7 Steps to Attracting Your Most Compatible & Loving Relationship

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By Arash Vossoughi

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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Ch. 1 - Introduction to the Law of Attraction (p. 4)
Conscious & Subconscious Mind (4) Energy (5) Law of Attraction (6) Paradigms (7) Worthiness (8) Never Give Up (12) My Story (13) The Consequences of Doubt (15)

Ch. 2 - Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship (p. 15) Ch. 3 - Step 2: Gratitude Now! (p. 18) (p. Ch. 4 - Step 3: Write a Desire Statement (p. 22) Ch. 5 - Step 4: Write a Script (p. 26) Ch. 6 - Step 5: Affirmations (p. 30) Ch. 7 - Step 6: Visualization (p. 36) Ch. 8 - Step 7: Take Action and Let Go (p. 41) Ch. 9 - Recommended Reading and Watching (p. 47)

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Ch. 1 - Introduction to the Law of Attraction

Perhaps youve heard the buzz about the best-selling book The Secret and the law of attraction. Maybe youve even read The Secret and wondered exactly how to make the law of attraction work in your love life. This ebook will go deeper into the specifics, giving you explanations on how and why the law of attraction works.

"Every passing moment is a chance to turn it all around." - Unknown

CONSCIOUS & SUBCONSCIOUS MIND CONSCIOUS

The first important concept to understand is how both the conscious and subconscious minds work. The subconscious mind controls 96 to 98% of our perceptions. It sees all pictures and

patterns. It cant differentiate between reality and lies. It believes every image it sees. It knows only one time: now. It doesnt distinguish between good and bad. Lastly, it contains our entire lifes worth of memory. On the other hand, the conscious mind is responsible for just two percent of the things that manifest in our lives. It looks for familiar pictures and patterns. It sets goals and judges the results of our achievements. It knows past and future. Unlike mind, which the is subconscious

responsible for our dreams, the conscious mind needs 6-8 hours of sleep per night. Lastly, the conscious mind can only hold a http://avosscoaching.com/ 4

thought for 20 seconds at a time. How is this useful? You can use your conscious mind to reprogram your subconscious mind. With its power in creating 96 to 98% of what we draw into our lives, this reprogramming will allow you to turn your subconscious mind into your genie in a bottle. Simply put, the conscious mind provides all the food for the subconscious mind. So, if you feed your subconscious mind the right thoughts, you can manifest absolutely anything into your life.

ENERGY
What does this have to do with finding Mr. or Ms. Right? Everything in the world is made up of energy--whether it is a table, a person, a dog, or even a thought. Not to simplify quantum physics too much, but, in a nutshell, like energy attracts like energy. Think of how a hurricane forms--like a magnet the powerful force of the hurricanes energy attracts all of the wind, pressure, near it. This knowledge is so overwhelming, it has the power to change everything in everyones life! If you dont believe in quantum physics, consider this quote from Albert Einstein: Do http://avosscoaching.com/ 5 and clouds anywhere

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become. - Maharishi Yogi Mahesh Yogi

you

remember

how

electrical

currents and unseen waves were laughed at? The knowledge about man is still in its infancy. So, if thoughts have energy, and if like energy attracts like energy, what does this tell you about your current situation? If you have consistently had thoughts of loneliness, youve only attracted more loneliness to you. If youve worried frequently about breaking up, youve drawn a break-up to you. If youve told yourself time and time again, Im never going to meet Mr. Right, then youve ensured that Mr. Right wasnt going to cross your path.

LAW OF ATTRACTION
The law of attraction, or the law of vibration as

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes. - William James

it is sometimes called, is essentially this phenomenon in action. You are not the victim of fate! Everything in your life is the result of this law--absolutely everything! Another way to think of the law of attraction is with the old saying Birds of a feather flock together. In the book Finding Your Soul Mate, Michael states: The Magnetic Universe is the cause of all dual effects we see and experience in our threedimensional Electric Universe. Your soul mate is attracted to you because you both radiate the same magnetic qualities. Like always seeks likeThe one who is like you is naturally attracted to you, and vice versa. This attractive

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force will lead your soul mate to you, or lead you to this person, at some point at time in space, just like grains of sand found their affinity together. To change what you are attracting into your life, you must change your vibration, your energy. It is imperative to dwell on what you want, rather than on what you fear or what you dislike. Sometimes your vibration or mindset is referred to as a paradigm (pronounced paira-dime).

PARADIGMS
Your paradigm is your

Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile, And finds in your presence that life is worth while. lonely So when you are lonely remember it's true; Somebody somewhere is thinking of you - Unknown

subconscious and

mind--your Some

attitudes, beliefs, decisions, behaviors. people have an optimistic paradigm, while others are pessimistic. Some people are dreamers, while others tend to be planners. Your thoughts paradigm (energy), control and which your dictates vibration

what you attract into your life. Your paradigm drives all of your behavior, and

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your behavior drives all of your results. Unless your paradigm shifts, any law of attraction changes or improvements that you see in your life will be temporary at best. If you want different results from life, you must change your paradigm. It is imperative that you do not give any attention to feelings of lack, loneliness, or unworthiness. When you catch a negative thought popping into your head, simply be aware of it, and think something positive instead. This can require some genuine hard work for awhile--just like changing any other bad habit. Once it becomes routine, you will see amazing results in your love life and everywhere else.

WORTHINESS
Another important factor that for most

The human heart, at whatever age, opens to the heart that opens in return. - Unknown

people is unknowingly pushing your ideal mate away from you is how you feel about yourself. Sadly, most people believe deep down inside that real love doesnt last, that they dont believe in true love any more, that they dont deserve a ideal mate, or that theyre such a crummy person that a happy marriage will never happen for them. It can be very challenging to change many

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of these deeply-ingrained (and often subtle, hidden) beliefs. Get out of your own way and be patient with yourself. Give it time. Know that the universe knows whats best and will always send you what you send it, which will be sent to you at the exact right time. Be patient. Have faith! One way you can boost your own self-love and worthiness is by reminding yourself that

everybody is worthy of having anything they

want! Yes, even you! Even if youve done things youve regretted in the past, it doesnt diminish your worthiness in any way. Everyone has made mistakes, and yet everyone is still deserving of their highest and best relationship. Try this activity. Ask yourself what your fears are when it comes to relationships. Are you afraid of being abandoned? Opening your heart to trust someone? Being cheated on? Being deceived? Being taken advantage of? Being verbally, emotionally, or physically abused? Becoming unhappy and then having to break up with the person? Make a list of these fears-be specific--then work to mentally recondition yourself. We will discuss this in greater detail in some of the upcoming chapters. Furthermore, know that you dont need to give, give, give in a relationship. You dont need to barter or settle. Consider some of these statements from these best-selling and popular relationship books:

"Don't let the darkness of the past cover the brightness of the future." - Unknown

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QUOTE
It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that shes not afraid to be without him. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. Dont be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on. You have to show that you wont accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.

SOURCE
Why Men Love Bitches by
Sherry Argov

Why Men Love Bitches by

Sherry Argov

Why Men Love Bitches by

Sherry Argov

Why Men Love Bitches by

Sherry Argov

Why Men Love Bitches by

Sherry Argov

Why Men Love Bitches by

Sherry Argov

QUOTE
You know you deserve to have a great relationship. People are inspired to do remarkable things to find and be with the one they love. Big movies are made about it, and every relationship you admire bursts with a greatness that you hope for in your own life. And the more you value yourself, the more chance youll have of getting it. Youre worth it. You are good enough to be asked out. Better than nothing is not good enough for you! We are all tired of operating from a place of fear. You want to believe that you are better than all the crap youve been taking from all these men all these years. Well, you are.

SOURCE
Hes Just Not That Into You by
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Hes Just Not That Into You by

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Hes Just Not That Into You by

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Hes Just Not That Into You by

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Hes Just Not That Into You by

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Hes Just Not That Into You by

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

You are an excellent, foxy human being worthy of love, and the only way you can pursue that idea is by honoring yourself.

Hes Just Not That Into You by

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

QUOTE
When a woman is too eager to please, a man doesnt experience the distance he needs to pursue her. All of the pieces in our lives begin to fit together when our hearts are openBy making sure we keep our souls promise, we are able to bring the spiritual into the material world. When we live in love, we bring the kingdom of heaven on earth. Instead of feeling like a victim at the whim of her partners changing feelings, a woman can feel self-assured. A woman mistakenly thinks that to be worthy of receiving what she really wants, she must keep giving back what she is receiving. Self-assurance assumes you will always get what you need and you are now in the process of getting it. As you can clearly see, no matter what source you look at, they all point to the same basic concept: if you dont love yourself the way youd want your ideal mate to love you, you will never find the love you seek. Try this exercise. Look at yourself in the mirror. Take a long time to look yourself over. Stare deeply into your own eyes. Now say aloud, I love you. http://avosscoaching.com/ 11

SOURCE
Mars and Venus on a Date by
John Gray, PhD

Mars and Venus on a Date by

John Gray, PhD

Mars and Venus on a Date by

John Gray, PhD

Mars and Venus on a Date by

John Gray, PhD

Mars and Venus on a Date by

John Gray, PhD

The only way to successfully manifest the life you desire... is to keep trying until you are successful! - Bob Crawford

How does it feel? Can you genuinely tell yourself this, or did you have to fake it? If you said I love you to yourself any less enthusiastically than youd want your ideal mate to say it, then keep doing this exercise once a week throughout the time you are actively involved with the steps in this ebook. You will know when you have internalized true feelings of self-love and worthiness when you can tell yourself I love you without a degree of awkwardness or loathing.

NEVER GIVE UP
It can be daunting to face or accept the challenges needed to ready yourself for your highest and best relationship. Never lose sight of your goal, even temporarily. Your success will be determined by your constant progress toward your own dream. Remember, you can have whatever you want. You deserve whatever you want. When you follow the steps in this ebook for a week, then take a day off, you are sending out a mixed message to the universe. Mixed messages can only yield mixed results, at best. The direction you choose will determine if you realize your ideal. If you dedicate yourself body and soul to this goal, you have nothing to lose. It is free. It wont make you break a sweat. There are no negative side effects. So, here is your challengebefore you even read about the 7 steps I will outline, commit yourself to this process for at least 90 days. You must make this commitment willingly and happily--knowing that, by making this choice, you are agreeing to accept http://avosscoaching.com/ 12

We don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. - Unknown

your highest and best relationship into your life. Sixty to 90 days is the bare minimum time frame needed for your self-perceptions and paradigm to truly change.

MY STORY
Four years ago, I was happily engaged, and my future seemed bright. Out of nowhere, my fianc and I broke up. I was completely and utterly devastated. Telling my family and friends the sad news and having to un-do wedding plans was practically unbearable for me. I was living in a hell on earth. I felt empty and alone. I assumed that because the past was bad, that the future would be too. I constantly berated myself with thoughts of, How could this happen to me? and What have I done to deserve this? What I am grateful for is that this misery pushed me to begin searching for answers. I read books. I talked to counselors. I meditated. I did extensive soul searching. None of this really gave me the information I needed though. I needed to know why this pattern of heartache was in my life. Why did it seem like I was sabotaging myself? Then I met my mentor. All of the knowledge and answers I needed were soon revealed. The first thing my mentor taught me was that I had issues with worthiness and trust. I expected the worst and, therefore, thats exactly what I got! Because I didnt trust, of course, I attracted untrustworthy people. It was a vicious cycle that http://avosscoaching.com/ 13

I was creating without even realizing it. The second thing my mentor showed me was that I concentrated on what I didnt want. I was afraid and worried about breaking up, being single again, and feeling lonely. Once again, my thoughts, like magnets, drew break ups, being single, and loneliness to me. Additionally, I was attracting other people to me who expected to be walked out on and abused. The first thing my mentor advised me to do

I am available to more good than I've ever realized, imagined or experienced in my life." - The Secret

was figure out exactly what I wanted. As long as I just had the attitude that I would take whatever came along, then thats what Id be settling for. I had some tough decisions to make: did I want my ex-fianc back, or was I looking for a different person? If I wanted a different person, what characteristics would that person possess? Once I figured out exactly what I wanted, I set out doing the steps set forth here. I reprogrammed my mind, making that 90

day commitment to myself. Another valuable insight my mentor gave me was fake it til you make it. While I had heard this saying before, it had never really been clear to me until that time. If I put on a happy face, or acted happy, it was easy to become happy. I had to fake happiness at first, but even the outward happiness raised my vibration. This raised vibration made it easy for my inside to feel genuine happiness shortly thereafter. The results were literally mind-blowing. It was like I turned into a chick magnet. I had more worthy women to date then I had time to date them. I had to actually http://avosscoaching.com/ 14

remove myself from dating with this onslaught of new prospects because I didnt feel completely healed yet from my split with my fianc. One of the most important things that this experience taught me though was the power of my own thinking, my own consciousness, my paradigm. My entire outlook transformed. My confidence and self-esteem sky rocketed. I felt alive and happy, knowing that my highest and best relationship was a reality. Once I started dating again after my 6 month respite, I wasnt devastated by break-ups because, again, I loved myself and refused to settle. My belief that my true love was on her way to me was unshakeable.

THE CONSEQUENCES OF DOUBT

Regardless of what lies ahead in this ebook, you must understand that you attracted this material to you. Youve come this far! Its no accident. Before you embark further on this journey, make the commitment to yourself now to openly embrace the techniques set forth here. If you believe this ebook will help you find your highest and best relationship, then it will. If you doubt that this ebook will help you, then it wont. Doubt of any kind--in yourself, in love, in this ebook--will only push your ideal mate away.

Ch. 2 - Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship

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Everyone is familiar with the popular quote from the

Bible: Ask and ye shall receive. What does this mean?

Is it real? What about all the times you asked for something and didnt get it? Lets look to the groundbreaking book Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch. In the book, we are given this guidance on manifesting things in our lives: No prayer--and a prayer is nothing more than a fervent statement of what it so--goes unanswered. Every prayer--every thought, every statement, every feeling--is creative. To the degree that it is fervently held as truth, to that degree will it be made manifest in your experienceYet what you must know--and here is the secret--is that always it is the thought behind the thought--what might be called the Sponsoring Thought--that is the controlling thought. If, therefore, you beg and supplicate, there seems a much smaller chance that you will experience what you think you are choosing, because the Sponsoring Thought behind every supplication is that you do not have what you wish. That Sponsoring Thought becomes your reality. With this knowledge, think back on how youve gone about asking for your highest and best relationship in the past. You can see how all creation unfolds. First of all, if you love yourself and know you are deserving of the best life has to offer, your Sponsoring Thought will already be vibrating on the right level. Even if you have high self-esteem and self-regard, that doesnt automatically mean you think you are deserving of a dream-come-true relationship. When you ask for your highest and best

"You cannot make someone love you; you can only make yourself someone who can be loved!" - Unknown

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anything. You will know. Because you love yourself the way your ideal mate will love you, and you know you deserve to be with that ideal mate, the work is already done. Here is another way to think about it. In the 1992 NBA Finals, Michael Jordan scored 35 points in the first half of Game One against the Portland Trailblazers. Jordan himself had this to say about his mind-boggling performance, The first one [three-pointer] felt so good, I had to take more. I couldn't miss. The threes were like free throws; they just kept dropping. I didn't know what was happening. I was in a zone. What can I say? I don't know how to explain it." As you ask for your highest and best relationship, you will be like Michael Jordan in the zone. You will know that your ideal mate is coming your way-period. As Jordan said, you dont even have to know how it could possibly happen. It doesnt have to be feasible. Maybe youre in prison or on an extended tour of duty on a mens-only Navy submarine--it doesnt matter. You are in the zone, all the time, knowing, as Jordan did, that every shot you throw up will swish beautifully through the net. Just because Jordan had missed three-pointers in the past, did not mean he had to miss any in that game. The same is true for you--your past does not have to equal your future. One of the most important things you need to know to accomplish your goal of finding your http://avosscoaching.com/ 17

You cannot see anything that you do not first contemplate as a reality. - Ramtha

highest and best relationship is how to pray, how to ask. Lets turn again to

Conversations With God.

The book says: You will not have that for which you ask, nor can you have anything you want. This is because your very request is a statement of lack, and your saying you want a thing only works to produce that precise experience--wanting--in your reality. The correct prayer is therefore never a prayer of supplication, but a prayer of gratitude. When you thank God in advance for that which you choose to experience in your reality, you, in effect, acknowledge that it is therein effect. Thankfulness is thus the most powerful statement to God. This brings us to Step #2 of our processgratitude.

Ch. 3 - Step 2: Gratitude Now!

Gratitude is the strongest force in the universe! Right now, get out a blank piece of paper and a pen. Write down as many things as you can think of that you are thankful for. Maybe youre thankful for being in good health, for being young, for this ebook finding its way to you, for your great sense of humor, for your warm heart, or for your awesome job. There are a ton of things to be grateful for. As you ask for your highest and best relationship, an attitude of gratitude will instantly raise your vibration level and help you attract higher and better http://avosscoaching.com/ 18

people, things, and experiences to you. The next time you find that impossible parking spot right in front of the store or all the traffic lights are green for you, know that gratitude is at work in your life. Now, you have even more to be thankful for. The cycle of gratitude will just keep perpetuating itself. The more gratitude you express, the more rapid your desire will manifest in your life. Or, think of it like this, the more grateful you are, the more the universe will give you to be grateful for. Always concentrate on what you have. If you should ever forget some of the numerous gifts in your life, pull out your handy dandy list. As you look over the list, close your eyes for a moment and recall an instance when you experienced that gift. For example, if you are thankful for your sense of humor, close your eyes and re-live a happy memory when you made a big group of people laugh or when you brought everyone in that office meeting to tears with your funny impression. Reconnect with the joy of that experience. Emotionalize it. As you do this, you can say to yourself, Thank you for this gift of making others laugh. Your thank you can be directed to the universe, to God, or to any higher power you connect with. There are many, many ways to squeeze gratitude into your life. When you are in the shower, say 10 things you are thankful. When you fall asleep, sit in traffic, or ride the elevator, send out a shot of gratitude to the universe. As you verbalize these things, re-live or recall the experience like its happening right at that moment. The more you connect with, or emotionalize, your gratitude, the more http://avosscoaching.com/ 19

Man did not weave the web of life, he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself. - Chief Seattle

potent its power is. This potency translates into increasing your vibration and attraction. Also, always choose to say your thankful statements out loud, rather than in your head (if appropriate) because this will give your words more passion, and, thus, more power. If you merely rattle off ten neutral things you are thankful for and dont connect with the things, you might as well be reading a shopping list to the universe. Know that conscious awareness of your vibration is called a feeling. When you actively feel the thankfulness, that is when you will have the most power. Even in bleak situations, you can always raise a sinking energy level in yourself by focusing on what youre grateful for. For example, lets say you are waiting in a really long line at your bank, and youre in a hurry. As you feel your energy get stressed, worried, anxious, or annoyed, take a deep breath and center yourself by saying a few things in your head that youre thankful for, such as: I am so happy and grateful now that I am in a bank with air conditioning. I am so happy and grateful now that I have money in the bank. I am so happy and grateful now that my bank has no line. I am so happy and grateful now that I am alive! I am so happy and grateful now that life is always good to me. I am so happy and grateful now that I am receiving all the good I desire.

You are a creator; you create with your every thought. You often create by default -Abraham Hicks

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By reconnecting with your attitude of gratitude, you will actively feel happiness replace anxiety and worry. When you can sense this happen, you know youve succeeded in consciously changing your vibration. Let this serve as a further reminder to you that you do have the power to attract your highest and best relationship into your life. If doing this still does not cleanse your energy, and you find yourself still holding onto some anger about the past or present, try this: write down on a piece of paper what youre upset about. Then take this piece of paper and burn it. As you watch the paper and the words disappearing, let this remind you of the impermanence of feelings--their transient nature. Take a deep breath, and let your anger go. Release your anger by embracing the present moment. Rather than focusing on your rear view mirror thats constantly reminding you of the past, find the power of focusing on the peace, joy, passion, and happiness of this moment right now. I would also like you to write on a separate piece of paper the title Limiting Beliefs. Whenever you catch yourself having a limiting thought about yourself, put it down on this sheet of paper. Each night before bed, check this list and see how youre improving in these areas. You are like the sky, and these limiting beliefs are like clouds. Likewise, write on an additional piece of paper Manifestations. On this sheet of paper, note the good things that youve brought into your life each day. On yet another piece of paper, write the title Signs From the Universe. Here, I want you to record any signs or indications you get from the universe that http://avosscoaching.com/ 21

the universe is bringing you more change and goodness as you continue through this process. The purpose of all these extra lists? You must see what you desire before it happens, which is the opposite of we have been taught all our lives. This activity helps undo that teaching. Consider this analogy

Ch. 4 - Step 3: Writing a Desire Statement

Have you seen the 1987 blockbuster movie La Bamba, starring Lou Diamond Phillips? This biographical movie outlines the life and death of 1950s rock n roll sensation Ritchie Valens. This movie also shows perfectly how the law of attraction is at work in the universe. From a young age, Ritchie told everyone that rock n roll was his life, that he was going to be a rock n roll star, and that playing his guitar was all that mattered. He told his mom, his girlfriend, his brother, Im going to be a star, and he meant it. He knew it. He carried his guitar everywhere and never strayed from his goal. One night, 16 year-old Ritchie was performing a concert at a local American Legion Hall. A record producer wandered in, fell in love with Ritchies music and energy (i.e. his vibration), and later offered him a recording contract. Ritchie instantly became the star he always said he would be. He had several hit songs, like Come On Lets Go, Donna, and La Bamba. He was inducted into the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame in 2001. While you might say Ritchie just had a knack for understanding the ways of the http://avosscoaching.com/ 22

universe, the law of attraction also brought

If quantum mechanics hasn't profoundly shocked you, you haven't understood it yet. - Niels Bohr

about tragedy in his life. At the same time Ritchie was drawing stardom to himself, he was also drawing his untimely death. Ritchies childhood best friend died when two planes collided in the air and debris from the planes fell on him. Ritchie constantly had realistic nightmares about plane crashes and dying young, which, as you know, is real to the subconscious mind. It was as if he was visualizing himself dying in a plane crash, although it was happening against his will. Ritchie resisted flying on airplanes, felt intense trepidation towards flying, and frequently made

off-handed remarks about dying in a plane crash. On February 3, 1959, Ritchie died in a plane crash with fellow rock stars Buddy Holly and the Big Bopper. Ritchie was 17 years old. Ritchie won a seat on the airplane via a coin toss. After winning the coin toss, Ritchie noted how weird it was that hed won, saying he always lost coin tosses. Why do you think that coin toss was different? Because what you think, you become--good and bad. It was Ritchies vibration, his energy, the law of attraction. Bruce Lee understood this when he said, As you think, so shall you become.

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radiates with a different energy, a particular wattage

The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein Einstein

of electricity, if you will. Many people have been taught that God (or the universe) grants certain prayers or requests and turns others down. This is not true. God wants what you want. In the Bible, it says Ye are gods. We are made of the same energy, the same stuff. Anything God or Jesus can do, you can do. In fact, the word desire literally means de (of) sire (the father). Everything in your life is a result of your thinking-period. But what you may not know is that everything you desire also desires you. For example, did you know that we humans are made of hydrogen, oxygen, carbon, and nitrogen--the same stuff that stars are made of? Let this remind you of the divine in you, in everyone, in everything. Let it also show you the potential of the law of attractions power. If you want to take control of your love life, or your life in general, it starts with knowing what you want. As you write your Desire Statement, include the phrase, I am so happy and grateful now that I am

with my highest and best relationship. Always use the present tense. Make sure to write your Desire Statement by hand, preferably on an unlined piece of blank paper. This statement should be a statement of gratitude and a description of what your life is like with your highest and best relationship. Read this Desire Statement out loud with feeling twice a day--in the morning and http://avosscoaching.com/ 24

at night. The purpose of this is to get used to these ideas, to get familiar with them. This will help you reprogram your subconscious mind. Also, your Desire Statement is closely related to your Script, which we will discuss in the next chapter. A sample Desire Statement might look like this:

I am so happy, excited, and grateful now that I am with the man/woman of my dreams, and we are so happy together. It feels so great, and I am so fulfilled.
As you write this Desire Statement, and as you read it out loud to yourself twice a day, remember the certainty that both Ritchie Valens and Michael Jordan had. If you dont believe it, the universe wont either. Also, dont forget that Michael Jordan didnt even make his high school basketball team. Ritchie Valens, at one point, was living and working in the fields picking fruit. No matter what your background is, anything is possible for you. Your dreams are possible. Is it logical or likely for someone who couldnt make the high school team to become one of the best athletes of all time? It doesnt matter. You can have the best. You deserve the best. The only limitation you have is in your mind. http://avosscoaching.com/ 25

Every time you date someone with an issue that you have to work to ignore, you're settling. - Unknown

In Ryan Shupes song Dream Big, he sings, And when you dream, dream big/As big as the ocean blue. I want you to dream bigger than you can imagine. In fact, if you can conceive of how your dream is coming to you, you need to dream bigger!

Ch. 5 - Step 4: Writing a Script

Take some time to consciously think about what your ideal partner is like, what spending a day with him or her is like, and what spending a night with him or her is like. How does it feel to wake up next to this person? What do you talk about with this person over dinner at a restaurant? What is it like to spend the weekend with this person? How does he or she look? Smell? Feel? Taste? Here is a list of things to consider about your ideal mate and what life will be like with that person: Age? Height? Weight? Employment? Career? Job? Facial features? Body? Hair? Eyes? How does this person dress? How does this person talk? Act? Think? What are this persons mannerisms or habits? Education background? Ethnic or racial background? http://avosscoaching.com/ 26

What hobbies or pastimes does this person enjoy? Where is this person from? Where does he or she live? What is important to this person? What things has this person experienced? Is this person divorced, single, or widowed? Does this person have children? If so, how many? What age? Boy or girl? What is this persons astrological sign? What movies and books does this person like? How does this person react to stress? Neat or messy? Uptight or relaxed? On time or 5 minutes late? Serious or funny? Goes out or stays in? Money saved up or spends it as he or she makes it? Home owner or renter? Travel or stay local? Confident or shy? Well-read or not a fan of reading? Video games or outdoor activities? Internet junkie or computer illiterate? Likes to cook or prefers restaurants? Car, truck, or motorcycle? Beer, wine, or water? http://avosscoaching.com/ 27

Secret forces are bringing compatible spirits together. If the man permits himself to be led by this ineffable attraction, good fortune will come his way. - I Ching

Salad Does

and this

tofu

or

meat have

and any

potatoes? person petscats, dogs, birds, fish, horses? Marriage material or just a life companion? Sexhow often? Sweet or rough? Wants to start a family? You do not need to know all the answers to the above; they are just ideas to help you think about the qualities your ideal mate has. If, for example, your ideal mates race is not important to you, then focus on the qualities that are crucial. As you are deciding the qualities of your highest and best relationship, dont just consider the person--think about the relationship as well. How will you two resolve disputes? What do the two of you enjoy doing together? How often will you two get together? What kind of a listener is this person? How does it feel to be around this person? Once you have thought about these things and decided what you must have, what you cant stand, and what is unimportant to you, youre ready to make your Script. Like your Desire Statement, your Script should be hand written and read out loud twice a day with feeling. It can be as short as a paragraph or as long as a page--whatever feels right for you. http://avosscoaching.com/ 28

Your Script is like placing your order at the restaurant of ideal mates. It is your chance to pick and choose from all the qualities and features on the menu and pick the one you want the most. Make sure, of course, that your Script mentions your gratitude. As you create and read your Script, see it in your head, feel it, internalize it. In my Script, I was absolutely clear and descriptive on everything I wanted: a loyal and supporting wife and best friend, with three beautiful, healthy children, to travel the world together, getting along with each others family, being able to just relax and have fun when doing nothing. Perhaps you're thinking, Why not just ask the universe for my ideal mate and not worry about the details? In Michael's Finding Your Soul Mate, he says: Instead of working from structure or specifics that are known in the Electric Universe, you simply center yourself within the God of your being in the Magnetic Universe and call forth your exact equal, someone who is at the same moment what you are in consciousness, except that you want someone of the opposite sex. That person will reflect everything you are. He or she will perfectly mirror all your great strengths or weaknesses and your godly virtues...As you love and appreciate those mirrored qualities in yourself, you are able to love and appreciate them more in others. And when you see a weakness through a soul mate reflection of that weakness, you are finally in a position to acknowledge it and become strong in that area instead. If you are ignorant, meaning you are unaware of any limitations or faults, there is no possibility of re-form. I completely disagree with the concept that ignorance is bliss.

You are a creator; you create with your every thought. You often create by default - Abraham Hicks

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What Michael's trying to say is that your highest and best relationship can not be with someone who is your twin, energy-wise. Relationships are about two people complimenting each other, not mimicking each other. The reason it is important to not be complacent and actually figure out the traits of your ideal mate is also because if you aren't specific with your intentions, the universe will just give you whatever. For example, when I personally started doing these steps, I attracted a woman with children into my life. I had not specified in my Script that I wanted someone who did not already have children. If something like this should happen for you, simply modify your Script and forge ahead.

Ch. 6 - Step 5: Using Affirmations

Most people are familiar with affirmations. They are used around the world in all different arenas from business to athletics to times of disease and despair. Another way to think of affirmations is as a way of praying. Affirmations are statements people make consciously to help bring about a change they want in their lives. An affirmation might be someone getting on the back of a horse for the first time saying out loud, I can do this. I know I can do this. Affirmations are most http://avosscoaching.com/ 30

effective when in the present tense

You did not come into this environment to create through action. Instead, your action is meant to be a way in what which you enjoy what you have created through thought. - Abraham

using I am statements. It is easy to see how affirmations are powerful tools when you understand the law of attraction. Because the law of attraction brings back to us what we send out to the universe, and 98% of what we send out control vibrations is of done are the we a put subconsciously, way out to take and there. thoughts affirmations

However, you must be careful with how you phrase any affirmations you make. For example, many

affirmation neophytes make statements like, I need $10,000, or I want to fall in love. True to form, these affirmations will bring exactly what you ask them to. The first one will bring about more need for money, while the second one will bring about more desire to fall in love. This passage from Conversations With God provides insights on the correct use of affirmations: Affirmations do not work if they are merely statements of what you want to be true. Affirmations work only when they are statements of something you already know to be true. The best so-called affirmation is a statement of gratitude and appreciation. 'Thank you, God, for bringing me success in my life.' Now, that idea, thought, spoken, and acted upon, produces wonderful resultswhen it comes from true knowing; not from an attempt to produce results, but from an awareness that results have already been produced. http://avosscoaching.com/ 31

Therefore,

the

correct

phrasing

for

the

two

affirmations mentioned earlier would be:

Thank you for bringing $10,000 into my life. I am so happy and grateful now that I have $10,000. I am so happy and grateful now that $10,000 is coming to me now. I am so happy and grateful now that I am receiving all of the good that I desire.
or

"Tomorrow isn't a promise, it's a chance." - Unknown

Thank you for bringing my highest and best relationship to me. I am so happy and grateful now with my highest and best relationship. I am so happy and grateful now that my highest and best relationship is coming to me. I am so happy and grateful now all things lead to me finding my most loving and compatible relationship.
When you first start doing affirmations, your mind can sometimes play tricks on you. Youll state the affirmation, and your conscious mind will say, Ha! Yea, right. Thats not true. You should know, though, that if you lie to yourself long enough, you will start to believe it. If you still have difficulty saying an affirmation that you can't bring yourself to believe in (Thank you

for bringing my highest and best relationship to me)

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and best relationship is coming to me).

Remember, your subconscious mind only knows now. So, while your conscious mind may be harder to convince, your affirmations are still reaching your subconscious mind and doing their job. Either way you look at it, you can only win with affirmations! Sometimes what holds people back from

believing their affirmations is anger. That's OK. Lots of people have many, many good reasons

"The perfect time will never come; never wait for perfection just make it." - Unknown

to feel angry. However, your anger can get in the way of you attracting your highest and best relationship. When one feels upset, it blocks complete self-love, which ultimately blocks you from attracting the highest and best of anything. Anger will, in one way or another, get in the way of most any aspirations you might have. Most often, our anger is based 90% in the past (if not more) and just 10% on the present circumstance. There are two reasons for this: We have not forgiven ourselves, another, or the universe for a past incident. We are focusing on the past rather than the present--probably because we haven't truly let it go. In A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart Tolle provides this insight: "The most important, the primordial relationship in your life is your relationship with the Now, or rather with whatever form the Now http://avosscoaching.com/ 33

takes, that is to say, what is or what happens. If your relationship with the Now is dysfunctional, that dysfunction will be reflected in every relationship and every situation you encounter. The ego could be defined simply in this way: a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment. It is at this moment that you can decide what kind of relationship you want to have with the present moment. Once you have reached a certain level of consciousness, (and if you are reading this, you almost certainly have), you are able to decide what kind of a relationship you want to have with the present moment. Do I want the present moment to be my friend or my enemy? The present moment is inseparable from life, so you are really deciding what kind of a relationship you want to have with life. Not only can you find relief from anger by focusing on the present moment, but you should consciously universe for forgive any yourself, others, in and the the past. wrongdoings

Remember that forgiveness is something you give yourself, something you do for yourself. Think of the word for-give...or giving for yourself. You do not even need to talk to wrong-doers from the past. Forgiveness is healing for you, and it really has nothing to do with anyone or anything else. Forgiveness also brings two additional benefits. The first one is that it helps us correct our misperceptions of ourselves. This helps us know and genuinely love who we are, which raises our vibrations and draws higher and better things to us. The second benefit is that forgiveness expands our ability to love others. Now that your subconscious mind has been readied for putting affirmations out to the universe, the fun really begins. The world is your oyster! Some great affirmations for attracting your highest and best relationship include: http://avosscoaching.com/ 34

I deserve my highest and best relationship. I believe in love. Finding my highest and best relationship is easy. I am loved. I am well. I am powerful and able to create whatever I choose. I value and respect myself. I love myself. I acknowledge how beautiful I am. I am my own power source.
You can also make up your own affirmations. If there are any issues that you know you have, create affirmations that meet your specific needs. For example, a friend of mine was divorced at age 25. She was also a huge fan of the show Sex

"The hardest part about moving forward is not looking back!" -Unknown

and the City. On a particular episode of Sex and the City, the characters
Charlotte and Carrie attend a relationship seminar in which affirmations were recommended. Optimistic Charlotte took to the material and started using the affirmation, I believe in love. My divorced friend recognized this immediately as the exact affirmation she herself needed. Whenever she found herself thinking true relationship happiness was a myth (which was often), she repeated I believe in love 3-4 times to herself. After a few weeks, she noticed that she actually began to believe that couples could live happily ever after!

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As you think about making your own affirmations, be very careful about the language you choose. Remember the subconscious mind reads information and receives data differently than the conscious mind. So, if you tell yourself, Finding my ideal mate is a

trouble-free process, then what your subconscious

brain picks up is, Finding my ideal mate is trouble... Another example is if you used the affirmation,

Trusting men gives me no hassle, then what your

subconscious mind hears is, Trusting...men...hassle... Always use positive words without negations (isn't, not, doesn't, etc.) The two most powerful words to the universe and to your subconscious mind are I am. This words can not be misunderstood, misconstrued, or back fire in any way (unless misused!). The most potent affirmation you can use is any that begins with these words, like, I am happy with my highest and best relationship, I am loved, or I am my own power source. Also, instead of phrases like trouble-free, use easy. Instead of phrases like no hassle, use smooth.

Ch. 7 - Step 6: Visualization

A friend of mine was a successful Track and Field athlete throughout her school years. She broke numerous records and won many awards, including being a twotime NCAA All-American. I once asked her how she accomplished all of this. She said the secret to her success was visualization. As she got down into the starting blocks before a race, she saw herself crossing the finishing line first. As she prepared to start her High Jump approach, she ran through her entire approach in her head and saw herself clearing the bar effortlessly and easily. http://avosscoaching.com/ 36

If you can't see what you want in your own head, how can you expect it to materialize? As you know already, all creation starts with our rely subconscious thinking. Visualization is simply the visual equivalent of an affirmation. The two on the same concepts and principles to bring about what you want in life. Visualizations, like affirmations, help to convince our powerful subconscious minds that what we dream of is real. Visualizations give those dreams tactile qualities and make them palpable. Furthermore, visualizing encourages people to

You'll never leave where you are, until you decide where you would rather be." - Unknown

figure out some of the details they may have missed in the affirmations, Script, or Desire Statement they created. Visualizing is where all of the pieces of the puzzle come together. It's your test drive so to speak. For example, for myself, I visualized being at the altar at the church looking into my bride's beautiful, loving face. I imagined how strong my love would feel towards her, the pure joy I'd feel as I said my vows and slipped her ring on her finger, and all of these emotions mirrored back at me on her face. Now Im in that wonderful relationship. Have you ever noticed that what you see on TV or read right before bed will frequently turn up in your dreams? The before subconscious and This is bed. mind is most right impressionable receptive

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to take over. We can sort of program or leave an impression on our subconscious minds by feeding it what we want it to focus on right before sleeping. This is the time I recommend you do your visualizing, affirmations, or out loud reading. The more often you visualize and say affirmations, the quicker your dreams special will attention materialize. to I recommend, in addition to giving night-time you also visualizations, that

visualize your highest and best relationship at least two other times during the day. Like your

All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force We must assume behind this force the existence of a intelligent conscious and intelligent Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter. - Max Planck, Nobel PrizePrize-winning Father of Quantum Theory

first-person, I am affirmations, do your visualizations the same way (in the first person)as if the activity is happening through your own eyes, not from outside of you like a movie. The key is to feel the visualization in the here and now. Emotionalize it as you think of it, giving it power and a stronger vibration. Remember, you are rewarded with results in your life via what you practice in private. In addition to this type of eyes-closed visualizing, you should also create a Vision Board. In the 2008 Beijing Summer Olympics, US gymnast Raj Bhavsar used this tactic to help him make the Olympic team. Bhavsar just barely missed qualifying for the team in 2004, and he set out to do everything in his power to make it happen for the 2008 Olympics. Just when Bhavsar thought he was http://avosscoaching.com/ 38

going to face the same fate as he had

Napoleon Hill said, There is a difference between wishing for a thing and being ready to receive it. No one is thing ready for a thing until they believe they can acquire it. Before anything can come to us, we have to envision it and believe that it is ours. - Darren Meade

in 2004, another gymnast was removed from the team just a few days before the games, and Bhavsar assumed his position. As soon as I heard the words, my immediate reaction was, 'Oh my God, it paid off.' Sometimes we never know if all of our struggles, and all of our blood, sweat, and tears is going to pay off, said Bhavsar. One of the things Bhavsar did to achieve this goal was to make a Vision Board on the wall over his bed. that,

NBCOlympics.Com

reported

Bhavsar spent two years in what he called personal turmoil, reading every self-help book and 'turning over every stone' that to Jack find a way to put his disappointment in perspective. He says Canfield's

The

Success

Principles is the book he lives by... And

what is Chapter 11 of Jack Canfield's book called? See What You Want, Get

What You See. That's what you'll do toomake a Vision Board so you can see what you want then get it! Raj Bhavsar's Vision Board that hung over his bed where he could see it and be reminded of it constantly read like this:

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2008 US Olympic Trials Is A Great

Your mind is a powerful magnet that will attract to you the things you identify yourself with. If you have sad thoughts, you will will attract tragedies. - Unknown

and

Successful with

Competition pictures of

for

Raj

Bhavsar

Bhavsar

competing and winning. This posting was done up like a newspaper article that Bhavsar might've seen after making the Olympic team. Hit 12 for 12 Routines at Olympic Trials. 100% Hit Rate. Solid. I HAVE THE TALENT. I TRUST ALL MY HARD WORK. I AM AN OLYMPIC MEDALIST. A meditating picture that read, My order for the Universe... This picture was connected encircling by strings to numerous logo, his images (Olympic

sponsor's logo, a picture of him raising his arms over his head in victory, etc).

A cluster of Olympic trials graphics, reading, YOU CAN DO THIS!!! BELIEVE, with these specific goals written: 1. Hit 12 for 12. 2. Win All-Around. 3. Top 3 on 3 events. 4. Score 181.00. 5. Have fun. As you probably know, Raj Bhavsar not only made the Olympic team, but he won an Olympic medaland accomplished his highest vision for himself. He said, Rather than feeling like a victim, I became the driver of the chariot. Bhavsar's story provides the perfect example of how to use a Vision Board, what to put on it, how to word things and use appropriate photo imagery, and where to http://avosscoaching.com/ 40

put it. As Bhavsar demonstrates for you, you must concentrate on what you want everyday. Your Vision Board should contain pictures of what you visualize about and written copies of affirmations you use, as well as any other relevant visual material. If you don't want to use any pictures with ex-girlfriends or boyfriends, print out some of the pictures in this ebook. You can also use pictures where you are in a happy couple with your X cut out and replaced with a picture from a magazine.

Take Ch. 8 - Step 7: Take Action & Let Go

This is the part of the process of attracting your highest and best relationship that involves having faith. And, in this case, faith has two parts: living the life you want and letting the universe take care of the rest. Or you can think of it like this: fake it 'til you make it and knowing that a watched pot never boils. Let me explain. People create on three levels: thought, word, and deed. Thought is the lowest level of creation, while deed (or action) is the highest level. For example, let's say I want to become more generous. I would begin by thinking of myself as a more giving and generous person. I would then tell someone (myself or another) that I'm generous. And, then for the real magic, I would do something that demonstrated generosity like giving money to a homeless person or http://avosscoaching.com/ 41

"The more you fight waiting, the more waiting you will have to fight." - Unknown

volunteering. So, for example, if I want to become more lovable (i.e. attracting my highest and best relationship), I might choose to do activities, say things, and think things demonstrating how loving I am...maybe this means spoiling myself with a massage, babysitting my niece and feeling my love in caring for her, buying a dog and taking care of it, or not saying self-denigrating comments any more. Another way to think about it is by asking yourself what would you be like or act like if you were in your highest and best relationship. Would you be smiling right now? Would you be looking forward to what the day holds? Would you have plans on Friday night? Would you be sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring? Would you be lounging around in bed until noon? Remember, you attract like energy. So, unless you act, think, and talk the way you would in your ideal relationship, you simply won't draw it to you. If you find it too awkward to live the life you want, you have another option: fake

All speech, action, and behavior are fluctuations of consciousness. All life emerges from, and is sustained in, consciousness. The whole universe is the expression of consciousness. The reality of the universe is one unbounded ocean of consciousness in motion. - Maharishi Mahesh

it til you make it. As was mentioned in

the Affirmations chapter, if you lie to

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yourself long enough, you will start to believe it. The same thing is true with actions. If you don't have anything to do on Friday night, go out alone to a movie, to a park, to the mall, anything. If you can't look forward to what the day holds, tell yourself and others how much you're looking forward to the weekend or that day off. Schedule a manicure or drop by the batting cages...schedule something you will look forward to. If you don't feel like smiling, take a deep breath, tell yourself, I am happy, and smile anyway...for no reason, right now even. A few other tips for acting out or living your highest and best are to follow your passion, your enthusiasm. Do things you enjoylike writing, building something, reading, playing an instrument, cooking, exercising, or doing a certain hobby. Enthusiasm is a special feeling that will start showing up everyday once you retrain your mind. So, when we surround ourselves with passionate and enthusiastic energy, it instantly raises our vibration from whatever to happy. This is the space you want to be in to attract that ideal mate. Fall in love with your dream everyday, as if it were your first taste of love. Another tip is to focus on your goal everyday. If you can be passionate or enthusiastic about nothing else, at least be passionate about your dream. Focusing on your vision of your ideal relationship should be uplifting and exhilarating. If it feels like a chore, then your approach is off somewhere. Retrace your steps...do you have unresolved anger? Do you have worthiness issues? Thinking of the joy your highest and best relationship holds should always be enough to put a hopeful, knowing smile on your face and raise your vibration.

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Just like surrounding yourself with passion and enthusiasm, you also need to listen to your gut feelings, your inclinations. Gut feelings, like passion and enthusiasm, are the universe's way of pointing you in the right direction, which is truly divine. So, if your gut feeling or inclination is to join Match.Com or

eHarmony, then do it. If your gut tells you to go talk

to that girl or to lock eyes with that guy, then go for it. As your vibration raises and the universe attempts to bring forth what you've called for, these gut feelings and inclinations will be stronger if you listen to them. The universe will lead you where you want to be, if you let it. Take action when action is necessary. It is important to understand the difference between being a dreamer and an achiever. A dreamer is someone who allows themselves to be carried away by a dream, to escape into their visions. An achiever focuses on their dreams just as much as a dreamer does, but an achiever takes action to accomplish their dreams. An achiever knows that their dreams are reachable and possible. To attract your highest and best

You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. - Unknown

relationship, you must be an achiever. An achiever doesn't give up. An achiever never quits. An achiever stays driven and focused, determined and faithful, dedicated and optimistic. The second part of this chapter (Take Action and Let Go) was described above as letting the universe take care

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of the details and knowing that a watched pot never boils. Letting go is where all the magic happens. When you let go, you are OK getting what you want, and you are OK not getting it. You know you don't need any material thing in life to complete you. Letting go doesn't mean you do nothing, but instead you act on your impulses and engage opportunities. By doing so, you will be brought what you want. In other words, letting go is like placing your order at a restaurant and sitting patiently at your table, enjoying life and the ambiance as you wait, knowing that the exact meal you chosethe perfect meal for youis on its way to you. There is no need to peek in the kitchen, ask the waiter, or get up and leave after you've waited for 10 minutes. You simply let go (i.e. relax, knowing everything is in perfect order). While your order at a restaurant is expected to take 5-15 minutes depending on the situation. The ideal relationship order that you've placed with the universe will probably take a minimum of 60-90 days to materialize: however, it can also happen instantaneously. There is an incubation period for everything in the universe to manifest. If you were pregnant and your baby hadnt materialized after a few weeks, you wouldnt be stomping around wondering where your baby was. Checking up on your order with the universe only pushes it further away from you because its saying youre not happy with now. Have true faith that the universe always knows the http://avosscoaching.com/ 45

Your lover should not complete you, but compliment you. - Unknown

right time. Your job during the gestation period is simply to follow the steps set forth in this ebook. Doing so will bring you dramatic results almost instantaneously. You will continue to notice big changes during the gestation period. If you decide to take an additional break to heal from a past relationship as I did (or for some other reason), the universe will still be responding to affirmations, visualizations, and positive thinking, but it may be less dramatic than it was during the original gestation period. Don't lose hope or think that the process has stopped workingdon't worry, nothing is wrong. You've simply adjusted to the changes and internalized them, or climatized to them, if you will. On one final note, I provide to you this pearl. A truly loving relationship requires maturity and generosity. These qualities, both on the giving and receiving end, will make us bettertogether or alone. We will continue to expand our ability to love by practicing generosity and by forgiving those who hurt us. You simply can't be jaded and expect to find love...your heart must be open. I leave you with this passage from Finding Your Soul Mate: What you give of yourself or of your substance you never lose! While what you hold tightly to yourself, time will inevitably take sorrowfully away from you. In that light then, a gift of a much needed, or simply appreciated smile, a nod of greeting, a pat on the back, a word of encouragement, or physical 'things' like food, shelter, or a glorious bouquet of flowers when given with unconditional love, expecting nothing in return, is a truly loving gift, http://avosscoaching.com/ 46

because your living essence is in it! It blesses, uplifts and balances all concerned. Not only is it wonderfully divine to 'gift' this truly pure and unconditional love to others, but you must also learn to 'gift it' freely to yourself. The same immutable law applies here. You always get what you give! When you gift yourself with love it means that you now have overflow love to re-give to others. Self-love comes from self-respect. Give honor, respect and acts of high character to others and you immediately begin to find and love these divine qualities in yourself. Once these qualities are your major style of expression, you will automatically gift others with these grand essences simply through your brightly lighted presence with them.

Ch. 9 - Recommended Reading & Training Recommended

If you want to work directly with me in creating your highest and best relationship, you can contact me at http://avosscoaching.com/ or e-mail me at

av@avosscoaching.com and/or call me at 602-904-3366.

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1. Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem 2. Your Personal Life Coach 3. Think and Grow Rich Program 4. Creative Visualizations 5. Affirmations

Foundation For Success

Learn to calm the ego, fears, doubts and worries See problems more clearly and find peaceful resolutions Develop communication skills Straighten faith and trust in yourself
I'm Arash Vossoughi and I can help you accomplish this and anything else you want to accomplish. Tell me what you want and I will show you how to achieve it.

Powerful Life Transitions

Make the most out of a life transition (career, relationship, health, spiritual) Learn the lessons that you can move on and not have to repeat the same situations over and over Face each challenge as an opportunity Open to greater possibilities for your life

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I also offer free 30 minute consultations. Are you Lacking focus, direction or purpose? Struggling with ineffective thinking and actions? Feeling un-inspired or depleted of motivation? Feeling overwhelmed? Settling for less that your potential? Paralyzed by doubt or fear? Find Out How You Can: Create a clear direction for your life Stop repeating the thinking and behavior patterns that limit your success Create a healthy, balanced life with true inner peace Improve self-confidence and self-esteem Communicate effectively and compassionately for better relationships Empower your life and create an extraordinary life for yourself

For additional reading on the topics in this ebook, look into these books:

Conversations With God, Neale Donald Walsch Finding Your Soul Mate, Michael He's Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship, John Gray Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart Tolle
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The Secret, Rhonda Byrne The Success Principles, Jack Canfield What The Bleep Do We Know? (video and book), William Arntz, Betsey
Chasse, and Mark Vicente (directors)

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to DreamgirlA Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationships , Sherry Argov Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart,
Sherry Argov

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