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Cold Tangerines
Copyright 2007 by Shauna Niequist
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Niequist, Shauna.
Cold tangerines : celebrating the extraordinary nature of everyday life /
Shauna Niequist.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-310-27360-8
1. Christian life. I. Title.
BV4515.3.N54 2007
242dc22
2007026417
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Interior design: Beth Shagene
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contents
introduction | 9
I
on waiting | 15
spark | 19
becoming family | 25
puppies | 31
old house | 37
island | 41
swimming | 47
french class | 53
carrying my own weight | 59
these are the days | 67
visions and secrets | 75
II
baby making | 81
the red tree | 87
exodus | 91
eggs and baskets | 97
brothers, sisters, and barbecues | 103
lent and television | 109
a funeral and a wedding | 113
mothers and sons | 117
the cats pajamas | 121
pennies | 125
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III
hide and seek | 133
broken bottles | 139
prayer and yoga | 145
confession | 151
shalom | 157
good causes | 161
the hook | 165
how sweet it is | 169
blessings and curses | 175
IV
mother prayers | 183
the track star | 189
ladybugs | 193
carrying my own weight redux | 197
writing in pencil | 203
happy thanksgiving | 209
soup from bones | 215
basement | 219
needle and thread | 225
cold tangerines | 231
acknowledgments | 237
author q & a | 239
reader study guide | 245
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spark
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and siblings. And then just a few months after our first
anniversary, a friend of ours asked us to think about moving
to be a part of his church, three hours away, for Aaron to be a
worship leader there. It was in Grand Rapids, Michigan.
The only time we had been to Grand Rapids was for
a Faith Hill and Tim McGraw concert with my parents. My
dad is a country music fan, and Aaron was taking one for the
team, country music fan that he is not. I developed a little
bit of a crush on Tim McGraw when he sang the one about
the barbecue stain on the white T-shirt, and even Aaron
could appreciate the show, although I think he was mostly
appreciating Faith Hills legs.
We drove up to Grand Rapids to talk to our friend
about the church, and when we got back into the car, I
started to cry, and continued crying most of the way back
to Chicago. Aaron, I could see, was very excited about the
prospect of the move, and very puzzled by the tears. It was
an honor that they would invite him into this job. And all
I could do was cry. When he asked me, gently, why I was
crying, the first thing that came out was, I feel like Im
marching to my death. He was silent for a moment after
that. Im not sure thats exactly what he wanted me to
say, and Im not sure thats exactly what I meant. I think what
I meant is that I could feel, right then, the inevitability of it,
that I knew somehow that we were moving, and I had already
begun to mourn. I dont think either of us knew then that I
would mourn, in waves, for the first two years that we lived in
Grand Rapids.
When I said to him on our wedding day that when I
was with him, I was home, I did not mean, Lets move to
Michigan and see if Im right, okay? I meant, I love you so
much, and lets stay in Chicago where my parents and my
friends are, how about that? But I said, before God and
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becoming family
one quarter). What did make him my family, though, was the
decision to stay home with him on that Tuesday night, to sit
in those horribly uncomfortable chairs, holding hands across
their massive, prickly arms, watching the news for hours. Our
first impulse was to go home, to my parents house and to
his, and we stared at each other for a moment in the living
room, wondering what to do. We stayed in a house that
didnt particularly feel like home for either one of us at that
point, and I think it became a little bit more of a home that
night.
Thats how family gets made. Not by ceremonies or
certificates, and not by parties and celebrations. Family gets
made when you decide to hold hands and sit shoulder to
shoulder when it seems like the sky is falling. Family gets
made when the world becomes strange and disorienting,
and the only face you recognize is his. Family gets made
when the future obscures itself like a solar eclipse, and in
the intervening darkness, you decide that no matter what
happens in the night, youll face it as one.
And so, Aaron, thank you for becoming, and for being,
my family. Thank you for persuading me to take back the
chairs, and thank you for sitting with me that night, and
thousands of nights since then, watching and listening to our
world change, with two sets of eyes and ears instead of one.
Thank you for the millions of ways you have been my family
since then, but especially, thank you for being my family that
night.
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