7 Mistakes Funeral Directors Make with

Facebook
May 18, 2009

It seems like Funeral Directors are going “Facebook Crazy” – every day I am receiving friend
requests from Funeral Directors and seeing Funeral Homes creating profiles, pages, and groups.

The problem is that I see a ton of mistakes being made – most inadvertently because there is not
a lot of direction and guidance available on HOW to use Facebook properly for the Funeral
Industry.

There is no Best Practices for Funeral Homes and Facebook (not yet anyway) but I have been
really digging deep into what IS the best way for funeral directors to harness the power of
Facebook from a Relationship & Loyalty Building (Marketing) strategy without crossing the line
of doing business in a social community.

You have heard me say it before – and this won’t be the last time – the funeral industry is a
“relationship business” where people serve people and buildings, cars, and merchandise are
secondary. When my Great-Grandfather started the undertaking business, and my Grandfather
took it over – they built it on building relationships within their community. They did this by
being involved in various networks of the day – Church, Lodge, Rotary, Town Council, etc.
Fast forward 75 years and networks within communities are still very important – they may be
the same networks as they used to be or may be different ones.
Even though Facebook is a virtual community, it is growing faster than any other network of
people in your community. Let’s take a look at some of the numbers (Source
CheckFacebook.com as of May 18, 2009 – pretty current eh!):
Global Audience: 192,406,840

1. United States 60,989,380

2. United Kingdom 17,839,940
3. Canada 11,443,520
4. Turkey 9,531,440
5. France 9,510,400
6. Italy 9,424,120
7. Australia 5,599,000
8. Colombia 4,568,280
9. Chile 4,504,560
10. Spain 4,478,380

United States Age Distribution:

• 18 – 24: 30.6% (18,338,140)

• 25 – 34: 27.6% (16,535,280)
• 35 – 44: 17.7% (10,592,180)
• 14 – 17: 10.2% (6,089,780)
• 45 – 54: 8.4% (5,023,380)
• 55 – 65: 3.6% (2,164,420)
• 65+: 1.4% (861,340)
• 0 – 13: 0.6% (348,340)

The 55 and over crowd have over 3 million

members in the US. For perspective if this group
of 55+ Facebook users were a city – it would be
the 3rd largest between LA and Chicago.

One last thing before I get into the 7 Mistakes Funeral Directors make with Facebook is that
there are more females on Facebook than men:

• Females: 57.4% (34,657,940)

• Males: 42.6% (25,677,840)

We know women make more buying decisions than men and we have also been told that women
regard relationships as very important (hopefully us guys have figured that out by now).

7 Mistakes Funeral Directors Make with Facebook

1. Not On Facebook Yet: Sign Up For Facebook
o Please see the stats above – if you’re not on Facebook yet, I included those stats
for you – don’t worry, it’s not too late, sign up today
 o When you do sign up, please add me as a friend: http://profile.to/robinheppell/
2. Non-Passionate Status Updates: “Monday again, Hump Day, TGIF, Work Sucks” plus
others that I can’t repeat
o I know that it’s not all about work, but as funeral professionals we are always in
the public eye – even online; keep the venting to private conversations – you
never know if a family member can see your status even when your privacy
settings are set
3. Not Showing Families How to Add Obits to Their Profile: Let family members
promote your online obits to their Facebook community
o Whether you have a Facebook profile or not you can harness the power of
Facebook to drive traffic to your online obituaries by teaching families how to
add their loved one’s obit into their profile so that all of their friends can see it,
and then go to your site to leave a condolence
o When I look at my clients’ Google Analytics (website stats) I am amazed that
Facebook is usually in the Top 5 Referrers category
o Sample from McCallBros.com: Add An Obituary To Facebook
4. Creating a PROFILE for the Funeral Home instead of a PAGE: Profiles are for
People and Pages are for Businesses
o If you have your Profile as your Funeral Home and not you personally, here’s
what you do:
 Create a Profile under your Personal name and once you have built up
your profile, then invite all of the Friends from the first profile to your
new one
 Create a Page under the Funeral Home name and copy all of the pertinent
information over – then once it is established you can start to invite people
to become a “Fan”
5. Not “Claiming” your Memorable Web Address for your Profile and Business Page:
Do not let your competitor “Claim Your Name”
o Here are my Memorable Web Addresses:
 Robin Heppell (Profile): http://profile.to/robinheppell/
 FuneralFuturist.com (Page): http://companies.to/funeralfuturist/
6. Having A “Profile” Picture that is Too STIFF: Is your profile picture with you in your
“Stripes” or other Funeral Attire?
o You want to connect with your “Community” – the more they can relate to you
(as a parent, spouse, soccer coach, etc.) the better – could you change your picture
so that you could be “more like them?”
o NOTE: “But Hepp, your profile picture is you in a suit!” Exactly – see the
previous bullet point – … connect with ‘your’ community
7. Do Not Actively Build Your Friend List: The more people that you can connect with in
your community, the better – it will not hurt you to have too many friends on Facebook –
well, until you hit the maximum of 5,000
o Here are 3 ways to grow your “Friends” list:
 Upload your “Contacts” from your Outlook or Outlook Express
 View the Friends of the Most Popular people in your community and “Add
as Friend” if you think that it is appropriate to do so
  Search Groups and Fan Pages for Local Organizations like Chamber of
Commerce, Rotary, Church Groups, etc.
o NOTE: Just a little bit of advice – create Lists to segment your Friends such as
Family, School Friends, Funeral Peers, [Your Town's Name] Connections, etc.
You will thank me later.

I hope that this gets you going on the right track with your Facebook experience. I have received
a lot of feedback from my Newsletter subscribers about their thoughts regarding Facebook which
I will go into a little deeper later this week – stay tuned!

…Hepp

PS: What are your thoughts on Facebook and the Funeral Industry? Have you had any successes
(or secure any calls) as a result of Facebook? Please share your thoughts below…