WORKBOOK

A LIFE THAT COUNTS

JEREMY ROLLESTON
Two-time Olympian Jeremy Rolleston invites you to join the inner circle and learn the secrets behind the success of ten famous Australians. Lydia Lassila, Dick Smith, James Tomkins, Gai Waterhouse, Louise Sauvage, Matthew Burke, Matt Shirvington, Michael Milton, Jason Stevens, Alexandra Croak.
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Published in 2011 by Rollo Publishing www.jeremyrolleston.com Also distributed by The Scribo Group Equinox Centre, 18 Rodborough Road Frenchs Forest NSW 2086 Australia

Jeremy Rolleston, 2011 The moral right of the author has been asserted. This book is sold subject to the condition that it will not, by way of trade or otherwise, be lent, re-sold, hired out or otherwise circulated without the publishers prior consent in any form of binding or cover other than that which it is published in and without a similar condition being imposed on the subsequent purchaser. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher.

To everyone whos inspired me to be all I can be and to live a life that counts. May this workbook help do the same for you.

Text by Jeremy Rolleston Edited by Deb Doyle, Living Proof Book Editing Workbook cover and interior designed by Imperial Metric (www.imperialmetric.tv) Printed and bound by Shenzhen Xinlian Artistic Printing Co., Ltd. National Library of Australia Cataloguing-in-Publication entry Author: Rolleston, Jeremy Title: A Life That Counts Workbook / Jeremy Rolleston ISBN: 978-0-9808577-2-6 (pbk.) Subjects: Motivation (Psychology) Success Successful people Australia Life Skills Dewey Number: 158

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CONTENTS
Introduction Chapter One Chapter Two Chapter Three Chapter Four Chapter Five Chapter Six Chapter Seven Chapter Eight Chapter Nine Chapter Ten Purpose driven Dare to dream Impossible is nothing removing limitations Understanding yourself the psychology Youve got to get it before you get it! The daily process It takes commitment The little voice Enjoying the journey To what end? ix 10 32 XX XX XX XX XXX XXX XXX XXX

INTRODUCTION
This is your book: for your dreaming; for your scribbling; for your reection; for recording your decisions and self-commitments; for writing down your goals; for changing your goals. Its the place for you to plan and chart your future course, the place for you to take steps to create the future you dream of. This book is about YOU; you are the main contributor to it. So go for it: have fun; dream like a child; scribble and write; ponder and decide; make commitments to take action and to start to do. This is your journey. My hope is that in publishing this workbook, I help bring to life everything I wrote about in A Life That Counts. However, the books usefulness and what difference it facilitates in your life will entirely depend on you and what you do right now, after youve turned this page. I wish you well. Dare to dream! Jeremy

There are many things that will catch my eye, but there are only a few that catch my heart. It is those things I consider to pursue Tim Redmond

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If you dont have a dream how are you going to make it come true? Oscar Hammerstein

You will never achieve anything great with a question mark above your head T.D. Jakes
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CHAPTER SUMMARY
> There are few things more crucial to us than our own life yet there are few things were less clear about, so its important and valuable to take time to explore the dreams we have for our life. > For many of us, our dreams have become so shrouded in the frustrations and routines of daily life that we no longer make an effort to accomplish them. Our dreams have dissipated, and with them, so has the will to shape our destiny. > Throughout history, all the great men and women weve admired were driven by purpose people such as Jesus Christ, Nelson Mandela, Bill Gates, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Ghandi, Christopher Columbus, Martin Luther King and Florence Nightingale. This longing to live with meaning and purpose resides deep down within each one of us, whether we recognise this or not. > When youre living with purpose rather than living aimlessly and taking whatever life throws at you, you have a grander vision and a bigger goal to propel you towards greater action. Youre energised, passionate and focused, and every morning when you get out of bed, youre fuelled by something worthwhile. You have a dream to inspire you, and youre compelled by meaning and purpose. Being purpose driven is a phenomenal place to live from and a great foundation for living a successful, exceptional and signicant life. > Each of us is so amazing and so uniquely amazing that we had to have been created with design and on purpose. This means youre no accident or random event; your life matters, and you were born and fashioned on purpose (with unique talents, gifts and capabilities) and for a purpose. This understanding is both the foundation and the impetus for wanting to explore your unique dreams and purpose. > Simply put, a dream is a desire or an aspiration you might have for a specic aspect of your life. Its a true, genuine longing for your life. It comes from your heart, from deep inside. > Here are four ways to discover your dreams: 1) Looking inside your heart: Discover them within you as you search your heart, and consider the things you think about and that move you. 2) Tears of inspiration: Consider the times at which youve been moved to tears, because they were when you were most self-actualised. Figure out why you were so moved. This can help illuminate things youre passionate about and that you dream of. 3) Keeping a journal: When you keep a journal of your thoughts and feelings, you can reveal some predominant thoughts and feelings, which might, in turn, help you identify some of your passions and dreams. 4) Identifying your common passions and their drivers: In this process, you list your passions, and for each one, you consider the reasons (Why?) you like doing that specic thing. As you continue to ask, Why? Why? Why? you start to identify your intrinsic common drivers and gain a deeper understanding of your authentic self so you can then discover your dreams.

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DO YOU KNOW HOW AMAZING YOU TRULY ARE ?

Youre one of a kind, a once in all history event. Theres no one else like you in the entire world. Youre completely unique.

Our sense of touch is more rened than any device ever created. Our hearing is so sensitive we can distinguish between hundreds of thousands of different sounds. Using our eyes, we can distinguish up to a million colour surfaces and take in an amount of information that surpasses the amount distinguished by the largest telescope. Each persons tongue has its own unique imprint. Our brain is more complex than the most powerful of computers and has more than 100 billion nerve cells. Within 6.5 square centimetres of each of our hands, we have 2.7 metres of blood vessels, 600 pain sensors, 9000 nerve endings, 36 heat sensors and 75 pressure sensors. On average, we breathe 25,000 times a day and 10 million times a year, which means we take about 600 million breaths during our lifetime. On average, our heart beats about three billion times in our lifetime. An adult is made up of about 100 trillion cells, each one of which contains about one or two metres of DNA. The aorta, our largest artery, is almost the diameter of a garden hose. Our capillaries, on the other hand, are so small that 10 of them are equal to the thickness of a human hair. The human brain is made up of about 30 billion cells, called neurones, and each neurone is capable of handling about a million bits of information. If we were to write that information down as a number, wed include 6.5 million miles of zeroes that would stretch from earth to the moon and back 13 times. Human bone is as strong as granite as a supporter of weight. A block of bone the size of a matchbox can support nine tonnes, and thats four times as much as concrete can support. We generate 100 billion red blood cells every day and about two million of them every second. Cna yuo raed tihs? So phaonmneal is the pweor of the hmuan mnid taht it dsenot mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres are in a wrod, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer are in the rghit pclae.

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LOOK INSIDE YOUR HEART

Heres a whole series of questions for you to reect on. While youre answering them, you might reveal the start of some of your dreams.

At this point, dont concern yourself with whether your passions and dreams are congruent with your actual ability, skills and talents. Now isnt the time to get realistic or judge yourself. Search your heart and play like a child. Dont limit yourself. Be honest in your answers and about what you really want or like. This is a time for ignoring your mindset and discovering the things that lie deep down in your heart and soul.

There are many things that will catch my eye, but there are only a few that catch my heart. It is those things I consider to pursue. Tim Redmond
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My greatest talents and abilities are:

WHO AM I?
Describe yourself: I spend a lot of time thinking about:

What could you be great at:

My strengths are (or if this is difcult my friends and family would describe my biggest strengths as...)

My weaknesses are (or if this is difcult my friends and family would describe my biggest weaknesses as...)

I would like to become: If I could be anyone I would be:

The 3 things I like most and least about myself are: I love myself when I:

I am happiest when I:

My top five VALUES are:

(identifying your top ve lifetime values is a shortcut to identifying your top goals in life) 1 2

What am I good at:

I am most condent when: 3 4 5 18 18 19

WHAT DO I LIKE ?
If I could do any job, I would: If I were free to do anything, I would:

The three people I ADMIRE and respect the most are: Because?
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The thing/s I do that I nd easy and would be happy to do all the time is:

The activities I absolutely LOVE in my work and personal life are:

WORK

I often spend time thinking about:

The things that make me happy are:

The thing I love and never grow tired of talking about in my personal life is:

PERSONAL
The things I enjoy sharing and experiencing with other people are:

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The thing/s Im most proud of having accomplished in my life so far is/are:

WHAT DO I WANT?
When I was growing up, I wanted to be: My dreams as a child were:

The single most important thing Id like to accomplish in my life is:

My greatest moments of joy and fullment in my life so far have been:

When Im in my bed at night, I often imagine:

At my funeral, when people talk about me, I want them to say...

I want to start:

I want to tell the world that:

I will never:

The thing that would cause me the most excitement about waking up to another day is:

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WHAT WOULD I DO?

Name: 1. One place to visit

If your doctors told you that you had only a year to live, how would you shape your life?

2. One thing to do before you die

3. One thing to do daily

4. One thing youve always wanted to learn

What would you do if there was no way you could fail? If you were 10 times smarter than the rest of the world? If there were no barriers? If you werent limited by factors such as time, condence, age, location, money, resources and experience?

How would you change the way you live NOW if you were told you could never retire?

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TEARS OF INSPIRATION

When was the last time you cried? Where were you, and what was going on? Were you reading a book, watching a movie or listening to a song? Was it when someone said something particular to you?

Why did you cry? What was it about that moment that caused you to be emotional?

What do you think this tells you about what you really like, what you really care about, what you really want to do and/or what youre really passionate about?

You see, were moved to tears when were most self-actualised or, to say it another way, were moved by something at a deep level when it means a lot to us, and when our barriers are down. If you can gure out why you were moved, youll help yourself recognise the things that mean a lot to you, the things youre passionate about and that you care about. In guring them out, as well as in discovering more about yourself and what matters to you, you might nd you have dreams locked up in similar emotions, thoughts and cares.

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LIST YOUR PASSIONS AND THEIR DRIVERS:

Bobsleigh
I love the speed You need to be precise Power to start Responsiblitiy and leadership of being a pilot Focus- my mind switches off to everything else Sense of accomplishment over the challenge Facilitates new things (places, people, experiences)

My friends

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IDENTIFY YOUR COMMON PASSIONS AND THEIR DRIVERS: WHY WHY WHY?
In this process, you list all your passions and the things you enjoy doing. Then, for each passion and interest, you start to identify its intrinsic drivers. Why do you like doing that thing? You keep asking, Why? until youve worked out what truly drives you to follow that passion or interest. You then consolidate all the drivers into a single list in order to see whether theres much overlap and without doubt, there will be. Youre essentially using your passions as a sort of mirror so you can analyse yourself without being subject to any natural prejudices or mindsets. So, what are your passions? What do you like doing? What leads you to feel inner satisfaction? Why do you like doing that? Why are you passionate about that? Why do you derive inner satisfaction and enjoyment from that? Why is it so? Why is that important to you? Keep asking why in order to drill down into the drivers of your passions. While youre analysing your passions, youll gain a deeper understanding of your authentic self, achieve more clarity about your drivers, and potentially illuminate some dreams you have. You see, when were doing what were passionate about, and when our dreams and our drivers are aligned, our goals arent burdensome at all, and we help ourselves sustain our motivation over the long term. Also, by undertaking this process, youll help ensure that your existing goals are aligned with your true nature and true drivers, as well as provide yourself with a good checklist for the decisions youve yet to make. Following is a list of four steps and a table in which I give you an example of how I began to analyse my own passions and the drivers behind them: STEP 1 List all your passions and pursuits and the things you really enjoy. STEP 2 For each passion, identify the intrinsic drivers ask, Why? and keep asking it so you can distil your drivers down to as basic and core a reason as possible. STEP 3 Consolidate all your drivers into a single list. STEP 4 Is there any overlap? What are your common drivers, regardless of the specic passion?

For each of these drivers ask yourself the questions Why is that a driver To drill down further
I feel alive when going fast Constant impovement I like the explosive power required I am in control of my own destiny and performance Leave my worries behind. In the moment Always growing I like new experiences

Ask yourself again the question Why is that a driver To drill down further. Are there common drivers?
Feel alive = Living life to the full Constant improvement = not stagnating = living life to full Explosive power = feeling alive = living life to the full Can achieve something great = living life to the full In the moment = I feel alive Always growing = I feel alive = living live to the full New experiences = change = living life to the full

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I analysed only one passion, but see how I was able to derive the deep core reason or driver in relation to why I enjoyed that passion? Notice how this discovery is instructive in terms of why I do many of the other things in my life, as well as in terms of what I enjoy and why I enjoy those things. Using this process, you might help illuminate some dreams you have.

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LIST YOUR PASSIONS AND THEIR DRIVERS:

Passion # 1: Passion # 2: Passion # 3: Passion # 4: Passion # 5: Passion # 6:

For each of these drivers ask yourself the questions Why is that a driver To drill down further

For each of these drivers ask yourself the questions Why is that a driver To drill down further

Ask yourself again the question Why is that a driver To drill down further. Are there common drivers?

Ask yourself again the question Why is that a driver To drill down further. Are there common drivers?

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