PASTOR ANITA

Marriage: The Grand Design


"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the
woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God" (1 Corinthians 11:3).

I s marriage a blessing or a curse? I’m sure the response you’d get for this question
would be as varied as the number of people you ask. Even though the opinions of
men differ, the Word of God is consistent: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing,
and obtaineth favour of the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). Why then do some make their marriage
an excuse for skipping church?
I often wonder why some people live as though marriage is a curse. They used to be
very committed in their local church, but since they got married, they’ve suddenly become
spiritually inert. Should your marriage be your licence for spiritual complacency? No!
That’s not the grand design.
Your marriage shouldn’t create a chasm between you and God, nor should it impair
your fellowship with Him. Rather it should draw you closer to Him. As a believer, it’s
expected that you marry a fellow believer who loves the Lord as you do. For this reason,
there should be greater impact in the Kingdom of God (Deuteronomy 32:30) through
the union of the two of you. 1 Corinthians 11:3 says that the head of every man is Christ
and the head of the woman is the man. Therefore, the man must be subject to the
Lordship of the Word of God, just as his wife is subject to him. So, together they will fulfill
the God-given vision and ministry for their family.
As the anointing of the Holy Spirit comes upon the man, it’ll flow down to his wife
and the children, until it begins to influence their environment and a whole new generation
is imparted with the power of God. This is the grand design.
The Lord testified of Abraham in Genesis 18:19: “For I know him (Abraham), that he
will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the
Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he
hath spoken of him.” Can the Lord trust you in the same way? It’s time for a self-appraisal
and to make necessary changes in your marriage and family, so the Lord may bring
upon you that which He has spoken.
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F U RT H E R S T U DY : E P H E S I A N S 5:31; E P H E S I A N S 6:4

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