Prof.

James Brown Course: Texte

Moisoiu Adelina- Mihaela 1st B Chinese-English, group 11

Words kill people

We are born as savage, unsocial creatures. Since early age our parents teach us words and we slowly start to make connections in our little brains. It all begins with a simple mom or dad and after many years of education and life experience we learn to express our needs and thoughts in much more complex phrases. Living in a society has raised the need of communicating with each other in order to make our lifes easier. Dealing with words and the art of using them is the most important weapon that us, as human beings, own and control. Being aware of the fact that we can give impetus on the other people or situations, we can take advantage of this power of using words by creating and spreading positive or negative feelings. According to Buddha, Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill. I strongly agree with the idea that people can be easily affected by what they hear, because as far as we know, words are the tools we use to express our feelings. Since the beginnings of the humanity, people started investing emotions, getting attached to each other and strived to please and win somebodys attention by different means. When special bonds are built between people, every word uttered has a huge significance for the other. A word can hurt more that physical force because it affects the mind, and the mind owns the control of our entire being. By hearing harsh words coming from persons that we consider important, we let them affect our mind by giving them a deep interpretation. Humans are conducted by the mind, and every process happening there has a paramount importance for what can happen with our whole being. Wrong ideas produced by hard words can lead to self-destruction if the reciver is an emotional person. They poison their minds, give them a distorted image of the reality. Its like blindfolding and hindering us from seeing the real truth, that is only in our minds, not in the others. However, people are usually emotional weak , dependent on what the other people think and say, too sensitive to what society think is normal and they strive to keep up with the standards, tags, and what is forced to be considered as normal. Any idea that is out of the normal principles of the society is considered to be wrong, and thats the point where all this conflict starts from. What is more, as an example that people let words control them are the recent surveys that clearly show that people are less and less happy than they used to be a century ago. Not to mention the concerning rising number of the suicides commited because of different levels of depression. Words are dangerous. They can affect ones mind for a very long period of time. They can traumatize soemones childhood and have severe effects in the adult life of that person. For instance, Ive heard numerous cases in which the parents used to have serious or violent discussions in front of their child. As a result of this thoughtless behaviour, the child raised up Page 1 of 2

Prof. James Brown Course: Texte

Moisoiu Adelina- Mihaela 1st B Chinese-English, group 11

with difficulties in adapting to different groups, communicating and interacting with other people or in worse cases, the child itself becomes violent and has a behaviour that gets out of control. In addition, there are often in the news, cases in which a couple of lovers end up dramatically with one commiting a suicide just because the other said a few harsh words which hurt the feelings of his mate. However, the case that impressed me the most was the one in which a fat person went on a harsh diet and lost so much weight, that it became anorexic and had health problems, just because people used to laugh and make disturbing jokes about her physical appearance. To end the ideas expressed earlier, I need to headline the fact that words, unhandled with care, can rotten ones mind and destroy their image about what is good and right for them. They will try to change their own reality and this way lose themselves, become something that they cant identify with. By letting words affect our minds, we also let them affect our lifes, for all those misconceptions they lead to will slowly start to kill the person we really are in order to become something different, in our striving for perfection. On the other hand, looking at the the positive part of the situation, we can also say that words can save people. Words that are carefully chosen can save a situation or change somebodys life . They can erase the killing effect of some previous bad words with their magic healing property. The right word said at the right moment can have a substantial effect on a person, boosting its mood and energy. When we hear the words that we yearn for we gain more self-confidence, we feel more comfortable with ouselves and we have that feeling of being more strong and no obstacle can stop us from achieving anything. The most common example is the situation when a simple and sincere i belive in you can do more than other material helps. Words of wisdom, comming from the heart can mean a lot for the one who is listening and can change the way he/she sees life. Words can be the fuel when there is no more zest for life or energy to keep going on. Thats why we need to support each other and encourage us in achieving our goals because words dont cost a thing and when they are said with all heart can have amazing effects on people. When we share positive feelings through words we recive the same thing back. I belive that words are a priceless gift that we own and we shouldnt be afraid of using them more often with more courage because nothing bad can happen and after all we have nothing to lose. To draw a conclusion, I should remember the fact that words are powerful tools that we own and we need to weigh and choose them with wisdom when we speak to somebody, for we must be aware of the fact that what we say can have deep consequences on that persons life and way of thinking.

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