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how particular facts should be valued. In cases such as this, we necessarily turn to more emotional language. While arguing about facts typically requires that we try to stay away from such emotional language, arguing about attitude will require that we focus on it. Sometimes an interest in winning an argument can prevent people from seeing that their similarities may be stronger than their differences. Whether disagreeing about facts or attitudes, it can be very helpful in the long run to try to focus on areas of agreement first foremost. Areas of agreement may provide a foundation to build on so that those who are arguing can work towards a goal they share in common rather than the common goal of winning at the expense of the other. Establishing areas of agreement can also help people find out if their disagreements are deeper than they suspected. Sometimes people will spend a lot of time arguing over what appear to be the real issues when, ultimately, disagreement on those issues can be traced back to disagreement over much more fundamental premises. Disagreement over whether God exists, for example, might be traced back to a more fundamental disagreement over whether authority and faith can provide knowledge that is as or more certain than reason and science. Finally, looking out for areas of agreement can also help determine whether there is a genuine disagreement in the first place. Sometimes people think that they disagree about something when they dont. Common causes of this include misunderstanding how someone is using key terms, misuse of key terms, and even natural ambiguity in language itself. Sadly, it is all too common for people to become engrossed in a long debate which never would have occurred had they realized early on that they were using basic terms in completely different ways. Had that been made clear at the beginning, both the debate and the ensuing hard feelings could have been prevented. This is why it is often so important to stop and define basic premises and terminology before entering into an argument: you cant very easily argue about whether God exists, for example, unless everyone involved as a clear understanding as to what they mean by God in the first place. You also cant have a productive argument about whether, say, pornography should be legal or not unless everyone involved is defining pornography in the same manner.
In summary, arguments involve or at least are supposed to involve people who disagree about some matter and who are seeking to arrive at some form of agreement. If that is the case, then reaching that goal requires a clear understanding about where the disagreements lie and what sorts of disagreements there really are. Understanding those matters will allow the argument to be productive and useful rather than simply a contest over who argues best. Expressing Agreement or Disagreement for Constructive Dialogue2 Good dialogue, although challenging, is incredibly thought provoking and interesting. It helps us learn about ourselves, others, and this complex world. The sentence starters below can help participants formulate input in dialogue. Agreement (and continuing the dialogue) 1. The point you made about .. is excellent. Id like to add that 2. I agree with your comment . What do you think about? 3. Im with you on that point. What I still wonder about is. 4. I think what youre saying about. is so right. What would happen though if? 5. Yes, and in fact. 6. Yes, and what is more 7. Absolutely. Actually, I would go further, and say Partial Agreement 1. I agree with, but what about .? 2. Thats a good point, but in my opinion. 3. That could apply in some situations, but what about when.? 4. I understand your point about, but I dont understand.. 5. Its certainly true that, but on the other hand. 6. I can see that., but I think its also important to consider. 7. That makes sense, but could it also be true that. 8. Id agree with you if., but not if 9. I see what you mean with, but I also think we need to consider.
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Constructive Disagreement 1. I can appreciate your point about, but I would disagree because. 2. Thats interesting, however, from my point of view. 3. That may be the case, but in my experience.. 4. Im afraid I cant agree with because .. 5. I disagree. What about the situations where? 6. I dont think thats the case because . 7. Im not so sure about that because 8. I dont think your point aboutnecessarily follows because 9. I dont really see it that way because. Things to Avoid 1. Avoid using words like never and always. This type of language can easily lead to arguments about the wrong thing, and take a discussion completely off track. 2. Avoid expressing disagreement without explaining why or supporting your point. In a discussion, if you are going to disagree, it is only fair to explain why you disagree. 3. Avoid criticizing the person who made the comment. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Just because someone thinks differently doesnt make them better or worse than you. Sticking to comments about ideas keeps the dialogue interesting and avoids making it personal. Argument and Debate Quotes3 "I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don't even invite me." --Dave Barry "The sounder your argument, the more satisfaction you get out of it." --Edward W. Howe
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"The fellow that agrees with everything you say is either a fool or he is getting ready to skin you." get under your skin --Kin Hubbard "It is better to debate a question without settling it than to settle a question without debating it." --Jeseph Joubert "I have never in my life learned anything from any man who agreed with me." --Dudley Field Malone "He who establishes his argument by noise and command shows that his reason is weak." --Michel De Montaigne "There is no conversation more boring than the one where everybody agrees." --Michel De Montaigne "You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." --John Morley "A man never tells you anything until you contradict him." --George Bernard Shaw