The Advocates

AnnuAl rePOrT 2008 www.theadvocates-aplacetogo.org for survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault

helping people build safe lives

Providing a new Life for ChiLdren

t is well known that children trapped in violent homes raise children trapped in violent homes and that the cycle continues in perpetuity unless help is provided to break it. Therefore, two important goals of the services we offer are changing the lives of children who have experienced family violence and teaching young people how to have healthy relationships. We address these goals through our childrens program led by coordinator Darrel Harris. Darrel has a visible passion for working with children and exudes an approachable, kid friendly, fun loving attitude. Our childrens services include programs for kids in shelter, support groups, one-on-one case management for children and their mothers, parenting education and support for mothers, subsidized child care, professional counseling when needed, and prevention programs in the schools. Over the last year, one highlight of community support for The Advocates

Children enjoying the new play structure at A Place for Kids child care center services provided to children was the donation and installation of a new commercial quality play structure at our A Place for Kids child care center. The purchase of the play structure was made possible through donations from a generous local couple and the manufacturer of the play structure Steve Pence, owner of Star Craft. Inc., located in Murtaugh, Idaho. Our childrens program is supported by donations, fund raising event proceeds, grants, and a portion of the proceeds from quality donations sold at our second hand store, The Advocates Attic. The Attic will pick-up furniture and other donations; call 578-0340 to arrange.

The Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Post Office Box 3216, Hailey, Idaho 83333 208.788.4191

Who We Are:
BOArD OF DIreCTOrS
Margaret Block, Vice President Kerry Bozza Ken Brannon Mari Clack linda edwards, President Steve england Margery Friedlander, Secretary Bryan Furlong, Treasurer Joy Kasputys reuben Perin erica Petersen erin Pfaeffle lara Spencer Joanne Wetherell

LeTTer from The eXeCUTive direCTor

SHelTer & PrOgrAM STAFF

Teri Beck, House Manager Susan Brown, Weekend Manager renee Chalfant, Weekend Manager raquel galvin, M.A., Case Management Coordinator Darrel Harris, Childrens Program Coordinator Jennie leon, Bilingual Victim Advocate Carol Pintler, M.ed., Client Services Coordinator Kim rogers, Weekend Manager rosa Segura, Bilingual Victim Advocate Selim Star, Attorney Trish Tobias, Community education Coordinator

huge thank you to all of you for supporting services to prevent family violence in our community. It is difficult to convey the full impact of your contributions. I wish I could share all the stories of the women and children that walk through our doors. Please know that your generosity fuels the catalyst for the incredible transformation abuse victims undergo when they get help. Their sad, often hopeless, and injured bodies and spirits become empowered, productive, and positive forces in our community. This change takes time, effort, and money, but it is an investment in people, people who live where you live. When our clients learn about the level of community support for our services they are amazed and very thankful. Our staff, volunteers, and Board of Directors also thank you for giving to The Advocates and sharing your prosperity with others less fortunate. It is my hope that the challenging economic and political times we face bring us all closer together and more committed to reducing violence and poverty in our community, country and world. With your support and that of my coworkers, I will continue to dedicate my lifes work to this end and focus on the positive results of our efforts. Wishing everyone a peaceful and joyous holiday season! Executive Director, Tricia Swartling

meeT oUr newesT board members

MARGARET BLOCK
Joined The Advocates Board: 2007 Occupation: Retail Clothing Store Owner Margaret brings her enthusiasm, business acumen and tremendous creativity to The Advocates. This year she is serving as Vice President of the Board of Directors and chairing the Annual Gala.

ADMInISTrATIVe STAFF
Tricia Swartling, MPH, executive Director Tami Olson, MBA, resource Development Coordinator Jan Super, Office Manager/Bookkeeper

KERRY BOZZA

ADVOCATeS ATTIC STAFF

gabriele Meadows, Store Manager-Operations nancie Krankkala, Donations Manager, Volunteer Susan Fiero, Store Assistant Perla gutierrez, Store Assistant Sergio Sanchez, Store Assistant Carmen Vera, Store Assistant

Joined The Advocates Board: 2008 Occupation: Childrens Librarian, The Community Library Kerry also brings to the Board her experience as a health educator, writer, and work in public relations, marketing, and strategic planning to The Advocates, and serves as a member of the Boards Resource Development Committee.

KEN BRANNON

Joined The Advocates Board: 2008 Occupation: Rector/Priest, St. Thomas Episcopal Church Ken brings not only his theological experience, but his background as a registered therapist and work with the hospitalized and homeless in NYC. Ken serves on the Board Development Committee for The Advocates.

A PlACe FOr KIDS STAFF

Pati Meyer, Center Director Cassie Boyer, Childcare Provider Jessica Dardenne, Preschool Teacher Stephanie Spann, Childcare Provider Amber Strunk, Childcare Provider

JOY KASPUTYS

Joined The Advocates Board: 2008 Occupation: Consultant/Community Liaison From Wall Street to small business owner to community liaison, Joy has many experiences and connections to draw upon. She is co-chairing the Gala Auction committee for the second year, and the Boards Resource Development Committee.

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Services We Provide to the Community:

24 Hour Crisis/Support Line Safe Transitional Shelter Case Management Womens Support Groups Individual Counseling Court Advocacy

hey say you cannot fully understand someone else unless you have walked in their shoes. The Advocates put this old adage to the test with its Walk the Walk event in Ketchum on October 4, 2008. In honor of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Walk the Walk invited members of the community to participate and help raise awareness about family violence. Over 60 local men and women answered the call by donning highheeled shoes and walking through town together as a symbolic commitment to ending family violence locally. In Idaho alone, over 6,000 men, women, and children were survivors of family violence last year. Frequently, domestic violence is seen as a womens issue, but it doesnt just affect women. It affects the men who care about them, children, employers, friends, coworkers, neighbors, hospitals, law enforcemententire communities. Family violence is epidemic and it is up to us as a community to stop it. We appreciate everyones involvement and support.

Legal Referral and Assistance Emergency Financial Assistance Transportation Assistance Food, Clothing, Household Supplies & Furniture Assistance Sexual Assault Services Rural Outreach Life Skills Training Translation Services Mentoring for At Risk Children Resource Library, Information and referral Affordable Housing Referral Training and Community education Prevention Programs Volunteer Program Child Care Center If you or someone you know needs help, call The Advocates 24 hour Hotline: 208.788.6070 or toll free 888.676.0066.

The Advocates
MISSIOn is to prevent domestic violence and sexual assault in our
communities through education, shelter, and supportive services.

VISIOn We envision a diverse and healthy society free from domestic VAlueS In the service of building a healthy community,

and sexual violence. As a vital nonprofit organization, we provide dynamic and comprehensive services to help people build safe lives. We value the development and support of our team of qualified staff and volunteers. We value the provision of compassionate, confidential, and non-judgmental services. We value the empowerment of our clients through education, access to resources, and accountability. We value community collaboration to promote a violence-free society. We value the possibility of social and individual change.

The advoCaTes aTTiC shoP donaTe voLUnTeer 578-0340

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The advoCaTes gaLa was The bees knees!

he 11th annual Advocates Gala, Its the ROARING Twenties, was held on Friday, June 27th at the Limelight Room in Sun Valley. Co-chaired by Joanne Wetherell and Louise Cooley, the event raised over $250,000 for The Advocates. After a silent and live auction and dinner, attendees in flapper dresses and boas jitterbugged on the dance floor to music by the High Street Band. Special thanks to Sun Valley Company and Sturtevants Mountain Outfitters who helped underwrite the successful Gala raffle. The event was generously sponsored by: St. Lukes Wood River Medical Center, DDRM/Warm Springs Ranch Resort, LeMaster Daniels, AmeriTitle, Atkinsons Market, Bank of the West, Dave & Mari Clack, Clear Creek Disposal, D.L. Evans Bank, First Bank of Idaho, Mountain West Bank, RE/MAX of Sun Valley - Joanne Wetherell, Scottevest, Sun Valley Dental Group, Sun Valley Real Estate, Wells Fargo Foundation, and Wood River Insurance.

goLfers go for The green To heLP The advoCaTes

iva Las Vegas was the theme and Elvis was the guest of honor at the second annual Chip-In for The Advocates benefit golf tournament on May 19th at Blue Lakes Country Club. About 90 participants enjoyed a beautiful day on the links and helped raise over $25,000 for The Advocates programs. Special thanks to sponsors Joes Backhoe Service and Sweetwater LLC, and event co-chairs Dick and Joanne Wetherell, Pete and Janet Cantor, and Rick Davis.

remiX The image of fashion 2008

EMIX: The Advocates 2nd Annual Fashion Show on April 12 was a sold-out success, raising over $23,000 for The Advocates programs. The event, cochaired by Lara Spencer and Margaret Block, was both fashionable and compelling portraying the evolution of a woman as shown through fashion. It was presented in four acts from abuse to empowerment as it relates to a survivor of domestic violence. Other highlights included a fashion design contest, hearty hors doeuvres, and a fabulous raffle. Special thanks to the key sponsors for making this event possible: Margaret and John Baker, Christopher and Margaret Block, Marquita and Charlie Dunn, The Great Day Foundation, and The Idaho Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence.

Volunteer Opportunities
Volunteers are crucial to our success, and we can always use help: Help at the child care center: reading, gardening, or just playing; Organize, sort, and display goods at the thrift store; Provide much needed office support; Sit on a fundraising committee; Serve as a Mentor for children or women; Receive extensive training to work directly with clients by answering crisis line calls or being available for the Sexual Assault Go Out Team. Interested in volunteering? Call Tami at 208.788.4191.

Three Cheers for oUr voLUnTeers!

n 4th of July weekend, twenty-three folks from 2G Foundation volunteered at The Advocates. They painted, did yard work, and cleaned up and beautified the Shelter grounds. On behalf of everyone at The Advocates, thank you for all of your hard work!

voLUnTeer ProfiLe: aLison PoULsen

Alison Poulsen volunteers her time by teaching weekly classes on non-violent communication and healthy relationships at The Advocates Shelter. We asked her to tell us about her experience.

ve always been one to try to look for the best in people, and to want people to see the best within themselves and to become self-empowered. Much of the emotional heat that wreaks havoc in relationships can be avoided when people can learn specific communication skills as well as become aware of and fine tune their body language, tone of voice, use of words, and demeanor. While its very difficult to make changes in existing abusive relationships, we can all learn how to avoid future relationships that gradually descend into a demeaning, hostile, or controlling dynamicall potential precursors to abuse. The negativity occurs so gradually its hard to see it, unless one consciously promotes mutual respect and kindness in all the ordinary moments. Mutual respect involves not only respecting other people, but respecting oneself by learning to take care of ones own needs and desires in a positive way. Often, we have to recognize and change the way we are demeaning or hostile toward ourselves to be able to recognize and prevent demeaning behavior from others. Every session that Ive volunteered at The Advocates has been remarkable. I feel honored to witness women of all kinds who are thoughtful, open, engaged, and motivated to learn and improve their lives.

advoCaTes voLUnTeer aPPreCiaTion LUnCheon

ver thirty volunteers for The Advocates gathered for the annual Volunteer Appreciation Luncheon on September 15, 2008. Scott and Anne Mason, owners of The Ketchum Grill, once again generously hosted and underwrote the luncheon. Board member Steve England thanked the volunteers for the work they do in the community for The Advocates, and Ken Brannon of St. Thomas Episcopal Church (and the Advocates newest Board Member) gave an inspirational talk about giving and receiving. Three lucky volunteers who gave their time to The Advocates received prizes in the luncheon raffle.

Financial Summary
Fiscal 2007-2008 Revenue
Program revenue governmental support 14% Private foundation grants 16% Contributions

5%
fund raising

33%
Program support

32%

20%
Program expenses

40%

The growTh CirCLe

Client services

40% 2008 REVENUE

Fund Raising Program Income* Government Contracts Contributions Private Foundation Grants

Fiscal 2007-2008 Expenses

$276,520 $280,720 $122,000 $38,500 $137,000 $854,740

The growth Circle is made of donors who contributed $1,000 or more to The Advocates, July 2007- June 2008. We thank them for their generosity. For a complete list of donors, please visit our website at www.theadvocates-aplacetogo.org.
AmeriTitle Terry & Cindy Arp Atkinsons Market Bank of the West John & Margaret Baker Dick Barker Chris & Margaret Block Carol Browning Dumke Sallie Castle Jim Cimino Clear Creek Disposal Michael Carpenter & robin reiners Dave & Mari Clack Peter & Bonni Curran Clark & Maria gerhardt D. l. evans Bank Ann Down Chris & Megan edwards Bob & linda edwards FHC Foundation First Bank of Idaho Woody & Margery Friedlander Bryan & Hilary Furlong Pete & Sue gaasland Joyce gordon & eric remais Harry & Shirley Hagey Brent Hall, DDrM len & Carol Harlig Jim & Sherry Hodge Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence Jivaro, Inc. Joes Backhoe Service Jim & Alisa Kanellitsas Joe & Marilyn Kasputys Kneeland gallery Peter Kremer leMaster Daniels Kathie levison Don & Marcia liebich David May II Dee May Charitable Trust Tom May David May II Foundation Jim & Jennifer Milgard Pedro Morales Mountain West Bank roger & Sheron OConnell Michael & esther Ochsman Alex & Sue Orb reuben & Susan Perin Janet Porter Craig & Alison Poulsen Premier resorts rainbow Sandal, Inc. The rogers Foundation robin rogers lois rosen St. lukes Wood river Medical Center Scottevest erin Smith richard & Judy Smooke Barry & linda Staum Sun Valley Dental group Tricia Swartling Sweetwater Company, llC Tom & Charlotte unger Camille Van den Berghe Warm Springs ranch resort Wells Fargo Foundation Joanne Wetherell, reMAX of Sun Valley Mary Anne Whitcomb Paul & Beth Willis Wood river Insurance Ward & Priscilla Woods

2008 EXPENSES Program Expenses* Client Services Fund Raising

* Program Income and Expenses are for The Advocates Attic and A Place for Kids

$333,280 $332,000 $157,740 $823,020

giving from The hearT

each day many people think of The Advocates and support us in many ways. The following are some of the many generous people, businesses, and organizations which provided inkind donations worth over $1,000 during the year.
Aman resorts Barry Peterson Jewelers Chris & Margaret Block Beau & Megan Burks Big Twin Cycle Center Brent Hall, DDrM Clear Creek Disposal DAVIS Distilled resources, Inc. Full Moon Catering John & Karen Davies Dicks Sporting goods Jim & Marlene Fletcher FourStroke Bus Maria gerhardt lois graves Jim & Penny Hopkins Joes Backhoe Service Ketchum Burritos Knob Hill Inn linberg Interiors ric lum Catering The Pioneer Saloon & Staff reuben & Susan Perin Premier resorts of Sun Valley Sherry Propst riccabonas The roosevelt John Seiller, Attorney Sports Connection Selim Star, Attorney Jensen Stern Steve Tracy Sun Summit Ski & Cycle Sun Valley Company Sun Valley Heli Ski Vineyard Knolls golf Club of napa Dick & Joanne Wetherell The Wirth Company Zenergy at Thunder Spring

foUndaTion granTs and oTher fUnding

Bank of America Foundation Blaine County Capital group Companies Charitable Foundation City of Ketchum Deer Creek Fund gordon r. & Mary M. Howard Family Foundation roy A. Hunt Foundation Idaho Community Foundation Idaho Council on Domestic Violence & Victim Assistance Idaho Housing and Finance Association emergency Shelter grant Idaho Power employee Community Service Fund Idaho law Foundation IOlTA grant Idaho State Police STOP Violence Against Women Act grant Joan leidy Foundation Kemmerer Family Foundation PeCO Foundation united Way of South Central Idaho Wattis Dumke Foundation Wood river High School, Student project

donor ProfiLe: sCoTT & niCoLe CasTLe

cott, a 5th generation local and owner of Skassle Construction, and Nicole, new owner of Ricochet (formerly Worth Repeating Again), and their children, Colby and Kali, have made generous donations to The Advocates over the last couple of years. The family recently stopped by the shelter to talk with Executive Director, Tricia Swartling, about being donors. Why do you donate to The Advocates? The Advocates is a good cause and we were asked to contribute. We know a lot of great people that work or volunteer for The Advocates. And Nicole also likes to support womens causes. What other charities do you support? Planned Parenthood, 4-H, special fund raisers for local people, and school events. How did you become community minded? Nicoles mom volunteered for many causes. Scott volunteers when people ask him to help. How do you teach your children about the importance of volunteerism and/or giving to others less fortunate? Colby and Kali are both very generous and learn a lot about the importance of volunteering and donating from activities in school. We also always help neighbors, family members, friends, and others when asked. We taught our kids that it is important to help people out and not to expect anything in return. The Advocates appreciates the Castle Familys support. When not working and helping out others, they enjoy farming their 40 acres in Carey, horseback riding, raising a small herd of cattle, and snowmobiling in the winter.

PrioriTy fUnding needs 2008-2009

Capital Projects: u Shelter Improvements u Cottage Office Improvements u Advocates Attic Improvements Other Projects: u Positive Transitions Program u Childrens Program u Domestic and Dating Violence Prevention u Child Care Scholarships u legal Assistance u Contributions to our endowment Programs can be funded in part or in whole. Multi-year commitments are encouraged and greatly appreciated. For more information, please contact Tricia Swartling, executive Director, at (208) 788-4191.

CLienT ProfiLe
Continued from back cover If you could say one thing to the community, what would you say? Please quit turning a blind eye to domestic violence. It is a problem that brings our society down in so many ways, especially our children.

What keeps you going day to day? Knowing that I am working hard for a better life and that it is coming. Most proud accomplishment? That I became who I am instead of the monster that my parents and partners were trying to create. How do you take care of yourself? If money wasnt an object I would get a pedicure and go to a movie by myself.

CLienT ProfiLe

ear from one of The Advocates clients who successfully left abuse behind.

5,511,201 Reasons to Help:

5,300,000: number of women who are
victims of physical assault each year

What happened to make you decide to get help? Police officers gave me The Advocates phone number back in 1998 after I was abused. At the time, there was no shelter, so I had to leave town because my husband was stalking me and I was scared. What was the most helpful thing said to you? In 1998, a woman said to me, The first time it happens you are a victim, and the second time you are a volunteer. This made me realize that I had some control and could change my situation. Who has been the most helpful person in your life? Teri and Carol at the shelter. They gave me what I needed to get me going and change my life. Teri has a no nonsense, just get it done approach combined with underlying caring. Carol has a soft touch, but is more intellectual. The combination was perfect for me. Most helpful service provided by The Advocates? Everything, but the legal services helped me the most over time. What advice would you give to other women dealing with abuse? You cannot control what the abuser does, but you can control what you do. You have the power. You can stop the abuse. Continued on page 7

200,000: number of calls to the

national Domestic Violence Hotline this year

6,000: Calls to The Advocates each year 3,500: Shelter nights provided by The
Advocates in 2007 - 2008

1,200: number of women killed by

domestic partners each year

500: number of women and children who seek

assistance from The Advocates annually

1: rank of domestic violence among causes

of homelessness in women and children

NON-PROFIT ORG. U.S. POSTAGE PAID HAILEY, ID PERMIT #55

The Advocates for Survivors of Domestic Violence Post Office Box 3216 Hailey, Idaho 83333