have love then respect has to be there. )ithout it you don&t have true love! but love by association. I mentioned that success doesn&t always bring confidence and happiness. If you are confident already then when you are successful it will add to your confidence which will bring you more success. It will be an upward spiral and this upward spiral can bring happiness. #o be good at something or have mastery in something it does take time. -ou are not going to know every word in the dictionary but you can learn thousands of words throughout the years. -ou are not going to have super confidence the first time you do this but each year you will have more confidence than the previous year. If you were to take a dilemma that you are having and work on it for a year you will get to master your emotions and possibly be able to solve a big chunk of that dilemma. If you are poor now and you wanted to become rich! the first thing you would do is learn what you need to do to make e0tra money. -ou could put up a website for profit! have a little table! booth or store where you sell stuff! invest! etc. #his is when you have to learn what it is you are doing. -ou are going from employee to business person"investor. In a year you could learn a lot but have no money to show for it. #he ne0t year! you could make a small profit! the year after you could make more than you made the previous year until one day you are richer than anyone you know. It&s called stacking. )hen you stack ideas that work and put them to use then
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you will get good results. If someone is shy then the first thing they have to do is start doing simple things like saying hello or having a few seconds or minutes of small talk. As the years go by you may be able to give a speech in a stadium full of people. -ou&ll be surprised what you can accomplish in D@ days. Let&s say for e0ample you are shy and you want to have beautiful women asking -:A out on dates. )hat is the first thing you learn( 4ick up lines( 5o. #ricks and strategies( 5o. -ou first learn your strengths and weaknesses. #he more you know what to work on and what you can use to your advantage! the more success you will have. #hen you start off 'ust saying a simple hi to the chicks that make you feel shy and nervous around. If you do this and get comfortable with it you can start asking their name! having a few seconds of small talk on something that they are reading! doing! eating"drinking! etc. After you feel comfort in that then you start getting into longer conversations and getting a little personal. #hen you can start asking for phone numbers! email addresses! social network! etc. #hen after you are comfortable with this then you can start hanging out. #hen start getting physical with each other. 4retty soon you will be able to have chicks asking you out and wanting to get with you because you are always in the company or talking to attractive women. All of this because of a simple hello. 5ow how long will this take( Could take days! months or even years but the thing is it will happen if you work at it. #hat is the reason why you should have confidence for no reason because you will start to have the attitude that when you set out to do something! success is inevitable.
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I hope you&ve en'oyed this e.ook and I hope that it brings you tons of success in your life. Confidence is something that can be attained once you adopt a few principles and work on yourself in the process. It&s not always about gaining but sometimes it&s about losing;losing the bullshit that&s holding you back. Let me share a few links with you so you can continue moving in the right direction: Nisit #he $ite: http:""confidencemagnet.com /ollow Me :n #witter: http:""twitter.com"magnetradio I plan on giving you nothing but the best on a consistent basis so you&ll increase your confidence 'ust a little on a daily basis. #hanks /or ,eading And #ake Care! My /riend>
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