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WITHOUT access to sexuality education and sexual and reproductive health services, adolescents and youth, especially girls, face daunting reproductive and sexual health problems: unintended pregnancies, unsafe abortions, maternal mortality and morbidity, violence, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including HIV, exploitation, and discrimination on the basis of gender or sexual orientation. As in many countries, some 60% of the population of Malaysia is under 25 years of age. Evidence shows that sexuality education programmes have a positive effect on initiation of sex, frequency of sex, number of sexual partners, condom use and other sexual behaviours that can prevent negative sexual and reproductive health outcomes. Sexuality education also enables them to make informed decisions when they become young adults later in preventing unintended pregnancies, baby dumping and getting STIs. While it is desirable for parents to provide sexuality education to their children, many parents dread it, and some rely on available educational materials. Parental guidance is one of the most influential means in getting messages across to the children especially when it is delivered with warmth and openness. Children are curious and naive, they keep looking for answers until they are satisfied. Therefore, parents have to be prepared with sufficient and appropriate information to educate their children. The book Where Did I Come From? represents a good resource. It should not be brushed away. As long as sex education is presented in a wholesome manner its biological and moral aspects intact to the young, there is less danger of children becoming prey to irresponsible adults or sexual perverts. We need to teach our young to protect them, not to expose them to irresponsible sex. Changing social conditions, rapid urbanisation, and an early start to puberty and delays in marriage, the accelerated spread of information and communication technologies across cultural boundaries, and the gradual decline of extended families have all contributed to changes in relationships and sexual behaviours among young people. All these have prompted the Federation of Reproductive Health Associations Malaysia (FRHAM) to develop a comprehensive module called Reproductive Health of Adolescent Module. FRHAM, as a leading sexual and reproductive health NGO, has partnered with relevant organisations in conducting numerous training sessions on how to use the module and has reached out to many young people in the country in improving their knowledge and skills with regard to issues on sexuality. We strongly believe that it is important to inform and educate children so that they can make informed and responsible decisions in their life. Dr KAMARUZAMAN ALI, Secretary-General, Federation of Reproductive Health Associations Malaysia
Explain things in a way that your child can understand, given their age. Dont think you have to cover everything at once. Younger kids are interested in pregnancy and babies, rather than the act of sex.
Read our tips for parents about sex education and why sex education is important. Every child is different, but here is a rough guide to what children should be able to understand about sex and reproduction at different ages. Infancy: Up to two years Toddlers should be able to name all the body parts including the genitals. Most two-year-olds know the difference between male and female, and can usually figure out if a person is male or female. Early childhood: Two to five years old Children should understand the very basics of reproduction: a man and a woman make a baby together, and the baby grows in the womans uterus. Children should understand their body is their own. Teach them about privacy around body issues. They should know other people can touch them in some ways but not other ways. Middle childhood: Five to eight years old Children should have a basic understanding that some people are heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. They should also know what the role of sexuality is in relationships. Children should know about the basic social conventions of privacy, nudity, and respect for others in relationships. Children should be taught the basics about puberty towards the end of this age span, as a number of children will experience some pubertal development before age 10. Childrens understanding of human reproduction should continue. This may include the role of sexual intercourse. Tween years: Nine to 12 years old In addition to reinforcing all the things above they have already learned, tweens should be taught about safer sex and contraception. Tweens should understand what makes a positive relationship and what makes for a bad one. Tweens should also learn to judge whether depictions of sex and sexuality in the media are true or false, realistic or not, and whether they are positive or negative. Teenagers: 13 to 18 years old Teens are generally very private people. However, if parents have spoken to their child early about sex increases the chance that teens will approach parents when difficult or dangerous things come up
As your child matures and asks more-detailed questions, you can provide more-detailed responses. Answer specific questions using correct terminology. Even if you're uncomfortable, forge ahead. Remember, you're setting the stage for open, honest discussions in the years to come.