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Compersion
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Compersion is an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy. It is sometimes identified with parents' pride in their children's accomplishments or one's own excitement for friends' and others' successes. It is commonly used to describe when a person experiences positive feelings when a lover is enjoying another relationship. It is an opposite of jealousy.
Formal definitions
PolyOz defines compersion as "the positive feelings one gets when a lover is enjoying another relationship. Sometimes called the opposite or flip side of jealousy." They comment that compersion can coexist with jealous feelings.[5]
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The Polyamory society defines compersion to be "the feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves, especially taking joy in the knowledge that your beloveds are expressing their love for one another."[1] The InnKeeper defines compersion as "A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. ... Compersion does not specifically refer to joy regarding the sexual activity of one's partner, but refers instead to joy at the relationship with another romantic and/or sexual partner. It's analogous to the joy parents feel when their children get married, or to the happiness felt between best friends when they find a partner."[6] From Opening Up, Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio writes that compersion is, in part, "the ability to turn jealousy's negative feelings into acceptance of, and vicarious enjoyment for, a lover's joy." (p. 175)
Related terms
The adjective frubbly and the noun frubbles are sometimes used, in the poly community in the United Kingdom and the United States, to describe the feeling of compersion.[7] These terms are more suited to cheerful, light-hearted conversation, and they are more grammatically versatile, for example: "I'm feeling all frubbly" and "Their relationship fills me with frubbles".[8] Schadenfreude is generally considered to be the antonym of compersion.[citation needed]
See also
Mudita (Pali or Buddhist term for "sympathetic joy") Naches (Yiddish for "pleasure, especially from children or grandchildren")
References
1. ^ a b "Polyamory Society Glossary" (http://www.polyamorysociety.org/glossary.html). Retrieved 2006-1226. 2. ^ a b c Anapol, Deborah M (1997). Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits. San Rafael, CA: IntinNet Resource Center. pp. 4964. 3. ^ Taormino, Tristan (2008). Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. San Francisco: Cleis Press, Inc. 4. ^ Easton, Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A. (1997) The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Greenery Press: San Francisco.
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5. ^ a b PolyOz | Compersion | Poly Terms and Concepts (http://polyoz.net.au/component/glossary/Poly-Terms-and-Concepts1/C/Compersion-5/) 6. ^ InnKeeper, Joreth. "The Inn Between" (http://www.theinnbetween.net/polyterms.html). 7. ^ Alexander, Steven (2005-04-04). "Free love gets a fit of the wibbles" (http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk_news/story/0,,1451809,00.html). Guardian Unlimited. Retrieved 2006-07-05. 8. ^ Ritchie, Ani & Barker, Meg (2006). "There arent words for what we do or how we feel so we have to make them up: Constructing polyamorous languages in a culture of compulsory monogamy." (http://oro.open.ac.uk/17260/). Sexualities, vol 9, no 5: 584601.
External links
The dictionary definition of compersion at Wiktionary
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