A Short Hindu Wedding Ceremony

Traditional Hindu wedding ceremonies can last for days and involve much ritual in
Sanskrit which may be understood only by the priest conducting the service. This
ceremony is considerably shorter and is intended to be understandable even to a non-
Indian audience, making it suitable for intercultural or mixed Hindu/non-Hindu
marriages. The couple for whom it was originally written based it on the Gujarati
Brahmin traditions of the bride's family with a few touches from Unitarian and secular
wedding services familiar to the groom's family. It includes three spots to insert optional
readings and musical performances of your choosing.

The priest in this ceremony need not be formally trained as a Hindu priest. He or she
should be familiar with Hindu weddings and comfortable acting as a master of
ceremonies, guiding the participants through their parts and explaining the meaning of
the service to the audience. It's okay if the priest keeps the script in hand during the
ceremony.

Script

1. Groom's party assembles a few minutes before scheduled ceremony time at a

convenient spot near ceremony location. (E.g., a neighbor's house or a parking lot
around the corner.) Older members of the party may go on to the ceremony
location to be seated. Groom is holding a coconut and bride's garland.
2. Groom's party walks in a procession to ceremony location. (For extra credit,
groom rides on a horse or better yet an elephant!) Groom is received by bride's
mother who applies kumkum to his forehead. Groom bows to bride's mother and
gives her coconut.
3. Bride's parents escort groom and best man to the mandap. Groom's party is seated
nearby.
4. After groom is in position in the mandap, bride comes out carrying groom's
garland, escorted by maternal uncle, optionally preceded by flower girls.
5. Priest says:

We have come together to wed (bride), daughter of (bride's parents), to (groom),

son of (groom's parents). Today they build together the foundation of their
marriage upon the earth, in the presence of the sacred fire and the radiant sun,
among their family and friends.

6. Bride and groom are seated facing one another under the mandap. Chorus sings
the slokas:
o Invocation to Lord Ganesha: Vignesh varaia varadaia sukhapriyaya...
o Invocation to Saraswati: Yakundendutusharahara dhawala...
o Prayer for harmony: Om sahana vavatu...
7. Bride garlands groom. Groom garlands bride.
8. Reading #1.
9. Bride's parents wash bride's and groom's hands and feet, apply kumkum and give
flowers. (Bride's mother does this to bride, bride's father to groom.)
10. Bride's parents address audience:

I, (name), son/daughter of (grandparents' names), approve the wedding of my

daughter, (bride's name), to (groom's name).

11. Groom says:

I, (groom's name), take you, (bride's name), into my heart as my wife.

Bride says:

I, (bride's name), take you, (groom's name), into my heart as my husband.

12. Priest says:

A circle is the symbol of the sun and the earth and the universe. It is a symbol of
holiness and of perfection and of peace. In these rings it is the symbol of unity, in
which your lives are now joined in one unbroken circle, in which, wherever you
go, you will always return to one another and to your togetherness.

Bride and groom exchange rings.

13. Priest puts varamala (sacred rope) around bride's and groom's necks. They're now
married!
14. The couple, who had been sitting facing one another, now sit down side by side.
Bride's father puts bride's hand in groom's.
15. Song or musical performance. (Traditionally this is the time to sing a
mangalashtak, a poem composed specially for the occasion.)
16. Bride cups her hands and places them in groom's cupped hands. Bride's brother
puts rice in bride's hands. Together bride and groom pour the mixture into the fire.
17. Bride and groom walk around the fire four times, alternating in who leads. Priest
says:

Om Svaha! With the first turn, we pray for happiness in the union of the couple.
Om Svaha! With the second turn, we pray for the long life of the couple.
Om Svaha! With the third turn, we pray for the healthy life of the couple.
Om Svaha! With the fourth turn, we pray for the happiness and health of the
couple.

18. The bride and groom sit down. (Here's a fun part: whoever sits down first will be
the boss in the marriage!) Groom presents a gift to the bride's brother.
19. Priest says:
 Now is the time to confirm the marriage with the seven final steps.

Bride and groom rise and prepare to take seven steps. Priest continues:

I ask you, (bride) and (groom), to concentrate upon these seven vows as you take
the seven steps:

o May the couple be blessed with an abundance of food.

o May the couple be strong and complement one another.
o May the couple be blessed with prosperity.
o May the couple be eternally happy.
o May the couple be blessed with children.
Idea: one "blended family" we know of changed this to "May the couple be blessed with
obedient children." :-)
o May the couple live in perfect harmony.
o May (bride) and (groom) always be the best of friends.
2. Optional step to shock the traditional Hindus: bride and groom steal a kiss!
3. Bride and groom feed each other sweets four times. Bride's mother gives groom a
gift. Groom's mother comes to the mandap and puts the mangalsutra necklace
around the bride's neck.
4. Reading #2.
5. Chorus sings the sloka:

o Blessing for Everlasting Love: Advaitam...

...as bride and groom bow to all their seniors in both parties in rough order
according to age (eldest first).

o Adjourn to refreshments and photo ops. Mob scene ensues!